Flickzvill:
I wish we could meet in real like so I will explain in detail but sis I have tried to talk some sense into her but obviously the power of this "friends" is over shadowing mine and even after marriage she like there company so bad she claims they r the only female friends shes got, man it's hard but I will take you advice tnx

I can't really type much but don't take that troll's advice. I know that's what your heart really wants but sometimes you just have to set a hòe free. The hòe being your gf in this instance.

I wonder y good guys meet bad gals and good gals meet bad guys. I just tire now I see y they say like charges repel and unlike charges attract.


Please all these good guys sef where una dey Na only bad gals una dey jam. Because almost all the threads in this romance side are similar

Can you swear you're not missing her already? Bury your pride and set her down and speak to her on camera! cus you've never caught her with any guy aside her catching fun with her friends. I do same, but my guy is wise and he knows my movements. She's not cheating on you but having fun like I do. As it is now, you're not thinking straight bcus when you love it's never easy to let go.

in life only do whatever makes you happy, because no one will do it for you, being in a relationship where you dont have peace of mind is self torture. my point is you made the right choice.

Flickzvill:
thanks but I want u to understand me I am not the controlling type believe me no man will stand his woman going to sleep in another mans house bcz she thinks she not married yet i don't stop her from going to parties I do go myself so it's no big deal I dont stop her from hanging out with her friends but the disturbing part is going to sleep in another mans house all the name of fun and shes in a relationship I can't accept that bcz it will continue even after marriage.

Listen to that lady's advice@babyforever. Atleast your girl tells you her movements.. that'll be appreciated. Look OP nobody is perfect. For instance there re girls that wil be loyal n respectful to you but what they do behind you will be unbelievable and worst. She's not your wife.. that's something some guys need to understand.
Well to the part you said you wanna marry her. You alone have the final say.

you did the right thing brov..

Lol you will still call her and beg her or she comes begin for forgiveness and you will still take her back. if you were the type that dates multiple girls at a time or has a few friends with benefits that can help you heal it would have bin a bit easier. once your sexually intimate with some and in love with that person it's usually hard to let go that easily

Zinny25:
I wonder y good guys meet bad gals and good gals meet bad guys. I just tire now I see y they say like charges repel and unlike charges attract.


Please all these good guys sef where una dey Na only bad gals una dey jam. Because almost all the threads in this romance side are similar

The matter tire me too sisi... .

To the OP your ex was a player but you never saw it.
Having male friends is not a bad idea, but always hanging out with them and passing the night in their place is a big problem.
She was cheating on you period.

I know it's hard to let go but you just have to let it happen. If you venture go back and apologize, she would toil with your emotions again.

I don't know why bad things always happen to good people.

99foxxy:
Can you swear you're not missing her already? Bury your pride and set her down and speak to her on camera! cus you've never caught her with any guy aside her catching fun with her friends. I do same, but my guy is wise and he knows my movements. She's not cheating on you but having fun like I do. As it is now, you're not thinking straight bcus when you love it's never easy to let go.

why are you girls fund of doing that it doesn't really speak well of you. l had to correct my girl for two years before her brain returned back to factory setting l can't stand that shiit. it simply means disrespect to the man ur currently wit

you're emotional weak, why? because you're still going to call her back to beg her.

nanauju:
Op this babe is going to give you lots of headaches because all you'll be doing is checking out which male 'friend' she's with or not. Who needs that?? At least she's open about it, the question is Can you cope?
I understand your principles of raising kids in sound environment and it's a good thing you called it quit before you get emotionally manipulated.
Now if she really loves you, she gonna come back and then you have to tell her what you don't like, sit and talk with her. If you see improvement, then both of you are good.

exactly if she can come back and we lay down some rules and settle all i will even take her to my parents right away

doctorkush:
this your story looks real kind of... lol... hope you aren't the one who broke up with a girl that spent her night in my apartment with one of my guys??

bro I no go lie you... she is into coded runs, just like the girl I'm talking about and she even called her bf mumu and was sure he will still come begging her on his knees later

lol you must be funny where do you reside?

Asbaba:
I've been in a situation like this once, but mine no dey sleep at anybody's place but her parents.
she just get many boyfriend's assistant. and am the jealous type, so I called her one night explained everything I have in mind including my worries. I told we have options, 1. is to make things work. 2. we go our separate ways.
she asked me to give her time so she can process it, I gave three days and the reply I got is we go our separate ways. it was never easy cuz I love that girl to my bone marrow, days became longer, nights became lonely. but now I'm a free flying bird.

just man up bro, you'll get over it soon. may God help you. Ameen

thanks for this it really helped the thing is each time I kept pondering on this issue she takes it I am being controlling and not focusing on the point damn

Babyforever:
Are you working ?

I am serving

Flickzvill:
lol you must be funny where do you reside?

lol... funny indeed.. I will keep mute tho, let's save your relationship

sirr:
OP, or PO.... listen attentively... DONT LET ANYONE DECEIVE YOU... DONT ALLOW URSEF BE TOLD WHAT TO DO BY SOMEONE WHO WOULDNT SUFFER WITH YOU....

If U are not happy,,,,, LEAVE,,,, END IT... ONLY A MATTER OF TIME, YOU WILL GET OVER IT, FIND SOMEONE ELSE AND APPRECIATE GOD FOR TODAY.



Do you want to have heartattack because U dont trust a woman

Do you know that there are many relationships outside where both parties are SO HAPPY and joyful together...

LIFE IS TOO LONG TO END UP WITH THE WRONG ONE....

FIND A GOOD LIFE PARTNER, AND STOP BEING CHILDISH....

Calling her back will only make her understand U cant do without her, and then... BOOOMMMMM.... SHE DOEA AS SHE LIKES THE MORE....


PRAY,,,, PRAY ... PRAY... THERE ARE BETTER GIRLS OUTSIDE WAITING FOR GOOD MEN LIKE YOU...

Dont end up with someone who might be following Yahooboys around...


dm me my guy lemme tell u sometin

thank you very much God bless how can I dm you don't know how to

Actually, I can relate to your story @OP except that I don't show it even when I feel jealous. I am the type that stays in my hostel most times and usually goes to church on Sunday or may be to fellowship once a while. I only go out if the need arises and only makes few friends. Due to my life style, my roommate will make gist of me for not having any girl. All these didn't help issue as I get bored and lonely every night.

So I decided to give it a try after been encouraged by my peers. Afterall I wasn't look bad. In my third year, second semester to be precised I once meet this beautiful girl back then in Uni. She was in her 100lv. To cut the story how we met short, I started following up by doing the chatting, calling even if I never call my mum for a week, I will make sure I call her least once in two days. Not only this I even text her SMS (I feel sorry for my self) As months passes I realised she started acting like "I don't care attitude, or why calling me". Even to hang out is like booking appointment before seeing the first lady. At a point she won't even pick my call. Even when she picks she form one excuse or another like she's in fellowship (meeting) or she's reading I should call back or she is in a church party whatsoever etc. This went on until she started raising her voice at me on phone. I started having the feeling like I am the one disturbing her. Well my friends even encouraged me more not to give up.

Every night when matter arises in the room they will chip me into conservation about my new girl, well to avoid long things I behave like I have it all under control to extends of impressing then with imaginary things that never happened between the girl and I.

Although our path usually cross and I did see her walking with her friend of course. I try not giving up to the extent of going to her fellowship just to see her and probably talk. That was how I started to the reality falling upon me. I realised she was getting the attention very much from the so called guys pastor. Going to the fellowship open my eyes to many things. Even after weekly fellowship services I try Waiting behind just to be with her, I realised she's already cornered by a particular guy pst. if not will be another random so called pst. all over her all in the name of meeting or whatsoever event. Even after meeting she received hugs while smiling everywhere and before I know she is off with another guy (pastor as she call them) leaving me behind or telling me it's late that she can not even talk to me. Even if I told her let's meet all she would says is "she don't have time".All in all she is catching attention every where both online and offline. At a time I muted her Wasap status because felt jealous and weak seeing pic of her with random guys. She's not seeing any need to even be with a lonely guy like me Afterall she has many of them flocking beside her any day any time.

The quicker I realised she isn't meant for me the better for me. I was left with no option but to move on. It was my first experience anyway having the feeling of letting go someone you loved but they don't seem ready to love back because of the attention they get as a girl has clouded their reasoning. What most younger girls don't know is that the attention fades away as they get older. Most of these girls are immature so they thinks if gonna be like that forever and carried away by the fame and attention of the youth. Only few ones quickly realize this and make hails while the sun shines.

For those guys with similar occurrence life is too short to be running after one girls who sees you as a pinch on salt. I diverted all my energy back to my academic, project and using my free time learning new things and flex. Man needs to be successful. Almost through with my University. And I hope I don't even come across lady who still want to be playing X & O (if u know you know) with her life until she later realise she is missing it.

Shout out to the real guys with good intentions and also to the other guys with the other intentions

Zinny25:
I wonder y good guys meet bad gals and good gals meet bad guys. I just tire now I see y they say like charges repel and unlike charges attract.


Please all these good guys sef where una dey Na only bad gals una dey jam. Because almost all the threads in this romance side are similar

we the good guys are present ma, I'm tired for all this bad girls that keep hurting us... my heart have been so shattered, can I rest my head on your chest to console myself

99foxxy:
Can you swear you're not missing her already? Bury your pride and set her down and speak to her on camera! cus you've never caught her with any guy aside her catching fun with her friends. I do same, but my guy is wise and he knows my movements. She's not cheating on you but having fun like I do. As it is now, you're not thinking straight bcus when you love it's never easy to let go.

I would have taken your advice if she hadn't cheated on me before the trust is no more there that's why I took the decision. You can't cheat on a partner and expect that person to magically trust you, you have to give reasons to trust and she keeps giving reasons not to trust

blackgold2018:
Listen to that lady's advice@babyforever. Atleast your girl tells you her movements.. that'll be appreciated. Look OP nobody is perfect. For instance there re girls that wil be loyal n respectful to you but what they do behind you will be unbelievable and worst. She's not your wife.. that's something some guys need to understand.
Well to the part you said you wanna marry her. You alone have the final say.

thanks for your concern but this said lady cheated on my before it's her part to give me reasons to trust her ever since she cheated I find it hard to trust her movement even if she tells me where she goes women are now becoming wise they might tell u were they are in oda to die down the guilt

99foxxy:
Can you swear you're not missing her already? Bury your pride and set her down and speak to her on camera! cus you've never caught her with any guy aside her catching fun with her friends. I do same, but my guy is wise and he knows my movements. She's not cheating on you but having fun like I do. As it is now, you're not thinking straight bcus when you love it's never easy to let go.

That your guy doesn't take you serious. I'm talking from experience.

In case you doubt me, just bring up "marriage" issue before him. I bet his first reaction would be to laugh very loud.

Flickzvill:
I am serving

Sorry I thought you're working so that I can easily take her place but it seems you're not......Anyway take my advice and fix your relationship call her and beg her before you resolve the issue

Babyforever:
Better go back and beg her from the look of things you look like the controlling one and it seems you have ego problem.......Don't listen to what all this guys are saying most of them don't have a girlfriend and they want to ruin your relationship......Meet her apologize to her let her know how you feel and you both should work on yourself.... you'll be fine

Birds of a feather spotted...Which decent girl does that??

Flickzvill:
I wish we could meet in real like so I will explain in detail but sis I have tried to talk some sense into her but obviously the power of this "friends" is over shadowing mine and even after marriage she like there company so bad she claims they r the only female friends shes got, man it's hard but I will take you advice tnx

Dude you are so weak. Weak weak weakling is what you are!

eddyghali:

Birds of a feather spotted...Which decent girl does that??

Shut up

Go back to her at your own peril

Babyforever:
Sorry I thought you're working so that I can easily take her place but it seems you're not......Anyway take my advice and fix your relationship call her and beg her before you resolve the issue

lol wish I can meet you tho you sound like a fun person

IAmSkinny:


Dude you are so weak. Weak weak weakling is what you are!

thank you and you are strong I guess happy Sunday

Babyforever:
Shut up

your advice weak person nne...you are just like that olosho

Flickzvill:
lol wish I can meet you tho you sound like a fun person

Don't feel sad you both will be fine it takes time

eddyghali:

your advice weak person nne...you are just like that olosho

Go sleep

Babyforever:
Go sleep

Just change your ways babe