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Re: Is Church Life Suppose To Affect Family Life? by oruma19: 4:13pm On Aug 04, 2018 |
dingbang:see what u are saying. I am disappointed that u can expect as woman who goes to church everyday to know Bible. What do u think they go to church "everyday";to do? They don't even open one page of the scripture apart from Exodus 22:18 or Malachi 3:8-10. My Brother, Christianity has been rubbished by evil seers and prophets of satan. Even babalawo wears suit and calls himself prophet. Omo wahalaa de oooo |
Re: Is Church Life Suppose To Affect Family Life? by dingbang(m): 4:17pm On Aug 04, 2018 |
oruma19:looool... You are funny 1 Like |
Re: Is Church Life Suppose To Affect Family Life? by thelish(f): 4:23pm On Aug 04, 2018 |
uboma: This ur comment can break a marriage dat wasn't suppose to be broken. Try n build not destroy. 2 Likes |
Re: Is Church Life Suppose To Affect Family Life? by BigBashiru: 4:26pm On Aug 04, 2018 |
Eze2000: |
Re: Is Church Life Suppose To Affect Family Life? by obentenyson(m): 4:26pm On Aug 04, 2018 |
@that's why its better for Husband and wife to attend the same church... |
Re: Is Church Life Suppose To Affect Family Life? by lilyheaven: 4:43pm On Aug 04, 2018 |
daveson07:I wish your wife is reading all this replies, maybe she will learn one or two things. I'm sorry, but that pastor is a home breaker. Who said going to church every day will make one go to heaven. I know the pastor and your wife even her church members will be seeing you as the devil. Go and bring back your wife. U did what you did because you were angry. Look for something that will take her time, or even out of town, |
Re: Is Church Life Suppose To Affect Family Life? by Nobody: 4:49pm On Aug 04, 2018 |
The best solution would have been to follow her to church, anytime she dresses up, u tell her to prepare your child too and u all go together.. U will see everything u want to see and there wouldn't be need to come here. Now that you have chased her, u have given her freedom, .. U still have the chance if you want to |
Re: Is Church Life Suppose To Affect Family Life? by Nobody: 4:56pm On Aug 04, 2018 |
I Will Really Advice You To Monitor Your Wife With The So Called Pastor Closely. Many Pastors Are Crafty. They Deceive Gullible Women Alot And Can Sleep With Them Counless Times While They Claim They Are Going For Night Nonsense Vigile. If U Still Love Ur Wife, Take Her Back From That Fake Pastor B4 He Turns Her To Something Else. Divorce Is Not An Option. Go And Get Ur Wife Back 4rm That Crafty Pastor. |
Re: Is Church Life Suppose To Affect Family Life? by gulfer: 5:00pm On Aug 04, 2018 |
uboma:OP, you failed to respond to this; this might actually be the problem |
Re: Is Church Life Suppose To Affect Family Life? by uboma(m): 5:15pm On Aug 04, 2018 |
thelish: Read my previous comment again. I used the word "may be....." I did not accuse her of infidelity. But it may be an area the op needs to explore/investigate as supposedly "Pastors" of nowadays are fond of sleeping with their members (including the married ones). |
Re: Is Church Life Suppose To Affect Family Life? by LewsTherin: 5:30pm On Aug 04, 2018 |
daveson07: Well, she seems to be getting some satisfaction from her behaviour and that's why she keeps at it. I think I understand the way you are trying to run your relationship and that method can sometimes make it difficult to “put your foot down”. Yelling and threatening I doubt will bring a positive result. Seperation or divorce is also not the way out in my opinion. You have to find a way to bring her around. Maybe getting something closely related to what she is doing but in another setting - like in the church you both used to attend. Finding something she enjoys doing also and building that up to take just as much of her time. If she finds herself doing something else that feels just the same to her and happens to be wih her family, I think she may lean more towards that. Now when I say a cult, I don't mean it in the way we see in home videos woth rituals and devil worship and all sorts. Someone described the signs of a cult as 1. Opposing critical thinking 2. Isolating members and penalizing them for leaving 3. Emphasizing special doctrines outside scripture 4. Seeking inappropriate loyalty to their leaders 5. Dishonoring the family unit 6. Crossing Biblical boundaries of behavior (versus sexual purity and personal ownership) 7. Separation from the Church Now I don't know you or your wife but from the posts you have made, look at number 4 and 5. Many religious groups and bodies in Nigeria are particularly fond of number 4. The leaders ake you believe loyalty to them is loyalty to God. This is the cult-like situation I am talking about. And it always starts from somewhere. 2 Likes |
Re: Is Church Life Suppose To Affect Family Life? by LewsTherin: 5:32pm On Aug 04, 2018 |
I am intentionally ignoring a sexual angle to the pastor's behaviour. Very intentionally. Until there is more data, I will refuse to assume there is a sexual relationship between the pastor and any of his members. However, there is point 6. |
Re: Is Church Life Suppose To Affect Family Life? by Xtfield(m): 6:06pm On Aug 04, 2018 |
kennygee:Seeing her pastor may not help because the wife is acting based on the sermons she heard in church. She must have been told that she must love God above all including her husband and family. While this is true, the problem is that Nigerian pastors have equated love for church and church programmes with love for God. This is unfortunately not true. The woman who loves God will honour God's word and care for her husband and family. |
Re: Is Church Life Suppose To Affect Family Life? by Nobody: 6:57pm On Aug 04, 2018 |
she is having an affair with pastor. |
Re: Is Church Life Suppose To Affect Family Life? by Eze2000(m): 7:09pm On Aug 04, 2018 |
PrecisionFx: Like I said, God gave man a free will. You can think whatever you please with including looking at a king and thinking he's a cat or the fact that 'GOD DOES NOT EXIST'. That is exactly what i thought until the year 1997. Relax, you will learn or maybe not. The knowledge is not for everyone. |
Re: Is Church Life Suppose To Affect Family Life? by BigBashiru: 7:25pm On Aug 04, 2018 |
What is the name of the church?? |
Re: Is Church Life Suppose To Affect Family Life? by oyetpel(m): 7:31pm On Aug 04, 2018 |
This scenario happens a lot between my Mom and late Dad. Even though my dad was an ordained pastor he wasn't pastoring any church and he was scared about starting his own church, so he said my mom should be attending his junior brother(they are from the same hometown) so that she can develop well in knowledge. She became the head of women in that church and rarely miss church programmes. Then it started affecting dad, he complains a lot. We always eat late in the night, and whenever dad vexes about her going to that church they become enemies and dad won't talk to her. Whenever dad complains i am always thinking shebi church is a good thing, shít really confused me a lot. Finally, dad started a church 4 years b4 his death, and we all attended the same church, and that issue was solved after so many years. Now if we eat late papa know say we all just dey come from church. 1 Like |
Re: Is Church Life Suppose To Affect Family Life? by Leonbonapart(m): 7:47pm On Aug 04, 2018 |
jibs4lv:who are you to define Christianity.... Moreover is Christian not Xtian |
Re: Is Church Life Suppose To Affect Family Life? by DrayZee: 8:07pm On Aug 04, 2018 |
uboma:Many would overlook the triviality in the "may be" and instead begin to seriously suspect their wives. It may have been at the back of his mind before, but seeing your comment will trigger it hard. He might even see need to accuse his wife in the process. You should have been much more subtle. |
Re: Is Church Life Suppose To Affect Family Life? by gasparpisciotta: 8:07pm On Aug 04, 2018 |
Ejiod:You are on point my brother |
Re: Is Church Life Suppose To Affect Family Life? by frozen70(f): 8:19pm On Aug 04, 2018 |
daveson07: Something is wrong some where Funny as it may be, she is the only one that have the problem and unless she opens up to you, it will continue till eternity Now that you have separated from her inform her family and keep watching things from a distance You did not mention kids, I assumed she is yet to have babies or yet to be pregnant, it could be one if the reasons she is committed to church activities hoping that one day her prayers will be answered Meanwhile until she opens up no one has a clue to it Or may be she has been brainwashed by the so called church |
Re: Is Church Life Suppose To Affect Family Life? by chrisj2(m): 8:35pm On Aug 04, 2018 |
One child and they have agreed not to have another for now. This sounds like a somewhat middleclass relationship; most nja relationship will have had at least 2 kids by now. We shall take your word for it that there is no problem with that aspect of the relationship. Why go to church everyday? The same question I ask my mother who is almost 80 - why go more than 3 times a week and why are you spending so much money when you are a pensioner with no pension (kids pension scheme). I dont get it! Your is under a spell (edi from church); it does happen. Or there is something not quite right going on. What is the point of changing churches - you go there to worship, be observant and do more worshiping and praying on your own. Do your Bible reading too! Someone invite another person to a particular church (I bet it is not a catholic or anglican church - it will be one of those fake pentecostal churches) I will divorce her and move on! Only one child and she is already good for nothing. *BTW, I do not go to churches - do not worship at all. I don't see the point! I will not tolerate my spouse spending more than 1 or 2 Sundays in a month in church - otherwise, I am gone! 1 Like |
Re: Is Church Life Suppose To Affect Family Life? by Nobody: 9:06pm On Aug 04, 2018 |
Eze2000:I am not an atheist. Give me one proof about the Christianity devil, I will accept immediately. |
Re: Is Church Life Suppose To Affect Family Life? by jibs4lv(m): 9:34pm On Aug 04, 2018 |
Leonbonapart:Who are you to quote me .....more over , I can choose to type anyhow I want it so shift abeg |
Re: Is Church Life Suppose To Affect Family Life? by CioAngels(f): 9:41pm On Aug 04, 2018 |
Is like you are not man enough, why should you feel guilty? You have done the right thing. She has chosen the church and the pastor against you. You will be wasting your time talking her because right now her pastor is more important to her. Report to her family and plan to marry again. Pastors are destroying so many marriages. 1 Like |
Re: Is Church Life Suppose To Affect Family Life? by BIXYBABE: 9:45pm On Aug 04, 2018 |
ok |
Re: Is Church Life Suppose To Affect Family Life? by Leonbonapart(m): 9:50pm On Aug 04, 2018 |
jibs4lv:is spelt 'christian' Now you can disappear |
Re: Is Church Life Suppose To Affect Family Life? by TruthinAction: 10:02pm On Aug 04, 2018 |
I believe there should be a proper balance in all that we do. Well, thank God she isn't clubbing. If you love her, try and cook once in while Also attend services with her to be sure thet do. |
Re: Is Church Life Suppose To Affect Family Life? by Nobody: 10:08pm On Aug 04, 2018 |
Eze2000: I am not an atheist and I have never been an atheist before. Give me one single weak proof about the Christian devil satan or Lucifer , I will believe immediately |
Re: Is Church Life Suppose To Affect Family Life? by jibs4lv(m): 10:11pm On Aug 04, 2018 |
Leonbonapart:Who are you to tell me what to do with my phone? you don't subscribe for me so ; Get lost ! |
Re: Is Church Life Suppose To Affect Family Life? by 3verblazing(m): 10:57pm On Aug 04, 2018 |
Hmm.. That's one way to look at this... The human mind is so deep and desperate.. Who can understand it?... Worse if the mind is housed by a woman sisisioge: |
Re: Is Church Life Suppose To Affect Family Life? by jimcaddy(m): 11:48pm On Aug 04, 2018 |
Nigerian women hate to submit to their husbands. I feel it's time to remain single. Marriage and relationship is bull poo. A girl has once told me that she can never be submissive to any man. |
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