₦airaland Forum

vickydevoka:
Lol. How I wish I know u in personal, I would av asked u a couple of questions the type of business u want to venture into. In other words u don't borrow money from an online platform like this u rather ask for an assistance or help. If u say borrow u r telling de person dat doesn't know u in person he should have his fingers crossed which u might not eventually pay back.
U might not know the strength n weakness of the business until u venture into it. #Wat if the business fail how would u pay back? I need a reply

Maybe you were considering it...thanks..I got the money from nairaland..and i have ordered for my bags of crayfish.. There's a payment plan..and I intend to pay back every kobo..

I have no problem with you giving your gf a loan of 500k neither do I have a problem with her using it for family issues because I have no idea what kind of pressing family issues the money was used for.

However in my opinion its either
1: Manipulation from the family of your girlfriend
2:Extortion from your gf

I believe having dated for a while u might have met her parents before or at least talked to her parents or sibling on the phone prior to the loan,courtesy demands that the family of your gf ought to have at least call and thank u for the loan then ask for your consent to use some of the loan say half for pressing family issues and have a repayment plan even if it not feasible,the decision is your to either give them a go ahead,a disapproval or better still u might be blessed enough to cough out another loan to help them out,that's what I think a responsible family ought to do,a responsible family should ask questions about how their daughter who doesn't have a source of income was able to raise that amount I suppose,if she really used it for family I must confess that u have been really taken for granted and this is just the tip of the iceberg of what to come if u marry her,if they can do this to their daughters fiancee imagine what would be the fate of the husband.

I believe it could also be a total extortion from your gf and the business plan was just a front to get the loan from you and been that u live in different parts of the country,she might have other hidden agendas perhaps relationships she spent the loan on.

What is the solution?

Here is my opinion, find a microfinance bank in your vicinity,explain the situation of things to the manager and promise him 10% of 500k upon release of documents to u as if the 500k were to be a loan from the bank,tell her u have a confession to make and show her the documents from the bank showing in details the repayment plan with interests,her reaction to this will let u know exactly what to do.

500k which is about 1500 USD is a reasonable amount of money even in the states and even if u are to loose this relationship at least with some juice if u are able to recoup some of the loan.

Even Dangote will be mad at you if u misappropriate 500k of his business money as he would rather dash u 1m for charity then lose 500k on a business.

MhizzAJ:
Who is thos cocoNUT head above me.

How is she a useless girl.

Its not by force to be in a relationship

If you cannot cope with her , leave her alone.

Some men are very capable....they wont complain..
They wouldnt mind spending all their savings for her afterall shes your girlfriend.
Stingy man

You are a foolish person so after giving her 500k to start business but she failed to start it. that means he is stingy I pity ur parents because you are a bad investment I swear!

Liliyann:
Your mates are spending more than that on their girl and you are here crying coz of 500k!!!

If you are truly in love with that girl, everything about her should come first!!
I can't date someone that doesn't have the welfare of my family at heart!!
So, you allowed her to use the money to settle family issues when you could have done it as her boyfriend!!

You are such a pathetic broke ass guy!
Free that girl so that she can be with someone that loves and value her!!

MODIFIED!!!
See dem broke ass niggas quoting me!!!
103 quotes in one post and still counting!!!
Its only the broke ones that wail coz of money!!
Real guys spend lavishly on their girl without crying online!!!

Well it not your fault to type rubbish I blame your stupid guy that subscribed data for you akuya

placeofallure:
You know what? To justify the weight of a whopping #500k, the boyfriend should just get a gun, point it at her and take a shot!

I for shoot am if na u. Ewu

MhizzAJ:
Who is thos cocoNUT head above me.

How is she a useless girl.

Its not by force to be in a relationship

If you cannot cope with her , leave her alone.

Some men are very capable....they wont complain..
They wouldnt mind spending all their savings for her afterall shes your girlfriend.
Stingy man

You're a fool.

Funnicator:
I for shoot am if na u. Ewu

Sorry to disappoint you, it can't be me. I am financially independent and don't need the support of a man, check my previous posts on women and relying on men for their needs.

For the records, your ancestors, your generation and your entire clan, home and abroad are EWU!

Funnicator:
I for shoot am if na u. Ewu

Sorry to disappoint you, it can't be me. I am financially independent and don't need the support of a man, check my previous posts on women and relying on men for their needs.

For the records, your kith and kin, your ancestors, your generation and your entire clan, home and abroad are EWU!

placeofallure:
Sorry to disappoint you, it can't be me. I am financially independent and don't need the support of a man, check my previous posts on women and relying on men for their needs.

For the records, your kith and kin, your ancestors, your generation and your entire clan, home and abroad are EWU!

How your curse go help my life or destroy am?

Abeggi, ko kan ye..

Na guilty conscience deh make you use swear words, who get time to check your former posts.

MhizzAJ:
Who is thos cocoNUT head above me.

How is she a useless girl.

Its not by force to be in a relationship

If you cannot cope with her , leave her alone.

Some men are very capable....they wont complain..
They wouldnt mind spending all their savings for her afterall shes your girlfriend.
Stingy man

werey talk rubbish don't go hustle sit your ass and wait for men to do big tinz for you. Your mate are doing stripping jobs...

Funnicator:
How your curse go help my life or destroy am?

Abeggi, ko kan ye..

Na guilty conscience deh make you use swear words, who get time to check your former posts.

JAMB Question!
How is this a curse? You first used the 'Ewu' word. I am just telling you that : O le jere oro lara mi, Ko possible!

placeofallure:
JAMB Question!
How is this a curse? You first used the 'Ewu' word. I am just telling you that : O le jere oro lara mi, Ko possible!

Yoruba women and vulgarity

Funnicator:
Yoruba women and vulgarity

Myopic thinking. When people get paid in their own coin, they start to cry fowl, Mtcheeew!

Wisdom will not depart from you, very wise write-up

neyobills:
I have no problem with you giving your gf a loan of 500k neither do I have a problem with her using it for family issues because I have no idea what kind of pressing family issues the money was used for.

However in my opinion its either
1: Manipulation from the family of your girlfriend
2:Extortion from your gf

I believe having dated for a while u might have met her parents before or at least talked to her parents or sibling on the phone prior to the loan,courtesy demands that the family of your gf ought to have at least call and thank u for the loan then ask for your consent to use some of the loan say half for pressing family issues and have a repayment plan even if it not feasible,the decision is your to either give them a go ahead,a disapproval or better still u might be blessed enough to cough out another loan to help them out,that's what I think a responsible family ought to do,a responsible family should ask questions about how their daughter who doesn't have a source of income was able to raise that amount I suppose,if she really used it for family I must confess that u have been really taken for granted and this is just the tip of the iceberg of what to come if u marry her,if they can do this to their daughters fiancee imagine what would be the fate of the husband.

I believe it could also be a total extortion from your gf and the business plan was just a front to get the loan from you and been that u live in different parts of the country,she might have other hidden agendas perhaps relationships she spent the loan on.

What is the solution?

Here is my opinion, find a microfinance bank in your vicinity,explain the situation of things to the manager and promise him 10% of 500k upon release of documents to u as if the 500k were to be a loan from the bank,tell her u have a confession to make and show her the documents from the bank showing in details the repayment plan with interests,her reaction to this will let u know exactly what to do.

500k which is about 1500 USD is a reasonable amount of money even in the states and even if u are to loose this relationship at least with some juice if u are able to recoup some of the loan.

Even Dangote will be mad at you if u misappropriate 500k of his business money as he would rather dash u 1m for charity then lose 500k on a business.

More wisdom to you

placeofallure:
Myopic thinking. When people get paid in their own coin, they start to cry fowl, Mtcheeew!

Place of failure

Funnicator:
Place of failure

Go back to school Funnicator, it's place of allure.

placeofallure:
Go back to school Funnicator, it's place of allure.

Place of failure

I think what you fail to understand here is the issue of broken trust.

A woman was given money to invest into business;for her own good and she instead chose to spend it on family affairs. There's no problem here, but the problem lays on her poor communication skills.

When people abuse little opportunities, believe me when given a bigger role they'll not be any different. This lady definitely possessed the traits of mismanagement and betrayal.

Even if it doesn't have to do with money on the next ocassion, she definitely will betray this dude again. I'm of the school of thought that when people falter at smaller opportunities,when taken for granted and forgiven they'll do worse.

Funnicator:

Place of failure

I think what you fail to understand here is the issue of broken trust.

A woman was given money to invest into business;for her own good and she instead chose to spend it on family affairs. There's no problem here, but the problem lays on her poor communication skills.

When people abuse little opportunities, believe me when given a bigger role they'll not be any different. This lady definitely possessed the traits of mismanagement and betrayal.

Even if it doesn't have to do with money on the next ocassion, she definitely will betray this dude again. I'm of the school of thought that when people falter at smaller opportunities,when taken for granted and forgiven they'll do worse.

Before I say anything, it's place of allure. Look up the word in your dictionary.

placeofallure:
Before I say anything, it's place of allure. Look up the word in your dictionary.

Place of allure/attraction or something

I hope you're anything the name suggests

Funnicator:
Place of allure/attraction or something

I hope you're anything the name suggests

You're not serious.

placeofallure:
You're not serious.

On the contrary Darling.

I am.

Funnicator:

Place of failure

I think what you fail to understand here is the issue of broken trust.

A woman was given money to invest into business;for her own good and she instead chose to spend it on family affairs. There's no problem here, but the problem lays on her poor communication skills.

When people abuse little opportunities, believe me when given a bigger role they'll not be any different. This lady definitely possessed the traits of mismanagement and betrayal.

Even if it doesn't have to do with money on the next ocassion, she definitely will betray this dude again. I'm of the school of thought that when people falter at smaller opportunities,when taken for granted and forgiven they'll do worse.

According to the guy's fairytale, she's a first time offender. Why bring your private affairs to social media? She might have genuine reasons for spending the money really and Yes she ought to inform the man before dipping her hand into the money. Ultimately, I think he should just let go, there's no sacrifice too big to make for love. If he likes, he may not let her handle his money anymore, that's his call to make.

placeofallure:
According to the guy's fairytale, she's a first time offender. Why bring your private affairs to social media? She might have genuine reasons for spending the money really and Yes she ought to inform the man before dipping her hand into the money. Ultimately, I think he should just let go, there's no sacrifice too big to make for love. If he likes, he may not let her handle his money anymore, that's his call to make.

Do you really believe in love

Funnicator:
Do you really believe in love

Yeah! I do.

placeofallure:
Yeah! I do.

Why? Experiences like the OP's and those of others discourage lot of us from the union

I've had bitter experience too that took about a year to get over and boy am I scared of having such betrayal again.

Funnicator:
Why? Experiences like the OP's and those of others discourage lot of us from the union

I've had bitter experience too that took about a year to get over and boy am I scared of having such betrayal again.

Sorry. Did the girl scam you financially too or was it an emotional scam?

placeofallure:
Sorry. Did the girl scam you financially too or was it an emotional scam?

If it was a financial scam it would have been easier to forget

Funnicator:
If it was a financial scam it would have been easier to forget

Eeya, Pele

placeofallure:
Eeya, Pele

see you're married

I was already having an affair with you on my mind

Funnicator:
see you're married

I was already having an affair with you on my mind

Oh! I would've still told you anyway, conversation didn't warrant that yet. Dunno you're already getting ideas.

Mind you, how did you know? Someone has been doing FBI thingz obviously.

placeofallure:
Oh! I would've still told you anyway, conversation didn't warrant that yet. Dunno you're already getting ideas.

Mind you, how did you know? Someone has been doing FBI thingz obviously.

I'm intrigued by intelligent and independent women.

Your style of typing portrayed you as one who was smart; and along the line I was urged to confirm the financial independence you had once claimed on here to have, so I searched & bumped into one of your old posts that gave you away as a married chick with a handsome bachelor on her behind.

Funny enough it was this same sniffy attitude that led me to unravel the beginning of the end of my previous relationship.
I think I need to repent.