dingbang:
Your wife is not submissive. She doesn't read her bible ... Because the bible charges wives to be submissive to their husbands and not to deny them their bodies.

oruma19:
see what u are saying. I am disappointed that u can expect as woman who goes to church everyday to know Bible. What do u think they go to church "everyday";to do? They don't even open one page of the scripture apart from Exodus 22:18 or Malachi 3:8-10. My Brother, Christianity has been rubbished by evil seers and prophets of satan. Even babalawo wears suit and calls himself prophet. Omo wahalaa de oooo

uboma:
Your wife may be sleeping with the supposed "Pastor" of the Church.

Eze2000:


Hello bro,

You have been stupid! Listen and listen well.

1. Why did God create a woman?
Answer: To be a man's companion for 'it is not good for man to be alone'.

2. God said... "Worship me, believe in me, honor me' for I am God and tolerate no rival."
Food For Thought; Where did he say 'be my slave?"

3. In God structure of creation, a man must have dominion over his household. HE WIFE MUST OBEY HIM COMPLETELY, BE BY HIS SIDE AT ALL TIMES AND MAKE HIM HAPPY for she is a blessing unto him.... 'He that findet a good wife findeth a good thing'
This is the single reason why there is a critical shortage of 'prophetesses in the world' ever since biblical times. All the powerful women you see in God's work today are merely support systems for their husbands. That is how God made the world, the woman is the sholder of the family and the man's support system.
Your life right now. Where is your good thing? Your support system?

4. How do you know your wife is going to a good church?
Food for thought: A church that encourages the woman to leave her husband often even at night when he needs her care and comfort after a hard day at work, what kind of church is that? Or even better what kind of pastor is leading it? The seed of dissatisfaction is being planted in you and your woman is frequenting a public place alone, a place where temptation can be a problem in care is not taken! Are you fanning the fire of adultery or what?

5. If I may ask what she is praying and fasting so fervently about that is so important that the problem it is causing does not matter? Do you save your car and lose your house?

Your description of your wife reminds me of people who server God dedicatedly for years but still manage to go a shambolic life that leads to nowhere but hell. Why? They do not know what they are doing. Let me give you an example. Compare the Jehova's witness doctrine of sexual intercourse in marriage and King Solomons ideology of it...he created many songs on sex in the bible! But hey, the witnesses will tell you all about how its a sin to enjoy your own wife!

Most of the churches you see don't serve God but appear to do so. Any church that servers God worships him morning and evening in services and a few other special services during the week. Even the people that live in the church do not attend all.


God gave man life and a free will. Wine and his wife and for his pleasure. the children are a blessing unto him. When you life is complete you must thank God but it seems your life is being torn apart by a pastor while you blame God. STOP IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You do not know me but a search of my history here will tell you something. I am among the best authors on the Nairaland literature section but guess what? That's only a thing i do. I am a prohet of the liveing God but my time is not yet come. Three years ago when i first registered here, I opened a thred on here asking for help in finding a wife but was insulted. I metion this so you will know the person talking to you. I'm a chemical engineer by training being forced to serve God but refused, a situation which complicated my life beyond anything you can imagine. Many are called but few are chosen. But so very many just call themselves in order to get rich. Even till this day, i have not married because I want to find my 'support system' so i won't leave loop holes for satan to expoliot when finally i stand in God's work in a major way which is what Satan is trying to stop.
God has instructed that I must marry this year and my search will begin next month.

Senseless pastors causing problems for people and leading them to see God and Churches as bad is why i ran away from calling many years ago as a child. I was called at age 15. Yes, you heard right ...15.

Tell that pastor to go to his home and leaves yours. Make your wife yours but do not deny her the food of spirit, however, don't let her eat that food blindly for she will get nowhere fast.

Let her serve her God with reason and so should you.

The greatest trick Satan ever played on man is to convince him he does not exist.
Fix your home or lose it.

daveson07:
that is wot i tot,bt it's having a negative effect on me

uboma:
Your wife may be sleeping with the supposed "Pastor" of the Church.

thelish:


This ur comment can break a marriage dat wasn't suppose to be broken.
Try n build not destroy.

daveson07:
we had a church we both attends, she was invited to dis one I cudn't possibly say no,,, dats how it started gradually

kennygee:
Your wife needs to ask her self certain questions.

Then I'm surprised that as a couple, you don't attend the same church. The man is the head of the family altar, it is obvious your family didn't have one, so your wife is taking the bull by the horn and has become over zealous.

You are ti blame for it. But it is not enough to put your wife away, schedule an appointment with her pastor and explain how your wife's over zealousness is affecting your marriage, then talk to your wife. Make her understand her priority is her home, unless she's not ready to be married.

You two should look for a good church you both can attend and grow spiritually, cause it looks like you're lagging behind spiritually.

Truth is, your wife is disregarding her duty as a wife to submit, but make yourself a man that is worth submitting to. You have to be able to lead her in all aspect, including spiritually.

I wish you well.

PrecisionFx:


the Christianity Satan is a figment of ur imagination.

jibs4lv:
It's funny thinking that one is a Xian, read the 3rd paragraph again and tell if chritanity works that way .

uboma:



Read my previous comment again.

I used the word "may be....."

I did not accuse her of infidelity. But it may be an area the op needs to explore/investigate as supposedly "Pastors" of nowadays are fond of sleeping with their members (including the married ones).

Ejiod:

He made a big mistake at the point the pastor knocked at his door.That's the moment he would have saved his family but he listened to the man hence the wife playing free role

daveson07:
This might sounds insane to many people but that's the pure truth,,my family life is at the brink(divorced but not yet legal)

as am typing this, i'm in deep confusion and pain.
It started some years back, my wife started going to this church (name withheld) that one of her friends invited her to join, at first i really don't care cause women(or girls)of nowadays can't be controlled cause of this equality bull.shit.

Now it's affecting me and i can't cope again,Monday to Sunday now it's one programme after anoder,,night vigil,special prayers and all.

Sometimes I eat late in the night,she would'nt return on time to prepare dinner,no time to have normal and enjoyable s€x with my spouse,she is always busy with church activities

I've complained several times and she will always promise to change,all to no avail,i even asked her never to attend dat church again,next ting i know their pastor was at mah door step begging me to retract my decision that evriting will change..(noting changes,it's even worse)

So,since i can't make her to desist from goin to the said church,i actually commot her from my house,since dat church is affecting her business also,she does'nt have time for shop again..

The main reason i wrote all dat sermon is dat,was i wrong in anyway? Cause i'm feeling guilty rite now and dats wots causing d pain in mah heart

ignore all typo and just try to get my point,,,PLEASE HELP A BRODER AM REALLY CONFUSED...tnx in advance

Eze2000:


Like I said, God gave man a free will. You can think whatever you please with including looking at a king and thinking he's a cat or the fact that 'GOD DOES NOT EXIST'. That is exactly what i thought until the year 1997.

Relax, you will learn or maybe not. The knowledge is not for everyone.

Leonbonapart:
who are you to define Christianity.... Moreover is Christian not Xtian

jibs4lv:
Who are you to quote me .....more over , I can choose to type anyhow I want it so shift abeg

Eze2000:


Like I said, God gave man a free will. You can think whatever you please with including looking at a king and thinking he's a cat or the fact that 'GOD DOES NOT EXIST'. That is exactly what i thought until the year 1997.

Relax, you will learn or maybe not. The knowledge is not for everyone.

Leonbonapart:
is spelt 'christian'

Now you can disappear

sisisioge:
Hian!

You did the right thing. Which kind wahala be this? Even my pastor says everything in excess is actually nonsense. People tend to hide under the overzealous religious umbrella when they are tired of something. Your wife is definitely tired of being married to you. Whew!