cover9ja:
Cohabiting is simply “living together with”. So, should unmarried folks live together?

Generally, married people live together, except for some rare exceptions of course. However, people seem to be divided in opinions when it comes to the question of whether or not couples that are not legally married should live together, for varying reasons.

It has become common to see young people who are engaged or merely dating cohabiting, and this seems either awkward or straight out wrong to certain people. For these people it either crosses their conservative boundaries or it runs against their logic.

According to Halima: “People who aren’t married yet shouldn’t be staying together. Cohabitation is for married people because they are more equipped to deal with the consequences, not unmarried couples.”

She also argued that people who aren’t married yet should create certain spaces for themselves to make the relationship more solid. Moreover, she added, if they get married they will have a whole lifetime to live together. So why the rush?

In agreeing with Halima, Blessing, a hairdresser said that a girl staying with her boyfriend or any partner she’s not legally married to only makes her a mere possession of her boyfriend and that locks her away from other potential relationships with the right people. According to her, young people should have the space and freedom to explore for themselves and living with a partner robs them of that.

However, Peter disagreed strongly. He argued that people who are hoping to get married could live together in preparation for their marriage. He insisted that living together builds a tighter bond between the couple and that they also learn more about themselves. He said too that living together will give them a glimpse of what being married to each other would be like, and with that they can decide whether or not they are willing to tie the knot in the long run. Moreover, he added, living together saves the cost of rent.

So, here’s a question for the readers: Is it appropriate for unmarried couples to live together?

Source: https://cover9ja.com/on-cohabiting-right-or-wrong/

Realname:
I like cohabitation, you both get to understand if you can live with each other for the rest of your life

jauntty:
Port Harcourt is the center of Co-habitation

Just be a Bachelor with a small room and TV

Then Bam!! PH girls will start hassling to come visit you.... From there Co-habitation have started

I cover my house with the blood!

SarcasticGenius:


Personally, I don't subscribe to it. Simply because if you can cohabit with each other, then that is already a sign that you want to settle down with each other. So why not go ahead and complete the simple formality of getting married in order to add legitimacy to your cohabitation? At least do a registry wedding if you feel that your pockets are not deep enough for introduction. Nigerian law does not recognise Common law unions and if your cohabitation produces children, Nigerian society (which is global leader in hyprocrisy and double standards) will make the children suffer stigmatisation because of the actions of the parents.

Simplep:
Exactly,i really dont see anything bad in it

SarcasticGenius:


Personally, I don't subscribe to it. Simply because if you can cohabit with each other, then that is already a sign that you want to settle down with each other. So why not go ahead and complete the simple formality of getting married in order to add legitimacy to your cohabitation? At least do a registry wedding if you feel that your pockets are not deep enough for introduction. Nigerian law does not recognise Common law unions and if your cohabitation produces children, Nigerian society (which is the global leader in hyprocrisy and double standards) will make the children suffer stigmatisation because of the actions of the parents.

2buffagain:


Marriage is not a "simple formality" in majority of the world.
Well, maybe it is for women.
They generally stand to gain more from it.

tee59:
Personally, no for me.

Simplep:
As for me,its nt a bad idea,infact any man I'm to get married to,we will stay togeda for at least 3months,lets see hw we handle and tolerate each other before going to d big institution
Btw,I'm only talking abt people who are ready for marriage ,not teens please

zinnyzee:
There's nothing bad about that.

I don't practice it but that doesn't mean i'm a saint. It's simply because i'm not in the best position to practice it... Living together would give room for getting to know each other and knowing your likes and dislikes.


It's not all about the knacking but a lot about being tolerant of each other's nasty attitudes, if there's any.

mezarddinny:
a lot of people live together and give birth without a legally recognized marriage, their parents just meet and they move in and start living, society doesn't stigmatize them, at least here in Yoruba land

crunchyg:

You didn't disappoint me

Simplep:
Hw?

crunchyg:

Exactly what I expected of you

jauntty:
Port Harcourt is the center of Co-habitation.

Most of these slay mama can't afford any accommodation.

Just be a Bachelor with a small room, food and TV

Then Bam!! PH girls will start hassling to come visit you.

To comot na wahala

From there Co-habitation have started by force

I cover my house with the blood!