₦airaland Forum

thegentleman:
okay... what's your discipline!0

thegentleman:
I'm a of dude of about 28 years, I just finished my NYSC program and I secured a job that pays me about 50k, my girlfriend who is about 25 years too just acquired a job that pays her about 60k per month too.

Is it advisable I go for M.Sc. program or just settle down for marriage with my girlfriend and then follow my career later.

We both stay at Ibadan, the city is averagely okay.

What's your take ?

divinelove:
you need people to advise you on some issues in life especially if you are inexperienced in those areas that's why government even have advisers

id4sho:
Egbon, am waiting for "Top 10 reasons why you should not get married with a salary of 100k".


Man wey sabi

sexdoll:
true.

but you also need to cultivate the culture or habit of advising yourself... most especially in issues that are just a manner of either this or that.

one doesn't necessarily have to form the habit of depending on other people's opinions all the time.

doing that will only leave you more confused in most cases, as well as totally dependent.

sexdoll:
true.

but you also need to cultivate the culture or habit of advising yourself... most especially in issues that are just a manner of either this or that.

one doesn't necessarily have to form the habit of depending on other people's opinions all the time.

doing that will only leave you more confused in most cases, as well as totally dependent.

Dorcas212:
lol 50k job and you want to get married?? Combination of 110k are you kidding me?


As a single i spend more than that in a month. How will you raise children? Depend on relatives? My brother think very well

Dorcas212:
lol 50k job and you want to get married?? Combination of 110k are you kidding me?


As a single i spend more than that in a month. How will you raise children? Depend on relatives? My brother think very well

Dorcas212:
lol 50k job and you want to get married?? Combination of 110k are you kidding me?


As a single i spend more than that in a month. How will you raise children? Depend on relatives? My brother think very well

Boss13:
Oga don’t try it. Go and increase your earning capacity. Money/finance is very important in keeping a happy home. If you strongly feel that the masters would increase your earning capacity and you have the funds for it; please go ahead else go and look for another job or business that can improve your finance.

As at now, you are not ready for marriage financially. Please know your girlfriend earns more than you at the moment. Women are wired to be dependent on a man and look up to their male companion for leadership and guidance. She maybe understanding now with the view that things will improve in the future. However, if they don’t, she will haunt you consciously and unconsciously. She would lose all respect for you. She would disregard you and you would regret the day you wedded her.

Finally what kind of life would you want your children to live. I bet you would want a better life for them. To be blunt N50,000 or N110,000 would not be enough to cater for your kids, living expenses, feeding and even emergencies. Don’t go and dig your grave. If she is understanding, let her wait and even if she leaves, you will get another one especially when you are now financially buoyant. Success attracts women like Bee to a honeycomb.

Advice from a married and experienced man.

Acidosis:
Both serve different non-conflicting purposes. I don't get it. How does pursuing your Masters stops you from getting married, and how does marriage stops one from pursuing a Masters degree/Career?
That being said, Master's degree (especially those gotten from Nigerian public universities) don't guarantee a great job. Unless you're working with a government firm where higher degrees are sometimes evaluated for promotion, it might turn out to be a complete waste of resources. Pay rise and promotion in most firms these days are based on performance, not necessarily the number of certificate.

In sum, Master's degree is best acquired when you have a well defined career path, and the purpose should be to enhance and broaden your knowledge as that is the only guaranteed outcome. You're a fresh graduate, still in the age range of 25-27, there is no better time to make your Bachelors work for you than now. An attempt to spend another 2 years in a public school might lead to regrets because by the time you're done, not even a single reasonable company will consider you for a graduate trainee opening.

thegentleman:
I'm a of dude of about 28 years, I just finished my NYSC program and I secured a job that pays me about 50k, my girlfriend who is about 25 years too just acquired a job that pays her about 60k per month too.

Is it advisable I go for M.Sc. program or just settle down for marriage with my girlfriend and then follow my career later.

We both stay at Ibadan, the city is averagely okay.

What's your take ?

pocohantas:
"Nigerian girls can't marry a man without money, they don't believe in humble beginnings"... yet when they see a Nigerian girl ready to begin with them, they start second-guessing and discouraging themselves.

Confusion...

thegentleman:
I'm a of dude of about 28 years, I just finished my NYSC program and I secured a job that pays me about 50k, my girlfriend who is about 25 years too just acquired a job that pays her about 60k per month too.

Is it advisable I go for M.Sc. program or just settle down for marriage with my girlfriend and then follow my career later.

We both stay at Ibadan, the city is averagely okay.

What's your take ?

cruchenutii:
They say you should advice somebody & you're saying something else. As if you can marry a man with 50k salary, don't be an hypocrite abeg.

pocohantas:
But his GF is willing to marry him. This isn't about me, I have always stated my preference...rich and older .

Rich or poor, there is a woman for every man. Whether you accept it or not!!!

CAPSLOCKED:
ITS NOT ALWAYS ABOUT BEING RICH, MY DEAR. IF THEY ARE COMFORTABLE WITH 3K MONTHLY WHO ARE YOU TO JUDGE, AND COMPARE THEM WITH THE COUPLE THAT EARN MILLIONS?

IF WE'RE TO GO BY YOUR LOGIC MORE THAN HALF THE MARRIED PEOPLE IN NIGERIA WILL STILL BE SINGLE WAITING FOR THE MILLIONS... INCLUDING MOST OF OUR PARENTS, MEANING WE MIGHT NOT HAVE BEEN BORN.

WHEN YOU LOOK AROUND YOU WHAT DO YOU SEE? WHAT DO YOU SEE ON TVC NEWS AND AL JAZEERA WHEN YOU TUNE IN IN THE EVENINGS? POVERTY AND STRIFE EVERYWHERE. SHOULD PROCREATION BE HALTED BECAUSE OF THAT? THINK AGAIN.

mrphysics:
Every day, our needs and requirements get to be changed. From placing much value to maturity to the understanding that money and age can also equal maturity. Money has been seen to equal many things. In recent times,
Money = sex, maturity, age mates, love, etc.

As our scope keeps evolving with time, the chain reaction carries everything along and in the nearest future, the society would completely shift from the mentality of love, support, care, and maturity to Money/wealth.

As a member of broke people's association, I am calling your attention to our value and mission statement It's not all about M = Money(x,t=now) but M = Money (x,t=0, now, ..., tomorrow).

mrphysics:
The worst is that majority of those making such money=marriage posts earns within that range. With no careful plan of saving or investing, even if you earn 500k/month you will liquidate it before the middle of a month. They will always be things to buy with money, and it can never always be enough.

Knowing your worth and what you want in life is most important. Don't mind those ladies saying its not enough, check well, their first son is still living in their parents house with nothing to offer. They come here making weak points and thinking nairaland likes equals money. It's been confirmed by NDIC that only about 2% of Nigerians have 500k in their bank account. Then the question is, where are all those getting married with an account balance of 100m.

pocohantas:
Don't tell me you took me serious?

Yes, your post is right on point. As we grow, our priorities in a partner begins to change. Money is important in running a home, but in a country where over half of the population live in poverty and the rest are just surviving...I am always surprised when people yap about money and mention 200k/300k like those jobs come easy. What percentage of the population are in those jobs?

If Op and his girl are likeminded (frugal), I believe they will survive. There would have been a problem if she is one extravagant slayqueen or the OP is a sweetboy.

CAPSLOCKED:

MY GUY FORGET THESE IDĮOTS, IS IT NOT NAIRALAND? A FORUM COMPRISED MOSTLY OF AVERAGE NIGERIAN YOUTHS? TAKE THE THINGS YOU SEE HERE SERIOUSLY AT YOUR OWN PERIL.
DOES IT OCCUR TO YOU THAT A HIGH NUMBER OF THE PEOPLE TALKING ABOUT HAVING EXCESS CASH ARE MAINLY STUDENTS AND HOOD HUSTLERS WHO DEPEND ON CRUMBS FOR SURVIVAL? I CAN SWEAR ON MY SOUL THAT MOST OF THEM DEPEND ON WEEKLY 10MB TO SURF THIS SITE AND TALK JARGONS. OR IS IT THE "PLS I NID A FAVOR" GIRLS?
POST A PICTURE OF YOU AND PEOPLE ARE QUICK TO CONDEMN YOUR SHOES AND TROUSERS.. WHEN THERE ARE MEMBERS OF THEIR FAMILIES THAT HAVE BEEN USING THE SAME SHOES FOR OVER A DECADE. SO MY GUY FORGET THAT THING. WE KNOW WHAT WE KNOW.

pocohantas:
Don't tell me you took me serious?

Yes, your post is right on point. As we grow, our priorities in a partner begins to change. Money is important in running a home, but in a country where over half of the population live in poverty and the rest are just surviving...I am always surprised when people yap about money and mention 200k/300k like those jobs come easy. What percentage of the population are in those jobs?

If Op and his girl are likeminded (frugal), I believe they will survive. There would have been a problem if she is one extravagant slayqueen or the OP is a sweetboy.

mrphysics:
1. What is wrong with a salary of 50k? Someone earning 50k already knows his class and with a combined income of 110k, they can start a family. Planning is very important and they won't remain that way.

2. How is she being a hypocrite? Not everyone will marry or have the opportunity of meeting a rich man. Are you saying that every lady must wait to marry someone earning 600k and above?

My point is, whether you marry someone earning 40k, 100k, 1m, if both of you don't have good plan, then your financial level will crumble.


Why are you guys always against us broke boys? Tomorrow, we will make it more than those you think are rich today because they earn 200k and above.

cruchenutii:
I'm sorry, but even a salary of 200k is not a good income, I may sound crazy but this is the truth. Okay lets do the math.

Girlfriend [ That is, If she doesn't Milk you dry like crazy ] = 5k to 25k per month on average for upkeep

pocohantas:
We never said it is good enough, the salary and living conditions of the average Nigerian has never been good enough. But the reality is that, most Nigerians are stuck in a not good enough salary range and they are surviving.

That said, you guys give your GFs money every month. Including you? Can I send you a PM? I am looking for BF

cruchenutii:
Everything is wrong with it Sir, If you live with your parents. That 50k money is great, please note that a Woman will not give you all her money.

Earning 200k Salary in Lagos/Port Harcourt while being Married is still bullshit honestly. Except Abuja where transport is cheap. IBADAN is also has a lower cost of living.

100k is a good starting point, but 50 is just bad. Stop calculating the Woman's 60k with his own, She won't drop all her money, I can bet you.

cruchenutii:
Everything is wrong with it Sir, If you live with your parents. That 50k money is great, please note that a Woman will not give you all her money.

Earning 200k Salary in Lagos/Port Harcourt while being Married is still bullshit honestly. Except Abuja where transport is cheap. IBADAN is also has a lower cost of living.

100k is a good starting point, but 50 is just bad. Stop calculating the Woman's 60k with his own, She won't drop all her money, I can bet you.

cruchenutii:
Lol, well sha Nigerians are surviving truly. Suffering and Smiling.

Abeg don't send PM oh, I'm younger than you. Atleast according the age you said last time.

But on a serious note, a lot of guys, me & my friends, work colleagues inclusive give their spouse upkeeps monthly. Its a normal thing really, please don't let all these people online fool you, a lot of people do it.

cruchenutii:
I'm sorry, but even a salary of 200k is not a good income, I may sound crazy but this is the truth. Okay lets do the math.

You earn 200k & work in Lagos. Mainland to ISLAND everyday

Transport = 35 to 40k Per month [ Depending on If rain falls or not, Bus Price Inflation ]
Food = 15k to 30k Per month
Siblings [ If you have one/them ] = 20k per month or more
Tithe [ If you are a Pentecostal Christian ] = 20K per month (If you're the 1st Born, your own is finished)
Girlfriend [ That is, If she doesn't Milk you dry like crazy ] = 5k to 25k per month on average for upkeep
Parents [ At least, you can do little things for them ] = 5k to 10k per month
Unplanned bills [ Anything can happen ] = 10k per month

That is Almost running into 100k, Plus which leaves you with 100k balance

So it will take you one year to save a Million. A good PRESENTABLE car in Nigeria starts from 1.5M, so you have to work for 2 years.

I'm excluding if you live alone & left your parents house (Rent + House Bills in Lagos).
I'm excluding Drinks & late nights, Side chic etc

Also not that If your take home salary is 200k, it means your Gross income is like 250 or more, so you're actually earning more than 200k on paper.

mrphysics:
You pay your girlfriend monthly? What for bro? You placed her on monthly salary? It's good but before I start the monthly pay to my girlfriend I need to justify it. For now, I only support which isn't monthly. My girlfriend even give me money to be sincere.

cruchenutii:
I hope you saw the range I wrote, 5k to 25k? This is expenses that arrises from everything ranging from Uber + Movies + Calls + subs etc. This is a budget that varies, but I put a range on it low side 5k to 25k on the high side, so at least I know what I'm spend. She has a Job but if you don't factor this expense, its not realistic. She can cook with her money but I'm only factoring my own side.

mrphysics:
If she accepts the guy, then she much be willing to contribute.

I agree, things are much cheaper in Abuja compared to Lagos/PH. 100k/month isn't bad, they can build from there.
But when you tell me 200k isn't enough, I would request to know the average salary in your work place. I can bet you 80% of working class people earns below 150k.
They must be side hustle bro