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Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by hope4nigeria(m): 10:55pm On Jun 02, 2018 |
3free2:you didn't even tell us what happened, you beat drum,you sing, and you dance alone so why are you disturbing us here? "I can't consider breakup, I don't want my kids to grow in a broken home. The problem is worse presently only God can show me the way out of this mess. " 1 Like |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by IDERAWOLE(m): 10:56pm On Jun 02, 2018 |
Remaining calm in adversity is a sign of great spiritual strength. No matter what's going on in your life right now. Hold your peace! 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by JONNYSPUTE(m): 11:00pm On Jun 02, 2018 |
Sorry bro,you were the cause of your predicaments.Others should learn from this and stop seeing men in control of their affairs as being rude. Men,learn to be decisive, take charge from the onset,stop been scared of how or what ur in-laws will say.Look at what you are going thru right now just because of your eye service towards ur in-laws.And finally op,ur wife's family did not ruin your marriage, you did it yourself so stop blaming them.In ur next life,that's if you will agree to marry,be a man. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by andyanders: 11:00pm On Jun 02, 2018 |
Op it is a pity you are going through this right now having thought that 'love is blind'. In a relationship or to say marriage, no two perfect people on the face of this earth. One thing here is that op was blinded with love and never took steps to run his home from the first time. Have laws in your home and do not fail to stand by it. If you see your wife go out of order, correct her. She must have her own respect from you but do not insult her person because of her weakness. Never allow her to boss you. When you notice that her parents are encroaching into your family affairs, correct her immediatelly. Waiting and endouring and hoping that it will correct itself with time, you are killing yourself just like op. Op with children now involved, it will be difficult to seek for divorce,rather, call a meeting of both families involved and spell out your problem and state how to run your family without any external interferance. Note also that if your woman is the wicked type,she can get rid of you. |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by neonly: 11:01pm On Jun 02, 2018 |
I have married for d past 14 yrs with 3 boys no girl Anytime my in-laws are around I don't give them eye they see me has a bad person but at least I get to keep my family d way I want if they misbehave I tell them straight to der eyes yes most of u will say an rude but that d way I was brought up to tolerate things dat will hurt u now or future because of love abegi I understand yur pain but U most man up 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by dbanjj1629(m): 11:03pm On Jun 02, 2018 |
Op, how do we help you when you've not said anything? 6 Likes |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by phlame(m): 11:03pm On Jun 02, 2018 |
3free2: Sharap!!! |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by daddio(m): 11:05pm On Jun 02, 2018 |
youngest85: YOU WICKED O! 2 Likes
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Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by eyinjuege: 11:05pm On Jun 02, 2018 |
You don't want your kids to grow up in a broken home, yet You fear the worst will soon happen? Is the worst better than the children having parents that are no longer together? After doing your worst, will they not still end up in a broken home? Anyway, my advice to you is to make up your mind , and don't go back on any decision you've taken time out to think about and make. Avoid your inlaws for now, and don't put mouth in anything that concerns them. If your wife wants to bring in what her folks tell her and you're not comfortable with it, caution her and stick by it. Nobody can force you to do what you don't want to do 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by bebeto94: 11:10pm On Jun 02, 2018 |
[quote author=3free2 post=68103051] Looking back, I think I have been worst than an introvert. Iwas so eager to impress my stupid in-laws. I've given up so much for the sake of the happy home of my dreams. I'm too ashamed to narrate the whole story. [/quote Pls narrate d story so dat we can learn and know were to advise you from. |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by Pusyiter(m): 11:12pm On Jun 02, 2018 |
Happy new month Vickie. I dey miss you o. You dey hide ne? victorian: |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by Originalsly: 11:20pm On Jun 02, 2018 |
3free2: How can we best advise you if you don't narrate the whole story? Nobody here knows you.... so why be ashamed? ....do you really think you are the only one ended up caged? Let us know how you ended up in the cage and we'll together find you an exit. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by ojlifa: 11:22pm On Jun 02, 2018 |
oh boy my case even worse pass,my wife done enter menopause ,for 7 years i dey beg am.her mother dey tell am no mind me.now story done dey not even one pikin.i go dey on my wife the mama go call,for my house na daily report,my wife must give morning report,afternoon report ,evening report even midnight report.na just problem.every plan i have made her mother has seen to it that it fails.i no even understand myself again.i have made up my mind second wife loading .i cant shout again ,if she won go,i wish her best of luck . 6 Likes |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by ahmedbanj(m): 11:29pm On Jun 02, 2018 |
Sometimes when I read marriage stuffs like this,I just cant help but imagine the kind of chance/power some inlaws do have over the men finding themselves in this situation,makes me wonder if the inlaws are probably the one's playing a big role in financing the man's house,cos if that's not happening I dont see a reason why any man would entertain bullshits from any inlaw! You start noticing say craze dey enter their head small small? sit them down and let them know you aint entertaining bullshits! 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by ojlifa: 11:30pm On Jun 02, 2018 |
keep quite forgien woman worse pass read my lip women think the same the world over Pipedreams: 1 Like |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by victorian(f): 11:30pm On Jun 02, 2018 |
Pusyiter: Aww :DD Thanks dear, happy new month! More money fall on us! Amen! Am fine dear ..You know month just start, so am on low key before bad belle people online go click my mentions and start looking for my mouth ! Then round of arguements Nd curses will begin. So am jejely reading comments I can't shout biko! I must blow this month! I bind distractions of any kind on nairaland , amin Jesu! Hows weekend paddy mi? |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by Nobody: 11:37pm On Jun 02, 2018 |
Xisnin: She wasn't without a job and if she had decided to end it, she would not have been missed. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by Nobody: 11:38pm On Jun 02, 2018 |
Fundamentalist:A fundamentalist indeed. Ur writeup is filled with sense and reality put together. In all, it is better to be in position to call d shots instead of allowing emotions to ruin Ur life. 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by wellmax(m): 11:43pm On Jun 02, 2018 |
God help you bro 3 Likes 1 Share
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Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by JONNYSPUTE(m): 11:47pm On Jun 02, 2018 |
ahmedbanj:....When you tell them to man up,they will say you re rude. Now see them suffering in marriage just because they can't say their mind and damn the consequence |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by package7(m): 11:47pm On Jun 02, 2018 |
Did you seek God guardian before you embark on a journey of no return. ...You have marry from Delila descendants. Carry your Cross. Pe le |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by Nobody: 11:48pm On Jun 02, 2018 |
3free2: ""I pleaded with my own family to allow us chat our own path, learn from our mistakes and grow together"" This is where u started destroying ur marriage from. Marriage is a union between 2 families. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by aycorporat(m): 11:49pm On Jun 02, 2018 |
ojlifa:oh boy this your story strong o . God help you brother |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by toscolee(m): 12:01am On Jun 03, 2018 |
Tallesty1:you're a very intelligent person. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by Pusyiter(m): 12:04am On Jun 03, 2018 |
I dey feel you my dear. Money and favor fall on us as rain dey fall for ground. For back biters, no mind dem na back dem go always dey. Thanks. Knowing that you dey myside is worth more than Davido 30 billion. victorian: 1 Like |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by Alejoc(m): 12:08am On Jun 03, 2018 |
sisisioge: This is a good idea! |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by obowunmi(m): 12:18am On Jun 03, 2018 |
Marriage is not the way Nigerians think of it. If it disturbs your peace of mind, LEAVE. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by Ibrahim3307(m): 12:19am On Jun 03, 2018 |
kimbraa:Sorry to ask are you planning to be a reverend sister or a baby mama |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by Lloydfolarin: 12:21am On Jun 03, 2018 |
3free2:[/quote] You ll be in this your miserable cage for a long time as long as you maintain this sort of repulsive mentality. Life is too short to spend each day regretting your marriage. I was once in your shoes but bailed myself out and happy for taking that bold step then as a man. Real men take tough decisions. You ll be free from problems of this world right from the day you don’t allow anything to hold you down including your children. Listen, if you die today, your children ll move on as if you are nothing. You became a miserable fool cos of mere pussy of your wife and children. The day you zero your mind on those two advantages she has over you, trust me, happiness ll become all yours. My guy, if you are the one feeding yourself, call the bluff of her parents in her present with little madness and see these people respecting your boundary. If she is your wife, she ll remain your wife. If she isn’t your wife, separation ll eventually happen. Mr man, children is not excuse to stay in marriage. Only peace of mind should keep you in marriage. Trust me, i was once in your shoes cos of my children, i couldn’t leave the stupid marriage. I was miserable and scare for my children being raised in broken home. However, i later realise that if i die in that marriage, this children ll move on very fast... You can stay in your children lives while living on your own. Trust me, you ll see the difference in a week. You ll see you are missing in term of peace of mind and sanity. The day a woman knows that you are afraid to lose your children or don’t want your children to be raised in a broken home, trust me, you are finished. She ll use it against you. Why do you think all these babe mama respect their babe dads? Why? Cos those guys don’t give a Bleep. Look at those small children called Davido and Wizkid, no woman out of those babies mamas can disrespect them cos they are in charge. Be in charge and prove to your in laws that you are a Mr nonsense man by throwing them out of your house and your wife if she wants to take side with them. If you think anybody has a better method to make your marriage than what i have said here, you are in for a shock. That family ll never changed until you do what i ask you to do 17 Likes |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by Nobody: 12:23am On Jun 03, 2018 |
Shut them out of your life, delete their numbers from your phones and stop communicating with them abruptly...If they ask after you from their daughter, ask her to respond as she desires. Never argue with your wife regarding decisions influenced by her parents just ignore them and follow your own heart...never fight with your wife. Don't take gifts from them and try as much as possible not to use any of their gifts that find its way into your home. Reduce their influence on your children to the barest minimum possible. Finally, stop getting unnecessarily worked up, enjoy your life. 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by Ibrahim3307(m): 12:28am On Jun 03, 2018 |
ojlifa:you weak pass the op 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by CSTR1003: 12:30am On Jun 03, 2018 |
I dont know why it is difficult for some men to take a stand. Take a fuccking STAND. You see 25 year old boys control their homes much better than older men. It is sad. As long as your wife's family is not feeding you, keeping them under control is easy. Unless her father is dangote, the woman that will do this to me has not been born. Even if her father is dangote, i will still maintain serious control. It is a matter of how you sell yourself from the very beginning. 4 Likes |
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