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How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by OperaMini1(m): 2:03pm On Dec 08, 2018
Good day people.

IMy kids aged 8.5, and 6 years respectively, fight each other at the least provocation. They fight over who lies down where, who sits where in the car, who uses the toothpaste first, etc.

I came home yesterday and the elder (girl) had a bodily harm inflicted on her by the brother, and which is the second time she's getting a mark from him. As I write this now, they've been both grounded, since that yesterday, no watching of TV, no computer games, just sleep and wake up, eat and sleep again.

I'm not sure how long we'd do this, that's why I'm seeking suggestions on how to stop the fighting madness entirely, thanks.

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Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by kunleweb: 2:11pm On Dec 08, 2018
RJ Bad parentingparenting. Get them to work with one bother so they can develop.healthy bond. Absentee parental.Care causes this or when they o to different families for vacation. Spend more.time.wit them.expose.them.to the word.of God


Instill positive values correct negative values with love


Sow good seeds in their hearts. Instill sound morals and principles and tend the seed till maturity. Dont miss out helping them do their assignments and use that phase to pass sound principles

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Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by Nobody: 2:22pm On Dec 08, 2018
By beating!!

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Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by Nobody: 2:28pm On Dec 08, 2018
undecided



Op they are kids and its normal for them to fight.


I remembered growing up, me and my elder brother always fought.


Not once, not twice but everyday.


My dad always tied us up in a bench and gave us 24lashes.

But I'm all grown up, I can't even shout at him anymore.

It's called maturity.


So, don't worry, they'll over grow it.

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Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by momodub: 2:28pm On Dec 08, 2018
Talk to them

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Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by dollytino4real(f): 2:28pm On Dec 08, 2018
let them play their own role eldest then second follow by lastborn

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Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by Borntofuck: 2:28pm On Dec 08, 2018
Cut them their hands

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Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by jeff1607(m): 2:28pm On Dec 08, 2018
reason a father should play his role


let them understand who is the first born, even a girl (if she is the first born) should be respected and why they need to respect her , if the first child had been schooled about responsibility when they see her then go arrange.


make the Ada of the family stand tall,it's in your hands.


reason we choose our wives carefully


nothing makes a man more happy even on his dying bed knowing his wife can handle everything when he is gone.

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Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by wittyt98(m): 2:28pm On Dec 08, 2018
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Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by madridguy(m): 2:28pm On Dec 08, 2018
You start correcting your boy even if you need to spank him at times.

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Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by Oluhills007: 2:29pm On Dec 08, 2018
Well... You have to set rules of seniority...who gets somethings first I.e. the firstborn should use the toothpaste first like the scenario you painted above.. Teach the younger ones to respect the elder ones....Do not hesitate to use a little spanking for Whoever is wrong whenever they fight..

.also when they are arguing, if you have the time.. Listen to both sides and pass an impartial judgment.. It makes kids know their place..... But have it at the back of your mind that they will outgrow the behavior .....however try and manage them for now

For those saying use koboko... They probably don't have kids.... How many times will you beat the children.. Because children are always fighting amongst themselves.. Their own Fighting has to do with their level of maturity in letting some things go... Thus they will always fight... You just have to first establish that rule of seniority for peace to reign now

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Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by wittyt98(m): 2:29pm On Dec 08, 2018
jeff1607:
reason a father should play his role
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Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by Mmadu111: 2:29pm On Dec 08, 2018
Use good Cane to correct them, especially the younger one, he should learn to have some respect.

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Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by enitey(f): 2:29pm On Dec 08, 2018
Kids and fight
Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by Bossontop(m): 2:29pm On Dec 08, 2018
undecided
Jus buy one 4-mouth kobobo, hang it where they can all see and threaten them small.............no need to thank me later

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Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by theoldpretender(m): 2:29pm On Dec 08, 2018
OperaMini1:
Good day people.

IMy kids aged 8.5, and 6 years respectively, fight each other at the least provocation. They fight over who lies down where, who sits where in the car, who uses the toothpaste first, etc.

I came home yesterday and the elder (girl) had a bodily harm inflicted on her by the brother, and which is the second time she's getting a mark from him. As I write this now, they've been both grounded, since that yesterday, no watching of TV, no computer games, just sleep and wake up, eat and sleep again.

I'm not sure how long we'd do this, that's why I'm seeking suggestions on how to stop the fighting madness entirely, thanks.

Word of encouragement

It will soon pass.

Growing up, my siblings and I fought....but nowadays, we are the best of friends (even have a joint whatsapp group).

Thing is, kids fight...but so long as they love each other, the fighting is going to stop...

My brother and I used to fight each other well well...but as we grew older...we calmed down. I can still recall the guy hugging me when I came home from my first semester of 200level with a gift for him (just a CD of songs...yet he was happy as if I bought him a record player grin)

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Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by Samirana360(m): 2:30pm On Dec 08, 2018
hand them over to fSARS

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Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by JohnieWalker12(m): 2:30pm On Dec 08, 2018
Buy bulala. Or koboko grin

I miss the good old days of discipline

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Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by colbankz(m): 2:30pm On Dec 08, 2018
From my point of view i think u have to create a bond between them coz according to ur narration there's no bond between them and also u have to spend more time with them. Make them work as a team when carrying out house chores

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Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by MJBOLT: 2:30pm On Dec 08, 2018
go to the market,buy cane and flog sense into them

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Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by Elnino4ladies: 2:30pm On Dec 08, 2018
Beat them to stupor

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Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by Cumtroller: 2:30pm On Dec 08, 2018
Let them fight. It is survival of the fittest, this is evolution playing out.

I hope your younger child poisions the elder child so peace can reign in your household.

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Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by tgmservice: 2:30pm On Dec 08, 2018
This is d only way
The naija way

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Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by Yuceeluv(f): 2:30pm On Dec 08, 2018
grin you never see anything... They'll be okay...don't worry much...just be more disciplined with them...you sound like an indomie generation kinda mum who doesn't believe in beating.

...grounded grin grin in Nigeria abi?no be only grounded na floored.

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Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by scopusng(m): 2:30pm On Dec 08, 2018
No Xmas clothes.
Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by Olaposij(m): 2:31pm On Dec 08, 2018
Beat that first born for harming his younger ones.. make him responsible for the household. There needs to be a cascade of authority.. the younger ones should know who is in charge when adults are not around.. and they must obey whoever is in charge..
That will teach them leadership..

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Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by skillmyman(m): 2:31pm On Dec 08, 2018
Let them know that bodily harm is not acceptable no matter the provocation. Let the junior brother know that he is to protect her sister in watever circumstance and not fight with her. Start thinking of taking the older one to boarding house. It is called see finish. After first term of not being together, the bond will be there.

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Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by okwabayi(m): 2:31pm On Dec 08, 2018
They are only burning excess energy. Get them involved in sports. Swimming, soccer and running track are good examples. By the time they engage in those they'll become too tired to fight over anything.
When growing up I quickly recognised peers who indulged in athletic activities were always the most calm-headed. During our early teens when fighting was the quickest way to solve things they hardly engaged in such energy wasting activity. They were dedicated only to their sport.

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Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by Pavore9: 2:32pm On Dec 08, 2018
Is your relationship with your wife a positive model for them? Children are observant.

You and their mum, should sit down with them and make it known to them that you are not happy with the way they fight each other over everything.

Get them to do things together and get them to learn to take turns. They need to bond as siblings and if this is not nurtured during their formative years that hostility will carry into adulthood.

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Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by Philpham: 2:32pm On Dec 08, 2018
kunleweb:
RJ Bad parentingparenting. Get them to work with one bother so they can develop.healthy bond. Absentee parental.Care causes this or when they o to different families for vacation. Spend more.time.wit them.expose.them.to the word.of God


Instill positive values correct negative values with love

As you are quick in condemning others about bad parenting, tell us how old you are. Monkey

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Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by donnie(m): 2:32pm On Dec 08, 2018
Pray.

That's all Mum could do for my younger brother and I as nothing seemed to work. She even took our prayer point to Father Ede at Elele grin

God could also give you ideas that work.
Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by braine(m): 2:32pm On Dec 08, 2018
Borntofuck:
Cut them their hands

grin

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