Reader530:
Good day nairalanders. I want a sincere advice from you people.

A friend visited me almost two weeks ago. He has never visited me before, but when he came I thought he would not spent more than two days because apart from the cloth he was wearing the day he came, he didn't bring additional cloth, no brush, no soap, etc.

At first, he told me he can stay with me even up to a month with one cloth. He said, besides, he was sacked from his work.

Today, he forgot that he told me he was sacked; but he told me that he is on annual leave. The father asked him to come home for burial of his relative but he told me he would not go. I told him Npower has not paid us, but I will source for his transport, but he doesn't understand me. He thought, I will give him the whole money even if Npower pays, all the money I planned and budgeted for his coming was exhausted. I added some money to make sure he eats good meal thrice in a day.

In a nutshell, I am tired, I want to be alone for now. How should I tell him I want him to leave in a pleasant manner. Please positive advice will be highly appreciated.

Thanks all

You really have a big heart woh, people like me HATE shearing personal space, unless you are a blood relative.

Don't have a girlfriend( I hate responsibilities at this stage), so this arrangement is good for me. All my friends no am blunt, don't like freeloaders who stay more than 48 hours, I make sure I make that very clear, of course I will feed you well for that 48 hours & even dash my room while I sleep for parlour, after that 48 hours you must leave( I will provide transportation fare), unless you have a very good explanation & prepared to feed urself, YOU WILL NOT STAY

kimbraa:
I don't understand. It doesn't seem like he has even stayed up to a month, and you're already complaining of privacy. I think he's going through a lot and a good friend would be understanding. I'm not trying to blackmail you whatsoever, I just think you shouldn't spoil the goodness you've started. Your best option is getting him tell you the state of things, and how long he would be staying.

A friend that comes to you home with only the shirt he has on to stay should give anyone worries.

Best he can do is to be open with his friend and give him a deadline.

tell him you are travelling if you are in ikorodu tell him you are going to SEME and you are going to sleep a week just go out and come back the second day in the evening you would not meet him

Reader530:
Good day nairalanders. I want a sincere advice from you people.

A friend visited me almost two weeks ago. He has never visited me before, but when he came I thought he would not spent more than two days because apart from the cloth he was wearing the day he came, he didn't bring additional cloth, no brush, no soap, etc.

At first, he told me he can stay with me even up to a month with one cloth. He said, besides, he was sacked from his work.

Today, he forgot that he told me he was sacked; but he told me that he is on annual leave. The father asked him to come home for burial of his relative but he told me he would not go. I told him Npower has not paid us, but I will source for his transport, but he doesn't understand me. He thought, I will give him the whole money even if Npower pays, all the money I planned and budgeted for his coming was exhausted. I added some money to make sure he eats good meal thrice in a day.

In a nutshell, I am tired, I want to be alone for now. How should I tell him I want him to leave in a pleasant manner. Please positive advice will be highly appreciated.

Thanks all

he should already know that he has overstayed his welcome , but if he hasn't then he is a bad friend and my mum always told me to throw bad things away which is what I will tell u

if he is truly just ur friend then u should simply tell him. " guy pls fvck off"
and he'll understand
no seriously just tell him !
ur not I'm a gay relationship here
not only are u accommodating him but feeding him tooo!, dude ur too much already ,one in a million friend
just tell him like I said and all will be well , with u !

Those said you tell her to go, it depend on the level of your boldness, but there is a way of killing rat without shade the Blood, use gesture to tell her that you her broke where as you you find something to eat outside rather than buying food for her to eat with that she we just tell you that she wanted to travel else where.

Just keep farting every 5 minutes.

I'm sure he will run away.

tell him something came up u want to travel or u tell him one of ur relation maybe ur niece any female person is comin to live with u

Lesson to all: An unwanted visitor, like bad fish, starts to stink after 3 days (African proverb).

quite simple.
tell him your landlady has started complaining that you are violating your tenancy agreement to stay alone.
had a similar case, a friend of mine came to my base withh the idea to stay for 4days Bt ended up staying for 3Weeks and was looking forward to stay more.

i used the same landlady method. he left that day.

OneCorner:
Burn his best clothes

Shea u no hear say nah one cloth the guy bring ni

Please don't ask him to leave....don't create enmity or create any memory in him that you drove him out in his trying times. He will never forget that.
I have been in this situation before....I came to stay with my good friend and was forming good boy sweeping the living room and washing the dishes...though i came for a purpose, after finishing what I came for, he asked me to stay with him that the house was kinda quiet and not lively, I agreed based on normal guy wey i be too, trying to find a place and look for better job. Just after 3 days, his countenance changed , I already knew something was up , as I was packing my things, he told me to leave. I told him no problem. As I was packing my stuffs, a text message entered my phone. Lo and behold it was an interview invite for a job in another state. I told him about it, and he gave me money, I travelled immediately to the company and passed a night with a friend. The following day we were 10 that came for the interview. The interviewers were up to 8. When it got to my turn, questions from different angles were coming in, then the CEO said something " I need this boy to work for my company. HR , please pen down his name and finalize with him" . The one that shocked me was " we will give you apartment "...And since then I have moved on. My friend is a good guy, a nice guy. We talk always as if nothing happened between us but the memory is always there. If people come to stay with Me, I always picture their situation with the situation I was facing back then.
If you are going broke, just open up to him that you are going broke and he should also augment. He will understand and can make calls to people to send him money . He will surely restock the food store.

Goldminceo:
You better wise up. Someone that came to visit you with just a shirt and trouser. His father called him for his relative burial he said he isn't going. Bros seems your friend has committed a crime and hiding in your house. If this is true if SARS gather you together you will not have the hand to type this your sermon.

Funny. But makes plenty sense.

Reader530:
Good day nairalanders. I want a sincere advice from you people.

A friend visited me almost two weeks ago. He has never visited me before, but when he came I thought he would not spent more than two days because apart from the cloth he was wearing the day he came, he didn't bring additional cloth, no brush, no soap, etc.

At first, he told me he can stay with me even up to a month with one cloth. He said, besides, he was sacked from his work.

Today, he forgot that he told me he was sacked; but he told me that he is on annual leave. The father asked him to come home for burial of his relative but he told me he would not go. I told him Npower has not paid us, but I will source for his transport, but he doesn't understand me. He thought, I will give him the whole money even if Npower pays, all the money I planned and budgeted for his coming was exhausted. I added some money to make sure he eats good meal thrice in a day.

In a nutshell, I am tired, I want to be alone for now. How should I tell him I want him to leave in a pleasant manner. Please positive advice will be highly appreciated.

Thanks all

hire a girl that'll come and harass you for the "100k you borrowed" two months ago, she'll promise to arrest you and "your brother" within 48 hours if she doesn't see her money. Tell oga to move his things that you're travelling the next day and you want to lock your door

Quiescere:


If "he can stay even for a year", then why're you complaining? In your OP you said "you're tired" (likely of feeding him 3x daily and giving him money), "want to be alone" and "want him to leave in a pleasant manner". Now "he can stay for even a year". You seem confused.

na small boy,don't let him prank you.

Acidosis:


Use the above ^^.

Telling a friend to vacate your apartment is not a good advice. Those advising you to send him out would not do such when faced with a similar situation.

Many will do, don't underestimate them

cook once a day while you eat outside, tell him no show from Npower he'll run and leave you.

staged a short piece of drama. receive an emergency call in his presence and give him a day that you would travel, he won't be left with any choice when you tell him you're leaving and he can go and visit when you're back

you don't need to tell him straight like that because no condition is permanent, he might be the only person you will need perhaps in the future. so in such decision, wisdom is needed


I understand that you're tired of him but apply wisdom, don't be too direct

expert234:


If your odds are that reliable, why not just be staking and making money for yourself?

Ignore the 419

In such a situation it take wisdom,you need to apply wisdom because this life hmmm thing change such a things happen to me when i was in school,my roomate don't use to contribute to buy provision due to lack of money the burden to heavy for me to carry,i just told him guy i can't continue like this find something do to this situation on ground i dont know may be he borrow money next day we buy provision.but after our graduation he secure a job in one big company his now a millionaire although he use to assist me financial now but anytime i remember the day i feel sad.just tell him in the way he will not feel somehow use wisdom

Give am snipper drink now

Tell him your fiancé is coming home

denjjy:
tell him you're money ritualist and you need a very close friend to be sacrificed for the next money ritual. him go tear race like antelope...... lol

He will ask you to show him the way

Bro,...If u cn apply dis tactics it wil help u though i dnt knw hw ur relationship wit ur frnd is or hw trustworthy he is bt,...plan wit ur girl if u av any, tel her to cm n visit u unannounced,....

She'll stay for lyk a wk n during her stay, let her start showing sm funny attitudes while u start getting angry unnecessarily. Ur guy go tire for d house especially if na self-con or jst one room. Then, always form bn broke...go out n eat in a restaurant, clean mouth cm house. No dey buy fuel put for gen....

Him go run!!!!!

Aarenasbaba:
Tell him your fiancé is coming home

I told him, he said no problem, he can stay with her. I told him, I will travel he said, I should give him the key, he can manage the house even in my absence.

Reader530:
Good day nairalanders. I want a sincere advice from you people.

A friend visited me almost two weeks ago. He has never visited me before, but when he came I thought he would not spent more than two days because apart from the cloth he was wearing the day he came, he didn't bring additional cloth, no brush, no soap, etc.

At first, he told me he can stay with me even up to a month with one cloth. He said, besides, he was sacked from his work.

Today, he forgot that he told me he was sacked; but he told me that he is on annual leave. The father asked him to come home for burial of his relative but he told me he would not go. I told him Npower has not paid us, but I will source for his transport, but he doesn't understand me. He thought, I will give him the whole money even if Npower pays, all the money I planned and budgeted for his coming was exhausted. I added some money to make sure he eats good meal thrice in a day.

In a nutshell, I am tired, I want to be alone for now. How should I tell him I want him to leave in a pleasant manner. Please positive advice will be highly appreciated.

Thanks all

rent another house for him.... What are friend's for??

TELL HIM STRAIGHT UP....THANK GOD HE'S A GUY,HE SHOULD BE MORE UNDERSTANDING

go radical...call police on him....

tell him you will call police on him if he doesnt leave....the fear of jail will drive him away......

kimbraa:
I don't understand. It doesn't seem like he has even stayed up to a month, and you're already complaining of privacy.

Does it matter? Even if it's a year, month, week, day or even an hour. When someone needs their privacy, they need it and no one is entitled to accommodation from another.

I think he's going through a lot and a good friend would be understanding.

I will be empathic but not to the point of unconvincing myself so much that i get fruatrated. The OP sounds fed up and this is a point no one should entertain. He is not the cause of his problems and it is not his responsibility to carry it for him. If he thinks he can't cope with it, his friend should go and sort himself out.

I'm not trying to blackmail you whatsoever,

I think you kinda are.

I just think you shouldn't spoil the goodness you've started.

I rather think his friend should not push the limits of his luck on their friendship. Don't be a liability on someone else because we are struggling and its hard enough already to add someone else to it.

His friend should know better than overstay at a friend's place. You viait, you leave.

Your best option is getting him tell you the state of things, and how long he would be staying.

I agree. Tell him you need space and want to be alone that it's time he left.

The best you can do is to very polite and kind with it