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freecocoa:
Then has the nerves to ask for hers, if he won't give her his? I'd like to think that such a man would not take no for an answer, that kind man sef, immediately you say no, he automatically believes you have something to hide and won't be still about it, because he obviously understands what's going on. I'm just telling you why I don't believe this bullshit story.

Leave these men, they just look for reasons to label women 'bad' whereas they are the real problem, its pathetic and desperate.

we're not looking for reasons to label you hoes.....

You women are hoes....

All you do is spread your legs and trick men into raising bastards.....


Kiss the truth....

plessis:
How about borehole pussy?


Next time, Let your head be correct before you mention me.

The prostitutes you pay N500 to patronise with all their years in sleeping with random men with different dick size, do they all have borehole for a pussy? Foolish lot!

angelboy01:
I Am not really good at writing a composition but the whole thing started around last year November when I lost my job at a reputable company, things became really hard that my ex wife started with her attitude, someone I helped through her schooling, even opened a shop for her after our wedding.

She started losing interest in me because I was broke and there was no more love because I couldn't meet up to her demands. She became the bread winner around that time, things didn't go as expected for me, I needed to do a lot of things even pay for the rented apartment we were in and the landlord came with the eviction letter.

Things became really tough that she wasn't sleeping at home anymore, she would leave home for days and come back home and give me some little change and leave again, she started to live with her aunt and I became so lonely and useless in her eyes.

Eventually when I came up with the apartment money and we paid I decided I wasn't going to stay with her for a while and go out and look for a job, so as to avoid fight and arguments. She later called me that her boss from the USA was back and she was to go and meet him because they had a meeting to do so I said OK since I usually speak and text with his boss so I allowed her to go. So after I left home I got a job and I frequented coming home to see her and my baby. I later found out she began to lock her phone and I asked her for the password she wouldn't give it to me so I began to suspect her.

One day I eventually found the password and I unlocked it while she was asleep. I found out through a chat she had with her friend that she had sex with her said boss and she even bought a land without telling me all through the years we were together. I felt so betrayed and angry. I woke her up and asked her about it and she started crying and begging me.

I left home angrily and jilted. I was so devastated that I smoked a lot of weed that day and drank so much beer. I called my mom explained to her and later told her mom too. The next day her mom called me that she wanted to poison herself because of what she did. I sent her boss a message on WhatsApp and that one didn't even answer me because he knew what he did with my ex wife.

It's been months now since this happened and her mom calls me almost everyday begging me to forgive and forget but how do I forget, it's not easy for me because I can be having sex with her and be seeing her boss face.

I blocked her on Facebook and whatsapp but didn't block her calls or text message because of my baby when I need to send upkeep money. She calls me but I don't pick up. I know that I can't be with her anymore but she has the wedding certificate we got at the court wedding. I told her to give the photocopy of the certificate to my mom but she wouldn't do it.

Guys the reason why I wrote this is who has an idea on how to go about a divorce without the certificate because someone told me the certificate is important for the divorce. I don't know anything about it and my uncle even said the divorce will cost me a lot of money about 650k. I don't know it that's true too. Lol.

Please guys help out here. I have the proof of the chat and the audio conversation of the sex escapade with her boss so that will help in the court. My lovely daughter is 2 years now. How do I even collect my daughter from her. I have left all my property's for her because of my daughter and am starting my life afresh. Will the court be able to grant me my daughters custody although am not ready to train her myself but I have my mom who can do that for me.

In addition to all of this guy's if your girl or woman passwords her phone and doesn't show you her password be very careful she might be cheating because not only did I find out she had sex with her boss I also found out she was also on some random social media nonsense talking to some random guys and all that and that she also bought a land without telling me for 3 years we were together.

Thanks for learning from my story and God bless you guys.

I am dealing with a similar issue. Nonetheless, focus on making that bread. Don’t let any woman that close to you again. You have had a child, focus on being happy. This generation of ladies are from hell especially Igbo ladies from Imo state. Their mothers have tooled them wrongly (entitled and never supportive). Yet their bride prizes are so high.
Advice: when you hear a lady is from Imo state and you are planning to marry her, flee. Fleeee!!!

tensazangetsu20:
. Women are wicked and will go to any length to ruin and destroy a man's life all in the name of relationship and marriage.

Confirmed.

kimbraa:
The prostitutes you pay N500 to patronise with all their years in sleeping with random men with different dick size, do they all have borehole for a pussy? Foolish lot!

of course they do..... They all have borehole pussies....

And they're likely to have damaged wombs from swallowing so many yam-sized dicks

Pepsi101:
Are you out of your mind?

You're advising a man to keep a cheating wife because you think "anything can happen".


No sane man will ever keep a cheating girlfriend talk more of a cheating wife,only spineless and useless excuse of a man does that.

You are on point. No sane man will do that.

austyn0:
This life sha...

Lol where did you get this.Picture story from..

MIPNIG:
I am dealing with a similar issue. Nonetheless, focus on making that bread. Don’t let any woman that close to you again. You have had a child, focus on being happy. This generation of ladies are from hell especially Igbo ladies from Imo state. Their mothers have toiled them wrongly. Yet their bride prizes are so high.
Advice: when you hear a lady is from Imo state and you are planning to marry her, flee. Fleeee!!!

Lol

Nigerian men are the worse set of men on planet earth for one to ever think of getting married to. If a man cheats, you'll see these boys calling a woman who wouldn't stand a cheating man indo-mie generation, advising her to build her home as her mother did and condoned her cheating father. Claiming it's in their DNA to cheat 'cause they've the monopoly of cheating, but once the reverse is the case, they'll all advise the man to divorce his wife 'cause she'd cheat again... you'll see them classifying all women as cheats, whereas it's hard to find one faithful boyfriend, not to talk of a faithful husband. Go to their favourite joints and see how they disrespect their wives with little girls while their wives are at home taking care of one thing or the other. Why do you men like making yourselves victims?

swaggprofessor:
Ur write up is hard to comprehend. Bros if u know u cant post a simple comprehensive write up for us to read and advice u on how to solve the problem at hand then pls dont post any jibberrish u can get advice from ur neighbors. u'll confuse us with trying understand what the heck u trying to say afterwards we will comfuse ourselves in trying think constructively on how to help u solve ur problem mtchewwww. i am done trying, Am out!!!!!

I too know

You probably slow

angelboy01:
I Am not really good at writing a composition but the whole thing started around last year November when I lost my job at a reputable company, things became really hard that my ex wife started with her attitude, someone I helped through her schooling, even opened a shop for her after our wedding.

She started losing interest in me because I was broke and there was no more love because I couldn't meet up to her demands. She became the bread winner around that time, things didn't go as expected for me, I needed to do a lot of things even pay for the rented apartment we were in and the landlord came with the eviction letter.

Things became really tough that she wasn't sleeping at home anymore, she would leave home for days and come back home and give me some little change and leave again, she started to live with her aunt and I became so lonely and useless in her eyes.

Eventually when I came up with the apartment money and we paid I decided I wasn't going to stay with her for a while and go out and look for a job, so as to avoid fight and arguments. She later called me that her boss from the USA was back and she was to go and meet him because they had a meeting to do so I said OK since I usually speak and text with his boss so I allowed her to go. So after I left home I got a job and I frequented coming home to see her and my baby. I later found out she began to lock her phone and I asked her for the password she wouldn't give it to me so I began to suspect her.

One day I eventually found the password and I unlocked it while she was asleep. I found out through a chat she had with her friend that she had sex with her said boss and she even bought a land without telling me all through the years we were together. I felt so betrayed and angry. I woke her up and asked her about it and she started crying and begging me.

I left home angrily and jilted. I was so devastated that I smoked a lot of weed that day and drank so much beer. I called my mom explained to her and later told her mom too. The next day her mom called me that she wanted to poison herself because of what she did. I sent her boss a message on WhatsApp and that one didn't even answer me because he knew what he did with my ex wife.

It's been months now since this happened and her mom calls me almost everyday begging me to forgive and forget but how do I forget, it's not easy for me because I can be having sex with her and be seeing her boss face.

I blocked her on Facebook and whatsapp but didn't block her calls or text message because of my baby when I need to send upkeep money. She calls me but I don't pick up. I know that I can't be with her anymore but she has the wedding certificate we got at the court wedding. I told her to give the photocopy of the certificate to my mom but she wouldn't do it.

Guys the reason why I wrote this is who has an idea on how to go about a divorce without the certificate because someone told me the certificate is important for the divorce. I don't know anything about it and my uncle even said the divorce will cost me a lot of money about 650k. I don't know it that's true too. Lol.

Please guys help out here. I have the proof of the chat and the audio conversation of the sex escapade with her boss so that will help in the court. My lovely daughter is 2 years now. How do I even collect my daughter from her. I have left all my property's for her because of my daughter and am starting my life afresh. Will the court be able to grant me my daughters custody although am not ready to train her myself but I have my mom who can do that for me.

In addition to all of this guy's if your girl or woman passwords her phone and doesn't show you her password be very careful she might be cheating because not only did I find out she had sex with her boss I also found out she was also on some random social media nonsense talking to some random guys and all that and that she also bought a land without telling me for 3 years we were together.

Thanks for learning from my story and God bless you guys.

The mistake most guys make is always believing that a lady loves them.. If you want to know a leech act broke..
Op that ur ex slu.t never loved u. Am glad ur eyes don clear..

No naija girl can be faithful.. They are all leeches and cheaters..

Whether a naija girl lock her phone or not never trust her.. These ho.es are smart.. She can keep her phone unlock yet she's bleeping.

I am 100% support of the divorce. Please no matter how she begs don't take her back. Once a ho.e is a ho.e

And please don't marry again unless you want to marry a foreign girl..

For your baby, try and get her back.
If you paid ur ex slu.t bride price then be assured u will get your baby back.

If things get tougher, hit me up let me link you with few people who can get your baby for you.


Moral lesson : naija girls are written_off..
Marry a naija girl at your own peril

Luciferan369:
If you also cheated on her during the course of the marriage then forgive her and continue with your marriage.

If you didn't cheat on her then still forgive her and cheat on her during the marriage.

The reason is because what you run away from is not the fact that she cheated. It is your ego.

As you make your bed, so will you lay on it. Your marriage is laden in crisis. I am afraid it is almost impossible to find a faithful woman in such moment in these days and times.

Besides, there is a greater positive reaction from the Spirit world for people who forgive after being hurt immensely. Forgiveness is your personal determinant of your sincerity in your spiritual growth. I often wonder why many call themselves strong religionists yet can not pass the basic temptation like unforgivenness of betrayal.

I recommend that you forgive. Forgiveness is divine.

Very stupid talk from a wimp.

"If you've ever cheated on her then forgive.... "

Since when did men and women start having equal rights and privileges to flex polygamous flexing in this part of the world? So you don't know that men and women have different role expectations, privileges, and so forth?
A man would spend throughout the dating, marriage etc, who complains? But when the roles reverse and the woman is the one spending, all hell breaks loose. Is that not an example of gender privilege on the woman's part? Why should they in addition to the many awoof freebie privileges and benefits they already enjoy as women, also want to enjoy men's right to philander in this part of the world?

Where have all the real men gone for goodness sake? Fools.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
You know that's untrue. My mom stood by my dad through thick and thin until his very last breathe. So don't you generalize. Humans have been known for infidelity since inception so nothing is new. Just pray you Marry right.

thank you for saying this.the same applies to my mum.sometimes, i wonder if someone like my mum really exist,she is exceptional.

Hmmmmm I only see one lady comment here other girls are running away from this thread why ? Are they ............ Of this . let me stop here

Op, get advice from a competent lawyer.

Do DNA.

Change all yr documents/assets you had jointly with yr wife.

Don't take her back

Take some time to heal. God will guide you

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
You know that's untrue. My mom stood by my dad through thick and thin until his very last breathe. So don't you generalize. Humans have been known for infidelity since inception so nothing is new. Just pray you Marry right.

Pls Show PROOF, when you make such assertion, anyone can say ANYTHING here.

Dunkofia20:
Hmmmmm I only see one lady comment here other girls are running away from this thread why ? Are they ............ Of this . let me stop here

You wont see all those Cococandy, babyOsisi and other feminist around this one.

Its just too damning.

stillseth:
To marry dey fear me

E dey fear me pass you

kimbraa:
Nigerian men are the worse set of men on planet earth for one to ever think of getting married to. If a man cheats, you'll see these boys calling a woman who wouldn't stand a cheating man indo-mie generation, advising her to build her home as her mother did and condoned her cheating father. Claiming it's in their DNA to cheat 'cause they've the monopoly of cheating, but once the reverse I the case, they'll all advise the man to divorce his wife 'cause she'd cheat again... you'll see them classifying all women as cheats, whereas it's hard to find one faithful boyfriend, not to talk of a faithful husband. Go to their favourite joints and see how they disrespect their wives with little girls while their wives are at home taking care of one thing or the other. Why do you men like making yourselves victims?

You lady shut up!
Btw I didn't expect any lady to comment here since they are all ho.es and would likely support their ho.es sister.

May GOD punish all naija girls.

IamD18:
It's a very big abomination in Nigeria to see a woman who will respect, value, be loyal and be faithful to her husband during hard times.
You'll only see their loyalty when you are doing well, not during hard times.

Contact a good lawyer and flee from anything that has to do with that prostitute of an ex-wife.

While doing all these, also go for DNA test to be sure that you are father of the said child. So that you don't end up being used and extorted because of a bastard child.

Things are changing everyday..

Forget about your ego or whatever because nobody knows the future.

No matter how rich you are, make sure your wife acquire her own properties especially if you two did registry marriage.


Make sure she build her own house and acquire all needful things.

You know why I'm saying this?

If your wife has her own properties, there's no way she can drag your own properties with you.

The court won't tell you to give her any divorce settlement.

Do you know what divorce settlement means or why you'll be told to offer her a divorce settlement?

Divorce settlement is a the money you're going to give her for wasting part of her years.

Especially if she was a full time housewife.. You're the reason she didn't achieve any meaningful thing

but if you allow or force her to own her own properties there's no way she's going to say you wasted her life.


Please, be wise.

The world has changed... if you want to get married don't do registry but if you do, force your wife to own her own properties.

I don't want any of you to say "Had I known" later in life.

A word is enough for the wise.

mimimile93:
You lady shut up!
Btw I didn't expect any lady to comment here since they are all ho.es and would likely support their ho.es sister.

May GOD punish all naija girls.

You, shut up! With the double standard. Who are those sleeping with cheating women? Men or ladies to ladies?

kimbraa:
Nigerian men are the worse set of men on planet earth for one to ever think of getting married to. If a man cheats, you'll see these boys calling a woman who wouldn't stand a cheating man indo-mie generation, advising her to build her home as her mother did and condoned her cheating father. Claiming it's in their DNA to cheat 'cause they've the monopoly of cheating, but once the reverse is the case, they'll all advise the man to divorce his wife 'cause she'd cheat again... you'll see them classifying all women as cheats, whereas it's hard to find one faithful boyfriend, not to talk of a faithful husband. Go to their favourite joints and see how they disrespect their wives with little girls while their wives are at home taking care of one thing or the other. Why do you men like making yourselves victims?

So, what exactly are you trying to say, with all these your diatribes?
That he should just soak it up and pretend as if nothing has happened or that he should go jump into the Lagoon because he caught his wife cheating with her Boss?

Dont carry-over your "burdens" to these thread!
Advice the Op on what he can do or Gerroutahea..... all the above rant cant solve your issues.

kimbraa:
The prostitutes you pay N500 to patronise with all their years in sleeping with random men with different dick size, do they all have borehole for a pussy? Foolish lot!

You are confirmed olosho..

Daboomb:
Pls Show PROOF, when you make such assertion, anyone can say ANYTHING here.

I should show proof of what exactly

kimbraa:
You, shut up! With the double standard. Who are those sleeping with cheating women? Men or ladies to ladies?

It's would never be well with y'all females for putting us through this bs

yanabasee:
NO SANE Nigerian woman will stand by a man when things get soured....

I disagree

davillian:
Leave them they will face this kind of women in the future
Karma keeps records

I hear ya

Daboomb:
So, what exactly are you trying to say, with all these your diatribes?
That he should just soak it up and pretend as if nothing has happened or that he should go jump into the Lagoon because he caught his wife cheating with her Boss?

Dont carry-over your "burdens" to these thread!
Advice the Op on what he can do or Gerroutahea..... all the above rant cant solve your issues.

You sound intelligent yet unintelligent if you failed to grasp my point. I don't have an advise for op as I wasn't the one that joined them in Holy Matrimony.

Elder001:
Things are changing everyday..

Forget about your ego or whatever because nobody knows the future.

No matter how rich you are, make sure your wife acquire her own properties especially if you two did registry marriage.


Make sure she build her own house and acquire all needful things.

You know why I'm saying this?

If your wife has her own properties, there's no way she can drag your own properties with you.

The court won't tell you to give her any divorce settlement.

Do you know what divorce settlement means or why you'll be told to offer her a divorce settlement?

Divorce settlement is a the money you're going to give her for wasting part of her years.

Especially if she was a full time housewife.. You're the reason she didn't achieve any meaningful thing

but if you allow or force her to own her own properties there's no way she's going to say you wasted her life.


Please, be wise.

The world has changed... if you want to get married don't do registry but if you do, force your wife to own her own properties.

I don't want any of you to say "Had I known" later in life.

A word is enough for the wise.

This slowpoke is here with his anti-men, foolish advice again?
I am suspecting you are even a woman pretending to be a man and offering dangerous and useless advice to a man in need otherwise, no sane man with his balls between his legs, will be offering the kind of opinion you are suggesting over here.

Not to mention that you are daft and ignorant of divorce laws.
Juts look at the rubbish you wrote up there?

mimimile93:
It's would never be well with y'all females for putting us through this bs

Answer the question.

mimimile93:
You are confirmed olosho..

Is that what they call the ladies in your family?

ZirdoRoray:
A real man doesn't run away from the fight. Instead he faces it head on and conquers. To do this, cross your heart and listen to your head.
1.) Pretend to forgive her.
2.) Keep her as a Bleep buddy and if you start having feelings for her again (because this can happen), keep a side chic to keep your head straight and your head it correct, you will be fucking the side chic almost for free.
3.) Bleep the hell out of your wife everyday but always insists on contraceptives. If she doesn't want to, blackmail into it. Tell her using contraceptives proves she has repented.
4.) Use the opportunity to get the divorce certificate, if she is scared, convince her you love her.
5.) Play on her feelings and Scheme a way of getting money from her to start and profitable business that will take care of both your expenses. Or anyway you think you can get good cash from her without her getting suspicious. Remember you gonna be paying child support for a long time.
6.) When you have gotten enough goodies from her and have a good escape plan, Hire a prostitute and bring the Slut to your house. Make sure your wife catches you in the act. Beg her to forgive, that you're still feeling hurt. Make sure you get away from that scene fast because women can be dangerous in that scenario. Keep pleading with her that you will never do it again. If she forgives you, bring another slut again to your house and let her catch you in the act again or you if you're sharp. You can do this with her close friend and some with a close relationship with her.
7.) By this time she will be seeking divorce.
Bros that's how to get your revenge.
If you really want to forgive her, remember she has probably been fucking her Boss all through the 3 years you have been with her and only got courageous about it when you went broke. Every Human being knows at the bottom of their heart that they cannot have genuine respect again for a partner who once cheated them. You'll always be suspicious one way or another.

I feel you bro.. If all men were this shallow

This girl's for Don get sense..

Sell this advice to a movie director..Use Jim Iyke.