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Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by EkoErrands: 12:01pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
Suzzyyy: As a principle, never give more than 50% of the amount a person wants to borrow from you. Never ! 5 Likes |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by BLESSMME: 12:05pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
Please I beg you in the name of God, don't give him 700k, give him nothing above 300k. No one knows tomorrow o. Use your head my sister. 29 years is not teenage age o 11 Likes |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by iLegendd(m): 12:05pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
I would've given you the only advice you needed, but... |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by LaDolceVida(f): 12:06pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
Don't do it I repeat don't do it 1 Like |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Miradamian: 12:13pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
Don't try it.u not get it back. |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by grateful236(m): 12:18pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
Suzzyyy,This is the best advice you can get coming from experience : what made his business crash in the first place? Ask him if he has found out ways to prevent it from happening again. Cuz the issue is not just about "will he pay me back" even if his mind is 100% made up to pay you back if the business fails again, the money is gone and both of you will be sad. Look into his business plan and try and make sure the problems he had before won't happen again and that he has a good business plan. Secondly, you have 809k and you want to give him 700k? . Do not do that. Give him 200-400k to start off with. It's a better and smarter move. Your helping someone you love and at the same time looking out wisely for yourself and your relationship. I wish both of you luck 36 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Nobody: 12:19pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
700k is too much to lend a man. Give him back the 100k, tell him that's what you have. 3 Likes |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by NNAMDIII(m): 12:22pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
khalazi:when she been need the guy help, him dash her 100k. So why she no go fit dash am 200k? Nawa for you bros 5 Likes |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Les: 12:28pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
yazz09:was about saying the same thing, I like 400k 3 Likes |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by sacramento1212: 12:30pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
Suzzyyy: If you have #7,000,000 as your NET, then you can give him #700,000. Please, only give 10% of your NET to him so that if something happens tomorrow, it won’t affect your business. #700K is huge and you must not give him that to proof you love him. Be sensible. 4 Likes |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Nobody: 12:34pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
donstan18: I swear nairaland is full of funny people. Shall him, shall us, should we, etc. Looool. 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Nobody: 12:36pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
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Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by khalazi: 12:36pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
NNAMDIII:Na him mother ne? .... Even 200k, some mothers no de dash am like that. Which one be say make the woman dash am 200k.... 8 Likes |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by OdogwuMike(m): 12:39pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
I understand you clearly but unless you not a business woman as you claim, then you can try that. I have seen a lot go wrong quickly when it comes to money, firstly, this guy is not married to you yet, and there's no sure guarantee that that money (700k) when given to him will yield the desired plan. Do not assume anything as assumption is the mother of disappointments. I foresee your relationship ending because of this issue, cause he ll likely feel betrayed, and the relationship might turn sour. In this instant, I suggest u lend 200k or less and remove your mind from the money cause I assure u, he ll likely not pay it back ever again. Take it as a risk and a sacrifice you are making not just to c weda u can preserve the relationship, but also to pay him back exactly what he did for you when you had issues too. Never, I repeat repeat, never lend any money you aren't willing to loose, that is total financial recklessness and must backfire!! 18 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by lovelybugs(f): 12:46pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
Suzzyyy:First of all give him not more than 300k. Tell him to manage it and see what can be done with that money after all I am sure if you had only 300k savings he'd be able to work with that. I wouldn't advise you to give him the full money because like someone said what if the plans fails? The two of you would have nothing to fall back on. With 300k he should be able to improve his situation even if just a little bit. Also OP am sorry to ask but what about his life savings? Is it that he has none left? If so why? Is he someone that is responsible financially? Or has he spent most of his savings trying to revive this business? If so what are the odds that he will succeed with the 700k he's asking for? If you give him the money will you be able to make enough profits in a weeks to stand on your feet in case of an emergency? I wouldn't advice you to completely empty yourself. At least have 200-300k with you in case of business/family/health emergencies. 2 Likes |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by NNAMDIII(m): 12:46pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
khalazi:That one dey sha....but any woman wey help me when i need her, i no go fit forget her. Walahi na marriage straight... They're some sacrifices you have to make for love. In olamide's voice; my brother show me love because when i hammer..... |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by FrostyButter: 12:50pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
SalafRider: Exactly and biko, let there be a third party that you guys are comfortable with, or an agreement... Make sure the third party is from your end, not his. I tell you, people can be funny, and humans change. Lend him half of the money... If he is as responsible as he claims, he would gather resources together and make that money work. Ensure you have something you can take to court if things go south. You're a woman, and it's not easy for a woman to be dragging debt. Even if it's a recorded conversation, and keep it safely. Yes, he might have known how much you have in your account, don't let that scare you, the man is just trying to find his feet. But don't do something that if it goes south, you can not recover from. People here telling you he went all out for you, fine, great, romantic... But remember, it wasn't his life savings and he had something to fall back on. If I were you, I would give him half, or 400. A wise man would make something happen with that amount. Also, observe his reaction. This would tell you a lot about him. Don't pressure him, and give him all the support he needs. 4 Likes |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by NNAMDIII(m): 12:52pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
OdogwuMike:nice one sir 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by murphyrichy(m): 1:11pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
Talking from experience, if you try this just be fully aware that you will be answering him sir sir, I mean being loyal to the core..Don't give out what you can't forfeit...you won't notice now until you lend out the money, am sure love has covered your eyes. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by yinkeys(m): 1:12pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
@suzzyyy Option 1: find a lawyer, then you guys sign court agreement Be on the safe side o Option 2: Don't lend what you can't forfeit 1 Like |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Martinez19(m): 1:13pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
Suzzyyy:Personally, I don't think your bf will turn his back on you. If he was the selfish opportunistic type, he would have begged you since. From what he has done for you in the past and how he tried to manage his business in the past on his own, I can say he is kind and responsible. However, if you feel like not giving up to 700k, don't give. Besides, business is a risk and the 700k might not yield the desired result. Note that he would feel inevitably betrayed because he once took the risk to lend you 100k and didn't bother you with his business troubles and this would affect your relationship. Still, follow your heart. 4 Likes |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by chukzyfcbb: 1:23pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
You are a business woman. unmarried hanging on just hopes. now let's get down to reality. You have just 800k+ home and abroad, if you lend him 700k and his business still doesn't revive, These are the likely followups - Your business will go down as no new money to inject into it. - Your relationship will suffer more as he runs from pillar to post over his finances. - Possible quarrels over the money, that if not handled well could lead to a possible breakup. Solution. One good turn deserves another, Rather than part with 700k, give him say 200-300k, let him source for the rest...That way u can continue your business with the remaining funds while he also has some funds to lean on. Don't part away with 700k because u want to bring back the love & attention. That's pure foolishness!..... Use your head not your heart! 13 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Jennifer89(f): 1:23pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
DONT LEND YOUR BOY FRIEND THAT MONEY 1 Like |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by highqueen(f): 1:29pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
Colourich:babe, howfar? couldn't come online again like i promised,hope you are good? |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by khalazi: 1:42pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
NNAMDIII:Lol u just de talk fa... Guy there are every chances u may end up trearing the lady anyhow. Mind treacherous guy |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by victorian(f): 1:49pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
Dash him 200k At all at all naim bad pass. If you have only 870k, for God sakes u can't give out almost everything for a boyfriend. 200k is ok. 5 Likes |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by kellz0(m): 2:01pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
Suzzyyy:If you trust him and feel he’s worth what he’s asking of you! Don’t give him the whole 700k cause it’s gonna affect you too, you can’t be begging after helping someone!!! Give him 500k and start managing your business small with 300k |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by laluski(m): 2:20pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
donstan18: Haba my son,is it your brother she's talking about.if you don't have anything meaningful to contribute,shut up and go and do your homework 12 Likes |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by jaxxy(m): 2:23pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
Suzzyyy: If u have 820k home and abroad and ur bf asks for 700k knowing that’s all ur savings he must be a wicked, heartless and uttermost selfish human being, such person shud not be trusted and I also mean vice versa. If u didn’t have wudnt he look for an alternative? It’s wrong to overburdened ur partner with ur problems. If they freely give u is a different situation bt asking stuff like this is wrong. How does he expect u to survive? The fact he gave u 100k doesn’t guarantee he loves u either, don’t use that as a yardstick. Also verify all the claims of his business independently before u give him anything u can afford. I’m telling u based on stories out there. Cheers 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Nobody: 2:34pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
highqueen:Happy Sunday dear, I'm fine, how you take come online now? |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by ritylove(f): 2:36pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
I know this is a difficult situation for you but please Don't make the mistake of lending your life savings to a man who is not yet your husband he is just your boyfriend your not even engaged... This is almost all the money you got what if something goes wrong where do you start from? If you love him assist him with what you can afford,show him support to the best of your ability but giving him all you got is a NO NO for me... 6 Likes |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Ferdinandu(m): 2:37pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
If you have 820k and he is asking for 710k, he is asking too much. He is not yet your husband. Don't sacrifice your happiness on the altar of unproven love and loyalty. The way you are talking it is obvious that you have not trusted him completely that he won't leave you or pay you back. Just lend him the amount you can confidently forfeit if things go sour and he fails to pay you. He is not even supposed to put in the condition of transferring his misfortune to you if he truly loves. You can help me but please consider your own peace of mind first. 2 Likes |
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