Welcome, Guest: Register On Nairaland / LOGIN! / Trending / Recent / NewStats: 3,194,893 members, 7,956,365 topics. Date: Monday, 23 September 2024 at 10:42 AM |
Nairaland Forum / Nairaland / General / Family / How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? (21093 Views)
How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? / How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? / How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? (2) (3) (4)
(1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (Reply) (Go Down)
Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by Vtrd: 2:42pm On Dec 08, 2018 |
Guyman02:That's the only remedy. The younger one need some corporal punishment to understand seniority. Anything else is just a waste of time. 7 Likes |
Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by lancdoz: 2:42pm On Dec 08, 2018 |
the only way you can have peace is to kill them both
��� |
Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by Small080(m): 2:42pm On Dec 08, 2018 |
they're still young and it's happens like that, whenever they fight ....... beat the elder one and tell him/her not to beat the little ones, if the little is mature he/she will respect you........ if they're still the same...... please separate them (Don't let them leave under the same roof) they'll miss each other...... that's what's my parents did for me and my sister too ...... we are now like a couple |
Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by Nobody: 2:42pm On Dec 08, 2018 |
kunleweb: Your first house girl? You should have said you are an expert at impregnating house girls. Joker. 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by kunleweb: 2:44pm On Dec 08, 2018 |
Philpham: If you come.up with constructive contribution I'll respond and take you serious. Have.a lovey.day 5 Likes |
Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by LANDLORD72: 2:44pm On Dec 08, 2018 |
Please everyone on Nairaland i want you all to wishes my lovely son Cristiano a happy birthday his 7 years old today please hit Like for my Son And VOTE Atiku for President and share for Atiku Apc Fan please hit like for my cute boy too. 13 Likes
|
Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by Nobody: 2:45pm On Dec 08, 2018 |
OperaMini1: Senioribus Prioribus. |
Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by bettercreature(m): 2:46pm On Dec 08, 2018 |
Lionhearted:You can’t really stop them and it has nothing to do with bad parenting I fought my brother almost everyday for about 12 years just because he wanted to be called “Brother” which I disagree but now we are best friends You just have to beat the Elder one anytime there is a fight between them there is no other solution Focus On the Elder one 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by ippis: 2:46pm On Dec 08, 2018 |
Are you a parent? This has nothing to do with bad parenting. Wrong thing to say. kunleweb: 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by EbolaParasite: 2:46pm On Dec 08, 2018 |
OperaMini1: Let me guess, the younger one calls the elder one by first name? That's where you goofed. Do not underestimate the power of "brother" "sister" "aunty" etc. Tell the boy to start calling the elder sister "Aunty or Sister .......The way yorubas do it. It creates an awareness and brings about respect. Now it is not 100% accurate because if you have "okiris" as children, they will do whatever they want regardless. Try this and thank me later. 3 Likes |
Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by SmartMindsFx: 2:46pm On Dec 08, 2018 |
Try giving them series of task that they have to work together. You have to make them believe the tasks are serious and should be taken as such. One of the rules should be "No Quarrel" They should also be timed and after each task, make them both understand that without the brother the sister wouldn't have achieved the result and let the sister also know that without the brother she would have failed. I believe if you try such measure, things would change. PS: I doubt your kids fight reach my brother and I. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by CaptainFM1: 2:47pm On Dec 08, 2018 |
By allowing them to fight even more. Once a winner is established, they will stop fighting. |
Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by Kzea: 2:47pm On Dec 08, 2018 |
They are kids .with time they'll get over it But start counseling them Another advice is serve their food together in one plates Let them eat together |
Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by DeeMain(m): 2:47pm On Dec 08, 2018 |
First off, where did they learn, to the point of it becoming a daily occurrence, that beating is the right thing to do to someone who hurts or wrongs you? You the parents? Do you beat them up or scold them, your spouse or maid or servants at the slightest provocation? Somehow, I believe, someone within your household, has modeled to these young ones that fighting or beating another or psychological violence is the way to resolve conflict. Train a child,, by example and instructions, in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it. |
Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by pippimp(m): 2:48pm On Dec 08, 2018 |
OperaMini1: Are you for real? They are kids. It's called sibling rivalry. I thought you were going to say they were of teen age. They are doing what most children do at that age especially when the gap in their ages is so small. 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by EbolaParasite: 2:49pm On Dec 08, 2018 |
bettercreature: This is the kind of issue the OP has. Early enforcement prevents this. If you had been thought very early to call him brother, their would have been limited rebellion. He probably started asking for "brother" when you were already grown and in "rebellion" zone |
Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by justhenry(m): 2:49pm On Dec 08, 2018 |
Thank me later, it works 7 Likes
|
Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by Mutemenot(m): 2:49pm On Dec 08, 2018 |
Op. You can't stop the kids from their stages of development. Fighting is part of it, maybe Anthony Joshua inspires one of them ... (na joke) ..just relax they 'll overgrown That, all you need to do is spank and let them know who's elder and how respect should be accorded . God bless your home ... I have one already, his stubbornness is even scaring me from touching my wife so another one won't enter yet |
Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by kunleweb: 2:50pm On Dec 08, 2018 |
ippis: Trust.me.it is 100% bad parenting. Trained many. I've handled.different kind of kids even autistic kids. Lots of parents are present but not functional. Good seeds produces good fruit. Handling a seven year old at the.moment best in eight subjects second best in five. Never fights. Can sit down and read for three hours. She commands a presence,around kids she becomes a leader. Sir,I spent time on her. Precious time. 3-4hours daily for fivex years was the price I paid 4 Likes |
Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by Nobody: 2:50pm On Dec 08, 2018 |
OperaMini1:ajebo mother wif ajebo kids. Dunno oo. If tose na pako u 4 kuku....
|
Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by chii8(f): 2:50pm On Dec 08, 2018 |
You started it and you should end it, I have kids with age range from 8-3,three boys and one girl,the girl is the first, the rule is that under no circumstances should the boys fight their big sister, we gave her some certain responsibility over her brothers,she is the one that shares goody goody among her siblings and she packs their snacks to school, the boys knows that when you are rude to her, she will give you small portions of whatever is being shared and at same time, whenever an item is damaged in the house (toy, TV remote,scratchings on the wall, etc),she alone will be held responsible, so it makes her to always on the lookout for culprits,as for fighting,at times under no circumstances should someone beat their siblings no matter the level of provocation(but boys naturally get wahalaa, guy live it, they will outgrow it I guess). Modified :look out for the kind of cartoons they watch, they tend to exhibit violence whenever they watch pjmasks or power ranger (I mean my kids).So I noticed it,we stopped them watching them. 13 Likes |
Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by kernel001: 2:50pm On Dec 08, 2018 |
OperaMini1: We're four men from my parents, no girl. But we've never fought each other for once. It starts with you, your handling of your kids. The younger one, can't talk back to the elderly, rather the issue should be reported to you, and you most be seen to be fair to both parties. The day my last brother, got provoked by the third, the last one being tall and big, angrily wanted to fight the third, and my Mum got the call, on getting back, she started flogging the last one, for attempt to fight his big brother, instead of reporting him. They were both in the university as at that point. My Mum has never talk back to my Mum, and hardly, will my Dad shout on her. I've seen my Dad quarrel with mine Mum twice in 35 years. They don't have friends outside themselves. 5 Likes |
Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by Mizwisdom(f): 2:51pm On Dec 08, 2018 |
Humble the younger one by making him call his older one Aunty 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by Nobody: 2:51pm On Dec 08, 2018 |
Is better you separate them for now, maybe send one to your uncles house. And the other to your aunty' house, stay with one for a moment.
|
Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by Ghostmode2two(m): 2:52pm On Dec 08, 2018 |
spend more time with the kid because bad parenting causes this. |
Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by kunleweb: 2:53pm On Dec 08, 2018 |
chii8: This is what we call a goal-targetted parenting. We'll done ma 2 Likes |
Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by BecaciaBarbie(f): 2:54pm On Dec 08, 2018 |
Op, don't bother yourself so much about the fights but ensure you lead them aright and in the way of God. I and my elder brother fought so much while, in fact every blessed day while growing up and I hated him so much back then, but today we are besties though we don't stay together anymore which really helped. |
Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by thorpido(m): 2:54pm On Dec 08, 2018 |
You need to do more Op.You need to train your kids. Be present,spend time with them.Enforce discipline.Teach the younger ones to respect the elder. |
Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by Nobody: 2:55pm On Dec 08, 2018 |
Many people underestimate the mental, psychological and spiritual skills involved in bringing up children. It's a parent's greatest task and failure on this part is largely responsible for societal problems today. Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child, yes, but how well is it managed? Some kids are more disciplined, well behaved and cleanliness conscious than others courtesy of their parents who pay attention to small details with wisdom and subtlety. Be the big example in morality, principles, resolving disputes, cleanliness, keeping to time and your words. They'll cower and fear at your screams and obey your instructions. But they'll more naturally follow in your practical footsteps. Plus you need to be available to watch, observe, correct and teach more. 4 Likes |
Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by Nobody: 2:55pm On Dec 08, 2018 |
You are grounding Nigerian kids ...lol...better start flogging... |
Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by bettercreature(m): 2:57pm On Dec 08, 2018 |
EbolaParasite:It wasn’t late we started fighting when I was around 3 years plus The best is to create a level playing ground! Some children has big ego in their DNA they can not be stopped or forced to do anything The Elder is the problem 99% of time, you must focus on the Elder one if you want to end the fight |
(1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (Reply)
The Return Of The NL FAMILY SECTION DEACTIVATORS! / I Read My Sister"s Diary And She Is Planning To Commit Suicide / Nigeria: A Nation Of Wife-beaters?
(Go Up)
Sections: politics (1) business autos (1) jobs (1) career education (1) romance computers phones travel sports fashion health religion celebs tv-movies music-radio literature webmasters programming techmarket Links: (1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (8) (9) (10) Nairaland - Copyright © 2005 - 2024 Oluwaseun Osewa. All rights reserved. See How To Advertise. 55 |