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then thats y she cheated on you, love was dead

naijacentric:
u dont get my point dont worry

aro1:
am rily sorry abt ds issue sir,i was deeply sad nd sober
a wife legally married doing all ds,where is the love? i use to say ds,tru love died durin our grand parents time,ladies of nwadays ar only after material tins,wizkid nd duncan mighty don talk am finish (fake love)
ds also happnd to me last year,na ordinary galfrnd o,i was so down
nw imagine if its my legal wife. God will help we men. amen

My man, no be today nyash begin dey for back.

You romanticize those times because you weren’t there.

My grandpa’s other wife gave us gist of how they (girls) ridiculed some guy that came to marry one of them because he had ONLY one tipper, as against others who had more.

ensamy:
Jesus says ' He that is without sin let him cast the first stone and they all left one after the other, even Jesus did not condemn the adulterer. Bro if she is truly sorry and repents, pls take her back. Jesus was the only one without sin in the crowd and did not cast the first stone, so do not cast a stone on her. Forgive her and take her back then she will be the best woman for you in the whole world.
Forgive her and take her back.
Do not carry the heavy load of unforgiveness all around. it will lead to hypertension, diabetes, stroke or cardiac arrest. When you forgive all that will not near you. Selahhh

@bolded,

Crap...bullshīt !

It's so easy to advise, that's the easiest thing to do in this situation.

cocoboss:
then thats y she cheated on you, love was dead

ur negativity will drown u dont be warned

iLegendd:
Nice story. I'll cry about it later. This is one of the reasons we're always trying to teach men how women work, but they never listen.

I have never dated a girl who have refused to let me see her phone. There is a way you'll treat a woman, she'll never hide a thing from you. It's doesn't matter if you're rich or not.

Most men just don't know how women work or don't care to know and this how it will keep happening. I don't pity those men.

Anyway, it has happened. People who know about court proceedings will help you out.

Very funny.

Some of these girls have a different SIM for their “customers”.

Proudgorgeousga:
yes. I can't play my role and his role at the same time.

dats gud sha, everybody have dere own beliefs anyways.

freecocoa:
Its not my place to tell you how to go about it, don't just come here calling yourself a man, if you can't get your wife's password without beating her, its that simple.

Well, the OP didn't have to beat before get it, did he? He devised other means which she wasn't aware of. You cannot force an adult to anything with physical force or the threat of it, if they do not want do it.

Also, it is not your place to throw about vague statements about things that require specific solutions. You have not been able to make a suggestion because you do not have a suggestion. I'm sure the OP is a man, after all, he got the password without being his wife.

omooba969:
Ur dp pic is BAE!

Yours is even more bae

oshe11:
Everyone hates divorce but what I'm saying is, adultery is the only biblical ground for divorce

Divorce isn't hated by all. It may shock you to know that there are many persons comfortable with divorce.
God hates divorce because it tears at the very heart of his redemptive plan for the world. It is interesting to note the conversation between Jesus and the Pharisees in Matthew 19:3-9. When the Pharisees ask, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any reason at all?” Jesus answers by pointing them to God’s purposes for marriage:

d fact is both men and women cheat but its not 100percent. they are some that still remain loyal but the sad part is as they are loyal, they partners cheat. it is extremely rare to find where both parties don't cheat and I believe its mostly due to friends influence

computerizeniaja:
But Men cheat every day and get caught very often ....Is the poster trying to tell me since he got married he
has not had something with another woman.80% of married me cheat at least twice a week.
Let us stop acting holier .It is still possible to work the relationship out ,let not say its 100% impossible.

Lolz.....

Sprak for yoursef bro

80%
twice a week?
You dont have a wife, na gf u get....

I pity ur wife and wat she is goin tru

Ugosample:
I hope you know that passage is two ways

A man who cheats too should be dumped according to you


Well what I believe is that the decision is left to the person in question


If you can forgive, do so, if you can't, you take a walk, and this is applicable whether you are a man or a woman.

We are on same boat bro

freecocoa:
If you had any modicum of sense, you'd know that of course, I could be the one showing said men pepper, but no, every woman is a man's footstool, why wouldn't you yap crap? My friend go fvck your silly self biko, if them even call men, you sef go follow come out? Nothing we no go see, mschew!

Its OKay dear.

We cool?

asuustrike2009:
Divorce isn't hated by all. It may shock you to know that there are many persons comfortable with divorce.
God hates divorce because it tears at the very heart of his redemptive plan for the world. It is interesting to note the conversation between Jesus and the Pharisees in Matthew 19:3-9. When the Pharisees ask, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any reason at all?” Jesus answers by pointing them to God’s purposes for marriage:

I get your point but one also needs Christ to be able to forgive a cheating wife completely

angelboy01:
I Am not really good at writing a composition but the whole thing started around last year November when I lost my job at a reputable company, things became really hard that my ex wife started with her attitude, someone I helped through her schooling, even opened a shop for her after our wedding.

She started losing interest in me because I was broke and there was no more love because I couldn't meet up to her demands. She became the bread winner around that time, things didn't go as expected for me, I needed to do a lot of things even pay for the rented apartment we were in and the landlord came with the eviction letter.

Things became really tough that she wasn't sleeping at home anymore, she would leave home for days and come back home and give me some little change and leave again, she started to live with her aunt and I became so lonely and useless in her eyes.

Eventually when I came up with the apartment money and we paid I decided I wasn't going to stay with her for a while and go out and look for a job, so as to avoid fight and arguments. She later called me that her boss from the USA was back and she was to go and meet him because they had a meeting to do so I said OK since I usually speak and text with his boss so I allowed her to go. So after I left home I got a job and I frequented coming home to see her and my baby. I later found out she began to lock her phone and I asked her for the password she wouldn't give it to me so I began to suspect her.

One day I eventually found the password and I unlocked it while she was asleep. I found out through a chat she had with her friend that she had sex with her said boss and she even bought a land without telling me all through the years we were together. I felt so betrayed and angry. I woke her up and asked her about it and she started crying and begging me.

I left home angrily and jilted. I was so devastated that I smoked a lot of weed that day and drank so much beer. I called my mom explained to her and later told her mom too. The next day her mom called me that she wanted to poison herself because of what she did. I sent her boss a message on WhatsApp and that one didn't even answer me because he knew what he did with my ex wife.

It's been months now since this happened and her mom calls me almost everyday begging me to forgive and forget but how do I forget, it's not easy for me because I can be having sex with her and be seeing her boss face.

I blocked her on Facebook and whatsapp but didn't block her calls or text message because of my baby when I need to send upkeep money. She calls me but I don't pick up. I know that I can't be with her anymore but she has the wedding certificate we got at the court wedding. I told her to give the photocopy of the certificate to my mom but she wouldn't do it.

Guys the reason why I wrote this is who has an idea on how to go about a divorce without the certificate because someone told me the certificate is important for the divorce. I don't know anything about it and my uncle even said the divorce will cost me a lot of money about 650k. I don't know it that's true too. Lol.

Please guys help out here. I have the proof of the chat and the audio conversation of the sex escapade with her boss so that will help in the court. My lovely daughter is 2 years now. How do I even collect my daughter from her. I have left all my property's for her because of my daughter and am starting my life afresh. Will the court be able to grant me my daughters custody although am not ready to train her myself but I have my mom who can do that for me.

In addition to all of this guy's if your girl or woman passwords her phone and doesn't show you her password be very careful she might be cheating because not only did I find out she had sex with her boss I also found out she was also on some random social media nonsense talking to some random guys and all that and that she also bought a land without telling me for 3 years we were together.

Thanks for learning from my story and God bless you guys.

Go to the court where you registered your marriage and tell them the truth, i'm very sure they are in the best position to help you.

BuddhaPalm:
My man, no be today Nyah’s begin dey for back.

You romanticize those times because you weren’t there.

My grandpa’s other wife gave us gist of how they (girls) ridiculed some guy that came to marry one of them because he had ONLY one tipper, as against others who had more.

i understand u boss,bt material love is so rampant nw

Timbuktuo:
Well, the OP didn't have to beat before get it, did he? He devised other means which she wasn't aware of. You cannot force an adult to anything with physical force or the threat of it, if they do not want do it.

Also, it is not your place to throw about vague statements about things that require specific solutions. You have not been able to make a suggestion because you do not have a suggestion. I'm sure the OP is a man, after all, he got the password without being his wife.

Haha, common sense is enough to tell any discerning person, I needn't suggest whatever.

Any sensible adult in a serious relationship (that doesn't involve abuse) knows damn too well, that a partner you suspect of cheating, who still cares about your relationship with them, wouldn't withhold their password and then go ahead to continue cheating.

Oga if that happens to you, then you are a sissy who is being abused and taken advantage of, in which case the original poster's wife, wouldn't even be begging him, she would be threatening to deal with him for going through her phone without her permission, hehehe.


Then again, upon say the useless poster has been found out to be a liar, I leave it to people like you, to keep grasping at straws and spinning rubbish,all in a bid to justify your stance on women being whores and untrustworthy. At the end of the day, who cares? Mschew!

Women Women Women...

Daboomb:
Take it easy Man....
Dont make self-incriminating statements like this online, even if you dont mean it.
It is not necessary and can have repercussions beyond your immagination.

You can still edit your post right now.

Thanks bro but I careless.. I don't take back my words when I spit..

I paid my dues

zinizta:
murderer
nemesis will catch up with you
sociopath

Did the crime Did the time
No regrets

abuhusna1:
You killed somebody and you are proud about it do you know how much the parent suffered to raise that life you killed may all your children and grandchildren children too meet the person that will poison them

You don't judge a person by the page you walked into..

salt1:
You poisoned a girl to death! I had to go and read your other posts. You're a psycho. Her blood is haunting you. After confessing openly on an anonymous forum like this, you need to make your peace with your God. You should also seek out and apologize to the family you destroyed their daughter.
I think that's the way to regain your mental health.
I pray that you find peace, because you're mentally and spiritually troubled. Hooking up with a non Nigerian lady will not heal you. Confessing to God and man will.
May God deliver our daughters from your type

Your daughters are who.res

Reading ur life experience make me want to cry and now I understand better why they say marriage is a complex institution. I pray God help you out. It is well.

ndy87:
Poison How can u poison someone because she fell out of love. Trust me you have to get hold of that anger of yours before it wrecks you.

She fell out of love?
As naija girl ever fell in love that she should fell out of love?

She deserved it..
I don't regret.

I did the crime

I did the time

abuhusna1:
Your case is under processing you are going to jail soon as you have been reported to the police. The corpse of the person you killed is hunting you

Can I send you my details and address to make your work easier for you?

Bastard!

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Buhahhahahhahaahhahahahahahahaaaa. Omo yi orie ti foka.

Seems someone gave you HIV this one you this pained.
Make that painment strangle you there.

No dear! . No one gave me HIV.

Am more healthier than y'all women.

They only gave me hatred for y'all women.

I hate y'all women more than I love myself..

milemimi93:
No dear! . No one gave me HIV.

Am more healthier than y'all women.

They only gave me hatred for y'all women.

I hate y'all women more than I love myself..

Oh please spare me. If I was to act on the emotional hurt I've experienced in my life, I'd be murdering nothing less than 7 men every week. But shut happens, you just gotta move on and hope for the best.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Oh please spare me. If I was to act on the emotional hurt I've experienced in my life, I'd be murdering nothing less than 7 men every week. But shut happens, you just gotta move on and hope for the best.

If I tell you my story you would cry.. The judge that handle my case even told me if he was in my shoes he would do same.. To fulfilled all righteousness I was given a jail term..

I had to leave the country after serving term cause more hoes would have dropped. Thanks to my psychologist..


I hate y'all women mostly naija girls

wristbangle:
Enough said already. The headache men go through of recent just to date or marry a lady is worrisome and this calls for serious review. Things are seriously evolving as the number of cheating ladies/women has outweighed that of men.

Honestly, guys need to re-establish their value that chasing a woman should be the least in their agenda. God created us for the primary purpose of work . Look how things were perfect until eve came in and cheat on Adam with a useless snake. This trait is embedded in women no matter how a man tries to erase it.

A time is coming which I know will be soon when men would finally start boycotting ladies especially the Nigerian counterparts but then we still have the good ones around if one can patiently observe.

There are many ladies but few wife materials.
All the same, pray to God and he will give your own wife and naturally too.
Also, don't be choosy as regards class or academic qualification. If she has basic education that can be built upon subsequently, you are good to go.

valentineuwakwe:
if you are without sin, be the first to cast the first stone. . .hv u not cheated on her before? we are all humans and everything happen for a reason. . .for the sake of your daughter, forgive her n take her back. . .dnt break ur home. . .she did those things cos you were jobless then. .though she may have overdone it n I understand ur pains then but she is still ur wife. . .call both parents only, then you and her. .sit n iron things out. . .

It's easy to advise, it's one of the easiest thing to do.

ensamy:
Jesus says ' He that is without sin let him cast the first stone and they all left one after the other, even Jesus did not condemn the adulterer. Bro if she is truly sorry and repents, pls take her back. Jesus was the only one without sin in the crowd and did not cast the first stone, so do not cast a stone on her. Forgive her and take her back then she will be the best woman for you in the whole world.
Forgive her and take her back.
Donot carry the heavy load of unforgiveness all around. it will lead to hypertension, diabetes, stroke or cardiac arrest. When you forgive all that will not near you. Selahhh

Where did Nairaland get these sissy men from
Not everybody can forgive an adulterous woman!

hensben:
Before a man can go extreme cursing women know that he has been hurt badly. And the worse thing to happen to a woman is a man curse . You ladies better change your ways. You guys take men love for u lots for granted and pay him by betraying his love. Men curse on women has a big effect according to Mother Nature, tell your lots to change their ways I repeat instead of been defendant here.

No it’s not. The worst thing that can happen to a woman is eating the same or less than everyone else and gaining more weight than everyone else.

You people give yourselves too much credit. Worst thing indeed. Stay there and be wasting your saliva thinking your ranting will affect any woman.