Radiant1020:


I know you?

Yes in Samaru, Zaria

Acidosis:


All sane men love dependent women (work or no work), don't be carried away by the nonsense you read online. A wife is supposed to rely on her husband on many grounds (money inclusive).

If your wife don't rely on you, then check yourself, you're useless.

You're the one that is useless.. jeez, see the nonsense you just typed up there.

I've always said it that men who love dependent women do so for the following reasons not because of love

Cheating, abuse and submission.
Only dependent women tolerate cheating, abuse and whatever and they'll be afraid to leave because of their financial situation.

The sad reality is that this generation of Nigerian girls/women lack the ambition to be self dependent

nlanded:
Sense would not kill this babe!

you don blow o, i actually know her.

Elder001:



You're the one that is useless.. jeez, see the nonsense you just typed up there.

I've always said it that men who love dependent women do so for the following reasons not because of love

Cheating, abuse and submission.
Only dependent women tolerate cheating, abuse and whatever and they'll be afraid to leave because of their financial situation.

Your obsession with working class women is too much.

When I say dependence, I'm not talking in terms of finance only. You think everything is all about money?

BTW, what is wrong with having a woman rely on her husband for finance? Don't tell me you're embracing this gold digging thing as the new order.

I say it again, if your woman can't depend on you, or not scared of walking away (because of her financial status), you're still useless. Some working class women can't survive 1 day without hearing their Hubby's voice, dependence does not end with money. That you do 8-5 job does not automatically shuts the brain power.

what about the guys that can't with for you to finish school b4 marriage

Same men who insist on submission, same men who are intimidated by successful women ? Shior ! You can’t make a successful woman submit to your bs , I hope you guys know that ! Goodluck in eating your cake and having it ! Lol !

Acidosis:


Your obsession with working class women is too much.

When I say dependence, I'm not talking in terms of finance only. You think everything is all about money?

BTW, what is wrong with having a woman rely on her husband for finance? Don't tell me you're embracing this gold digging thing as the new order.

I say it again, if your woman can't depend on you, or not scared of walking away (because of her financial status), you're still useless. Some working class women can't survive 1 day without hearing their Hubby's voice, dependence does not end with money. That you do 8-5 job does not automatically shuts the brain power.

Just confirmed my words... You like dependent women because you know they'll be scared to walk away if you abuse,cheat on them or treat them anyhow.

I pity any lady who get married to you with this your ridiculous mentality.

I heard someone ask that ''y can't women make their own money'' my question now is ''y can't men start getting pregnant and having their own babies on their own.

This lady will go places

amakabel:
I heard someone ask that ''y can't women make their own money'' my question now is ''y can't men start getting pregnant and having their own babies on their own.

Your mumu no be here.

So it's wrong for a lady to make money? ladies shouldn't make money because they get pregnant and have babies?

Linda ikeji, Paris Hilton, Fulurono alakija and other female billionaires they can't get pregnant or give birth abi?

Women in the west who work and share bills 50/50 with their husbands they don't also get pregnant, right?


This was how one married woman in family section said she can't work because she bleed monthly .


Don't go and make money ,keep depending on men for survival.


The difference between stupidity and genius is that genius has its limits -Albert Einstein

I don't understand why this topic is still an issue.

Social media and reality are 2 different situations.

On social media, Nigerian men claim to love /prefer working class, independent women who do not have to depend on them for anything.
They say they prefer women who can pay their bills on a date.

In reality, Nigerian men prefer to marry dependent women.

Many jobless broke dependent ladies are married while the working class independent well to do, financially stable ones are single and avoided because they are seen as too "proud".
They are tagged "ashewo, olosho " and other unprintable names because the Nigerian man doesn't believe that a woman can be financially sufficient without selling her body to men.
In Nigeria, every financially successful woman must have been involved in some form of prostitution before she made it.

Even married women are seen this way, how much more a single lady??

As a lady, try taking up your bill on a date... That man will never want to have anything to do with you any more. In his mind, "what kind of lady pays her bills? If she can afford to eat without my money, then what can I offer her? "

That's the reason why some of us are advised not to show that we have money so that "men will not run away from us".
Society advises us "Do not buy a car while you are single"...

It's very easy to type and argue gibberish on social media but we all know that in reality...
If you put Miss A, probably an undergraduate or a jobless graduate or low-income salary earner
And Miss B, a working class well paid, business owner, financially stable lady...

90% of All Nigerian men would rush and go for Miss A.

A dependent woman is the Nigerian man's ideal woman. Nothing feeds a man's ego than woman who depends on him for "survival".

Such woman is easy to manipulate, use, disuse, abuse, maltreat and she won't bait an eyelid.

The smarter and more independent you are, the less attractive you are to men in reality.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
What if he's the one disturbing for marriage?

Na Hard economy cause all this useless talk. Giving the rise to gold digging in men to escalate.

You are using emotion to think simply becoz you are woman and the statement is against women

Let break it down

All abuse in marriages and relationships have links to financial stability

Ever since the begining of paid work men brought average 80% of family income meaning traditionally men were financial providers and meaning women would be attracted to someone who is financial provider in his right, without her looking into what she can provide financial. Hence we have women who ask “can you look after me” meaning she wants to be look after without providing but managing what the man brings on the table

We have women who set bars for men eg i want a man who drives a car but herself has nothing to her name not even a cat

So basically traditionally women have been depending on men financially and men have been taking advantage abusing women becoz a woman can not walk out from marriage becoz she was never a financial provider but depended. And becoz of year of being a depended they dont no were to start so many stay in those abusive marriages

So if a woman is financially stable before marriage, she wont marry to be looked after financially

So having her own income helps her if things turn sour in marriage

Many marriage from african born and raised couples who moved to the west are failing becoz most women are financially stable, women nolonger depend on man for finance she works and even brings more money. No more advantage for men eg he cheats and forgiven becoz without the man financially she is stuck, no more than you find most men being kicked out and also most women being abusive and in any small issue the man is being threatened to call police on him(in the west any violence towards a woman is big issue)

So basically from tradition women have been leeches they look for the fat man who can look after them

A financially stable women wouldnt be a victim of abuse via finance aka man being the provider she can easy walk out than a woman who depends on a man financially

Hope you got my point

pocohantas:


Guy I am not the cause of your problem o.

This your diatribe won't change reality. Your 21st century men are dating and marrying dependent ladies everyday. Any day they want otherwise, the ball is in their court .

The real question is how many dependent women really exist in this our present Nigeria. Sadly few!

ZIMDRILL:


You are using emotion to think simply becoz you are woman and the statement is against women

Let break it down

All abuse in marriages and relationships have links to financial stability

Ever since the begining of paid work men brought average 80% of family income meaning traditionally men were financial providers and meaning women would be attracted to someone who is financial provider in his right, without her looking into what she can provide financial. Hence we have women who ask “can you look after me” meaning she wants to be look after without providing but managing what the man brings on the table

We have women who set bars for men eg i want a man who drives a car but herself has nothing to her name not even a cat

So basically traditionally women have been depending on men financially and men have been taking advantage abusing women becoz a woman can not walk out from marriage becoz she was never a financial provider but depended. And becoz of year of being a depended they dont no were to start so many stay in those abusive marriages

So if a woman is financially stable before marriage, she wont marry to be looked after financially

So having her own income helps her if things turn sour in marriage

Many marriage from african born and raised couples who moved to the west are failing becoz most women are financially stable, women nolonger depend on man for finance she works and even brings more money. No more advantage for men eg he cheats and forgiven becoz without the man financially she is stuck, no more than you find most men being kicked out and also most women being abusive and in any small issue the man is being threatened to call police on him(in the west any violence towards a woman is big issue)

So basically from tradition women have been leeches they look for the fat man who can look after them

A financially stable women wouldnt be a victim of abuse via finance aka man being the provider she can easy walk out than a woman who depends on a man financially

Hope you got my point

I perfectly understand all you've typed. All these arguments changes nothing. If a ladies financially capabilities is now the yardstick for marriage, you guys should voice out.

nlanded:


From inception, women have been the ones focusing on material stuff in relationships, yet it was normal then to you, now men ask that women be financially stable as well and these double standard gender called women are crying wolf, how sad!

If you are saying there are gold digging men, in everyone 100 gold digging men you see, they are a billion gold digging women to outnumber them.

dont argue with women.. naturally they dont have sense.... when its time to investigate if their boyfriend is cheating.. there sense they sharpe

davillian:

How many rich girls date broke guys
Were you wan see them.
You need to be super handsome and have a little class to bag them rich ladies

How many "rich" guys date Broke Girls? Don't mistake average with rich please. You can get a rich girl if you exude confidence

Afamed:

Its not quite disturbing when you come up with different bill plans on the first day you meet a man..

Im very observant and sensible. I don't go around billing someone's son.

Chukapage:
There is no argument,I just lashed at your hypocrisy where A woman looking for A financially stable man is GOOD but A man looking for a financially stable Lady is termed " Evil" or Golddigger" or blackmailed with " stay there and be waiting for a woman who will feed you" Your hypocrisy is too much

Blame it on the society.

Elder001:


You don't know where is paining you like seriously.

I don't just know why you feel angry when women are advised to make money or provide /contribute finances to move a marriage or relationship forward.

You'll suddenly start saying men are waiting for women's money or gold digging.

I'm asking you again, which person's money were you expecting to spend? since you don't want to make your own money.

Making your personal money is bliss. Who exactly wanna depend on anyone exactly? Nigga please.

spiceadole:

I don't understand why this topic is still an issue.

Social media and reality are 2 different situations.

On social media, Nigerian men claim to love /prefer working class, independent women who do not have to depend on them for anything.
They say they prefer women who can pay their bills on a date.

In reality, Nigerian men prefer to marry dependent women.

Many jobless broke dependent ladies are married while the working class independent well to do, financially stable ones are single and avoided because they are seen as too "proud".
They are tagged "ashewo, olosho " and other unprintable names because the Nigerian man doesn't believe that a woman can be financially sufficient without selling her body to men.
In Nigeria, every financially successful woman must have been involved in some form of prostitution before she made it.

Even married women are seen this way, how much more a single lady??

As a lady, try taking up your bill on a date... That man will never want to have anything to do with you any more. In his mind, "what kind of lady pays her bills? If she can afford to eat without my money, then what can I offer her? "

That's the reason why some of us are advised not to show that we have money so that "men will not run away from us".
Society advises us "Do not buy a car while you are single"...

It's very easy to type and argue gibberish on social media but we all know that in reality...
If you put Miss A, probably an undergraduate or a jobless graduate or low-income salary earner
And Miss B, a working class well paid, business owner, financially stable lady...

90% of All Nigerian men would rush and go for Miss A.

A dependent woman is the Nigerian man's ideal woman. Nothing feeds a man's ego than woman who depends on him for "survival".

Such woman is easy to manipulate, use, disuse, abuse, maltreat and she won't bait an eyelid.

The smarter and more independent you are, the less attractive you are to men in reality.

Valid argument, though according to you there is still 10% that value independent women.
So will you prefer to be dependent?

spiceadole:

I don't understand why this topic is still an issue.

Social media and reality are 2 different situations.

On social media, Nigerian men claim to love /prefer working class, independent women who do not have to depend on them for anything.
They say they prefer women who can pay their bills on a date.

In reality, Nigerian men prefer to marry dependent women.

Many jobless broke dependent ladies are married while the working class independent well to do, financially stable ones are single and avoided because they are seen as too "proud".
They are tagged "ashewo, olosho " and other unprintable names because the Nigerian man doesn't believe that a woman can be financially sufficient without selling her body to men.
In Nigeria, every financially successful woman must have been involved in some form of prostitution before she made it.

Even married women are seen this way, how much more a single lady??

As a lady, try taking up your bill on a date... That man will never want to have anything to do with you any more. In his mind, "what kind of lady pays her bills? If she can afford to eat without my money, then what can I offer her? "

That's the reason why some of us are advised not to show that we have money so that "men will not run away from us".
Society advises us "Do not buy a car while you are single"...

It's very easy to type and argue gibberish on social media but we all know that in reality...
If you put Miss A, probably an undergraduate or a jobless graduate or low-income salary earner
And Miss B, a working class well paid, business owner, financially stable lady...

90% of All Nigerian men would rush and go for Miss A.

A dependent woman is the Nigerian man's ideal woman. Nothing feeds a man's ego than woman who depends on him for "survival".

Such woman is easy to manipulate, use, disuse, abuse, maltreat and she won't bait an eyelid.

The smarter and more independent you are, the less attractive you are to men in reality.

Very true

I also think men think buying material things is love but sometimes its not as love cant be bought but expressed without much material things eg doing things that most people dont do within your culture and beliefs eg cooking for wife

So sometime as men we think buy materials things is love but what happens when you bought all what you can ? U wont be able to express love

Also women have been made to believe material things are love,

The whole thing is mix up

This thread backs me
https://www.nairaland.com/4667399/money-millions-still-no-girlfriend

He think money has answers to all

He has the money but girls turn him down

Maybe its his attitude which makes girls not like him

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
I perfectly understand all you've typed. All these arguments changes nothing. If a ladies financially capabilities is now the yardstick for marriage, you guys should voice out.

Its not yardstick

But i think the message is dont burden a man to look after you when yourself you cannot

Eg i hear lots of guys here talking of “upkeep of girlfriend” its as if he has takenover the girl’s parents responsibility to look after their child

If she is financially stable in her own right, no guy would feel obliged to give upkeep money

In the western world especially among black americans, financial stable women now look into credit history of the guy she think she might marry becoz once she marries him her own good credit history might be affected

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Im definitely not against supporting financially to a relationship as a lady but what I don't like is when "men" come out to stress about it like their eyes are in a woman's money. It's quite disturbing.

Your last statement "men eyes being in ladies money" has put alot of ladies in deep shitt lately.
I have a colleague that makes such statement all the time, now she's almost 50yrs looking for the perfect man.
Just don't be deceived by your married friends that comes out in public to paint an imaginary picture of them having it all in their marriages .
Truth is they go the extra mile to make their marriages work, including contributing their own quota.
My advise, "if you like someone, you guys should talk things over before walking down the aisle ".
FINANCES IS A BIG FACTOR IN MARRIAGE.

highqueen:


whatever,even when I'm financially stable,it's the duty of the man to provide for all that's needed in the home.

And how old are you ?

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Buhhhahahahhahhahaahhahahahahahahahahahahhhahahahha.... Pls I don't even gat strength

You must have strength oo, #goofball

amakabel:
I heard someone ask that ''y can't women make their own money'' my question now is ''y can't men start getting pregnant and having their own babies on their own.

Your stupidity is topnotch.
I'm surprise someone could be this daft.

Never a truer word spoken...
Ladies need to get their acts together

hmm

she's correct na.
any woman who isn't financially independent and gets married is on her own.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Buhhhahahahhahhahaahhahahahahahahahahahahhhahahahha.... Pls I don't even gat strength

saw a blank pm

nlanded:


The usual ramblings of gibberish! First they start with damage control then excuses and then cap it up with reverse psychology gimmicks.

The day women folk like you in Nigeria get it into your skulls that the 21st working class man desires an equally successful woman earning her own money would be the day you guys would be taken more serious, and more from being underachievers to achievers, can't you see women presidents in foreign countries?

.. taken more seriously.