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Re: Cohabiting In Relationship: Right Or Wrong? by Nobody: 12:37am On Sep 27, 2018
If she's ur girlfriend she can always spend some time with u of which she will go back to her base. But that a lady u not married to go jus pack all her load come stay for ur house..dat one get as e be.
Re: Cohabiting In Relationship: Right Or Wrong? by Jozzy4: 12:39am On Sep 27, 2018
Shugavee:
u know nothing about life!!! Shiiiiiiiii

Brightgem hasn't said anything wrong, in fact if what she said is what she practiced she is a Lady of high value. You who know something about life : answer the question: How many men will you cohabit with before marriage ?

Can't just imagine you ladies have become this cheap . When he is tired of you, even after the marriage he moves out to look for a fresh blood. Too many ignorant women this days

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Re: Cohabiting In Relationship: Right Or Wrong? by Nobody: 12:42am On Sep 27, 2018
odinga1of:


Everyone shouting "Wrong" so who are those lodging girls in school and my neighborhood??

Naija girls and hypocrisy
even in the university sef.u will see one girl dat just entered with jamb already cohabiting with a dude.she will be performing wife duties and even skipping classes. Time wey she go study and go class she go dey wash the boxers and shirts. Na wa washocked.

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Re: Cohabiting In Relationship: Right Or Wrong? by Jozzy4: 12:52am On Sep 27, 2018
Daeylar:

OK then.

How do they get away with these acts though? Isn't it when people refuse to call them the same names they call ladies and instead give these men passes for no other reason than their gender? Just like you tried to do tbh.

Once again, Tagged how's by who? It's human beings that give them these tags, Won't it stop if people just stop tagging them ONLY as hoes and instead give the tag to all genders or to none at all?

But I don't think all these girls came to you to complain about their pregnancy or abortion, or put their "burden" of pregnancy or abortion on you, though, sooo.... Why are you bothered?

I got your point smiley but I have issues with it

Was just wondering why you cared about how many people a lady has slept with, unless you are gay or bi, or pan,

This is cool,

Cool also

Daeylar I can understand you. True, its wrong to abuse a female and leave the male alone even though both committed the offence together. But in this hypocrite society we live in. the females are abused far more than the Men.

A man sleep with many girls and he is praised . while a lady does same and got tagged different demeaning names . true its silly.

But knowing this fact that the society isn't fair to women should help a woman think twice before venturing into such acts . this does not mean am praising a man who engage in promiscuity, such a man as far as am concerned lacks sense. If you know how much some men spent just to get sex of few mins, one will know they are really useless

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Re: Cohabiting In Relationship: Right Or Wrong? by DaddyNimo(m): 1:02am On Sep 27, 2018
Brightgem:
All wrong DaddyNimo! There is a lot that could be said about cohabiting beyond sex, I can't be typing long thing. Relationships do exist without knacking, and people need to stop thinking abt only sex morning and night abeg. Later same people will come and insult Nigeria and Africa, when they always channel energy and though into the wrong things. I digress, none is right morally speaking. Shebi it's cohabiting we were asked about not premarital sex.
for me o, I see nothing wrong in it :let's say for instance a boyfriend and a girlfriend both live far away from their respective workplace and dey both can't individually rent a decent apartment...instead of them renting a room or selfcon, I think it's better if they join financially and rent a flat and each owning a room. why I mentioned sex is cos that's what everyone thinks when they hear about cohabiting, where as its a normal thing in the western world. you find male and female cohabiting in apartment with each having individual rooms. what I'm against is a guy living in a selfcon or a room and cohabiting with a lady...dats just so uncomfortable and stupid. best way a cohabiting can work is when the guy and the guy has their own room....it would lessen the rate of temptation and also it's for matured folks.
Re: Cohabiting In Relationship: Right Or Wrong? by Daeylar(f): 1:19am On Sep 27, 2018
Jozzy4:

Daeylar I can understand you.
smiley kiss smiley
True, its wrong to abuse a female and leave the male alone even though both committed the offence together.
I don't even call what they do an offence, but I agree, if people want to take it as an offence then they need to face both genders or to face non at all, the same energy they find to make excuses for men they need to get that same energy to make excuses for women also,
But in this hypocrite society we live in. the females are abused far more than the Men.
True.

A man sleep with many girls and he is praised . while a lady does same and got tagged different demeaning names . true its silly.
Very silly, Very infuriating.

But knowing this fact that the society isn't fair to women should help a woman think twice before venturing into such acts .
Nah this is where we start to disagree, I want women to be allowed to live, live in peace, these rules are ridiculous, and it shouldn't be women bending their backs to please society, one day these backs will break, and I feel the more you bend the more rules they give you to endure, society needs to learn to leave women in peace.
this does not mean am praising a man who engage in promiscuity, such a man as far as am concerned lacks sense. If you know how much some men spent just to get sex of few mins, one will know they are really useless
Lol, well for me I don't really care what anyone does as long as they are not hurting someone else or hurting themselves, if they are OK with what they do and it doesn't hurt anyone(especially women) then let everyone have fun and live their life.

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Re: Cohabiting In Relationship: Right Or Wrong? by Jozzy4: 1:33am On Sep 27, 2018
Daeylar:

smiley kiss smiley

I don't even call what they do an offence, but I agree, if people want to take it as an offence then they need to face both genders or to face non at all, the same energy they find to make excuses for men they need to get that same energy to make excuses for women also,

True.


Very silly, Very infuriating.


Nah this is where we start to disagree, I want women to be allowed to live, live in peace, these rules are ridiculous, and it shouldn't be women bending their backs to please society, one day these backs will break, and I feel the more you bend the more rules they give you to endure, society needs to learn to leave women in peace.

Lol, well for me I don't really care what anyone does as long as they are not hurting someone else or hurting themselves, if they are OK with what they do and it doesn't hurt anyone(especially women) then let everyone have fun and live their life.

This present society will never learn not to stigmatize women, that explains why I said what I said.
Re: Cohabiting In Relationship: Right Or Wrong? by samlake(m): 4:15am On Sep 27, 2018
Everyone is looking for security. Just secure an apartment, and you will see them around...
Re: Cohabiting In Relationship: Right Or Wrong? by beatmonster(m): 4:20am On Sep 27, 2018
Exqueen:
Very wrong
mostly done in our higher institutions

grin Fine girl. Come may we co-habitate
Re: Cohabiting In Relationship: Right Or Wrong? by Nobody: 6:35am On Sep 27, 2018
I dnt hv ur time,after stating ur opinion, u ought to hv rested,dats it,nt quoting people to force ur own opinion down their throat,its a free world,u live nd let live,dats my last reply,argue with ur keyboard
Brightgem:
Searching for supporters. I can actually sense ur own frustrated vibes cuz that's what is pushing you to plan cohabiting! Desperation and frustration! Cuz I dnt knw how a woman meant to think highly of herself and see herself as a queen will stoop that low, even after men here quoted you telling you what cohabiting means for them. I dn't knw why u can't also explain why many people, celebrities cohabit for years, yet can't stay married for a year. Since ur theory is for u to know each other and see if u can live together. You can't even validate what u are saying with facts, just emotions. Lass lass na you be dumby.
Re: Cohabiting In Relationship: Right Or Wrong? by highqueen(f): 6:42am On Sep 27, 2018
lefulefu:
even in the university sef.u will see one girl dat just entered with jamb already cohabiting with a dude.she will be performing wife duties and even skipping classes. Time wey she go study and go class she go dey wash the boxers and shirts. Na wa washocked.
Exactly ,the thing is an eyesore.
Re: Cohabiting In Relationship: Right Or Wrong? by Nobody: 6:43am On Sep 27, 2018
Well,shame on u,no man has ever used me as a sex object cos i don't give them a reason to,u see ur life? Talking thrash abt people u dont even know,u tink every man is like you who cant keep his trousers zipped?
Jozzy4:


The lady is not wise, the problem with the set of women in this generation is their thinking is too dull, which is why men easily use them as sex objects
Re: Cohabiting In Relationship: Right Or Wrong? by Nobody: 9:13am On Sep 27, 2018
highqueen:

Exactly ,the thing is an eyesore.

an eyesore iyam telling ucheesy.u can imagine a young lady that her parents sent to school be slaving herself in one guy's apartment and be doing all d cooking and washing and at d end of the day the guy will still dump and she will end up with a very bad grade in school.very shocking.

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Re: Cohabiting In Relationship: Right Or Wrong? by odinga1of: 9:17am On Sep 27, 2018
lefulefu:
even in the university sef.u will see one girl dat just entered with jamb already cohabiting with a dude.she will be performing wife duties and even skipping classes. Time wey she go study and go class she go dey wash the boxers and shirts. Na wa washocked.

God bless you Boss, I tire for social medium, everyone is typing "wrong"

yet some of them engage in the act during their undergraduate days in the Uni and poly.

Come to Delta State University Abraka and all the poly and see how girls are cohabiting.

Even one quoted me saying rubbish, I ignored her.
Re: Cohabiting In Relationship: Right Or Wrong? by odinga1of: 9:22am On Sep 27, 2018
jauntty:
Port Harcourt is the center of Co-habitation.

Most of these slay mama can't afford any accommodation.

Just be a Bachelor with a small room, food and TV

Then Bam!! PH girls will start hassling to come visit you.

To comot na wahala

From there Co-habitation have started by force

I cover my house with the blood! grin grin grin

Boss I deh for Iwofe road here by Pepperoni Junction, make we link up for the PH.
Re: Cohabiting In Relationship: Right Or Wrong? by Nobody: 9:40am On Sep 27, 2018
odinga1of:


God bless you Boss, I tire for social medium, everyone is typing "wrong"

yet some of them engage in the act during their undergraduate days in the Uni and poly.

Come to Delta State University Abraka and all the poly and see how girls are cohabiting.

Even one quoted me saying rubbish, I ignored her.
yea a lot of ladies dey do am on campus wella.its always disadvantagious cos the thing go be distraction to the girl and she will unable to study. Bros wat will u also ask be say how many of d girls wey dey cohabit with these guys for school dey marry dese guys in d end? Lol wich babe dey quote u?cheesy
Re: Cohabiting In Relationship: Right Or Wrong? by CAPSLOCKED: 10:04am On Sep 27, 2018
lefulefu:
an eyesore iyam telling ucheesy.u can imagine a young lady that her parents sent to school be slaving herself in one guy's apartment and be doing all d cooking and washing and at d end of the day the guy will still dump and she will end up with a very bad grade in school.very shocking.

IT'S DISAPPOINTING THAT THIS IS YOUR OWN IDEA OF COHABITATION.

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Re: Cohabiting In Relationship: Right Or Wrong? by RillJ(m): 10:32am On Sep 27, 2018
Which 'no'?

'No', I don't believe it is right or

'No', I don't believe it is wrong?


tee59:
Personally, no for me.
Re: Cohabiting In Relationship: Right Or Wrong? by CaptainMitch: 10:50am On Sep 27, 2018
Fine girl wink
highqueen:

Exactly ,the thing is an eyesore.

Re: Cohabiting In Relationship: Right Or Wrong? by highqueen(f): 10:56am On Sep 27, 2018
CaptainMitch:
Fine girl wink
Thanks.smiley
Re: Cohabiting In Relationship: Right Or Wrong? by Jozzy4: 11:30am On Sep 27, 2018
Simplep:
Well,shame on u,no man has ever used me as a sex object cos i don't give them a reason to,u see ur life?

Am sorry if my comment hurt you in any way, in this present demoralized generation any lady who think of cohabiting with a man for good 3 months before they get married is only reducing her value. I don't think any woman would advice her daughter to do so.



thrash abt people u dont even know,u tink every man is like you who cant keep his trousers zipped?

Ironically , you just did what you accused me of
I don't chase women, I thank God for his grace on my life .
Re: Cohabiting In Relationship: Right Or Wrong? by Brightgem(f): 11:32am On Sep 27, 2018
Jozzy4:


The lady is not wise, the problem with the set of women in this generation is their thinking is too dull, which is why men easily use them as sex objects
Hi, you just made my morning awesome. Because sometimes I get depressed wondering how men and women could be thinking like this. I wonder if there are still sane and morally upright people left anywhere, worse part is a person spreading their ignorance with so much confidence. I thought ur a guy but I guess from ur posts ur a lady, right? But anyways, we'll all learn somehow from life. Ladies should just stop letting a men abuse us.
Re: Cohabiting In Relationship: Right Or Wrong? by Nobody: 11:34am On Sep 27, 2018
Ok sir,lets jst leave it dat way,i dnt like fights
Jozzy4:


Am sorry if my comment hurt you in any way, in this present demoralized generation any lady who think of cohabiting with a man for good 3 months before they get married is only reducing her value. I don't think any woman would advice her daughter to do so.



Ironically , you just did what you accused me of
I don't chase women, I thank God for his grace on my life .
Re: Cohabiting In Relationship: Right Or Wrong? by Yoighaman(m): 11:36am On Sep 27, 2018
Realname:
I like cohabitation, you both get to understand if you can live with each other for the rest of your life

Although I don't support it but this point kinda makes sense, a new perspective to me. Downside is both parties can pretend during this period and only get to show their true selves after getting married.
Re: Cohabiting In Relationship: Right Or Wrong? by Jozzy4: 11:38am On Sep 27, 2018
Brightgem:
Hi, you just made my morning awesome. Because sometimes I get depressed wondering how men and women could be thinking like this. I wonder if there are still sane and morally upright people left anywhere, worse part is a person spreading their ignorance with so much confidence. I thought ur a guy but I guess from ur posts ur a lady, right? Well we'll all learn somehow from life. Ladies should just stop letting a men abuse us.

No, am a man ... Well, that's what the world has become , am glad reading your comments which shows at least some conscience are Still functioning , I like having morally sound ones like you as friends , Keep it up .
Re: Cohabiting In Relationship: Right Or Wrong? by Jozzy4: 11:41am On Sep 27, 2018
Simplep:
Ok sir,lets jst leave it dat way,i dnt like fights

So nice reading the above , Simplep #smiles
Re: Cohabiting In Relationship: Right Or Wrong? by Jozzy4: 11:43am On Sep 27, 2018
Yoighaman:


Although I don't support it but this point kinda makes sense, a new perspective to me. Downside is both parties can pretend during this period and only get to show their true selves after getting married.

Yeah, you get it sir. Both can still pretend even under the same roof. I think we don't necessarily have to cohabit before we know the necessary things about one another in a sane relationship where both parties says the truth
Re: Cohabiting In Relationship: Right Or Wrong? by Yoighaman(m): 11:45am On Sep 27, 2018
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Re: Cohabiting In Relationship: Right Or Wrong? by Realname: 11:50am On Sep 27, 2018
Yoighaman:


Although I don't support it but this point kinda makes sense, a new perspective to me. Downside is both parties can pretend during this period and only get to show their true selves after getting married.

My brother no one can pretend 24 hours 7 days a week. The true face will always show

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Re: Cohabiting In Relationship: Right Or Wrong? by Brightgem(f): 11:50am On Sep 27, 2018
Daeylar:

OK then.

How do they get away with these acts though? Isn't it when people refuse to call them the same names they call ladies and instead give these men passes for no other reason than their gender? Just like you tried to do tbh.

Once again, Tagged hoes by who? It's human beings that give them these tags, Won't it stop if people just stop tagging them ONLY as hoes and instead give the tag to all genders or to none at all?

But I don't think all these girls came to you to complain about their pregnancy or abortion, or put their "burden" of pregnancy or abortion on you, though, sooo.... Why are you bothered?

I got your point smiley but I have issues with it

Was just wondering why you cared about how many people a lady has slept with, it would only make sense if you are gay or bi, or pan and have a specific lady as a partner and you are interested in that specific lady's history, then it would make sense

This is cool,

Cool also
Will answer you best way I can. The tags are just still a reality of our society we must live with, it isn't appearing to shift soon, tags used to subdue socially and even politically in the bigger picture.

Why does who gets pregnant or is having an abortion bother me? We live in a web like society don't we, like the human blood vessels, all interlinked, so tell me how what is happening to one part doesn't affect the other. You don't see the multiplier effect of these actions on us all. I guess because u are coming from the what is ur business angle, well I am concerned for a woman destroying her body and sending babies to death because she kept opening her legs, that's troubling. I am troubled at the increasing number of babies without present daddies or mummies, who sometimes grow to be the gangstar that will come and stab someone I know in the streets or rob them or get married and be unstable because they had a shaky upbringing. I am disturbed about bringing my own kids into this kind of society of wanton abortions and pregnancies. I am disturbed because we are destroying the family unit with things like cohabiting, baby mamas, wanton sex and abortions. I am disturbed that there are people who think it's not my business so what's ur own. To me that is the bigger picture. Excess freedom is exactly how we are securing our undoing.

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Re: Cohabiting In Relationship: Right Or Wrong? by highqueen(f): 11:53am On Sep 27, 2018
Brightgem:
Hi, you just made my morning awesome. Because sometimes I get depressed wondering how men and women could be thinking like this. I wonder if there are still sane and morally upright people left anywhere, worse part is a person spreading their ignorance with so much confidence. I thought ur a guy but I guess from ur posts ur a lady, right? But anyways, we'll all learn somehow from life. Ladies should just stop letting a men abuse us.
grin and you later dashed out your number after screaming like a bulldog, reason i hate hypocrites like you.
We have seen you.
And dont even qoute, i wont go down to your level of hypocrisy.grin
Re: Cohabiting In Relationship: Right Or Wrong? by Brightgem(f): 11:56am On Sep 27, 2018
highqueen:

grin and you later dashed out your number after screaming like a bulldog, reason i hate hypocrites like you.
We have seen you.
And dont even qoute, i wont go down to your level of hypocrisy.grin
who are u quoting? Seems ur confused! Too quick to comment. High queen, what are u high on?

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