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Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by timilehin007(m): 10:03am On Jun 03, 2018 |
Lloydfolarin:Thanks man...I wanted to 'bon' anything that concerns actually o..as in I wouldnt even act like she gave birth to my baby. ..I was gonna careless abwt the kid sef...that's me...I over do things even to God I dnt av any gf o...I thought of hiring a lady for few hrs nd drive pass her mum's shop and wouldn't greet her...thats how bad I am o...my child really calmed me...but that ruggedness has been unleashed yet again |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by aribisala0(m): 10:23am On Jun 03, 2018 |
Ishilove:I am happy you got the point I was making. Any idiot can call the next person's comment stupid etc Simply speak your mind and allow others do the same. Do not try to bully or stifle anyone No one has a machine that empowers them to detect good and bad ideas . We simply disagree. So you coming here to tell us you have been studying that guy's comments and now have a PhD on his matter is amusing. The reality is everyone has OPINIONS that's all. My opinion is that you are unintelligent. I could be wrong but I doubt it 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by Nobody: 10:29am On Jun 03, 2018 |
3free2:There is no shame in sharing your problems. Otherwise seek a narriage counsellor |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by johnwell(m): 10:31am On Jun 03, 2018 |
I don't understand the story |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by onyibor84: 10:35am On Jun 03, 2018 |
Op, let me give my own piece of advice. I believe in what my people call "ofor" it means to go with a clear mind. Your in-laws and your wife knows that you'll hardly separate from your wife owing to your ugly childhood experience and they are capitalising on that and your introverted nature to play with your home. I want you to try a few things; 1. I want you to write a letter to your in-laws telling them in clear terms that you've noticed the bad effect of their interference on your family and that the said letter should serve as the last warning to them to desist from their attitude and will serve as an evidence that you warned them when the time will come. 2. Send a copy of the letter to the priest that wedded you people and to the priest where your in-laws worship. 3. Then keep a copy for yourself. Let all these be done without the help of your family so that they will know that you're waking up. |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by onyibor84: 10:36am On Jun 03, 2018 |
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Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by onyibor84: 10:38am On Jun 03, 2018 |
onyibor84: Let all these be done without the help of your family so that they will know that you're waking up. If after that and the mess continues, just take a leave from your place of work for a while and leave your house and then get a lawyer to file a divorce suit for you and send a copy from wherever you've been hiding your wife and the priest that wedded you people and sit down and watch how you get back your respect. You and I know that you don't really want to divorce her. You can withdraw the suit if she begs very well or continue if she's still behaving the way she has been behaving. For your children, they won't be abandoned the way your dad did to you. You can claim custody and take care of them or send money for your wife to take care of them. But....divorce should be the LAST resort. |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by Nobody: 10:45am On Jun 03, 2018 |
Guyman02:This actuality worked for two of my uncles. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by Olumeme: 10:45am On Jun 03, 2018 |
I don't know why men find themselves in this kind of ugly situation. Those I have heard this kind of stories from are mostly due to the fact that their inlaws pick their bills. My brother, any man that can't make his woman loyal, then he should be ready to go through this kind of mess, If you can't tell your wife to sit down there without any fear of her disobeying you, then forget it, because she will be the one that will sell you out. The solution is for you to start calling the shot and bluffing them, any day you give an order and she disobeys, send her back to her parents, she will definitely have sense. To posses some powers, you must be ready to take some risks 1 Like |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by Greystone: 11:03am On Jun 03, 2018 |
Olumeme: This is the painful truth in 99% of situations. 3free2: The only way you will get the respect of ur wife and her family is by making decisions and standing firm on them. You have got to stop being a pushover. |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by Nobody: 11:12am On Jun 03, 2018 |
Cutehector: Hear yourself? Without even asking, I know your Tribe already. Why are you guys so money conscious that it reflects in your Shallow Thinking every time. Ego Ego Ego Money, money, money So if he doesn't have money now for his in-law to respect him he should go and find money quickly in whatever form. Including going to Thailand, Bangkok and India with hard drug. ( Your normal route) Smh. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by princfred(m): 11:16am On Jun 03, 2018 |
Marry whites ladies wey know meaning of love una no go gree. See testimonies of lamentations. If shame allow Nigerian men talk what they suffer from their women, sun will set 7 times before dey reach half. Yet if someone told them before hand that most Nigerian women are better as baby mamas or fuxk mates not wives they will argue. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by Nobody: 11:19am On Jun 03, 2018 |
A ruined Marriage doesn't mean ones life is ruined. If eventually you brake up you'll pick up from there and move on. Life comes in different colours some have it in Yellow , very bright some in brown, blue etc So never believe if your marriage crashes your life is ruined. |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by princfred(m): 11:20am On Jun 03, 2018 |
tamethem:What he said is it not true? If the man had enough money would he be treated like a goat by in laws? Must you resort to anti-igbo sentiments at the slightest whim even in the face of truth? Have you ever seen Nigerian women divorce rich husband? Thats to clue you in on how much importance money factor makes in marriage. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by Ishilove: 11:20am On Jun 03, 2018 |
aribisala0:Congrats. I'm glad you recognise your own idiocy, so for this reason I will ignore you henceforth else you drag me down to your level and beat me to stupor with experience. No way I can compete with idiots. Hell no 1 Like |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by ShenTeh(m): 11:24am On Jun 03, 2018 |
kapelvej: Thank you boss. I am male nevertheless. |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by victorian(f): 11:25am On Jun 03, 2018 |
Pusyiter: Amen! @ money and favour ! Thanks for understanding dear . I dey your side, kampe! 30billoin dollars fall on us as well! Amen! But lemme ask? When are u coming to lag? Or better still, Check my signature for my bbm, let's chat. |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by aribisala0(m): 11:29am On Jun 03, 2018 |
Ishilove: |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by Nobody: 11:36am On Jun 03, 2018 |
Ishilove: Na im make u never marry. |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by Nobody: 11:40am On Jun 03, 2018 |
Xisnin: K. |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by b3llo(m): 11:42am On Jun 03, 2018 |
3free2:Face your fear squarely... You are not indebted or answerable to anyone. |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by Nobody: 12:00pm On Jun 03, 2018 |
id4sho:LMAO. Her family, my family, his pastor...everyone pleaded on her behalf. Bro stood his ground, saying he'd know when she's changed. I have to give it to her though, she changed. The funny thing is, every woman who has been married into the family, they hear the story and automatically fall in line. My brothers aren't brute, they adore their wives but won't be dominated by them. They make sure to tell the females in the family..."We will always protect you but If you decide to be lord over a good man, you won't find us cheering you on". 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by Pusyiter(m): 12:02pm On Jun 03, 2018 |
No problem. People like you are rare. I no get una plenty but I can go the extra. No wahala when my I enter Eko, I go holler you. Don't use BBM but would relate make we yarn. victorian: |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by TEYA: 12:03pm On Jun 03, 2018 |
Tallesty1:3free2 listen to Tallesty1, wise counsels he's got. Most of what you'd get here is trash! |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by Nobody: 12:06pm On Jun 03, 2018 |
aribisala0: Hahaha baba no mind ishilove. She don get PHD for my matter. E remain Professorship. Zuwo |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by kapelvej: 12:11pm On Jun 03, 2018 |
ShenTeh:your thoughts pattern are feminine. You must be one of the easy going live and let's live male |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by Nobody: 12:13pm On Jun 03, 2018 |
princfred: Yes. Nigerian ladies mimick love they have never felt it. It's only a white or Asian that when she loves she loves. She's ready to fight her father for you. Nigerian ladies are grossly disloyal and give there love to the highest bidder. I dunno whether it's poverty. Baby mama na him fit naija babes |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by Nobody: 12:17pm On Jun 03, 2018 |
princfred: Bro trust me it's worse in igboland. It's automatic. No money no respect. Marrying from Yoruba families are better. An Igbo woman becomes highly disloyal and disrespectful if u don't have money. A yoruba lady may hustle it out with u and won't mind living in face me I face you. I am a proud Anambra boy and I know what I'm saying. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by princfred(m): 12:23pm On Jun 03, 2018 |
Pipedreams:Some go follow you argue this simple observation tire like say their ancestors souls depend on it. Generally, Other ladies look forward to love they will show their men while Nigerian lady looks forward to the love she will extract from or worry she will give their man. Its in their upbringing most are raised to be contentious and entitled than to be bringers of joy. Even from the dating period, the man is already made to feel normal to be her donkey. |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by coleB(m): 12:32pm On Jun 03, 2018 |
i ve no idea what u r going thru.. but if it has to do with ur house or home, d rule is always simple no matter the person, #YOUR HOUSE, UR RULE. anyone that cant abide should take d highway. it works like magic as long as ur money long |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by Nobody: 12:51pm On Jun 03, 2018 |
3free2: Bro my Father faced exact same problem which ended up in breaking our home. But now I'm grown and I understand and can see clearly what happened I'm still fighting my Mother and her family even if it kills me I'll never stop. The Sad part is my elder brothers whom I taught should know better are as daft as a preschool children but I don't seek their support when their eyes open it might be too late. My advice? Stop that family in-laws syndrome before its too late. My own Father is now on his own with no children, no wife. We lost the support we would have had growing up because we followed our deceitful Mother thinking He was at fault. For me they'll pay dearly for that when the time comes cos I don't forgive. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by victorian(f): 1:02pm On Jun 03, 2018 |
Pusyiter: Aww that's nice of you. How about watsapp? If you are on watsapp? Send me your number and i will add u. My pm is not working .I can't access my mails . |
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