Amarabae:

Let me advise you.
Sex is good in marriage but overdoing it look odd and tiring.
For some women, 3 times a week is too much,
While for some, it's okay
What she is trying to tell you is "sweetheart it's not everytime there will be a penetration, we can do some pre-intimacy and romance each other and have fun.
It can be a good Mouth Action and then you both sleep without any penetration(if she likes Mouth Action)
You can give her a good head and you both sleep.
It must not end in penetration.
Too much full penetration sex will make both of you burn out and get tired of each other, and the thoughts of cheating will come in.
Give penetration sex some time gap so that you both can be refreshed and hungry for it again.
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Oriaku Amara

Since na woman talk this one, I concur.

Ahmed0336:

Ah Ah!!! Pesin were no fit endure her husband Na outsider she wan do? Abeg o
That woman ought to be grateful and if she isn't let her ask her fellow women who had been married for same number of years as she to hear complaints of them not seeing their husbands or their husbands flirt outside and hardly touches them. Maybe she ll appreciate you

Baba if u know women at all u will not rule out the possibility.. Communication is the key here

My candid opinion is that 3 times a week may be way to much for your wife to bear for now. It's possible that she has other issues bothering her outside the comfort of her home or even in her home that may not have anything serious to do with you. It could be work related stress, or issues from her parents cum siblings, or even her multiple work roles as a wife, a mother, a sister and employee etc but open communication with her could unravel the mystery behind her sudden change of bedroom attitude.

Secondly, women at times prefer to cuddle and not necessarily asking for sex, but we men often interprete it as leading one on to have sex.

You also need to check your sex style and mannerism. If you are always doing it to get climaxed while she is left hanging, she may not be interested in sex anymore. It take two to tango, give her the pleasure that she deserves.

ecgreb:
Good morning nairalanders. I have been married to my wife for more than 10 years now and we have beautiful kids. She was the first and only woman I have ever had sex with. Averagely, we have sex 3 times weekly and it has always been fun. I ensure that I carryout my manly responsibilities by providing for the family and trying to make everyone happy. Few days ago, she decline my sexual advances. Later, I ask to know why she did that and she told me that I love sex too much. I was embarrassed. She sleeps nowadays in the children room or in the parlour just to avoid me though she refuses to accept that truth. Please I wish to know ideally how many times couples here have sex with their partners weekly and how I can control my sex cravings towards her. I just wish I can stay away from having sex with her even for two months.

Does your wife climax every time you make love?

sassysure:

That is not a lie.

A sis made the mistake of allowing the husband to make love every day with her when they started. Yes, everyday sex. Sometimes twice if both of them are at home. That was a very grave mistake. More than 8yrs into the marriage, it's still the same thing. Everyday drilling.
Once she come back after giving birth, that same night he must drill even though she is in pain. Her mum noticed and asked when she came for omugwo but she denied cos she want to be the virtuous woman. Dont tell. It might look like she is not happy performibg her duty. Another big mistake.
According to her, she stopped having sexual feelings very early in the marriage. The husband and his thing don't excite her any more. She is just performing her duty. And when she talked about giving a little gap, my man said that it's her duty. I really blamed her. No courtship and she was busy doing church girl.
As per down there, no feelings anymore. The thing is numb.

The guy should give gap of one, two, or three weeks intervals to make it memorable again. The give one month gap. The day u will do it, make it look like a date.
Abstinence has never killed a man. U abstain to let u r woman feel u and long for u,then she will give u signs that her body is ready.
How can u be drilling her 3 times a week.
Very wicked man.
Sometimes u guys hit a bad spot and it's painful. She moans and u think it's pleasure not knowing it's pain.
Every other day she will be dreading the nights.
Even when she is seeing her visitor?
U are indeed a very selfish man.
Let that woman have fresh breath. It's not every time women love to see a standing dick. Sometimes the sight is disgusting.
Give her the deserved break.
She has already set the boundary and if u don't do the right thing, she might go.
Yes, too much sex can make a woman end her marriage. It's toture. She isn't a prostitute.
And life doesn't revolve around ur dick.
Mtcheew

You are very funny, his own story is more realistic than yours sef...he drills his wife even after given birth...lie of the century

ecgreb:

You are in a marriage. Things like this are bound to happen.
I can not give you solid advice because I have never gotten married nor engaged before but I'll guide you from my relationships.

Sometimes in my relationships when a girl gives me too much sex I carry my big head and tell her "I can't cope with you. You love sex too much.". Do you know what happens next? She withdraws all forms of intimacy. We'll stay in the room both n-aked and she'll make no advance towards me. Any form of advance I make gets rebuffed, her repeating my too-much-sex words verbatim.
Two weeks of witholding any form of touching feels like Hell opened and I fell in. Many times I beg and beg, going on my knees to show how serious I am but she locks up. This lasts -- depending on the girl -- from two weeks to almost two months.
I learned a lesson after two different girls did this to me to never question a woman's sexual habits.

One thing with women ironically is they can never take what they dish out. The problem is not you or your sex drive. If you reduce physical affection she may cheat on you, claiming you weren't giving it to her enough making her not feel sexy.
Try the same thing my girls did. Make hers about two weeks or so for a start. Hold yourself, you're a man. Look forward only to the end goal: the respect she'll show you for witholding intimacy for so long.


When you finish and you guys are back on you can then confess to her how hard it was controlling yourself despite temptation -- my girls always did the same.

I hope this helps.

Prepare to get second wife, the load is too heavy for her to carry, Threats her with issues of second wife ,she will sit up.

CriticMaestro:
Extraordinary lie....after 10years of marriage you still have the urge to have sex with the same woman three times a week? So you must have had sex more than 1500 times over the years...what you deserve some accolades for that extraordinary lie

Oga leave matter, ooh, I been with my wife for over 10 years with two kids, and till today once she passes my side unclad or even with only panties, something must stair up in me, though I try to control it.

ecgreb:
Good morning nairalanders. I have been married to my wife for more than 10 years now and we have beautiful kids. She was the first and only woman I have ever had sex with. Averagely, we have sex 3 times weekly and it has always been fun. I ensure that I carryout my manly responsibilities by providing for the family and trying to make everyone happy. Few days ago, she decline my sexual advances. Later, I ask to know why she did that and she told me that I love sex too much. I was embarrassed. She sleeps nowadays in the children room or in the parlour just to avoid me though she refuses to accept that truth. Please I wish to know ideally how many times couples here have sex with their partners weekly and how I can control my sex cravings towards her. I just wish I can stay away from having sex with her even for two months.

Learn to remove your mind from sex and focus on some other things that will make your family great.

Socialize with her and engage her in other things that will keep sex away from both of you.

Women attach emotions to everything including sex and most times their thoughts about sex is always off especially the married ones.

PAY attention to her and assist her in house chores always, permit her to always go in and rest whenever the kids are disturbing her.

Take her for outing and give her a treat such will make her have urge for you. Women like cuddling it turns them on.

Amarabae:

Let me advise you.
Sex is good in marriage but overdoing it look odd and tiring.
For some women, 3 times a week is too much,
While for some, it's okay
What she is trying to tell you is "sweetheart it's not everytime there will be a penetration, we can do some pre-intimacy and romance each other and have fun.
It can be a good Mouth Action and then you both sleep without any penetration(if she likes Mouth Action)
You can give her a good head and you both sleep.
It must not end in penetration.
Too much full penetration sex will make both of you burn out and get tired of each other, and the thoughts of cheating will come in.
Give penetration sex some time gap so that you both can be refreshed and hungry for it again.
.
Oriaku Amara

Different stroke for
Different folks

You like sex thy complain, you don't like sex they complain........


wowen women women women eheeeee !

RiyadhGoddess:






Once a week is fine for me. I'm not a sex person. He will understand that. More of fore play is cool for me. I won't even marry a man that loves sex in the first instance.

Though you looked like a muslim but it seems you dont know the islamic doctrine about marriage. What you said is forbid in Islam.
In Islam, whenever your husband demand for sex, you must not deny him, even if you're sick, unless you're having your monthly flow. It is only him that can decide whether or not to have sex with you. Woman has no say in determining when to have sex.
In fact, if your husband decide to punish you for a particular offence and he refuse to sleep with you, you are going to see the wrath of Allah. Not because of the offence in question, but because he stop having sex with you. That's what your religion teaches. I am not a moslem.

Really...? U don't have sense you this woman

K

ecgreb:
Good morning nairalanders. I have been married to my wife for more than 10 years now and we have beautiful kids. She was the first and only woman I have ever had sex with. Averagely, we have sex 3 times weekly and it has always been fun. I ensure that I carryout my manly responsibilities by providing for the family and trying to make everyone happy. Few days ago, she decline my sexual advances. Later, I ask to know why she did that and she told me that I love sex too much. I was embarrassed. She sleeps nowadays in the children room or in the parlour just to avoid me though she refuses to accept that truth. Please I wish to know ideally how many times couples here have sex with their partners weekly and how I can control my sex cravings towards her. I just wish I can stay away from having sex with her even for two months.

Idle man. Is that your vision. Please find work that places a proper demand on your reaources and sex will become as secondary as it is meant to be.

eleojo23:
This matter pass me...

oma igala e se?

egoldman:


Oga leave matter, ooh, I been with my wife for over 10 years with two kids, and till today once she passes my side unclad or even with only panties, something must stair up in me, though I try to control it.

another fat lie

Amarabae:

Let me advise you.
Sex is good in marriage but overdoing it look odd and tiring.
For some women, 3 times a week is too much,
While for some, it's okay
What she is trying to tell you is "sweetheart it's not everytime there will be a penetration, we can do some pre-intimacy and romance each other and have fun.
It can be a good Mouth Action and then you both sleep without any penetration(if she likes Mouth Action)
You can give her a good head and you both sleep.
It must not end in penetration.
Too much full penetration sex will make both of you burn out and get tired of each other, and the thoughts of cheating will come in.
Give penetration sex some time gap so that you both can be refreshed and hungry for it again.
.
Oriaku Amara

You made a valid point. Imagine eating fried chicken daily. You will definitely get tired of it. The bolded is key. Most people fails to realize that it is not frequency of sex that matters but the quality satisfaction in the few times.

Its psychological problems, calm her down on your knee and talk to her humbly. Let there be coutesy

Love is cursed by monogamy- Kanye West

samguru:
This is a complete nonsense, she is your woman you have every right to have sex with her anytime.

The moment you wife is coming up with a time table or depriving you of your conjugal right then she is trying to open door for another woman outside there to help her to fill in the gap.

If there is anything bothering her mind she should open up or bring in someone that her husband respects alot into the matter for quick resolution.
I can see that the man libido is very high now, a time is coming he will not even disturb her again, and it is at this time that this woman will be crying up and down that her husband is cheating on her.
As a woman,if your man is craving sex Everytime take your time and spoil him with sex, kill his urge until he starts saying honey am tired am not doing today

Or is she reserving her t*t* for another man.

Nonsense!

You're going to ruin his marriage and your with this advice. People are more than sacks of meet where we get our sexual pleasure. Marriage is not just about policies all the time. Communication is key.

tyup:


i hate comments like this. Pour out which mind didnt he pay bride price? If this same man goes out to meet an olosho now the said wife will be crying foul

#stoppamperingwoman

Bride Price is not slavery. It is bond cementing them proscribed by culture.

She is his wife not an olosho. Let them hash out their issues.

XingXhang:


Nothing might be bothering her. Not all women love sex that much. Just that way.

He married a virgin and now he's off the hook

Funny thing, he was also a virgin.

CorGier:
Hey enough of that nonsense all of you. The onus ain't on him to fix her. Funny enough sex is one of the motivating factors why most of you ímbeciles choose to put a ring on it in the first place, and what do we have here? An entitled bítch not only denying him his matrimonial rights but shaming him in the process.
These are the same lot who con men into walking them down the aisle should they want full unrestricted access to the puss.
If it's the general norm for women to loose interest in sex as they approach menopause or something, what plans has she put in place to ensure his sexual needs are met? Who else is he supposed to run to if not her?

I hate this.

These are two people who should have bonded by now, nothing else in the world should matter to them than their collective happiness.
Like really why do we even bother, I mean what's the point of all this marriage nonsense if after ten whole years of investment and sacrifice, it all comes down to this fúckery. I admire most of you with the level of shít you to put up with. I dare you that dear wifey to pull that stunt on me, there ain't even gon be a kids room for yo arse to run to.

That's not how marriage works sir. Marriage is not about your policies all the time. Learn to resolve issues with sense and communication. Remember you will not always be young and strong. It is the relationship you have painstakingly built with love and understanding not force that will see you through your old age. Ask elder and they'll tell you.

dairykidd:

Baba if u know women at all u will not rule out the possibility.. Communication is the key here

I am talking from experience bro. Been married for almost 13yrs now, except yours is longer than mine I think I know what I'm saying.

Speakdatruth:




This is like the 10th comment saying "something is bothering her" is something wrong with all of you?

WTH is bothering a woman that has chosen to neglect her marital duties? WTH is wrong with a woman that's about to push her man out of the home? WTH is wrong with a woman that's not using her sense and obviously handling a sensitive situation the wrong way?

That's so weak a reason. You don't pass any message to your husband by denying him sex, that's outrightly unaccepted in marriage and to think everyone of you girls is saying the same thing shows you've not enter the institute or perhaps you've not learnt enough.

Earlier on the comment a guy said that when he is having financial issues, he avoids sex with his wife because he is mind is too weighed down to be h*rny. It's not gender specific. I guess his wife, might not know but she tries not understand.

Marriage issues are solved by communication not ordering, threatening or force.

Ahmed0336:

I am talking from experience bro. Been married for almost 13yrs now and except your is longer than mine I think I know what I'm saying.

Alright boss...

CriticMaestro:

You are very funny, his own story is more realistic than yours sef...he drills his wife even after given birth...lie of the century

It's like you don't want to give birth to children when to marry. If that is your decision good on you. Ride on.

Duru009:
You like sex thy complain, you don't like sex they complain........


wowen women women women eheeeee !

How many times have you given a woman orgasm?

debedebe:
we both share same feelings, all what you said also is happening to me everyday.

I'm so sorry about your situation. Have you spoken to your wife about it? What was her reply?

I'm not married yet but I believe you should work on your romance. no matter what could be bothering a Lady, if she have a romantic man, asking for sex shouldn't be a big deal nonetheless