3free2:
I know similar stories has been narrated on this forum but I want the world to hear my tale of regret and sorrow.

For nine years I've struggled to eliminate family interference from my home but unfortunately I've not been able to. My father in-law and his wife call the shot and when I resist my wife promptly takes side with them claiming that I'm being disrespectful.

From the onset I pleaded with my own family to allow us chat our own path, learn from our mistakes and grow together in love. This has backfired on me because my wife did not do same with her family.

I can't consider breakup, I don't want my kids to grow in a broken home. The problem is worse presently only God can show me the way out of this mess.

Some might say I was weak from the onset, but some women can be manipulative and cunning. I am in a cage right now, I desperately need help before the worst happens.

3free2:


If you are as smart as you claim to be, you would know that many years of courtship does not guarantee that your marriage will be successful.

Anyway your opinion is appreciated.

youngest85:
Which worst will happen?
If you wanna commit suicide go ahead and let's know how many of us remain

victorian:

Heehehehehehehehehe


I can't believe this

Sighs na wa!

You and ishilove
But seriously not all marriages is that bad for the men..some men are happily married to their wives ,Mr Chairman.

3free2:


Looking back, I think I have been worst than an introvert. Iwas so eager to impress my stupid in-laws.
I've given up so much for the sake of the happy home of my dreams. I'm too ashamed to narrate the whole story.

Pipedreams:


Marry a foreign girl with foreign mentality or have a baby mama mbok. Nigerians ladies are fast on the decline. No thanks to social media. Everybody wants to slay. I know a yahoo boy school dropout that has fxcked sweet working class godly wife materials all because he drives a white 2015 C class.

Pusyiter:
Happy new month Vickie. I dey miss you o. You dey hide ne?

Xisnin:

If the wife was not a jobless weakling, that would have been the end of that marriage.

Fundamentalist:
Something similar almost happened to me, though I liked her but I chose reality over emotions . Roughly two months after meeting her , I introduced her to my mum who liked her and also went to her family. But during a meeting with her people , they were telling me I have to allow their daughter do a lot of things , that they know an average man would reject. I made them understand plainly that , its a man that run his home and I won't give into such conditions . This lady in question also made this demands but I stood my ground , she actually agreed at first to deceive me but later came and told me I have to change my mind or its over . I didn't waste time as I ended the relationship. She began looking for a way back for six months I don't take her calls nor read her SMS , she gave up . I can't be a puppet to my inlwas because I'm marrying their daughter .

The problem Mr op is that you gave them leeway for nine years , it won't be easy to erase that control you gave them , dont know your ideology though, but as a Muslim its very easy for me , I will marry another wife(s) and just watch how balance of power will shift. Most people who do such , do it to make a statement.

Begging your in-laws to leave you alone is a big mistake but doing something they themselves can't approach you will make them distance themselves from you and your family.

Though an introvert, but I'm not afraid to offend people when my line is crossed no matter who they are including my in-laws even family know their limit . This is not disrespect, its fact

ahmedbanj:
Sometimes when I read marriage stuffs like this,I just cant help but imagine the kind of chance/power some inlaws do have over the men finding themselves in this situation,makes me wonder if the inlaws are probably the one's playing a big role in financing the man's house,cos if that's not happening I dont see a reason why any man would entertain bullshits from any inlaw!
You start noticing say craze dey enter their head small small?
sit them down and let them know you aint entertaining bullshits!

3free2:
I know similar stories has been narrated on this forum but I want the world to hear my tale of regret and sorrow.

For nine years I've struggled to eliminate family interference from my home but unfortunately I've not been able to. My father in-law and his wife call the shot and when I resist my wife promptly takes side with them claiming that I'm being disrespectful.

From the onset I pleaded with my own family to allow us chat our own path, learn from our mistakes and grow together in love. This has backfired on me because my wife did not do same with her family.

I can't consider breakup, I don't want moy kids to grow in a broken home. The problem is worse presently only God can show me the way out of this mess.

Some might say I was weak from the onset, but some women can be manipulative and cunning. I am in a cage right now, I desperately need help before the worst happens.

ojlifa:
oh boy my case even worse pass,my wife done enter menopause ,for 7 years i dey beg am.her mother dey tell am no mind me.now story done dey not even one pikin.i go dey on my wife the mama go call,for my house na daily report,my wife must give morning report,afternoon report ,evening report even midnight report.na just problem.every plan i have made her mother has seen to it that it fails.i no even understand myself again.i have made up my mind second wife loading .i cant shout again ,if she won go,i wish her best of luck .

Tallesty1:
Why struggle? Just decide and if they're not comfortable with your decision then they should take their daughter. Life is very simple
Because you allowed them bro, report him to his kinsmen, church and tell them to warn him to remove his nose from your business To be a man, you must step on toes when necessary. What is wrong with disrespecting people who do not respect you? Let your wife take any side she wants, just don't change your mind, don't look face and don't say sorry.
Tell your wife what you want, how you want it and stand your ground, don't give in to her manipulations. And if her parents interfer then tell them to their face to leave you to run your family the way you want.
Not necessary unless your wife is stubborn and foolish. God cannot do for a man what he has already empowered him to do. Sit down, think and decide and then tell your wife to fall in, if she refuses then let her go. No be africa we dey? Let's see how long she can stay with her parents before running back to you. Only then will she know that her parents never really loved her as they claim.
Ofcourse you are. Being manipulatable makes you weak but it doesn't matter. Stand up and say "NO, MY MUMU DON DO" and mean it. You are free like a bird bro, nobody caged you. Just be a man in every sense of it. Be insensitive when need be, be strong like a lion and wise like a serpent.

victorian:










Aww :DD
Thanks dear, happy new month! More money fall on us! Amen!

Am fine dear ..You know month just start, so am on low key before bad belle people online go click my mentions and start looking for my mouth ! Then round of arguements Nd curses will begin.

So am jejely reading comments
I can't shout biko!

I must blow this month!

I bind distractions of any kind on nairaland , amin Jesu!
Hows weekend paddy mi?

sisisioge:
Hmmm...so sorry to hear this. Whatever it is can be fixed. You could:

1. Invite your family to meet with your other family to plead with them to let your nuclear family run its affairs without interference. There shouldn't be any tense atmosphere there o, just family A pleading with family B to allow your own family AB be autonomous.

2. You could just wait until you notice another interference from them. Then take a few things and move out. Don't be afraid, your children won't die. Stay out until your wife is ready to listen. Then let her know your stand.

Lobatan! By God's grace, you are the head of your family...your wife the neck

kimbraa:
Seriously, I'm not thinking of getting married. Seems 1 out of 10 marriages have it going well.

3free2:
I know similar stories has been narrated on this forum but I want the world to hear my tale of regret and sorrow.

For nine years I've struggled to eliminate family interference from my home but unfortunately I've not been able to. My father in-law and his wife call the shot and when I resist my wife promptly takes side with them claiming that I'm being disrespectful.

From the onset I pleaded with my own family to allow us chat our own path, learn from our mistakes and grow together in love. This has backfired on me because my wife did not do same with her family.

I can't consider breakup, I don't want my kids to grow in a broken home. The problem is worse presently only God can show me the way out of this mess.

Some might say I was weak from the onset, but some women can be manipulative and cunning. I am in a cage right now, I desperately need help before the worst happens.

ojlifa:
oh boy my case even worse pass,my wife done enter menopause ,for 7 years i dey beg am.her mother dey tell am no mind me.now story done dey not even one pikin.i go dey on my wife the mama go call,for my house na daily report,my wife must give morning report,afternoon report ,evening report even midnight report.na just problem.every plan i have made her mother has seen to it that it fails.i no even understand myself again.i have made up my mind second wife loading .i cant shout again ,if she won go,i wish her best of luck .