twerkjack:
Later u men will say u want a God fearing woman for marriage. So Someone cannot serve their God wholefully in peace again? Because ur married?? Marriage was always baseless sef.. That’s y Paul encouraged no marriage and celebacy.

I have a feeling , this Op is not telling the clean truth??

kennygee:
Your wife needs to ask her self certain questions.

Then I'm surprised that as a couple, you don't attend the same church. The man is the head of the family altar, it is obvious your family didn't have one, so your wife is taking the bull by the horn and has become over zealous.

You are ti blame for it. But it is not enough to put your wife away, schedule an appointment with her pastor and explain how your wife's over zealousness is affecting your marriage, then talk to your wife. Make her understand her priority is her home, unless she's not ready to be married.

You two should look for a good church you both can attend and grow spiritually, cause it looks like you're lagging behind spiritually.

Truth is, your wife is disregarding her duty as a wife to submit, but make yourself a man that is worth submitting to. You have to be able to lead her in all aspect, including spiritually.

I wish you well.

uboma:
Your wife may be sleeping with the supposed "Pastor" of the Church.

daveson07:
the first paragraph states divorce bt nt Legal.

daveson07:
ok. Quick question,,if u ask someone several times to stop doing somtin u don't like,nd dat sum1 promise nt to do it again nd yet he/she never quits doin it,,wots d next line of action?,cause am really confused

kmcutez:


Lord ko, slave ni. Are you practicing witchcraft? Just be commanding a full grown adult to obey you just like that, all because you have a dangling rod in between your legs.

What happened to communication and compromise?

LewsTherin:
First I will take this from a Christian's point of view.
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kennygee:
Your wife needs to ask her self certain questions.

Then I'm surprised that as a couple, you don't attend the same church. The man is the head of the family altar, it is obvious your family didn't have one, so your wife is taking the bull by the horn and has become over zealous.

You are ti blame for it. But it is not enough to put your wife away, schedule an appointment with her pastor and explain how your wife's over zealousness is affecting your marriage, then talk to your wife. Make her understand her priority is her home, unless she's not ready to be married.

You two should look for a good church you both can attend and grow spiritually, cause it looks like you're lagging behind spiritually.

Truth is, your wife is disregarding her duty as a wife to submit, but make yourself a man that is worth submitting to. You have to be able to lead her in all aspect, including spiritually.

I wish you well.

daveson07:
she is not with me rite now and her family and i ain't dat close, am only close to his father nd he is a business man he isn't around

daveson07:
wives(or women) are not meant to be controlled or disciplined,dey hav to submit on dere own free will,,datz how marriages can be enjoyed...

daveson07:
This might sounds insane to many people but that's the pure truth,,my family life is at the brink(divorced but not yet legal)

as am typing this, i'm in deep confusion and pain.
It started some years back, my wife started going to this church (name withheld) that one of her friends invited her to join, at first i really don't care cause women(or girls)of nowadays can't be controlled cause of this equality bull.shit.

Now it's affecting me and i can't cope again,Monday to Sunday now it's one programme after anoder,,night vigil,special prayers and all.

Sometimes I eat late in the night,she would'nt return on time to prepare dinner,no time to have normal and enjoyable s€x with my spouse,she is always busy with church activities

I've complained several times and she will always promise to change,all to no avail,i even asked her never to attend dat church again,next ting i know their pastor was at mah door step begging me to retract my decision that evriting will change..(noting changes,it's even worse)

So,since i can't make her to desist from goin to the said church,i actually commot her from my house,since dat church is affecting her business also,she does'nt have time for shop again..

The main reason i wrote all dat sermon is dat,was i wrong in anyway? Cause i'm feeling guilty rite now and dats wots causing d pain in mah heart

ignore all typo and just try to get my point,,,PLEASE HELP A BRODER AM REALLY CONFUSED...tnx in advance

daveson07:
This might sounds insane to many people but that's the pure truth,,my family life is at the brink(divorced but not yet legal)

as am typing this, i'm in deep confusion and pain.
It started some years back, my wife started going to this church (name withheld) that one of her friends invited her to join, at first i really don't care cause women(or girls)of nowadays can't be controlled cause of this equality bull.shit.

Now it's affecting me and i can't cope again,Monday to Sunday now it's one programme after anoder,,night vigil,special prayers and all.

Sometimes I eat late in the night,she would'nt return on time to prepare dinner,no time to have normal and enjoyable s€x with my spouse,she is always busy with church activities

I've complained several times and she will always promise to change,all to no avail,i even asked her never to attend dat church again,next ting i know their pastor was at mah door step begging me to retract my decision that evriting will change..(noting changes,it's even worse)

So,since i can't make her to desist from goin to the said church,i actually commot her from my house,since dat church is affecting her business also,she does'nt have time for shop again..

The main reason i wrote all dat sermon is dat,was i wrong in anyway? Cause i'm feeling guilty rite now and dats wots causing d pain in mah heart

ignore all typo and just try to get my point,,,PLEASE HELP A BRODER AM REALLY CONFUSED...tnx in advance

Jetland:

What a smart comment! This is one of the intelligent comments I have ever seen on nairaland. But wait oo, when I checked your profile cos I was tempted to, I discovered you registered since 2006. Shey nah you and Seun create nairaland?

LewsTherin:
First I will take this from a Christian's point of view.
Second I will assume what the OP posted is the whole story.

Your duties to God begin from those immediately around you. This means husband/wife and children first. IN THAT ORDER. Anyone doing “church“ or ministry work to the detriment or family and secular work is not working for God.

I remember a testimony from my youth. The lady was always at the church early in the morning everyday to clean up before she leaves for her paid employment. As a result she always got to work sometime after 9am. One morning while cleaning she heard a voice from God asking what time it was. It was well after 8am. God asked her what time her office was open and when she was to resume. She said 8 am. God asked what she was doing in church. He took no pleasure in her service

It is very easy for people to make their churches into emotional crutches and fail to see the damage they are causing in their secular lives. Even the bible admits that we are IN this world and so should render to Ceaser what is his.

Also realise that there are church leaders who like to make a cult following for themselves, where everything about the lives of their members is tied to them. I fear your wife is in such a setting.

Breaking someone out of a cult is an extremely difficult thing. You can Google and see what steps can fit your situation. But know one thing. Agressive displays of anger will drive her further into that cult mentality and further away from you.

But how did your wife get to become a member of a church you are not a part of? Did you have a church you were both committed to when you got married?

Leonbonapart:
just look at the way you are saying 'Cult' 'cult' 'cult'.... You've judged and condemned her already without knowing the whole story. And you call yourself a Christian.

Thank God say man no be God

daveson07:
This might sounds insane to many people but that's the pure truth,,my family life is at the brink(divorced but not yet legal)

as am typing this, i'm in deep confusion and pain.
It started some years back, my wife started going to this church (name withheld) that one of her friends invited her to join, at first i really don't care cause women(or girls)of nowadays can't be controlled cause of this equality bull.shit.

Now it's affecting me and i can't cope again,Monday to Sunday now it's one programme after anoder,,night vigil,special prayers and all.

Sometimes I eat late in the night,she would'nt return on time to prepare dinner,no time to have normal and enjoyable s€x with my spouse,she is always busy with church activities

I've complained several times and she will always promise to change,all to no avail,i even asked her never to attend dat church again,next ting i know their pastor was at mah door step begging me to retract my decision that evriting will change..(noting changes,it's even worse)

So,since i can't make her to desist from goin to the said church,i actually commot her from my house,since dat church is affecting her business also,she does'nt have time for shop again..

The main reason i wrote all dat sermon is dat,was i wrong in anyway? Cause i'm feeling guilty rite now and dats wots causing d pain in mah heart

ignore all typo and just try to get my point,,,PLEASE HELP A BRODER AM REALLY CONFUSED...tnx in advance

daveson07:
This might sounds insane to many people but that's the pure truth,,my family life is at the brink(divorced but not yet legal)

as am typing this, i'm in deep confusion and pain.
It started some years back, my wife started going to this church (name withheld) that one of her friends invited her to join, at first i really don't care cause women(or girls)of nowadays can't be controlled cause of this equality bull.shit.

Now it's affecting me and i can't cope again,Monday to Sunday now it's one programme after anoder,,night vigil,special prayers and all.

Sometimes I eat late in the night,she would'nt return on time to prepare dinner,no time to have normal and enjoyable s€x with my spouse,she is always busy with church activities

I've complained several times and she will always promise to change,all to no avail,i even asked her never to attend dat church again,next ting i know their pastor was at mah door step begging me to retract my decision that evriting will change..(noting changes,it's even worse)

So,since i can't make her to desist from goin to the said church,i actually commot her from my house,since dat church is affecting her business also,she does'nt have time for shop again..

The main reason i wrote all dat sermon is dat,was i wrong in anyway? Cause i'm feeling guilty rite now and dats wots causing d pain in mah heart

ignore all typo and just try to get my point,,,PLEASE HELP A BRODER AM REALLY CONFUSED...tnx in advance

Eze2000:


Hello bro,

You have been stupid! Listen and listen well.

1. Why did God create a woman?
Answer: To be a man's companion for 'it is not good for man to be alone'.

2. God said... "Worship me, believe in me, honor me' for I am God and tolerate no rival."
Food For Thought; Where did he say 'be my slave?"

3. In God structure of creation, a man must have dominion over his household. HE WIFE MUST OBEY HIM COMPLETELY, BE BY HIS SIDE AT ALL TIMES AND MAKE HIM HAPPY for she is a blessing unto him.... 'He that findet a good wife findeth a good thing'
This is the single reason why there is a critical shortage of 'prophetesses in the world' ever since biblical times. All the powerful women you see in God's work today are merely support systems for their husbands. That is how God made the world, the woman is the sholder of the family and the man's support system.
Your life right now. Where is your good thing? Your support system?

4. How do you know your wife is going to a good church?
Food for thought: A church that encourages the woman to leave her husband often even at night when he needs her care and comfort after a hard day at work, what kind of church is that? Or even better what kind of pastor is leading it? The seed of dissatisfaction is being planted in you and your woman is frequenting a public place alone, a place where temptation can be a problem in care is not taken! Are you fanning the fire of adultery or what?

5. If I may ask what she is praying and fasting so fervently about that is so important that the problem it is causing does not matter? Do you save your car and lose your house?

Your description of your wife reminds me of people who server God dedicatedly for years but still manage to go a shambolic life that leads to nowhere but hell. Why? They do not know what they are doing. Let me give you an example. Compare the Jehova's witness doctrine of sexual intercourse in marriage and King Solomons ideology of it...he created many songs on sex in the bible! But hey, the witnesses will tell you all about how its a sin to enjoy your own wife!

Most of the churches you see don't serve God but appear to do so. Any church that servers God worships him morning and evening in services and a few other special services during the week. Even the people that live in the church do not attend all.


God gave man life and a free will. Wine and his wife and for his pleasure. the children are a blessing unto him. When you life is complete you must thank God but it seems your life is being torn apart by a pastor while you blame God. STOP IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You do not know me but a search of my history here will tell you something. I am among the best authors on the Nairaland literature section but guess what? That's only a thing i do. I am a prohet of the liveing God but my time is not yet come. Three years ago when i first registered here, I opened a thred on here asking for help in finding a wife but was insulted. I metion this so you will know the person talking to you. I'm a chemical engineer by training being forced to serve God but refused, a situation which complicated my life beyond anything you can imagine. Many are called but few are chosen. But so very many just call themselves in order to get rich. Even till this day, i have not married because I want to find my 'support system' so i won't leave loop holes for satan to expoliot when finally i stand in God's work in a major way which is what Satan is trying to stop.
God has instructed that I must marry this year and my search will begin next month.

Senseless pastors causing problems for people and leading them to see God and Churches as bad is why i ran away from calling many years ago as a child. I was called at age 15. Yes, you heard right ...15.

Tell that pastor to go to his home and leaves yours. Make your wife yours but do not deny her the food of spirit, however, don't let her eat that food blindly for she will get nowhere fast.

Let her serve her God with reason and so should you.

The greatest trick Satan ever played on man is to convince him he does not exist.
Fix your home or lose it.