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Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by badmus77(m): 4:59pm On Nov 12, 2018

ramselly:
My Relationship Is Tearing Me Apart

Hello Nairalanders!

Please i need mature advice only.

I and my girlfriend have been dating since 2015, she has always been supportive in everything and every business i do, thou we dont stay in same part of the country.

I have always told her i cannot settle for less and i cannot get married to a lady who cannot manage her resources and make do with what was available as i want the best for us. In 2016 we talked about setting up something for her to do so as to keep her busy and so i had to enrol her to catering school where she learnt baking n so many more. Fast farward to 2017 january, we planned in opening a shop for her, in july 2017 she got the quotation of roughly 700k for the shop opening the shop and buying Goods for the shop, In september 2017 i sent her 500k for her to commense with the opening of the shop but to my greatest suprise she never used the money for the purpose rather she used it in settling family issues. Its been a year now and i intend quitting the relationship because its not what i planned 4. Please i need matured advice. Sorry if my points re not clear enough.

Your own better na, lol
For my own case, na me dey pay everything, gave her money for business, bought things I considered useful to take some stress away but the day I asked how is the business flowing, I was told, that business was meant for her, I should focus on my own business. To end story, I relocated and dumped her.

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Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by lugiano1: 5:01pm On Nov 12, 2018

MhizzAJ:
Who is thos cocoNUT head above me.

How is she a useless girl.

Its not by force to be in a relationship

If you cannot cope with her , leave her alone.

Some men are very capable....they wont complain..
They wouldnt mind spending all their savings for her afterall shes your girlfriend.
Stingy man

you must be mad for this kind of reply. Someone was given money for a particular purpose and she spent it on another without informing the man and you are here saying he is a stingen man.

Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by PotatoSalad(m): 5:02pm On Nov 12, 2018

ednut1:
she is a useless girl. Better japa. What if u took loan. When i see broke gal or gal with fam ish. I japa st8 up. Dats how a man i know married dat kind gal. He spons all her bros and step bros abroad neglecting his own fam. Today baba is broke wife don japa

Sounds like he's my uncle

Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by Lordapson23(m): 5:02pm On Nov 12, 2018

MhizzAJ:
Who is thos cocoNUT head above me.

How is she a useless girl.

Its not by force to be in a relationship

If you cannot cope with her , leave her alone.

Some men are very capable....they wont complain..
They wouldnt mind spending all their savings for her afterall shes your girlfriend.
Stingy man

They had an agreement ma'am.. Admit it or not, that was totally wrong on her part cos no one wants to be mistaken for an idiot..

Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by eazriel09: 5:10pm On Nov 12, 2018

Liliyann:
Your mates are spending more than that on their girl and you are here crying coz of 500k!!!

If you are truly in love with that girl, everything about her should come first!!
I can't date someone that doesn't have the welfare of my family at heart!!
So, you allowed her to use the money to settle family issues when you could have done it as her boyfriend!!

You are such a pathetic broke ass guy!
Free that girl so that she can be with someone that loves and value her!!

MODIFIED!!!
See dem broke ass niggas quoting me!!!
103 quotes in one post and still counting!!!
Its only the broke ones that wail coz of money!!
Real guys spend lavishly on their girl without crying online!!!

I believe you will praise your brother for wasting such amount on a a girl friend and i know it's a girl who can not afford to buy her pant that is always so quick to broke shame any guy. Funny enough any member of your family may not have owned 200000 through out your broke life

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Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by mrollyB: 5:10pm On Nov 12, 2018

Liliyann:
Your mates are spending more than that on their girl and you are here crying coz of 500k!!!

If you are truly in love with that girl, everything about her should come first!!
I can't date someone that doesn't have the welfare of my family at heart!!
So, you allowed her to use the money to settle family issues when you could have done it as her boyfriend!!

You are such a pathetic broke ass guy!
Free that girl so that she can be with someone that loves and value her!!

MODIFIED!!!
See dem broke ass niggas quoting me!!!
103 quotes in one post and still counting!!!
Its only the broke ones that wail coz of money!!
Real guys spend lavishly on their girl without crying online!!!

Have seen different comments but yours look so ridiculous,so if a guy is trying to better your life u will base it on a useless excuse of family need and he should continue to do more because of that ,even at when you are still not his wife. Well it's a pity u may remain a baby forever

Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by adelacuna(m): 5:13pm On Nov 12, 2018

Bro don't be discouraged by some immature comments here truth is ur girlfriend didn't behave well and she doesn't seem like someone that will optimally manage your resources, the best you can do is to talk with her and see if you can cope but as for me I don't think I want to continue with a lady that can't manage resources.

Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by simeotexy: 5:17pm On Nov 12, 2018

Liliyann:
Your mates are spending more than that on their girl and you are here crying coz of 500k!!!

If you are truly in love with that girl, everything about her should come first!!
I can't date someone that doesn't have the welfare of my family at heart!!
So, you allowed her to use the money to settle family issues when you could have done it as her boyfriend!!

You are such a pathetic broke ass guy!
Free that girl so that she can be with someone that loves and value her!!

MODIFIED!!!
See dem broke ass niggas quoting me!!!
103 quotes in one post and still counting!!!
Its only the broke ones that wail coz of money!!
Real guys spend lavishly on their girl without crying online!!!

. coming from a broke ass girl

Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by vickydevoka(m): 5:17pm On Nov 12, 2018

anigbajumo:
God bless u bro

Uwc. We talk from experience.
Jst imagine u marrying a fyn gal from a poor family of 8 where she happens to be de first born n u re also de first born of ur family of 7. My if u marry dat kind of person might end up hating her no matter how beautiful she is.

Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by Chukazu: 5:30pm On Nov 12, 2018

MhizzAJ:
Who is thos cocoNUT head above me.

How is she a useless girl.

Its not by force to be in a relationship

If you cannot cope with her , leave her alone.

Some men are very capable....they wont complain..
They wouldnt mind spending all their savings for her afterall shes your girlfriend.
Stingy man

Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by greatcrown: 5:32pm On Nov 12, 2018

I don't really think it's her fault.

Most people irrespective of gender will make similar mistake.

There is every tendency that you too have made wrong financial decision in the past.

Sit with to find out the specific things the money was spent on and see if any amount can be recovered.

Let her realised the lesson to be lent in this situation.

Try and get her another money and tell her it's a loan from bank with 20 to 25% interest per annum.

Open a saving accoun for her for refund which she will not have opportunity of withdrawing from.

This time around the entire cash should not be released.

Release each amount as per what is to be done. Try and follow her to close each phase of the project.

It's a learning curve, every successfull business person pass through one.

Try and help her to overcome this phase.

I see her making a good wife in the future.

Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by mayorall(m): 5:33pm On Nov 12, 2018

ramselly:
My Relationship Is Tearing Me Apart

Hello Nairalanders!

Please i need mature advice only.

I and my girlfriend have been dating since 2015, she has always been supportive in everything and every business i do, thou we dont stay in same part of the country.

I have always told her i cannot settle for less and i cannot get married to a lady who cannot manage her resources and make do with what was available as i want the best for us. In 2016 we talked about setting up something for her to do so as to keep her busy and so i had to enrol her to catering school where she learnt baking n so many more. Fast farward to 2017 january, we planned in opening a shop for her, in july 2017 she got the quotation of roughly 700k for the shop opening the shop and buying Goods for the shop, In september 2017 i sent her 500k for her to commense with the opening of the shop but to my greatest suprise she never used the money for the purpose rather she used it in settling family issues. Its been a year now and i intend quitting the relationship because its not what i planned 4. Please i need matured advice. Sorry if my points re not clear enough.

Sorry, I understand your pains.

To manage such... You've got to create artificial scarcity.

M.kabod...

Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by OsuMustGo: 5:35pm On Nov 12, 2018

MhizzAJ:
Who is thos cocoNUT head above me.

How is she a useless girl.

Its not by force to be in a relationship

If you cannot cope with her , leave her alone.

Some men are very capable....they wont complain..
They wouldnt mind spending all their savings for her afterall shes your girlfriend.
Stingy man

na person born dis one?

your brothers
ya papa

Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by MhizzAJ(f): 5:35pm On Nov 12, 2018

DanDeeBoss:
They brought it upon themselves.... They comment without thinking deep.... Comments you get from people whose sole aim is money in a relationship.... Keep roasting them with your quotes....

Na thier loss.
I day gidigba for here day laugh.
Nairaland is filled with so many useless and jobless guys....see the way d jobless ones have been mentioning me upandan......Make una go find work ooo.

Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by DanDeeBoss(m): 5:39pm On Nov 12, 2018

MhizzAJ:
Na thier loss.
I day gidigba for here day laugh.
Nairaland is filled with so many useless and jobless guys....see the way d jobless ones have been mentioning me upandan......Make una go find work ooo.

Lol....

MhizzAJ you sef suppose no give that comment...

Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by CAPSLOCKED: 5:39pm On Nov 12, 2018

chris20000:
I'm really dumbfounded by the comments coming from our girls here.

THE FEMALE MEMBERS OF THIS FORUM ARE WONDERFUL. PARTICULARLY THE ONES FROM THE ROMANCE SECTION.

Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by MhizzAJ(f): 5:42pm On Nov 12, 2018

DanDeeBoss:
Lol.... MhizzAJ you sef suppose no give that comment...

I'm here to have fun.
May God increase the poverty level of everyone that quoted me ..... LOL

Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by MhizzAJ(f): 5:43pm On Nov 12, 2018

CAPSLOCKED:

THE FEMALE MEMBERS OF THIS FORUM ARE WONDERFUL. PARTICULARLY THE ONES FROM THE ROMANCE SECTION.

We are very wonderful
Awesome creatures

Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by DanDeeBoss(m): 5:44pm On Nov 12, 2018

MhizzAJ:
I'm here to have fun.
May God increase the poverty level of everyone that quoted me ..... LOL

You know I didn't... cheesy

I just mentioned you... grin

I thought as much.....

Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by MhizzAJ(f): 5:47pm On Nov 12, 2018

DanDeeBoss:
You know I didn't... I just mentioned you...

I thought as much.....

LWKMD....

Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by crafteck(m): 5:48pm On Nov 12, 2018

MhizzAJ:
Who is thos cocoNUT head above me.

How is she a useless girl.

Its not by force to be in a relationship

If you cannot cope with her , leave her alone.

Some men are very capable....they wont complain..
They wouldnt mind spending all their savings for her afterall shes your girlfriend.
Stingy man

See them......

Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by vickydevoka(m): 5:49pm On Nov 12, 2018

Kira290:
Mumu, you know how many guys she would have f*ck to get that kind of money...had it been she was a runs girl

She's go Bleep sotee she she go die she no save 500k from the Olosho work. Bro to save hard. I de collect 95k buh I neve save 400k since 2 years way I start work. As u start earning demand n wants keep coming

Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by patrickcollins: 5:49pm On Nov 12, 2018

Pureety:
My opinion
If you don't like it,that's your problem!!

Your opinion is not a good one, take correction rather than engage in justifying what you said because it lacks life experience and wisdom

Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by Jayslyder: 5:50pm On Nov 12, 2018

these days it's evident that these girls are solely dependent on their relationship to meet their needs. .and woe be onto any girl that takes me for a fool .me go scam your generation...by the way na 500k person open mouth call common for this buhari regime? ?? that girl needs cleansing oo

Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by DanDeeBoss(m): 5:50pm On Nov 12, 2018

MhizzAJ:
LWKMD....

Keep having fun.....

Next time you give that type of a comment.....I'll take it as a joke cheesy

Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by easyzworld: 5:55pm On Nov 12, 2018

MhizzAJ:
Who is thos cocoNUT head above me.

How is she a useless girl.

Its not by force to be in a relationship

If you cannot cope with her , leave her alone.

Some men are very capable....they wont complain..
They wouldnt mind spending all their savings for her afterall shes your girlfriend.
Stingy man

Na God go punish you!

Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by vickydevoka(m): 5:55pm On Nov 12, 2018

Rushmore:
She really messed up. Op,if she doesn't give a reasonable explanation on which family problem she solved with that money,kuku carry your bags and japa. As a woman,I'm ashamed on her behalf. Most of My fellow aunties in the comment section are not even helping matters. After we will be the first to scream Men Are Scum. Double standard dimwits.

Men are scum to only Olosho slay mama

Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by fortunechy(m): 5:57pm On Nov 12, 2018

Honestly, u are a nice guy but in a relationship with a wrong lady..... There is nothing like family issue,he spent the money on another guy...

Don't fink twice just quit the relationship to avoid stories that touches the heart. She's has a skeleton in her cupboard......

Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by AllsufficientGod: 6:07pm On Nov 12, 2018

All you fellow ladies justifying what the she did should fear God o. How could she have misused such amount of money as if it was hers. She could have still told him about the financial challenge of her family and see if he would be of help instead of spending his hard earned money without his consent. I outrightly conderm such behavior.

Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by qrymz(m): 6:19pm On Nov 12, 2018

ramselly:
My Relationship Is Tearing Me Apart

Hello Nairalanders!

Please i need mature advice only.

I and my girlfriend have been dating since 2015, she has always been supportive in everything and every business i do, thou we dont stay in same part of the country.

I have always told her i cannot settle for less and i cannot get married to a lady who cannot manage her resources and make do with what was available as i want the best for us. In 2016 we talked about setting up something for her to do so as to keep her busy and so i had to enrol her to catering school where she learnt baking n so many more. Fast farward to 2017 january, we planned in opening a shop for her, in july 2017 she got the quotation of roughly 700k for the shop opening the shop and buying Goods for the shop, In september 2017 i sent her 500k for her to commense with the opening of the shop but to my greatest suprise she never used the money for the purpose rather she used it in settling family issues. Its been a year now and i intend quitting the relationship because its not what i planned 4. Please i need matured advice. Sorry if my points re not clear enough.

I actually had to quote your post so you can hopefully see this.....
I was already insulting her cos I assumed she was just like must girls until I saw what she used the money for. It is almost like a thing for most good ladies that I know of, they always find it hard to neglect family issues hence why she probably spent the money on that. I ain't tryna justify her action but you haven't said she's not a good lady except for the fact that she used the 500k for a different purpose. Don't leave her for this cos you have no idea the kinda lady you're gonna meet next. If you'd noticed she might not channel the money into what she ought to, you just woulda taken time to go set up the business for her in person. She would only be a bad wife material if she crashed the business

Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by SexyDenzel: 6:21pm On Nov 12, 2018

ogasharpsharp:
OP you know why I like you? Because your spirit man is strong, and it is this spirit man in you that is urging you to quit the relationship and run while you still can.

No matter how much I love a girl I can never drop up to 100k (even 50k, I don't give cash I rather spend) at once on her but you dropped a whopping 500k. Now, take a look at how the ladies on this thread are trying to trivialise that large sum of money, that's half a mil right there!

Trust me when I say most of them have never seen that amount of money in one go. Their account balance will testify. But they will tell you that "How much is even 500k sef?" Never encourage stùpidity in a woman because that is their default settings and it is your job as a man to correct that otherwise you bounce.

Investing money on a girl is like pouring water in a basket, it will never be enough. And these girls never have to make such sacrifices so they don't know what it takes and how it hurts when an agreement between two parties is reneged upon. Abi you no get family wey need half a mil? Abi you dey crase ni?

End the relationship as your spirit being is telling you, she will still do more as the relationship progresses, especially if she gets away with this criminal act of hers without any consequences. Yes, what she did is criminal but being a woman (synonym for stùpidity) she will try to shame and blame you for it (Baby you are not understanding, you don't really love me, etc).

A REAL man must always train his babe to know that for every transgression against him there will always be dire consequences otherwise see-finish will occur. Shalom!

PS - Never spend such money again on a woman unless she is your wife. They don't have sense!

How one man go make sense die for one most, boss if say them de order drink online I swear I for throw better wine for ur side. I'm glad to see there are men here, these stupid kids think #500,000k is #500 and most of them don't have up to #50k in their account and their annual salary is not up to that if at all they have started working which I doubt. They yap like bunch of gaggling iddiots that don't know the value of money. Too many kids here with their silly opinions.

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