Dan Brown is very controversial and says crazy things, yet people rush to buy his latest books.


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plavic:


I'm sorry.

You're welcome, Sir. Go and sin no more.

Bob Marley smokes weed, Michael Jackson changed his skin tone, yet they gave inspirational and soul appealing music and people love them.


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What I'm trying to say is: act the way it fits you, but give people the BEST.

Don't let anyone pigeonhole you and take away your freedom of speech. A man (without freedom of speech) who is always trying to please people is already dying slowly like a hypocrite.

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This pigeonhole happens in relationships too. It takes way our freedom. Do you know women are smarter than men in relationship?

The only smart men are those who take their time to study how the dating world works. The rest are nice guys.

A nice guy will see a woman he likes and before you know it, he's looking for a way to profess, propose, and let her know how much he loves her. I pity these men.

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He'll want her to start a relationship with him. The moment he lets her know his intentions, he is in trouble — he will 98% of the time be friend zoned.

Why do women friend zone most men after they opened their hearts to tell them how they feel?

The reason is: the man wants to cage the woman. A woman knows her freedom will be taken away the moment she gets into an official relationship.

This man, a cat, will take possession of her pùssy and will start monitoring her a CCTV camera.

Any little thing, Mr. Nice Guy will call and query her on her whereabout. He will start invading her privacy without permission. He now feels he owns her because they're in an official relationship.

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This is why women tell men (nice guys) who propose love quickly the following:

1. Let's just be friends
2. I see you as my brother
3. You should've told me earlier
4. I have a boyfriend already
5. Not ready for a relationship yet
6. Blah blah blah

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Lol.... what about kingsango

This same woman is regularly sleeping with a good-bad guy who hasn't asked her out or proposed anything to her.

This good-bad guy sneaked into her heart and starts ACTING as her boyfriend and not ASKING to be her boyfriend. This guys knows the secrets, unlike Mr. Nice Guy.

When you ask a woman, you'll receive an answer you'll regret (mostly a lie), but when you observe and act, you'll always get the right answer.

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Nobody on earth wants to be caged. Caging people is demonic. Buhari does it. He cages his followers into worshiping him. This is why the smart ones always run away from him.

The zombies are not smart, so they can't uncage themselves — except a rude awakening happens.

The truth is: we are the ones caging yourselves because we have refused to learn how this caging and freedom deprival process work.

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So, in the case of Mr. Aírforce1 and Mr. Explórers, the latter has been caged to always do good while the former has freedom to do bad or good and to say whatever is on his mind. This is the difference between freedom and being caged.

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If these two people stop using Nairaland for a year, you'll see people missing them. You'll see comments like: I miss Explorèrs educative threads.

You'll also see comments like: I miss Aírforce1's entertaining threads. This is to say, both of them are useful, but one is caged by his fans while the other has freedom of expression.

Here is the question: do you want to be caged by anyone?

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Where a compliment is good and should be accepted is when it's given to the work you did and not directly to your personality.

Compliments targeted at personality is where caging starts. If you're wise, find a way to reject it with humor to avoid being caged.

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Example of being caged:

Person: You act so mature unlike all these other guys or girls.
You: Thank you.

Sorry, you've just been caged. You'll continue acting mature and repress your naughty side just to please that person.

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Example of breaking out of a cage:

Person: You act so mature unlike all these other guys or girls.
You: Wait until I unleash my naughty side.

Or

You: You're right. I'm always mature on Monday, troublesome on Tuesday, naughty on Wednesday, immature on Thursday and thank God it's Friday.
Person: Hahahahaha. You're so funny.

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In the above situation, you've just escaped being caged with humor. You need to be smart in this life to succeed.

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With the first example, when you act immature in the future, the person will judge you and say he / has lost respect for you or you have disappointed them based on where they rated you — being mature.

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In the second example, when you act immature, naughty, troublesome, etc. in the future, the person won't judge you again — in fact, he or she will laugh and love you the more.

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Finally, we have come to the end.

Advice: If you don't read books that'll open your eyes about life, psychology, and relationships, or instinctively read issues as a man or woman, you'll be used like a tissue the same way Buhari is using Nigerians like a tissue.

That's all I have to say for now. If you're a man, endeavor to read some of our relationship books and your eyes will open to things you never knew.

You came to this life yourself, and you'll die yourself. So, why try to please THEM or allow THEM to cage you? Be wise, be smart, and be strong.

This is not an attack on my friend, Mr. Explórers, but a relatable analysis to reveal the inner game of the mind and human's subconscious manipulation of other gullible humans.

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Thank you and clef on!

I gat no chill

Jokerman:
Lol.... what about kingsango

I have no idea. What is Kingsango?

iLegendd:
Finally, we have come to the end.

Advice: If you don't read books that'll open your eyes about life, psychology, and relationships, or instinctively read issues as a man or woman, you'll be used like a tissue the same way Buhari is using Nigerians like a tissue.

That's all I have to say for now. If you're a man, endeavor to read some of our relationship books and your eyes will open to things you never knew.

You came to this life yourself, and you'll die yourself. So, why try to please THEM or allow THEM to cage you? Be wise, be smart, and be strong.

Please bro what are the best psychology books you've read so far?

iLegendd:
You're welcome, Sir. Go and sin no more.

Lol.

plavic:

Lol.

Mr. iLegendd, If I say you're a bad influence on this forum, would you take that as a compliment?

delugajackson:
Mr. iLegendd, If I say you're a bad influence on this forum, would you take that as a compliment?

Lol. It's not a compliment, but I can psychologically reply you with, "Thanks for the compliment." With that, I have given it a new meaning. The value you give to something is the value it has.

Even when people tell me you're stupid and I'm in a good mood, I reply with, "Thanks for the compliment." No time to argue.

This reply gets them angry and confused. I have diffused the effect of their attack. Sometimes, it's good to make your attacker look stupid by turning everything to a joke or use the Oyedepo's approach. See below.

iLegendd:
Lol. It's not a compliment, but I can psychologically reply you with, "Thanks for the compliment." With that, I have given it a new meaning. The value you give to something is the value it has.

Even when people tell me you're stupid and I'm in a good mood, I reply with, "Thanks for the compliment." No time to argue.

This reply gets them angry and confused. I have diffused the effect of their attack. Sometimes, it's good to make your attacker look stupid by turning everything to a joke or use the Oyedepo's approach. See below.

Please bro what psychology books do you find as the the best?

Most part of this write up makes sense.

In my own opinion, the easiest and most effective way to cage oneself is to expect too much respect, love and acceptance from people. When you know that your comments or opinions are subject to debate or even outright rejection, and accept that people are entitled to their own interpretation or perception of your opinions, then no level of compliments can cage you.

You really do drag on and on! Your whole point could be made in 1 paragraph but you want me to read a book

I've lost the point now...

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Please bro what psychology books do you find as the the best?

I no longer reveal books I have read anymore for some good reasons. A man must have some secrets.

Nice write up @iLegend few brains are still working on nairaland