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resurgent4oodua:
Exactly! You buy women to marry in Nigeria because it is expensive!

Yet now they bring in feminism to be contentious with men as if they can easily and obligatorily undertake the buying of men (from dating onset to marriage) for husband as a normal way of life. Abeg they should quickly fully implement their equal whatever to that extent of those responsibilities above which men do so men can flex away.

Babysho:
Why nau? Why advice him wrongly? Have you not been in a serious relationship before? It's always going to be one sided if he continues. Love is actually a game o. The one who loves the most loses.

I see your point of view.
Every lady have there needs and want he should get to the root of her needs and wants. A gòod conversation would go a long way for him making a decision

rinrin23:
Well I'm sorry you feel that way, I thought I was being helpful. I guess you'd rather spend your hard earned money on fish-brained girls "when the money comes", rather than learn how to find a real woman that would stand by you with or without it. Feel free to marry a woman that is there for your money, just remember that she'd be gone when the money goes or when she meets someone richer.

Then again, for you to fall back on prostitutes rather than try to build a relationship means that all you were actually after anyway was sex. So I guess you're attracting your kind.

Good luck!

You just don't understand the fact that we guys ar tired of emotional trauma we are passing through in a relationship, to see the kind of lady u mentioned above in this country is just a very difficult task....

anigbajumo:
You just don't understand the fact that we guys ar tired of emotional trauma we are passing through in a relationship, to see the kind of lady u mentioned above in this country is just a very difficult task....

Please help me tell her. Even the good girls cannot suffer with a man let alone all these fine girls in Lagos. They are very many, single and they have refused to be with any man that doesn't have money to make them comfortable.

The fun part is that the few rich guys are hooked while the many average guys are tired of chasing girls and are going their own way (MGTOW). It remains to be seen what these our many beautiful sisters will do now as time is not on their side. Will they go back to the guys they have turned to monsters or will they keep waiting for their rich prince charming? Only time can tell ooo

What an interesting time to be alive.

resurgent4oodua:
Please help me tell her. Even the good girls cannot suffer with a man let alone all these fine girls in Lagos. They are very many, single and they have refused to be with any man that doesn't have money to make them comfortable.

The fun part is that the few rich guys are hooked while the many average guys are tired of chasing girls and are going their own way (MGTOW). It remains to be seen what these our many beautiful sisters will do now as time is not on their side. Will they go back to the guys they have turned to monsters or will they keep waiting for their rich prince charming? Only time can tell ooo

What an interesting time to be alive.

Na so my brother...

princfred:
Because he is in emotional tatters as a result of the girls confusion and ways confusing him. A man in emotional tatters can't focus to make enough money with which to confuse other ladies before his d*ck starts confusing him enough to make him go to Olosho to cure his confusion but get more confused by them when the babe finally bails. Do you need more confusing confusions to clear your confusion on the confusing matter as to why he should bail asap from the confusing relationship with a confused confuser?

Have you seen ur life?

Aarondan:

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I became the victim of circumstance after she got to know the depth of my love for her. She's now taking advantage of my weakness. I think I have to consider quitting.

Don't love a girl too much cos she'll definitely take advantage of you, learn from ur mistake

Psoul:
Have you seen ur life?

No.

spyg1:
The reason why i came here for advice is to avoid taking a decision that i will not regret in future.

There is a girl I met at a friend's wedding sometime last year, she is 24 years and a 200L student while I am 30 years old postgraduate student but an amateur when it comes to relationship.

We started dating, at first I wasn't serious because I don't have enough money to take care of a girl, as a student sponsoring myself, I hardly have enough money to take care of her needs, she always complain that I don't take care of her which her friend's guy use to take care of her, the girl in question always advice my girl to quit our relationship because I am a broke guy and even if I get a job in future I will dump her for another lady, that I am just deceiving her, nevertheless she do assure her that I will not disappoint her, despite her friend's advice the love grew even stronger, at times she will buy me some gifts, me too I do buy some for her, having seen the commitment in her, then I started paying attention to her hoping that if things work well I will take her to the alter.

But, there was a day she called me to come and meet her at a particular Junction, on my arrival to the place I saw her exchanging phone number with a guy in car, upon enquiry, I discovered that she did not know the guy before, then I left home quietly she later called and apologized which I accepted.

Another time I called her around 10pm and I discovered that she blacklisted my number, she did this twice which I confronted her and suggested that we should quit, she begged me and cry for Africa then I accepted her back again.

After that, sometimes she will not pick my calls in the night and the following day she will giving excuses that she was sleeping, her phone is on silence or she plugged in her neighbors house etc, I started withdrawing from her, she called me one day and started crying that what her friends were advising her was true, I was just using her, I am just like other guys, she know the reason why I am doing this, is because she asked me to go and see her parents bla bla.

To fast forward the story, she login her Facebook account on my phone and she forgot to logout, when I went through her chat I discovered that she use to give people they meet on Facebook her phone number and according to the chart I discovered that she met one yesterday, I also discovered that she is still having an affairs with her ex.

Note: Anytime i call her to come to my house she used to come.

I feel like quitting the relationship but because of sympathy and I don’t want it to look as if I disappointed her. Honestly I am seriously confused, now my question is this; is it wrong that I went through her chat?

Second, what should I do? should I confront her? or should I quit quietly?

Pls I need your sincere advice, insults are welcomed. I will appreciate if the modulator push this to the front page.

PLS IGNORE MY GRAMMATICAL ERRORS

how sure I'm I that you are not lying? because I can't be giving advice and judging based on a one-sided story mbom

tunary:
Don't love a girl too much cos she'll definitely take advantage of you, learn from ur mistake

goes both ways u know. "Don't love a guy too much cuz he ll definitely take advantage of u"

anigbajumo:
You just don't understand the fact that we guys ar tired of emotional trauma we are passing through in a relationship, to see the kind of lady u mentioned above in this country is just a very difficult task....

chaii! I thot u guys are Superman, ehnehn... so u pass through emotional trauma too? well well! this is a first

stupidity:
bros she Dey form holy for me say she nor Dey run side paroles. From the onset I opened up to her say I get babe. And I wanted her to do same. At least just be truthful that she really has another guy climbing her. But she was forming saint say Na only me and also making me feel guilty say she Dey try for me by having only me but I nor wan reason her matter to heart. Na waten make me snoop on her phone to burst her lies.

stories that touch! don't play that pity game here mbok. both of u was obviously fooling around with each other. U were forming smart, she sef claim smarterter. move on

stupidity:
bros she Dey form holy for me say she nor Dey run side paroles. From the onset I opened up to her say I get babe. And I wanted her to do same. At least just be truthful that she really has another guy climbing her. But she was forming saint say Na only me and also making me feel guilty say she Dey try for me by having only me but I nor wan reason her matter to heart. Na waten make me snoop on her phone to burst her lies.

stories that touch! don't play that pity game here mbok. both of u was obviously fooling around with each other. U were forming smart, she sef claim smarterter. move on

CrazyEfikGirl:
chaii! I thot u guys are Superman, ehnehn... so u pass through emotional trauma too? well well! this is a first

Lol,no matter how Superman a man can be,there will be a lady he won't let go may be a distinct attitude,giving her all the necessary care and attention, once he realized she is part or type of trending lady with oloshoism it is a big disappointed, to be a Superman is just the ability of let go and skip the presence of her in his life in a shortest period of time....

safarigirl:
women are emotionally and mentally stronger than men. YES! Just because you bring a few coins out does not give you mental and emotional strength. Who is the lots that don't want to work for their money? Most homes in Nigeria today are surviving because of the woman

Millions of Nigerian women are working hard everyday, putting food on the table and providing for their children while covering their husbands' shame by lying to everyone that he is the one paying. Nigerian women are resilient, they are surviving. Most of them work multiple jobs, they not only work in civil service, they are also business women. Hardly will you find a married woman in Nigeria who isn't working two jobs and trying to make ends meet


I don't know where you people are meeting these leeches you surround yourself with, but most of the women I know are hardworking women who provide for their families without making noise. I know women who pay their kids fees. When my mother was alive she was paying I and my sister's school fees, she doled out 500k per year for our school fees, and let me not even count the clothes she always bought and the snacks she got from work everyday. My father only had to pay my little brother's fees. They both paid house rent with combined salaries, same with food.


Stop judging millions of women based on the ten or so you know. Are your sisters also leeches? Are you judging women based on stories on social media? The woman in Niger state that is entering a farm to break firewood, harvest cassava and cook, is she on social media? You think I am talking about the small girls you men enjoy courting? People that can barely stand on their own, are those ones women?


Nigerian women are strong and resilient. Women will always be emotionally stronger than men. Millions of women are living without husbands, many of them widows, they are making it work, they are surviving. The minute a man's wife dies, he is already hunting for another woman. Men only have brute force, they do not know what mental and emotional strength is. They will never understand it

Honestly, going through this thread was shocking. I’ve realised that men of this generation are mentally incapable of handling life circumstances, therefore they opt for the easy way out. I will not dismiss the fact that both genders have issues, however men these days have completely lost their masculinity. If you believe staying single, and patronising ashewos till old age is the solution to mental solidity and peace in your life, then there’s clearly something wrong with you. You’re only digging a deeper hole for yourself.

Men of this generation have been raised to be boys, no masculine figure around them to teach them the fundamentals on survival. They’re so many hard working, strong educated women in this world who are the glue to their families, yet we have some weak men all over social media classifying all women into one bracket. Women have been raised to carry the burden, mentally and physically exhaust their lives for their husbands, from childhood we are trained to behave in ways that will positively impact our family home. We are superwomen. We see single mothers taking care of 4 children, without complaints. How often do we see that from men? Men have been trained to run away from the slightest issues, when things do not go their own way. Why do you think a lot of men rely on substances to function? They’re minds have been trained to disregard any life challenges that come their way.

Men want to go their own way, I Laugh. They’ll still be unable to handle the mental agony that comes with isolation. So sometimes when you see certain comments on social media, it’s better to smile and move on. Because in reality, it’s just not practical.

Saff:
Honestly, going through this thread was shocking. I’ve realised that men of this generation are mentally incapable of handling life circumstances, therefore they opt for the easy way out. I will not dismiss the fact that both genders have issues, however men these days have completely lost their masculinity. If you believe staying single, and patronising ashewos till old age is the solution to mental solidity and peace in your life, then there’s clearly something wrong with you. You’re only digging a deeper hole for yourself.

Men of this generation have been raised to be boys, no masculine figure around them to teach them the fundamentals on survival. They’re so many hard working, strong educated women in this world who are the glue to their families, yet we have some weak men all over social media classifying all women into one bracket. Women have been raised to carry the burden, mentally and physically exhaust their lives for their husbands, from childhood we are trained to behave in ways that will positively impact our family home. We are superwomen. We see single mothers taking care of 4 children, without complaints. How often do we see that from men? Men have been trained to run away from the slightest issues, when things do not go their own way. Why do you think a lot of men rely on substances to function? They’re minds have been trained to disregard any life challenges that come their way.

Men want to go their own way, I Laugh. They’ll still be unable to handle the mental agony that comes with isolation. So sometimes when you see certain comments on social media, it’s better to smile and move on. Because in reality, it’s just not practical.

Madam, you are only talking on behalf of d few responsible women out there... Most Nigeria women only come to man's life to steal, kill and destroy emotionally... If care is not taking, they can sniff life out of you...

anigbajumo:
Lol,no matter how Superman a man can be,there will be a lady he won't let go may be a distinct attitude,giving her all the necessary care and attention, once he realized she is part or type of trending lady with oloshoism it is a big disappointed, to be a Superman is just the ability of let go and skip the presence of her in his life in a shortest period of time....

all this ur Grammer would not help u here Biko. This lane goes two ways. just as a girl is being hurt somewhere so is a guy. y'all can't eat ur cake and still expect to have it. U ppl let go and skip in the shortest period of time yeah... well newsflash it takes a lot to let go and believe the worst of a guy we love.

tayooluwole:
Madam, you are only talking on behalf of d few responsible women out there... Most Nigeria women only come to man's life to steal, kill and destroy emotionally... If care is not taking, they can sniff life out of you...

Says a MAN who's worst than a SNAKE.

tayooluwole:
Madam, you are only talking on behalf of d few responsible women out there... Most Nigeria women only come to man's life to steal, kill and destroy emotionally... If care is not taking, they can sniff life out of you...

You are blinded by gossip stories and social media lies. The reality is that, yes women get their wahala. But the truth is that, most men cannot live this bachelor lifestyle for too long, because there’s indeed so much value in women. Most cant stay single for more than a year, despite your resentment towards us. The natural urge and instincts will lead you to look for a female mate, even though we are classified as “useless”. Useless indeed. Most of you men are so emotionally weak, hence the ranting and complaints. Women averagely consume x10 of not only emotional but physical trauma that marriage brings, yet we survive and make a way. Oga the truth shall remain the truth.

princfred:
Yet now they bring in feminism to be contentious with men as if they can easily and obligatorily undertake the buying of men (from dating onset to marriage) for husband as a normal way of life. Abeg they should quickly fully implement their equal whatever to that extent of those responsibilities above which men do so men can flex away.

For your information, in this day, century and generation... WOMEN buy MEN too!!!

Saff:
You are blinded by gossip stories and social media lies. The reality is that, yes women get their wahala. But the truth is that, most men cannot live this bachelor lifestyle for too long, because there’s indeed so much value in women. Most cant stay single for more than a year, despite your resentment towards us. The natural urge and instincts will lead you to look for a female mate, even though we are classified as “useless”. Useless indeed. Most of you men are so emotionally weak, hence the ranting and complaints. Women averagely consume x10 of not only emotional but physical trauma that marriage brings, yet we survive and make a way. Oga the truth shall remain the truth.

I am talking from experience, not what i read, i felt it my self... It may be sweet at some point, but when she start the drama u may want to curse the day u meet her...

Saff:
You are blinded by gossip stories and social media lies. The reality is that, yes women get their wahala. But the truth is that, most men cannot live this bachelor lifestyle for too long, because there’s indeed so much value in women. Most cant stay single for more than a year, despite your resentment towards us. The natural urge and instincts will lead you to look for a female mate, even though we are classified as “useless”. Useless indeed. Most of you men are so emotionally weak, hence the ranting and complaints. Women averagely consume x10 of not only emotional but physical trauma that marriage brings, yet we survive and make a way. Oga the truth shall remain the truth.

leave them to be ranting "women are useless" "women r useless"! Na for thier mouth we go hear say fowl yansh dey smell. Smh Na still person wey better pass them go marry the so called "useless" women and live a happy life. some of these men shouting af married dis same so called "useless" women ooo and then no born them well make thier "useless" women who is thier wives see this thier Rubbish comment. If the "useless" women don't satisfy u. U can go f-u-c-K urselves u know and save them d stress of being "useless" with u forever.... SMH.

CrazyEfikGirl:
For your information, in this day, century and generation... WOMEN buy MEN too!!!

Better it should and will even increase much more as is written .

Saff:
You are blinded by gossip stories and social media lies. The reality is that, yes women get their wahala. But the truth is that, most men cannot live this bachelor lifestyle for too long, because there’s indeed so much value in women. Most cant stay single for more than a year, despite your resentment towards us. The natural urge and instincts will lead you to look for a female mate, even though we are classified as “useless”. Useless indeed. Most of you men are so emotionally weak, hence the ranting and complaints. Women averagely consume x10 of not only emotional but physical trauma that marriage brings, yet we survive and make a way. Oga the truth shall remain the truth.

Men can always get f*ckmate to natural urge even in marriage especially when the money is there if the certainty of fun and joy is not in a normal partnership.

It’s not just a natural urge for sex mr man. Sex only lasts for a few minutes, but it will not fill in the everlasting void that the bachelor life brings, that’s where most of you struggle. Especially as you grow old, but continue.

princfred:
Men can always get s f*ckmate for natural urge even in marriage if the certainty of fun and joy is not in a normal partnership.

Saff:
It’s not just a natural urge for sex mr man. Sex only lasts for a few minutes, but it will not fill in the everlasting void that the bachelor life brings, that’s where most of you struggle. Especially as you grow old, but continue.

The only thing that can make a man struggle is lack of money not lack of woman even if he is married especially to these so called independent ones who are mainly interested in their children, if he lacks money his case is sorry most times. Or which wealthy politician will struggle at old age when even 16+ girls are rushing them?

Ok sir. Remember this is social media and not real life. Have a good evening.

princfred:
The only thing that can as a man struggle is lack of money not lack of woman even if he is married especially to these so called independent ones who are mainly interested in their children, if he lacks money his case is sorry most times.

safarigirl:
Some people are here bragging about how they are flirting with HIV in a bid to avoid women.


If all of you were not dating the wrong women, why would you think the only thing women have to offer you is sex? In the same way, women assume the only thing men have to offer them is money


All of you with such disgusting ideas of Tue opposite sex have psychological issues..... You all need to change your perspective and change your mentalities.


Relationships are not working because both men and women in this country have the wrong idea of a relationship. If women were not collecting money from men, nobody would take them for granted. And if men were not getting sex from women, nobody will take them for granted


All of you need to reevaluate your lives and ask yourself what the person in your life can do for you aside money and sex. There is more to a relationship than those things and it is only when you find that 'more' with someone that you will appreciate a relationship.


Maybe when you have finished smashing ashawo with 1k, she will listen to how your day went and offer you advice on your business venture.

You have big sense

Saff:
Ok sir. Remember this is social media and not real life. Have a good evening.

We are talking real life on social media na. A rich man in his 70's will easily remarry a teenager even if his wife dies. E.g Oshimole. While a married man without money in his 40 will die of the badmouth and lack of respect from his wife especially where the woman is one of these elitist ones who believe a man is useless once they can feed themselves but wont tell the man early enough so he can find his way early.

The gap between the rich and poor is huge, especially in Nigeria. Most men never reach that level of financial success. So like I said, this is is social media, I shall meet you in real life one day.

princfred:
We are talking real life on social media na. A rich man in his 70's will easily remarry teenager. E.g Oshimole while a married man without money in his 40 will die of the badmouth and lack of respect from his wife.

Saff:
The gap between the rich and poor is huge, especially in Nigeria. Most men never reach that level of financial success. So like I said, this is is social media, I shall meet you in real life one day.

Amen to that last part. But men don't really need to be as rich as Oshimole to find a woman for fun. Many widows dey sef. Again am talking real life on social media. The point is, if a man no longer gets joy or fun from a relationship and losses pity on the woman (if that's what keeps him in the relationship) and has some free change he can always find a woman from which to gill that 'void" any woman. So a contentious or unsubmissive woman should just count herself husbandless already.

nho4:
Sorry to say young man but obviously you are a fool....same thing goes to any young man out there undergoing emotional trauma all in the name of keeping a girlfriend.

To hell with ladies and those dating them.
Why must you subject yourself to such emotional agony just because of a mere lady you are senior to with almost 6 years and you are here crying like a sissy.

I will never encourage my worse enemy to go into what you guys call girlfriend relationship that turns men into puppets.

Dating is a way of placing yourself under emotional slavery. Your Heart and mind keep bleeding at all time and before you realizes what is going on you will start battling with one health issue or the other all because of nothing.

Look at the rate at which our men are dying and the cause is directly and indirectly due to the fact that they want to please women and that is why women have taken advantage of us.
Women should be the one begging us to date them and not the other way round.

I once dated a lady who thought she was doing me a favour for dating me...the moment I realised it, I simply placed her where she belonged by severing myself from her.... When she realized it, she was now the one forcing herself on me and she was trying to get me back but it was too late for her because my mind was already made up to be single and happy....that was the best decision I ever made in my life and I never regretted it till this moment.



Men have become almost nothing in the hands of women and yet vast majority of our young men are thronging in the wrong direction all in the name of love that doesn't exist.

Believe it or not" Love doesn't exist between girlfriend and boyfriend.

Real love only exists between mother and child...

I bet you the number one reason our young men, including you allow yourselves to be traumatized emotionally is simply because of sex.

You don't need to have a girlfriend before you can have sex with ladies.

Instead of killing yourself emotionally dump that girl and be free, because you were born free...don't allow anybody to put you in bondage all because of sex you can get easily.

I don't do relationships or dates and I am the happiest person all because I am free emotionally.... I sleep like a baby without having to worry if my partner is cheating on me because I have no fucking girlfriend.

Each time sexual urge comes in, I simply walk down to the nearest ASHAWO JOINT in my vicinity to ease off the urge with just N1000, and I am relaxed. I am in control of my happiness and not any fucking lady.

I am in control of females around me because they can't control me with their pussies and they have regard for me....because I don't own them a dime.

If you don't belittle yourself as a man all because of sex, women will respect you...but is unfortunate that most of our young men have reduced themselves to power zero in the hands of ladies just because of sex.

All I can tell you is that you own the key to your happiness...

Go joor you too get sense !!!!