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Kastonkastroll:
This is a dumb comment. So because she is his gf, he should waste all his money on her and turn himself to her slave abi? Nonsense. Doesn't she have two hands, two legs, a brain, one nose, two ears, two eyes and a tongue? Why can't she hustle for her own money? It is only hungry Nigerian girls like you that see relationship as a poverty alleviation program. You don't want to work and even if you work, you still want your bf to take care of all your endless materialistic needs.

Haba hanty , u no get shame ni

Rextizzle:
You must be stupid for saying this, don't even quote me because I don't reply stupid people.

vickydevoka:
Y is it dat African ladies see guys as there money bank or source of income. An American lady will say ' anybody rather than any brother. May be u re trying to link up. Nice strategy. Buh am sorry I stop giving gals money since one absconded with the money I entrusted on her

placeofallure:
Oh my! I am embarrassed a human being can reason like this, then it became more appalling to see the number of likes. It simply means we have many misguided minds (youths) than I imagined. How will this nation move forward? How will power ever be wrestled out of the old tired hands like Buhari and Atiku?

You have never seen a tireless, conscientious worker, who has two hands, two eyes, two legs, two ears and a brain and yet couldn't make ends meet because of some factors beyond his/her control? Some people will always have more resources than some people. It never occurred to you that the girl could be working. Is it not in this our Nigeria that able - bodied men with family are expected to go home after 30 days with a meagre 30k? If an emergency comes... He is working... Yeah!

Some of us have traveled that road. It is simply a symbiotic situation, rub my back I rub yours. People always remember the one that helped in a difficult time. It's a few that forgets. If you ask me, this is too flimsy an excuse to end a promising relationship over.

waleyp:
Since September 2017? More Than A Year AGo, This Is 2018, Did Your Eyes Just Opened Or What? What Has Happened Between You Two Since That September 2017? Did She Tell You She Spent It On Family Or You Got To Know?

Liliyann:
Your mates are spending more than that on their girl and you are here crying coz of 500k!!!

If you are truly in love with that girl, everything about her should come first!!
I can't date someone that doesn't have the welfare of my family at heart!!
So, you allowed her to use the money to settle family issues when you could have done it as her boyfriend!!

You are such a pathetic broke ass guy!
Free that girl so that she can be with someone that loves and value her!!

MODIFIED!!!
See dem broke ass niggas quoting me!!!
103 quotes in one post and still counting!!!
Its only the broke ones that wail coz of money!!
Real guys spend lavishly on their girl without crying online!!!

Pureety:
You also lack the ability to read and comprehend!!!
You are just quoting just for quoting sake, I bet you didn't even read my comment.
Ewu gambia!

trendyprettygir:
Hmm...

You are a very good person.

It would be great if more people like you existed. Most Nigerian men, think that women are sex tools. They believe that as far as they have not married a lady, then they should not spend on her or help her out. To most men, sex is the goal, help is very far. Why should i help that girl self, am i her father? You gave your gf 500k to do a business in this Nigeria? Really? Then I commend you for this.

If you both agreed she would use the money to run a business and she squandered it, then what she did was not nice and a breach of trust. You too should also remember that not everyone is cut out for business. A lot of people shout business, but not everyone can successfully run a business.

My advice, forgive her now and test her one more time, if she repeats this or breaches an agreement you both had, then let her go. Why? This may continue in the future and Nigeria is hard, people are hungry. Whatever we have, we should learn to use it wisely. Also, trust is key.

Lavendra:
I'm embarrassed, why do ladies think like you do, I wish all ladies are intelligent enough to know they have to work hard to provide for their families, not waiting for a guy to take care of their families, we have two hands, two legs we can work hard make money and take care of our families

Lavendra:
I'm embarrassed, why do ladies think like you do, I wish all ladies are intelligent enough to know they have to work hard to provide for their families, not waiting for a guy to take care of their families, we have two hands, two legs we can work hard make money and take care of our families

placeofallure:
Some people are quick to judge. If people like you were a judge, many innocent people would have been sent to the gallows.
What family issues did she spend the money on? What if somebody is sick and need money? If you're the sick family member, what would you have your sister do? Pay for shop over hospital bills I suppose.

Men complain over trivial issues. She didn't expend money on L'Oréal or Mary Kay so what is his problem? If you are dating anyone, especially someone you care about, be ready to live with their flaws or you help them get over it. What if they were married already, he'd send her away because of mismanagement? Family is everything if you don't know, I don't joke with mine. We live for ourselves.

ramselly:
My Relationship Is Tearing Me Apart

Hello Nairalanders!

Please i need mature advice only.


I and my girlfriend have been dating since 2015, she has always been supportive in everything and every business i do, thou we dont stay in same part of the country.

I have always told her i cannot settle for less and i cannot get married to a lady who cannot manage her resources and make do with what was available as i want the best for us. In 2016 we talked about setting up something for her to do so as to keep her busy and so i had to enrol her to catering school where she learnt baking n so many more. Fast farward to 2017 january, we planned in opening a shop for her, in july 2017 she got the quotation of roughly 700k for the shop opening the shop and buying Goods for the shop, In september 2017 i sent her 500k for her to commense with the opening of the shop but to my greatest suprise she never used the money for the purpose rather she used it in settling family issues. Its been a year now and i intend quitting the relationship because its not what i planned 4. Please i need matured advice. Sorry if my points re not clear enough.

highqueen:
Mtchew.
You are very stingy.
To even think that you spent months before sending the damn money after she helped you with your business and everything.
She has been supportive yet you still wanna wave that off by quitting.
Na your type deh tell their wives not to help their family members.
Mtchew

ramselly:
My Relationship Is Tearing Me Apart

Hello Nairalanders!

Please i need mature advice only.


I and my girlfriend have been dating since 2015, she has always been supportive in everything and every business i do, thou we dont stay in same part of the country.

I have always told her i cannot settle for less and i cannot get married to a lady who cannot manage her resources and make do with what was available as i want the best for us. In 2016 we talked about setting up something for her to do so as to keep her busy and so i had to enrol her to catering school where she learnt baking n so many more. Fast farward to 2017 january, we planned in opening a shop for her, in july 2017 she got the quotation of roughly 700k for the shop opening the shop and buying Goods for the shop, In september 2017 i sent her 500k for her to commense with the opening of the shop but to my greatest suprise she never used the money for the purpose rather she used it in settling family issues. Its been a year now and i intend quitting the relationship because its not what i planned 4. Please i need matured advice. Sorry if my points re not clear enough.

highqueen:
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Oyindidi:
Good girl

MhizzAJ:
Who is thos cocoNUT head above me.

How is she a useless girl.

Its not by force to be in a relationship

If you cannot cope with her , leave her alone.

Some men are very capable....they wont complain..
They wouldnt mind spending all their savings for her afterall shes your girlfriend.
Stingy man

Timtim007:
I am not an American ...I am just looking for who will borrowww me money for business...

Liliyann:
Your mates are spending more than that on their girl and you are here crying coz of 500k!!!

If you are truly in love with that girl, everything about her should come first!!
I can't date someone that doesn't have the welfare of my family at heart!!
So, you allowed her to use the money to settle family issues when you could have done it as her boyfriend!!

You are such a pathetic broke ass guy!
Free that girl so that she can be with someone that loves and value her!!

MODIFIED!!!
See dem broke ass niggas quoting me!!!
103 quotes in one post and still counting!!!
Its only the broke ones that wail coz of money!!
Real guys spend lavishly on their girl without crying online!!!

Timtim007:
I am not an American ...I am just looking for who will borrowww me money for business...

ogasharpsharp:
OP you know why I like you? Because your spirit man is strong, and it is this spirit man in you that is urging you to quit the relationship and run while you still can.

No matter how much I love a girl I can never drop up to 100k (even 50k, I don't give cash I rather spend) at once on her but you dropped a whopping 500k. Now, take a look at how the ladies on this thread are trying to trivialise that large sum of money, that's half a mil right there!

Trust me when I say most of them have never seen that amount of money in one go. Their account balance will testify. But they will tell you that "How much is even 500k sef?" Never encourage stùpidity in a woman because that is their default settings and it is your job as a man to correct that otherwise you bounce.

Investing money on a girl is like pouring water in a basket, it will never be enough. And these girls never have to make such sacrifices so they don't know what it takes and how it hurts when an agreement between two parties is reneged upon. Abi you no get family wey need half a mil? Abi you dey crase ni?

End the relationship as your spirit being is telling you, she will still do more as the relationship progresses, especially if she gets away with this criminal act of hers without any consequences. Yes, what she did is criminal but being a woman (synonym for stùpidity) she will try to shame and blame you for it (Baby you are not understanding, you don't really love me, etc).

A REAL man must always train his babe to know that for every transgression against him there will always be dire consequences otherwise see-finish will occur. Shalom!

PS - Never spend such money again on a woman unless she is your wife. They don't have sense!

MhizzAJ:
[s]Who is thos cocoNUT head above me.

How is she a useless girl.

Its not by force to be in a relationship

If you cannot cope with her , leave her alone.

Some men are very capable....they wont complain..
They wouldnt mind spending all their savings for her afterall shes your girlfriend.
Stingy man[/s]

Pureety:
[s]Op you said she used the money in settling family issues? Its not like she used it to go shopping for herself or on frivolous things!!

To her, family comes first, probably she didn't want to be selfish and use the money on herself while her family are in pressing need of money!!

If this is your reason for breaking up then you were never in love with that lady!!

56 mentions in a day!!!
You people should stop quoting me oo, I only said my mind!![/s]

Liliyann:
[s]Your mates are spending more than that on their girl and you are here crying coz of 500k!!!

If you are truly in love with that girl, everything about her should come first!!
I can't date someone that doesn't have the welfare of my family at heart!!
So, you allowed her to use the money to settle family issues when you could have done it as her boyfriend!!

You are such a pathetic broke ass guy!
Free that girl so that she can be with someone that loves and value her!!

MODIFIED!!!
See dem broke ass niggas quoting me!!!
103 quotes in one post and still counting!!!
Its only the broke ones that wail coz of money!!
Real guys spend lavishly on their girl without crying online!!![/s]

Tozara:
You're an irritating entity.

GOOD TO SEE POSTS FROM YOU AGAIN.

CAPSLOCKED:
GOOD TO SEE POSTS FROM YOU AGAIN.

MhizzAJ:
Na thier loss.
I day gidigba for here day laugh.
Nairaland is filled with so many useless and jobless guys....see the way d jobless ones have been mentioning me upandan......Make una go find work ooo.

damidam:
It is even more embarrassing to come across an human being that reasons the way you do ma'am. The poster u quoted was trying to preach independence amongst ladies and nothing more,someone that works "tirelessly" and "conscientiously " wouldn't spend a whole 500k on non value adding activities... haba 500k on family issues >: this mentality of yours is really what is misguiding