Sadly the op is in deep shii. I think you should threaten to send your wife back to her parents, perhaps she'll sit up.

iLegendd:
Some of these married people self. You go into marriage without knowing a dime about relationship and marriage. You let love cloud your reasoning even without knowing how love works.

I wouldn't want to be mean, but I don't see any problem. All I see is a clueless married man.

I'm like that your uncle who was advising you, but you refused to listen. At the moment, I'm advising other young men, but they're currently acting as if they know it all. Their time to create a thread like this is coming...but if they listen, it will be averted.

Anyway, it seems everyone wants to learn from experience.

Have a nice day.

If you are as smart as you claim to be, you would know that many years of courtship does not guarantee that your marriage will be successful.

Anyway your opinion is appreciated.

3free2:


If you are as smart as you claim to be, you would know that many years of courtship does not guarantee that your marriage will be successful.

Anyway your opinion is appreciated.

Sorry, Sir.

Guy u nor be Man U dey fear to tell them your mind

You are the one that allowed them.

I always tell yong men not to allow any mumu love to block their sight and shy away from managing their home the way they want.

You're supposed to have stopped the rubbish during courtship. Pray to God to show you they way out and be very bold to follow the leading of holy spirit. There is nothing God can not do.

Be a man, summon courage and voice out before they finished u completely..

youngest85:
Which worst will happen?
If you wanna commit suicide go ahead and let's know how many of us remain

Sometimes our comments are so harsh & inhuman, if he dies I believe u don't have anything to gain so pls let's be mature...

Change your attitude, ignore her antics and stop being scared about your kids, she will take care of them even in your absence.
Make yourself happy, stop trying to please your in-laws, just be your true self.
Give directives to your wife and don't repeat your words more than 2 times, if she obeys that's fine, if she disobeys just ignore her and focus on your kids when at home.
Put on the music when you come home and dance with the kids happily, cook and eat with your kids joyfully.
Don't call any meetings between your family and hers except it is to discuss divorce or separation.
Simply ignore your in-laws and see them as irritants to be kept at bay, if you want to do any favours for them do it quietly and don't expect any appreciation, cut off frivolous communication between you and them except when you want to discuss serious isues.
Tell yourself that you are the head of that home, a Lord and a Lion.
With time she will get the message and decide to choose between you and them.
I am talking from personal experience.

youngest85:
Which worst will happen?
If you wanna commit suicide go ahead and let's know how many of us remain

Ogun, after reading your comments and those humanoids that liked it, be like "definitely, eran mi leleyi"

buy cheap data@600/GB

3free2:
I know similar stories has been narrated on this forum but I want the world to hear my tale of regret and sorrow.

For nine years I've struggled to eliminate family interference from my home but unfortunately I've not been able to. My father in-law and his wife call the shot and when I resist my wife promptly takes side with them claiming that I'm being disrespectful.

From the onset I pleaded with my own family to allow us chat our own path, learn from our mistakes and grow together in love. This has backfired on me because my wife did not do same with her family.

I can't consider breakup, I don't want my kids to grow in a broken home. The problem is worse presently only God can show me the way out of this mess.

Some might say I was weak from the onset , but some women can be manipulative and cunning. I am in a cage right now, I desperately need help before the worst happens.

That is what led to this your mess. You needed to be loving and firm. First year of marriage for any woman is manipulating year to test how firm you are.

Marriage nowadays ehn. Fear dey catch me o

OMG... you married men are going through alot. I am learning big time! Bro, your words inspire me.

Pipedreams:
Bro listen good. Exact same thing happened to me. My ex wife always took instructions from her family and undermined me severally after many warnings. Maybe cos they are well off. Never be with a manipulative wife that picks her family over you. Combine that with proud in-laws then that's a disaster!! I pity u bro! Yours is different cos u have 3kids with her. What were u thinking bro!! 3kids! And ur just noticing ur caged? Marriage na setup I swear. Well I sent her packing. Now her proud family is the one calling me and they ashamed of their daughter in their house. But never will I go back cos I have seen their hidden characters and I would not want to bring kids into a disaster union.

Bro this your woman will make your kids disrespect you. Way out:

Call a family meeting and warn your wife Infront of her family with a loud voice that ur done with d disrespect. If she tries it again,throw her things out and see u recover some respect cos they will beg u. It's better to be a Wicked husband than a weak husband bro. You have been too nice and decent. Act like an Agbero wey no send and ul see changes Look people punch a pillow cos they know it's soft and can't do nothing but scared to punch a Hard Rock cos it would leave them injured.

Marriage in Africa comes with a Lotta baggage and subtle slavery. I am safe to say I have tasted being single and married. I will pick SINGLE any day!!!! There are no benefits of marriage for a man but just pains, trials and tribulations . It's a scam. Societal expectations are mere lies! Misery loves company! Most married men are unhappy but they all see you and say when are you getting married? as is you are missing out! No wonder it is the woman's happiest day. Cos 80percent of her life goals has been achieved but a man's problems begins! I don't blame baby daddies I swear! Marriage to most ladies in this dispensation is like playing Russian roulette by handing a woman a pistol with loaded with two bullets outta 7 rounds and asking her to roll and shoot! Lmao

cc: lalasticlala

youngest85:
Which worst will happen?
If you wanna commit suicide go ahead and let's know how many of us remain

You are wicked..... Lai kin shey young John!! �

Personally I think marriage should be a contract renewable after every 10 years if the couple agrees to continue the 'journey'

3free2:
I know similar stories has been narrated on this forum but I want the world to hear my tale of regret and sorrow.

For nine years I've struggled to eliminate family interference from my home but unfortunately I've not been able to. My father in-law and his wife call the shot and when I resist my wife promptly takes side with them claiming that I'm being disrespectful.

From the onset I pleaded with my own family to allow us chat our own path, learn from our mistakes and grow together in love. This has backfired on me because my wife did not do same with her family.

I can't consider breakup, I don't want my kids to grow in a broken home. The problem is worse presently only God can show me the way out of this mess.

Some might say I was weak from the onset, but some women can be manipulative and cunning. I am in a cage right now, I desperately need help before the worst happens.

poor broke nigga, how I wish you have money ur wife and ur inlaw would respect you. Mind you next time don't bring this trash here

The topic of this post shows that you are 100% responsible for your family problems. Whenever a person blame others for a matter that is joint responsibility, I know they are the major culprit.
Since you didn't share any specific detail I believe from the onset you were trying to fight their potential influence but you lost out and now claiming victim.
If your wife's parent are not jobless, there is no way they would spend all their time trying to influence your marriage, they
have their own life to live. And if they are both jobless, it is your fault that you married from such a family.

No, a parent advising their daughter is none of your business even though you are the husband.
You don't expect your wife to cut out her parents from her life because she is now married.

The way forward is to ask yourself what you really want, maybe it is absolute control or being contented and not worrying about frivolous issues.
If it is the former you want, you need another wife, preferably one without a family who would be at your beck and call.

A couple's problem begin the day they think they are going into marriage to fight some imaginary enemies. With such mindset,
enemies will keep showing up.

3free2:
I know similar stories has been narrated on this forum but I want the world to hear my tale of regret and sorrow.

For nine years I've struggled to eliminate family interference from my home but unfortunately I've not been able to. My father in-law and his wife call the shot and when I resist my wife promptly takes side with them claiming that I'm being disrespectful.

From the onset I pleaded with my own family to allow us chat our own path, learn from our mistakes and grow together in love. This has backfired on me because my wife did not do same with her family.

I can't consider breakup, I don't want my kids to grow in a broken home. The problem is worse presently only God can show me the way out of this mess.

Some might say I was weak from the onset, but some women can be manipulative and cunning. I am in a cage right now, I desperately need help before the worst happens.

what exactly is the problem? let us knw than we can be able to advice properly

3free2:
I know similar stories has been narrated on this forum but I want the world to hear my tale of regret and sorrow.

For nine years I've struggled to eliminate family interference from my home but unfortunately I've not been able to. My father in-law and his wife call the shot and when I resist my wife promptly takes side with them claiming that I'm being disrespectful.

From the onset I pleaded with my own family to allow us chat our own path, learn from our mistakes and grow together in love. This has backfired on me because my wife did not do same with her family.

I can't consider breakup, I don't want my kids to grow in a broken home. The problem is worse presently only God can show me the way out of this mess.

Some might say I was weak from the onset, but some women can be manipulative and cunning. I am in a cage right now, I desperately need help before the worst happens.

Kids that grew/grow up in broken homes, did they evaporate? Keep enjoying this bondage, hopefully none of you would be tempted to butcher the other......

Seriously, I'm not thinking of getting married. Seems 1 out of 10 marriages have it going well.

Every time I read of men like you, I appreciate the men in my family.

Now, here's what my brother did when his wife tried to be yours with him. He came home one day with a carpenter, asked him to change the locks and threw the wife out. He let her stay with her family for a year before he took her back.

It's been 7yrs, 2 kids and a woman who knows not to try to be a b!tch with him.

I honestly don't get weak man. I don't. Na wa!!

What is it in particular u're worried about?

3free2:


Looking back, I think I have been worst than an introvert. Iwas so eager to impress my stupid in-laws.
I've given up so much for the sake of the happy home of my dreams. I'm too ashamed to narrate the whole story.

don't be ashamed bros op,, you are not the first in this type of case, my first advice is to remind you that GOD hates divorce that is if you are a Christian. My second advice is that you have to grow up, from my point of view, you and your wife were not mentally and emotionally matured enough to get married when you did, I didn't even see you as having made a mistake, you haven't lost your marriage yet just take charge fro now, it's that simple

3free2:
I know similar stories has been narrated on this forum but I want the world to hear my tale of regret and sorrow.

For nine years I've struggled to eliminate family interference from my home but unfortunately I've not been able to. My father in-law and his wife call the shot and when I resist my wife promptly takes side with them claiming that I'm being disrespectful.

From the onset I pleaded with my own family to allow us chat our own path, learn from our mistakes and grow together in love. This has backfired on me because my wife did not do same with her family.

I can't consider breakup, I don't want my kids to grow in a broken home. The problem is worse presently only God can show me the way out of this mess.

Some might say I was weak from the onset, but some women can be manipulative and cunning. I am in a cage right now, I desperately need help before the worst happens.

Monkey

Sorry bro, I had same experience in the first six years of my marriage, my family didn't help matter at the initial stage because they believe I was stubborn. But it got to a stage the 2 families had to sit and clarify issues. My siblings had to tell my parent in-law to leave us alone. That curbed my mother in-law but my father in-law still repeated same thing and this had to get to my pastor who invited both family and advised my parent in-law to stay away from our marriage. My advise to you is to invite your family and a spiritual leader depending on your religion and pray along. May good God bless your home and restore your marriage.

UBGG:
Every time I read of men like you, I appreciate the men in the family.

Now, here's what my brother did when his wife tried to be yours with him. He came home one day with a carpenter, asked him to change the locks and threw the wife out. He let her stay with her family for a year before he took her back.

It's been 7yrs, 2 kids and a woman who knows not to try to be a b!tch with him.

I honestly don't get weak man. I don't. Na wa!!

If the wife was not a jobless weakling, that would have been the end of that marriage.

You aren't specific on what the issue/s is/are.

3free2:
I know similar stories has been narrated on this forum but I want the world to hear my tale of regret and sorrow.

For nine years I've struggled to eliminate family interference from my home but unfortunately I've not been able to. My father in-law and his wife call the shot and when I resist my wife promptly takes side with them claiming that I'm being disrespectful.


From the onset I pleaded with my own family to allow us chat our own path, learn from our mistakes and grow together in love. This has backfired on me because my wife did not do same with her family.

I can't consider breakup, I don't want my kids to grow in a broken home. The problem is worse presently only God can show me the way out of this mess.

Some might say I was weak from the onset, but some women can be manipulative and cunning. I am in a cage right now, I desperately need help before the worst happens.

In cage how!! You have not stated the problem.

Cutehector:
How much money do you have? Because if you commanded money, your inlaws would be calling you sir.

Not just money. He pleased them so much

youngest85:
Which worst will happen?
If you wanna commit suicide go ahead and let's know how many of us remain

chai guy you wicked o