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Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by princfred(m): 8:49am On Sep 24, 2018 |
Use that money to get him married to you first....start the business together...then.... For those ladies making phony comments just know that a woman's responsibility to a man is not solely being his cock holster. |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by JONNYSPUTE(m): 8:50am On Sep 24, 2018 |
DissTroy:.. Honestly I'm disappointed with most of the comments here. Imagine our mentalities and we still call ourselves humans. This shows that most of our ladies are only in relationship for what they can gain without offering anything apart from pussy. Just listen to the op,the guy has always been there for her and nobody heard about it,just to be of help even if its a little she is here seeking for validation to know if she is doing the right thing. Does she ask or seek for validation from people before offering him pussy? I don't tire for some people and the way they reason anytime money is involved. 2 Likes |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by steefi07: 9:10am On Sep 24, 2018 |
Give him what you can part with, without regrets . Don't expect anything in return |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by nkem1992: 9:29am On Sep 24, 2018 |
don't give him o, unless you are willing and are in position to let go if he refuses or is unable to pay back. |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by vaspire: 9:33am On Sep 24, 2018 |
Suzzyyy:For 3years now, you should know where this relationship is getting to and if you don't trust this guy, you won't still be in a relationship with him. If you love and trust him, help him out with the money but if it will affect your business you can take off what will sustain you and give him the rest. Say give him 500k or 400k depending on how much you are putting into your business. Trust me this guy will forever be grateful whether the relationship works out or not.We should also learn to give without expecting anything back in return so please don't give because he will marry you in future because that's where it will hurt the more if it didn't work out. If you are able to raise such amount yourself, even if he goes away with it which is what I'm sure you are afraid of, you will still make this money back. There is more to relationship and friendship than just MONEY. If you can't sacrifice now, are you sure you will be able to sacrifice for him in future if such case arises. Love requires sacrifice, I'm sure you know that before you agree to date him. 1 Like |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Mmaxix: 9:40am On Sep 24, 2018 |
Babe...don't risk the relationship. Give him what you can afford to let go. If he was a husband, I will have no worries, but a boyfriend is no guarantee. Money is one of the most potent relationship wreckers among friends so watch it. My humble opinion though. Personally I will not let go that amount for a boyfriend but I will gladly let go all for my husband. 1 Like |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by imitateMe(m): 9:42am On Sep 24, 2018 |
Suzzyyy:I need just 50k abeg. 2112394728 UBA....Don't worry, you'll be fine. |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Nobody: 10:04am On Sep 24, 2018 |
stuffs4me:Oh pls shut it! I never said it is a crime. But giving one's savings to such? It will definitely bring problems for her. Its so unnatural for men to ask women for money eh, deal with it. |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by franksam2009: 10:04am On Sep 24, 2018 |
Don't forget he z not married to you yet, I won't advice u to give a man u are not married to ur life savings. Think twice. Sometimes love can be a scam oo |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by INDUSTRIALFAN(m): 10:06am On Sep 24, 2018 |
Suzzyyy:forget all this "I need advice on what to do. I've read through and seen how you responded to a lot of comments. You are only here to get a good reason not to help him in his own time of need. Sugar, do not lend him the money. You obviously do not want to lend it to him. Personally, if my girlfriend helped me once without batting an eye, when she needs my help, I will help her also if I have the means. That you are thinking twice and unsure only means you do not want to help him. Simply tell him "no I can't help". It's better than having such thoughts in your heart and outwardly make him think you really trust him just as he does. You said it yourself. He doesn't tell you his problems and solves them alone because he likes to handle his sh!T like a man. He never intended to ask you because he probably felt you will never be as selfless as he can be but then, you forced him to tell you his problems which he didn't want and since you now know, he let go of his pride and stooped low enough to do the one thing he never does which is to beg for your help and now you are here getting jittery. The money you have saved up, I hope you know it is because of the help he rendered you that you have been able to get your business to stand and thrive? Let your conscience guide you. Help him if you want to, do not help him if you have doubts about his character. The choice is yours. Just know that if he knows you have the capacity help and you do not help now that he needs you and he eventually is able to stand on his own, succeeds and his life goes back to how it used to be and even better, you will lose his love and trust to ever be his pillar of support and as such cost you his love which I would really support. Last words.. You have 820k in your life, borrow what you can afford to dash him Incase he can't pay back. That he needs 700k doesn't mean you should be the one to pay it all. Besides, you know how the money will be used. Look for the most important thing among his list and help him out with the most pressing that is "IF YOU CAN" 1 Like |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by tade123: 10:34am On Sep 24, 2018 |
I like this very candid answer.... donstan18: |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Unlimited22: 10:47am On Sep 24, 2018 |
madridguy:Like I keep saying, anytime you're not blindly defending Buhari, you're actually very sensible. The grammar is Don't lend anyone an amount you can't let go though 1 Like |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Nobody: 10:50am On Sep 24, 2018 |
This could be a lifetime opportunity for you to have a man that will carry you like egg for the rest of your life OR lose him entirely. God help you. |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Jyde89: 10:52am On Sep 24, 2018 |
khalazi: I said you're a mean b!tch. |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Amhappy(f): 10:58am On Sep 24, 2018 |
Give him 350k tops and see what he does with it. Do not part with your life savings. It wont end well if he could not pay back as you will lose both ways and become bitter. Do your best but don't kill yourself. 1 Like |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Mayoofficial95(m): 11:02am On Sep 24, 2018 |
donstan18: The Boss has spoken donstan18: The Boss has spoken �� |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Amhappy(f): 11:04am On Sep 24, 2018 |
donstan18: There are several cases of Men who gave their life-savings for a girl education and eventually got disappointed at the end of the day. They become bitter and some do crazy things including murder. So this is not an issue of relationship but business. Do not give what you cannot afford to lose. |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Amhappy(f): 11:09am On Sep 24, 2018 |
Jazmiynne: I like your analysis 1 Like |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by jired: 11:10am On Sep 24, 2018 |
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Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Jyde89: 11:16am On Sep 24, 2018 |
khalazi: I said you are a mean b!tch. |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Tex42(m): 11:19am On Sep 24, 2018 |
yazz09: @Op, was going to say these same words to u. 1 Like |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Ihatelove(f): 11:34am On Sep 24, 2018 |
700k is too big an amount to lend to him, just give him the amount you know you can part with. DO NOT EXPECT A REFUND |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Mitchsin(f): 11:54am On Sep 24, 2018 |
madridguy:Yes o,that's the blunt Truth |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Mitchsin(f): 12:06pm On Sep 24, 2018 |
Suzzyyy: Babe,give him an amount you're comfortable with such that if he doesn't return it,you would be able to forget |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by kkins25(m): 3:41pm On Sep 24, 2018 |
funmisticqueen:1)guilty conscience 1.5) no emotional attachment to sidechick. 2)children 3)relatives 4)reputation 5) the african dogma. |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by drakeli: 4:42pm On Sep 24, 2018 |
Rubbiish:And so. So because you gave all the patapata #100 you had, I should now give you all the #100,000 that I have. Maybe you are dreaming. Do you know the amount of work I put in place to raise the 100k while you lazy around or while you are not business smart enough to increase your #100? |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by megley(f): 4:50pm On Sep 24, 2018 |
He helped you our of a tight corner once, its only proper for you to help him out now that he's in a fix. If you truly love him as you say you do, help him out, but I wouldn't advise you give him 700k... Thats more that 70% of what you have in ur akant, sorry... Account Give him what you feel you can conveniently part with |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Nobody: 5:51pm On Sep 24, 2018 |
kkins25:lol, men have everything to gain from a marriage 1 Like |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Nobody: 5:53pm On Sep 24, 2018 |
Offpoint:love indeed. this is very different from that scenario because no one is dying here. You cant compare the two scenarios please. Do not vex me. 1 Like |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Popularity(m): 6:08pm On Sep 24, 2018 |
I need to have a private chat with this lady, maybe I will be the lucky guy to have the money |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Offpoint: 6:14pm On Sep 24, 2018 |
funmisticqueen:I see, baby girl what scenario is not the same? Lose of source of living = depression = suicide tell me what the difference is. |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by sweetilicious(f): 10:17pm On Sep 24, 2018 |
donstan18:This is why we don't succeed in business in this country.She needs to set aside at least 500k as Working capital for her business.She needs to replace fixed assets too.She can give him 200k.He can start from somewhere.Do you want both ship to sink? Yes business is a risk but it needs to be calculated to worth it.Op,give him 200k and explain to him your plans.It will benefit both of you if one side is still standing instead of all falling.Op,give him all and watch him pay off his debt without investing it.I believe he cant use because of this to breaks up but if he does,allow him. |
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