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NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Yea one can have a romantic getaway without spending much

thats all there is to it... sadly, many women have difficulties understanding the fact that spending money does NOT make the difference between a good and bad date. a couple could have a fantastic date, while spending zero $$$, and still be happy together.

sadly, some Nigerian women solely see dating as a way to get free handouts/gifts/rewards etc.

MrBrownJay1:
thats all there is to it... sadly, many women have difficulties understanding the fact that spending money does NOT make the difference between a good and bad date. a couple could have a fantastic date, while spending zero $$$, and still be happy together.

sadly, some Nigerian women solely see dating as a way to get free handouts/gifts/rewards etc.

Ive heard u

gbenyi:
About three decades ago, after having a swell time on a date with someone of opposite gender, it was customary for the server to place the bill directly in front of the man. Today, times have changed as have customs and traditions. The server places the bill in the middle, making a 50 50 chance or an equal probable split. This, however, may lead to the first disagreement of the evening.

Some argue that it is kind of customary for the man to pick up the bill, but this really should be a personal opinion thing and everyone is entitled to one. From the first perspective, lately women have been trying to establish themselves to be equal to men in all spheres of life; especially in pay, the kitchen and the other room. So why not on this one?

I would like to know specifically the opinion of feminists on this one.

WHO SHOULD PAY THE BILL ON A FIRST DATE?

https://chofam.com/2018/06/who-should-pay-the-bill-on-a-first-date-guy-or-lady/

For me, it all depends on who asked who out on a date. And if a lady asked a guy out and the guy decides he wants to pay, it's fine still. But the view in our society here in naija is slightly against that as most ladies see it as a tradition for guys to cater for the bills.
The lady pays, the guy pays; shouldn't matter I think, whoever wants should go right ahead.

gbenyi:
I think this reply sums it all up. So valid and true.

Thank you

MrBrownJay1:
instead of thanking me for educating you, here you are spewing more nonsense.....ungrateful child!

Lazy slave.

MariaLavina:
True that! Due to some unfavorable societal rules and norms, it is expected of the Man to ask a Woman out and not the other way around. Women aren't expected to be that expressive ( relationships, sex, emotions ). So you can't blame women who are still conformed by this rules.
But I must bring to your notice that not all Dates are sexually related (Romantic dates). Some can be platonic ( two friends can go on dates) ,some can be for business purpose(s).

B) When you imitate a date, you are indirectly asking for the person's time, space, attention and probably money (transportation if you aren't providing ) . The person might have left some things undone to be with you ,You are taking them away from their comfort zones. It will be sane to make such one comfortable, the person is entitled to security, peaceful atmosphere, entertainment (depending on the type of date) and most importantly refreshments.

Now I, it is the invitees responsibility to conduct his or herself and watch what is ordered. So yes! whoever initiates a date should be ready to bear the risk. To avoid stories, watch who you ask out on dates.

shut up your mouth will you?

when women have to pay= tradition societal norms etc
when women have to perform duties = times have changed this is 2018 etc
rubbish.

gbenyi:
About three decades ago, after having a swell time on a date with someone of opposite gender, it was customary for the server to place the bill directly in front of the man. Today, times have changed as have customs and traditions. The server places the bill in the middle, making a 50 50 chance or an equal probable split. This, however, may lead to the first disagreement of the evening.

Some argue that it is kind of customary for the man to pick up the bill, but this really should be a personal opinion thing and everyone is entitled to one. From the first perspective, lately women have been trying to establish themselves to be equal to men in all spheres of life; especially in pay, the kitchen and the other room. So why not on this one?

I would like to know specifically the opinion of feminists on this one.

WHO SHOULD PAY THE BILL ON A FIRST DATE?

https://chofam.com/2018/06/who-should-pay-the-bill-on-a-first-date-guy-or-lady/

It depends on the person wey mumu pass between them...shikena.

The one who controls a relationship and gets the most out of it is the person who cares less...

OneSentence:
I like the way you think. no bias. just plain truth.

Thanks

OneSentence:
I like the way you think. no bias. just plain truth.

Thanks

MISEDUCATIONS:
shut up your mouth will you?

when women have to pay= tradition societal norms etc
when women have to perform duties = times have changed this is 2018 etc
rubbish.

What sane being shuts on up at the same time have the thought of engaging in a conversation. Are you always this confused, or is it the weather?

MrBrownJay1:
it all depends on a lot of issues....BUT, if a man does NOT want to pay the whole bill (and prefer to go Dutch), then let him say it to the babe BEFORE she orders like a mad woman, so she can decide if sshe wants to continue on this date.

as for me, if i invite a babe for dinner, i will pay for it, but if a babe demand that we meet at a restaurant then she certainly should pay for her own share. no big deal!

proud member of the Association Of Stingy Men of NL

bro wassup na u missed awa meeting last week .wier u on a date?....GEN SEC

MariaLavina:
What sane being shuts on up at the same time have the thought of engaging in a conversation. Are you always this confused, or is it the weather?

dont say something you cant back up. look at you now dodging my points and attacking my personality.

debate my point or admit you just typed BS

MISEDUCATIONS:
dont say something you cant back up. look at you now dodging my points and attacking my personality.

debate my point or admit you just typed BS

Your points? Sorry what I read was yesterday were rambles from a disconnected soul.. I debated with MrBrownjay, if I don't find you worth discussing with. Check yourself! Start with your manner of approach, then Your presentation of points. Until then a conversation can never exist between us.

MariaLavina:
Your points? Sorry what I read was yesterday were rambles from a disconnected soul.. I debated with MrBrownjay, if I don't find you worth discussing with. Check yourself! Start with your manner of approach, then Your presentation of points. Until then a conversation can never exist between us.

keep dodging. here is the message you're dancing around

MISEDUCATIONS:
shut up your mouth will you?

when women have to pay= tradition societal norms etc
when women have to perform duties = times have changed this is 2018 etc
rubbish.