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Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by Nobody: 11:21am On Dec 21, 2018 |
Slimynonny: Sometimes most mother hardly tell their children whom to marry and whom not to marry, becus e day backfire mostly wen lve don cloud the pikin eye, ,,,d pikin fit go tell e babe say my mama say make I kw marry u, ,,some kw get sense, ,,i don see tire |
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by thelish(f): 11:28am On Dec 21, 2018 |
MichaelBukamzy: I agree with u. Its not even proper. They should all come to a consensus |
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by thelish(f): 11:32am On Dec 21, 2018 |
1StopRudeness: The guy looks unstable. This is not d first time of changing d date, so to d lady n her family, they are being fooled. |
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by Nobody: 11:47am On Dec 21, 2018 |
Dogalmighty17: Why are u shifting the date? |
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by Eberechi24(f): 11:47am On Dec 21, 2018 |
Metrobaba1, read the comments and satisfy your curiosity. 1 Like |
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by duwdu: 11:48am On Dec 21, 2018 |
Dogalmighty17: Just to be sure I capture this original post in my profile. After all, the world is a small place. ........ P34c3 ..... ... |
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by Nobody: 11:55am On Dec 21, 2018 |
This is the main reason why ladies should never date for more than a year and men should not date when they are not ready for marriage. It is very simple. If after 6 months, the male you are dating is not talking about marriage,just move on to a serious and responsible person. Ladies, be wise. 1 Like |
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by MichaelBukamzy(m): 11:56am On Dec 21, 2018 |
thelish:yes,because it is obvious dude wanna marry her. 1 Like |
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by MarianaTrench: 12:00pm On Dec 21, 2018 |
Dogalmighty17: Your mother has seen that this marriage will not last and is trying to pass the message across but OP does not want to let go cos the girl's family is rich! 2 Likes |
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by HolyTitus(m): 12:03pm On Dec 21, 2018 |
Dogalmighty17:if i should backhand that your yamayama mouth for you ''my mom is not contributing a kobo''; keep allowing your strong-headed attitude and act of desperation to get married to someone whose family doesn't give a hoot about you give you the impression that your Mom is against your progress - i pray you don't learn the hard way, brother. Wetin elders see miles away whilst on seat; if pikin climb mast, he no go fit see ham. Ko lo yara e ni brain nsinyi - act according to your conscience now that the signs and symptoms are very glaring. You no go carry another man's rib-bone o. Ire o... 2 Likes |
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by Nobody: 12:05pm On Dec 21, 2018 |
excessmon: Those supporting the op are touts with so single training on how to head homes peacefully. last last, they will be distant fathers to many illegitimate children. The op will be a fool to follow their advice. 1 Like |
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by Nikkygold4life(f): 12:21pm On Dec 21, 2018 |
Op, congratulations! this is just a tip of the iceberg of your FLAWS against her FLAWS. You seem very soft hearted and indecisive while your lady seems very independent and assertive. A relationship ought to be complementary which can only be possible if the relationship is a balanced one. From your submission, I can deduce that your lady is highly irritated by your indecisiveness instead of working together with you to establish a common ground, you also are irritated by her assertiveness and independence, which you should have been working on during courtship and harness it to bring out the best in her. Sorry brother, I don't think any individual can really change a particular behavior based on promises, so you both cannot change except with total determination with the realization that marriage is work in itself. You get to make lots of decisions in marriage, this lady doesn't see that trait in you because women love to see their men above them such that they look up to them as role models. Your softness can however be maximized to a great advantage if only your lady sees it as a strength rather than a weakness. Op, I'm sure your lady will also have her own story to tell if given the opportunity. Sorry, you are not the dream guy your lady wants deep down in her heart, she is not crazy about you hence, her decision to break up with you after 3years! The disrespect and lack of submission are the signs and I'm sure she has seen her own signs too. Op, date is the least you sld be considering right now, what you sld consider is what kind of marriage do I want for myself. This chaos gives you you that window period to know whether or not to go ahead with the wedding. Where there is mutual love, respect, understanding, I tell u, there won't be chaos, if at all there is, your lady won't be a party to it. Think very well with your head and not your heart. 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by Nobody: 12:25pm On Dec 21, 2018 |
I advise you don't rush to please ur fiancee yet. Take ur time. Inasmuch as I don't support ur mother, except she has strong reasons for postponing ur wedding, I equally think that a good mother in law to be should advice you both to relax on the wedding thing since you both are having issues. I MY advice is that even if ur mom allows the wedding in February, still wait until you are comfortable with ur fiancee character. Your mom's wedding date rejection could be a way God wants u to study her the more. 1 Like |
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by PrimadonnaO(f): 12:43pm On Dec 21, 2018 |
OLAJADON: I started by advising him to walk away if he's nursing hopes that this un-submissive woman would change for the better. But if he has decided that it is her who he must marry, then he's got no choice but to stand by her. That's how leaving and cleaving works. Either he's in or out! |
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by PrimadonnaO(f): 12:46pm On Dec 21, 2018 |
Nikkygold4life: You're such a sensible woman! .@Dogalmighty17, come ponder on this. 1 Like |
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by maisauki: 12:49pm On Dec 21, 2018 |
Dogalmighty17:But she contributed evritin by at least givin birth to u and nt abortin u yrs ago... MAN UP AND NEVA PLACE UR MODA IN UR INLAW'S HANDS |
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by millionboi2: 1:07pm On Dec 21, 2018 |
IYANGBALI:I suspect say d gal na ur sister oooo U won give d shit out to op by all means. |
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by gram: 1:32pm On Dec 21, 2018 |
Mr. I see you are so concerned about the wedding that you are ignoring possible cracks in your union. You are laying the perfect foundation for a weak marriage - selling your dignity and respect to your fiancé’s family, negotiating with them over issues that you need to take control of. The way you are going, your negotiation journey has just begun. Let me ask you, are they paying for the wedding? The most important thing in marriage, my friend, is not what we do, it’s who we do it with. It’s okay for your fiancée to be upset about the shift in date, what is not okay is the threat to end the relationship. See, people/ families like that will threaten you will all they have - marriage or no marriage so expect to give in to many things along the way. No one can tell you what you do, but I’ve seen so many strong wonderful comments here that can help you to see what you’re getting into. Goodluck. |
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by Nikkygold4life(f): 1:51pm On Dec 21, 2018 |
PrimadonnaO: Thanks sis. 2 Likes |
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by malel1: 2:00pm On Dec 21, 2018 |
IamD18: I don’t see anything wrong with date shifting, but did u give them a solid reason for shifting it? pls be careful with the girls parents, they won’t make good in-laws, people that told there daughter to call of wedding because of date issue, look wella oo, my marriage broke because of my wife’s family be careful God just showed u something |
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by Acidosis(m): 2:02pm On Dec 21, 2018 |
If your reasons are reasonable, then there is no wrong in shifting wedding dates. It is a wedding date not a burial date. Only dead bodies need to be buried hurriedly. If you don't get married today, you can tomorrow as far as you both understand and trust each other. As per disrespect and assertiveness, stop expecting a total change. You cannot change a person's personality. She's probably a choleric, and would most likely show more dominant traits. Note, being assertive and dominant would also mean that men can't deceive her easily, her loyalty to you would be non-negotiable and absolute. So you see, for every personality trait, there are cons and pros. She also needs to understand that your being indecisive (sometimes) can help you take more calculated risks. An indecisive person is less likely to be scammed or, lied to. You're also less likely to fail and you would make a great analyst since you tend to view issues from different angles before drawing conclusions. People who take decisions without thinking make the greatest mistakes, and often times, the intention is to impress someone. While shifting dates may have been the best response to your observations, the right thing is to have allowed her key into your plans and thoughts, she needs some level of control man. You do this intelligently such that you give her the level of control, on your own terms. You don't owe her mother any discussion on wedding dates until you and your partner come to a firm agreement. If you had done the right thing, she would have acted like an evangelist by explaining reasons to her mother. Under this arrangement, na your woman go fight for you and stand in the gap. Take the above steps seriously and amend the issues. Your mom will come to terms when she begins to see changes in the way you both relate. Unless on spiritual or prophecy stuffs, nothing else will delay her from blessing your union. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by malel1: 2:02pm On Dec 21, 2018 |
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Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by Daeylar(f): 2:40pm On Dec 21, 2018 |
Dogalmighty17: After reading this, I think the girl and her family are right. She is better off without you and your family wahala They don't beg someone to marry, the person either wants to get married or he doesn't. they shouldn't have to drag you to set a date neither should they keep waiting for your mum to come down from her high tower and deign to see them to set a date. You and your mum should carry your marriage and go. Her family has been very accommodating but you and your mum are busy playing funny games. SMH 1 Like |
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by malel1: 3:24pm On Dec 21, 2018 |
konkacid: Nice comment. I used to think Na kids fool this forum. |
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by Nobody: 4:36pm On Dec 21, 2018 |
Bottom line is don't marry her. Let her break up with you and never go back to her at anytime at all. |
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by NiggasInParis: 5:31pm On Dec 21, 2018 |
Dogalmighty17: What sort of useless comment is this for Christ sake...You are such a kiddo for making this comment.. So what if your mom doesn't contribute any thing? So what? You really have some growing up and to do before getting married. Focus on that first. When you grow up, you will understand that you are the man and should be in charge, you will not be unstable in making decisions, you will not be easily controlled by your woman and her family and understand the importance of your mum and your own family so you don't make stupid comment like this again. Nonsense. |
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by babyfaceafrica: 6:41pm On Dec 21, 2018 |
koyyes:bad advise,,..so after six months she should keep moving on till she becomes evening newspaper abi......men will just keep dating her for six years and dump her!! |
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by babyfaceafrica: 6:48pm On Dec 21, 2018 |
Slimynonny:in sensible societies, both families choose date for marriages,not the.man or woman,..both parents!!!!.. 1 Like |
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by babyfaceafrica: 6:49pm On Dec 21, 2018 |
Slimynonny:ending the relationship is best for all..he will fins someone better and she will find someone who is ready and not shift dates! |
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by Nobody: 7:29pm On Dec 21, 2018 |
babyfaceafrica:You think everyone is like you. Keep deceiving yourself until you actually realise you are the evening newspaper with mould all over. |
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by babyfaceafrica: 7:31pm On Dec 21, 2018 |
koyyes:k |
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by Nobody: 7:35pm On Dec 21, 2018 |
Slimynonny: With no problem from the last 3years?? Are u sure u read the story?? |
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