Guyman02:
Spare the rod and spoil the child is a biblical saying. Instil fear with a good koboko on the young one for disrespecting the elder. I like my Yoruba in-laws for that, they don't negotiate respect in the family, them go run pepper for your yansh you call it child abuse as a modern woman but see the damage they are doing to themselves

That's the only remedy.

The younger one need some corporal punishment to understand seniority.
Anything else is just a waste of time.

the only way you can have peace is to kill them both ���

they're still young and it's happens like that, whenever they fight ....... beat the elder one and tell him/her not to beat the little ones, if the little is mature he/she will respect you........ if they're still the same...... please separate them (Don't let them leave under the same roof) they'll miss each other...... that's what's my parents did for me and my sister too ...... we are now like a couple

kunleweb:



Trust me you're a boy. My first house girl is married with two kids. She cane into my family 5 years old. She's over 23 now. Have a nice day boy

Your first house girl? You should have said you are an expert at impregnating house girls. Joker.

Philpham:


Your first house girl? You should have said you are an expert at impregnating house girls. Joker.

If you come.up with constructive contribution I'll respond and take you serious. Have.a lovey.day

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OperaMini1:
Good day people.

IMy kids aged 8.5, and 6 years respectively, fight each other at the least provocation. They fight over who lies down where, who sits where in the car, who uses the toothpaste first, etc.

I came home yesterday and the elder (girl) had a bodily harm inflicted on her by the brother, and which is the second time she's getting a mark from him. As I write this now, they've been both grounded, since that yesterday, no watching of TV, no computer games, just sleep and wake up, eat and sleep again.

I'm not sure how long we'd do this, that's why I'm seeking suggestions on how to stop the fighting madness entirely, thanks.

Senioribus Prioribus.

Lionhearted:
They will be okay.

Instill discipline. Let them know there is something called seniority and being right and wrong.

Whenever they fight, ask from both of them what happened and discipline the erring one letting him or her know what she/he did wrong.

Growing up, our home was a battle ground throughout, and we love each other today. 5 boys.

You can’t really stop them and it has nothing to do with bad parenting
I fought my brother almost everyday for about 12 years just because he wanted to be called “Brother” which I disagree but now we are best friends
You just have to beat the Elder one anytime there is a fight between them there is no other solution
Focus On the Elder one

Are you a parent? This has nothing to do with bad parenting. Wrong thing to say.

kunleweb:
RJ Bad parentingparenting. Get them to work with one bother so they can develop.healthy bond. Absentee parental.Care causes this or when they o to different families for vacation. Spend more.time.wit them.expose.them.to the word.of God


Instill positive values correct negative values with love


Sow good seeds in their hearts. Instill sound morals and principles and tend the seed till maturity. Dont miss out helping them do their assignments and use that phase to pass sound principles

OperaMini1:
Good day people.

IMy kids aged 8.5, and 6 years respectively, fight each other at the least provocation. They fight over who lies down where, who sits where in the car, who uses the toothpaste first, etc.

I came home yesterday and the elder (girl) had a bodily harm inflicted on her by the brother, and which is the second time she's getting a mark from him. As I write this now, they've been both grounded, since that yesterday, no watching of TV, no computer games, just sleep and wake up, eat and sleep again.

I'm not sure how long we'd do this, that's why I'm seeking suggestions on how to stop the fighting madness entirely, thanks.

Let me guess, the younger one calls the elder one by first name? That's where you goofed. Do not underestimate the power of "brother" "sister" "aunty" etc. Tell the boy to start calling the elder sister "Aunty or Sister .......The way yorubas do it. It creates an awareness and brings about respect. Now it is not 100% accurate because if you have "okiris" as children, they will do whatever they want regardless. Try this and thank me later.

Try giving them series of task that they have to work together.

You have to make them believe the tasks are serious and should be taken as such.

One of the rules should be "No Quarrel"
They should also be timed and after each task, make them both understand that without the brother the sister wouldn't have achieved the result and let the sister also know that without the brother she would have failed.

I believe if you try such measure, things would change.

PS: I doubt your kids fight reach my brother and I.

By allowing them to fight even more. Once a winner is established, they will stop fighting.

They are kids .with time they'll get over it
But start counseling them
Another advice is serve their food together in one plates
Let them eat together

First off, where did they learn, to the point of it becoming a daily occurrence, that beating is the right thing to do to someone who hurts or wrongs you? You the parents? Do you beat them up or scold them, your spouse or maid or servants at the slightest provocation?

Somehow, I believe, someone within your household, has modeled to these young ones that fighting or beating another or psychological violence is the way to resolve conflict.

Train a child,, by example and instructions, in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.

OperaMini1:
Good day people.

IMy kids aged 8.5, and 6 years respectively, fight each other at the least provocation. They fight over who lies down where, who sits where in the car, who uses the toothpaste first, etc.

I came home yesterday and the elder (girl) had a bodily harm inflicted on her by the brother, and which is the second time she's getting a mark from him. As I write this now, they've been both grounded, since that yesterday, no watching of TV, no computer games, just sleep and wake up, eat and sleep again.

I'm not sure how long we'd do this, that's why I'm seeking suggestions on how to stop the fighting madness entirely, thanks.

Are you for real? They are kids. It's called sibling rivalry. I thought you were going to say they were of teen age. They are doing what most children do at that age especially when the gap in their ages is so small.

bettercreature:
You can’t really stop them and it has nothing to do with bad parenting
I fought my brother almost everyday for about 12 years just because he wanted to be called “Brother” which I disagree but now we are best friends
You just have to beat the Elder one anytime there is a fight between them there is no other solution

This is the kind of issue the OP has. Early enforcement prevents this. If you had been thought very early to call him brother, their would have been limited rebellion. He probably started asking for "brother" when you were already grown and in "rebellion" zone

Thank me later, it works

Op. You can't stop the kids from their stages of development. Fighting is part of it, maybe Anthony Joshua inspires one of them ... (na joke) ..just relax they 'll overgrown That, all you need to do is spank and let them know who's elder and how respect should be accorded . God bless your home ... I have one already, his stubbornness is even scaring me from touching my wife so another one won't enter yet

ippis:
Are you a parent? This has nothing to do with bad parenting. Wrong thing to say.

Trust.me.it is 100% bad parenting. Trained many. I've handled.different kind of kids even autistic kids. Lots of parents are present but not functional. Good seeds produces good fruit. Handling a seven year old at the.moment best in eight subjects second best in five. Never fights. Can sit down and read for three hours. She commands a presence,around kids she becomes a leader. Sir,I spent time on her. Precious time. 3-4hours daily for fivex years was the price I paid

OperaMini1:
Good day people.

IMy kids aged 8.5, and 6 years respectively, fight each other at the least provocation. They fight over who lies down where, who sits where in the car, who uses the toothpaste first, etc.

I came home yesterday and the elder (girl) had a bodily harm inflicted on her by the brother, and which is the second time she's getting a mark from him. As I write this now, they've been both grounded, since that yesterday, no watching of TV, no computer games, just sleep and wake up, eat and sleep again.

I'm not sure how long we'd do this, that's why I'm seeking suggestions on how to stop the fighting madness entirely, thanks.

ajebo mother wif ajebo kids. Dunno oo. If tose na pako u 4 kuku....

You started it and you should end it, I have kids with age range from 8-3,three boys and one girl,the girl is the first, the rule is that under no circumstances should the boys fight their big sister, we gave her some certain responsibility over her brothers,she is the one that shares goody goody among her siblings and she packs their snacks to school, the boys knows that when you are rude to her, she will give you small portions of whatever is being shared and at same time, whenever an item is damaged in the house (toy, TV remote,scratchings on the wall, etc),she alone will be held responsible, so it makes her to always on the lookout for culprits,as for fighting,at times under no circumstances should someone beat their siblings no matter the level of provocation(but boys naturally get wahalaa, guy live it, they will outgrow it I guess).



Modified :look out for the kind of cartoons they watch, they tend to exhibit violence whenever they watch pjmasks or power ranger (I mean my kids).So I noticed it,we stopped them watching them.

OperaMini1:
Good day people.

IMy kids aged 8.5, and 6 years respectively, fight each other at the least provocation. They fight over who lies down where, who sits where in the car, who uses the toothpaste first, etc.

I came home yesterday and the elder (girl) had a bodily harm inflicted on her by the brother, and which is the second time she's getting a mark from him. As I write this now, they've been both grounded, since that yesterday, no watching of TV, no computer games, just sleep and wake up, eat and sleep again.

I'm not sure how long we'd do this, that's why I'm seeking suggestions on how to stop the fighting madness entirely, thanks.

We're four men from my parents, no girl. But we've never fought each other for once. It starts with you, your handling of your kids. The younger one, can't talk back to the elderly, rather the issue should be reported to you, and you most be seen to be fair to both parties.

The day my last brother, got provoked by the third, the last one being tall and big, angrily wanted to fight the third, and my Mum got the call, on getting back, she started flogging the last one, for attempt to fight his big brother, instead of reporting him. They were both in the university as at that point.

My Mum has never talk back to my Mum, and hardly, will my Dad shout on her. I've seen my Dad quarrel with mine Mum twice in 35 years. They don't have friends outside themselves.

Humble the younger one by making him call his older one Aunty

Is better you separate them for now, maybe send one to your uncles house. And the other to your aunty' house, stay with one for a moment.

spend more time with the kid because bad parenting causes this.

chii8:
You started it and you should end it, I have kids with age range from 8-3,three boys and one girl,the girl is the first, the rule is that under no circumstances should the boys fight their big sister, we gave her some certain responsibility over her brothers,she is the one that shares goody goody among her siblings and she packs their snacks to school, the boys knows that when you are rude to her, she will give you small portions of whatever is being shared and at same time, whenever an item is damaged in the house (toy, TV remote,scratchings on the wall, etc),she alone will be held responsible, so it makes her to always on the lookout for culprits,as for fighting,at times under no circumstances should someone beat their siblings no matter the level of provocation(but boys naturally get wahalaa, guy live it, they will outgrow it I guess).

This is what we call a goal-targetted parenting. We'll done ma

Op, don't bother yourself so much about the fights but ensure you lead them aright and in the way of God. I and my elder brother fought so much while, in fact every blessed day while growing up and I hated him so much back then, but today we are besties though we don't stay together anymore which really helped.

You need to do more Op.You need to train your kids. Be present,spend time with them.Enforce discipline.Teach the younger ones to respect the elder.

Many people underestimate the mental, psychological and spiritual skills involved in bringing up children. It's a parent's greatest task and failure on this part is largely responsible for societal problems today.

Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child, yes, but how well is it managed? Some kids are more disciplined, well behaved and cleanliness conscious than others courtesy of their parents who pay attention to small details with wisdom and subtlety.

Be the big example in morality, principles, resolving disputes, cleanliness, keeping to time and your words. They'll cower and fear at your screams and obey your instructions. But they'll more naturally follow in your practical footsteps. Plus you need to be available to watch, observe, correct and teach more.

You are grounding Nigerian kids ...lol...better start flogging...

EbolaParasite:


This is the kind of issue the OP has. Early enforcement prevents this. If you had been thought very early to call him brother, their would have been limited rebellion. He probably started asking for "brother" when you were already grown and in "rebellion" zone

It wasn’t late we started fighting when I was around 3 years plus
The best is to create a level playing ground! Some children has big ego in their DNA they can not be stopped or forced to do anything
The Elder is the problem 99% of time, you must focus on the Elder one if you want to end the fight