Dyt:


oh well family members will sort it out
thats usually how it works

its his first time right?
its hard to forget sha

tough one
i wish you well.

i know how it hurts cos i have been there
that shitttt hurts deep down
it destroys everything
and then you start to fight on a weekly basis

i really do wish you can stay strong

I don't know if this is his first time, as I'm not sure if i know this man anymore. The way he initially denied with so much anger that i was beginning to think may be he truly didn't do it makes me conclude he's a pro at this. He only ran out of luck this time. I have been so gullible. I feel like beating myself up.

yettymuse:
The only part wey concern me is you covering up his financial loopholes and giving your own car to fly bike??. As in you actually swapped your own luxury for a marital supka... Stop eeeeeeettttttttt!!!!!!!!

Na love be this one too...I no fit abeg..

Dear Queens, make we dey camdan for this love thing o.. These men didn't come to play at all at all.

frustrated single mom talk!
What is wrong in a man driving his wife's car?
Please stay away from giving advice in marriage because you are clearly not good at it.if you were,you would have had a husband.

eniolorunfe:


Better! Since you have evidence and he has accepted, you have basically two options: To stay and resolve this or to walk.

Several women in similar situations have stayed and several have walked.

He who wears the shoes knows where it pinches the most, the ball lies in your court!

The advice that is given to the woman that wants to stay is different from the one given to the woman that wants to walk... Just saying...so you will know who to listen to...

This is what I am thinking - If we do stay together it will eat at me every day for the rest of my life. Things will never be the same again. I will never trust again and I will always be bitter about what he did. My head wants to explode right now. Human beings are wicked o.

I wish i could share some of the chats here. He was already calling her "baby", someone that calls me by my real name.

Gratefulaheart:
I just got whatsapp screnshots. I have a serial cheat on my hands. I just confronted him with the chat and now he's trying to guilt trip me. He said i caused it. I am so done!

Take a break.......
Travel for the new year to cool your head a bit cos with everything happening and the guilt tripping you may shoot or knife him.

I found out that people that loves deeply ends up getting hurt deeply. I have no business with love as I see marriage as a business contract. Cheat and be cheated on....the world continues.

ednut1:
I would never understand why pple and the society carry marriage matter for head. Divorce the man abeg. He is obviously a scumbag

abd tell your kids you divorced their father because of what?a one night stand?
So this coconut headed,selfish op,do you know what it means to deprive children of their father?i guess not.
Anyways,your life,your problem.

Gratefulaheart:

This is what I am thinking - If we do stay together it will eat at me every day for the rest of my life. Things will never be the same again. I will never trust again and I will always be bitter about what he did. My head wants to explode right now. Human beings are wicked o.

I wish i could share some of the chats here. He was already calling her "baby", someone that calls me by my real name.

Hey babe,calm down.You need to think well before you make whatever decision.Can you at least leave the environment first to cool your head and then think.

I said it earlier,cos if he claims you caused it,why not communicate?
Collect that car key first and let him trek to meet them.

Men !

Gratefulaheart:


I don't know if this is his first time, as I'm not sure if i know this man anymore. The way he initially denied with so much anger that i was beginning to think may be he truly didn't do it makes me conclude he's a pro at this. He only ran out of luck this time. I have been so gullible. I feel like beating myself up.

cry all you can
it will make you feel better

no you not gullible
dont take blames for his wrong doings

i cant tell you to walk away cos it will hurt more knowing he doesnt even show any act of being remorseful neither can i tell you to stay as you will be lost in the marriage

like i said its a tough one

stay and most likely detest his guts
walk away and even feel more terrible cos he might never look out for you (yeah might be an advantage if truly you are done, but you have lived together, loved him even at his worse, how do you expect to even be yourself 2days without him?)

nothing hurts more than having a partner who is so egoistic and thinks you cant ever leave him

Gratefulaheart:


He was already calling her "baby", someone that calls me by my real name.

smh
i bet he will be giving her your money too

funny thing is these men will come back home when the street has dealt with them
leaving the wives to take it all
terrible

nwanneni:
frustrated single mom talk!
What is wrong in a man driving his wife's car?
Please stay away from giving advice in marriage because you are clearly not good at it.if you were,you would have had a husband.

for the sake of the end of 2018, let me set the record straight for you silly morafucker with swollen testicles. I see how much you desire my attention on Nl with double sides spittle spewing gibberish about how singled a mother I am...

I know how miserable all your older siblings have been frustrated to SETTLE.. Boy! I'm not your regular single mother!
I OWN 2 houses and an ongoing building project SINGLE-HANDEDLY!

I successfully run 3 businesses SINGLEHANDEDLY and would give your fake ass a run.
Wherever I stroll in and call the shot in lagos city, your balls and sweat can't give way.

With these few points of mine, your married sisters wouldn't mind trading their Mrs title for my SINGLE MOTHERLY ACHIEVEMENTS.

while you savor my list of accomplishments(All done and dusted at 28!), don't forget to boost and double your dose of
Vitamin C, letrozole, fenugreek and enough water to boost your male spermatozoa. Mention me again when you're able to crash an egg!

nwanneni:
abd tell your kids you divorced their father because of what?a one night stand?
So this coconut headed,selfish op,do you know what it means to deprive children of their father?i guess not.
Anyways,your life,your problem.

so divorce means depriving ur kids the father lol. He is broke and chasing after a woman. I am currently in my father's house for xmas opposite us is a man's grave and his wife . Both Died around 2003. From Aids. D man was a chronic cheat.

yettymuse:
for the sake of the end of 2018, let me set the record straight for you silly morafucker with swollen testicles. I see how much you desire my attention on Nl with double sides spittle spewing gibberish about how singled a mother I am...

I know how miserable all your older siblings have been frustrated to settle.. Boy! I'm not your regular single mother!
I OWN 2 houses and an ongoing building project SINGLE-HANDEDLY!

I successfully run 3 businesses SINGLEHANDEDLY and would give your fake ass a run.
Wherever I stroll in and call the shot in lagos city, your balls and sweat can't give way.

With these few points of mine, your married sisters wouldn't mind trading their Mrs title for my SINGLE MOTHERLY ACHIEVEMENTS.

while you savor my list of accomplishments, don't forget to boost and double your dose of
Vitamin C, letrozole, fenugreek and enough water to boost your male spermatozoa. Mention me again when you're able to crash an egg!

ok first,i will start with myself.
1)i have a multimillionaire mother,hence grew in affluence
2)i am educated,well travelled,own a very giant property(1) in a 800sqm piece of land.
2)own 2 mercedes benz vehicles and a yaris.(sold one of my benz off due to lack of proper technicians to fix it.
3)i have 4 sisters
I an anaesthociologist in Canada who is far richer,pretty and educated than you.guess what?i am to pick his fiance up at the airport today at 9pm.
She respects him so much for who he is
2 of my sisters are married,one to a billionaire and the other to a millionaire.living like what you can only dream of.
I also have one wayward,singlemom sister just like you.
I have 2 brothers running succesful businesses worth millions of naira.
I am an importer,a very young man too.
I really don't think you are worth the money i keep in high end wines in my cellar.
Do not spread your bitterness to unsuspecting victims ok?die alone with your ideas.
Poverty stricken bastard.
I looked you up and saw how you celebrated buying a toyota matrix really?lol.poor,minimum wage,gutter pig.
You run 3 businesses means what?i have just one whose profits might yield your capital in the 3 in no time.
Enjoy your slum while it lasts,gutter fowl

nwanneni:
ok first,i will start with myself.
1)i have a multimillionaire mother,hence grew in affluence
2)i am educated,well travelled,own a very giant property(1) in a 800sqm piece of land.
2)own 2 mercedes benz vehicles and a yaris.(sold one of my benz off due to lack of proper technicians to fix it.
3)i have 4 sisters
I an anaesthociologist in Canada who is far richer,pretty and educated than you.guess what?i am to pick his fiance up today at 9pm.
She respects him so much for who he is
2 of my sisters are married,one to a billionaire and the other to a millionaire.living like what you can only dream of.
I also have one wayward,singlemom sister just like you.
I have 2 brothers running succesful businesses worth millions of naira.
I am an importer,a very young man too.
I really don't think you are worth the money i keep in high end wines in my cellar.
Do not spread your bitterness to unsuspecting victims ok?die alone with your ideas.
Poverty stricken bastard.
I looked you up and saw how you celebrated buying a toyota matrix really?lol.poor,minimum wage,gutter pig.
You run 3 businesses means what?i have just one whose profits might yield your capital in the 3 in no time.
Enjoy your slum while it lasts,gutter fowl

dude just go and sit down she flawed you 100% You men think you can bully a single mother but this babe shocked you, just be a man and move on. Your post on nairaland is full of yourself and your mouth achievements stop embarrassing men please

Adesuwag:
dude just go and sit down she flawed you 100% You men think you can bully a single mother but this babe shocked you, just be a man and move on. Your post on nairaland is full of yourself and your mouth achievements stop embarrassing men please

your opinion means absolutely nothing to me,thanks

yettymuse:
The only part wey concern me is you covering up his financial loopholes and giving your own car to fly bike??. As in you actually swapped your own luxury for a marital supka... Stop eeeeeeettttttttt!!!!!!!!

Na love be this one too...I no fit abeg..

Dear Queens, make we dey camdan for this love thing o.. These men didn't come to play at all at all.

OMG! Yetunde, i just took a second look at you peofile name. it's me. You introduced me to Mr Tunde. It's the same car they are using to carry women all around Lagos o. Egbami ke

nwanneni:
[s]ok first,i will start with myself.
1)i have a multimillionaire mother,hence grew in affluence
2)i am educated,well travelled,own a very giant property(1) in a 800sqm piece of land.
2)own 2 mercedes benz vehicles and a yaris.(sold one of my benz off due to lack of proper technicians to fix it.
3)i have 4 sisters
I an anaesthociologist in Canada who is far richer,pretty and educated than you.guess what?i am to pick his fiance up at the airport today at 9pm.
She respects him so much for who he is
2 of my sisters are married,one to a billionaire and the other to a millionaire.living like what you can only dream of.
I also have one wayward,singlemom sister just like you.
I have 2 brothers running succesful businesses worth millions of naira.
I am an importer,a very young man too.
I really don't think you are worth the money i keep in high end wines in my cellar.
Do not spread your bitterness to unsuspecting victims ok?die alone with your ideas.
Poverty stricken bastard.
I looked you up and saw how you celebrated buying a toyota matrix really?lol.poor,minimum wage,gutter pig.
You run 3 businesses means what?i have just one whose profits might yield your capital in the 3 in no time.
Enjoy your slum while it lasts,gutter fowl[/s]

To the thrash!

Gratefulaheart:
OMG! Yetunde, i just took a second look at you peofile name. it's me. You introduced me to Mr Tunde. It's the same car they are using to carry women all around Lagos o. Egbami ke

Awwwww... Omg!!!!!I remembered!!!! I'm so sorry darling . Kai!

Oyindidi:
I cook

you cook onunu

Make I come now

Gratefulaheart:

This is what I am thinking - If we do stay together it will eat at me every day for the rest of my life. Things will never be the same again. I will never trust again and I will always be bitter about what he did. My head wants to explode right now. Human beings are wicked o.

I wish i could share some of the chats here. He was already calling her "baby", someone that calls me by my real name.

Try as much as you can to calm down and think things through. If you think your best option is to walk out, just try not to make things messy than it is for the sake of the children. If you want to stay, I suggest counseling for you both.

robosky02:
you cook onunu

Make I come now

Na watin dey hungry me today.

yettymuse:
for the sake of the end of 2018, let me set the record straight for you silly morafucker with swollen testicles. I see how much you desire my attention on Nl with double sides spittle spewing gibberish about how singled a mother I am...

I know how miserable all your older siblings have been frustrated to SETTLE.. Boy! I'm not your regular single mother!
I OWN 2 houses and an ongoing building project SINGLE-HANDEDLY!

I successfully run 3 businesses SINGLEHANDEDLY and would give your fake ass a run.
Wherever I stroll in and call the shot in lagos city, your balls and sweat can't give way.

With these few points of mine, your married sisters wouldn't mind trading their Mrs title for my SINGLE MOTHERLY ACHIEVEMENTS.

while you savor my list of accomplishments(All done and dusted at 28!), don't forget to boost and double your dose of
Vitamin C, letrozole, fenugreek and enough water to boost your male spermatozoa. Mention me again when you're able to crash an egg!

JEEZ! WTF

Saffi:
I think before marriage one has to mentally prepare themselves for the worst scenarios possible. Not like you’re expecting them to do something bad, but just understanding that human beings are flawed, nobody will reach your expectations 100% and preparing your mind for extreme disappointment. So when the storm comes, you’re not a train wreck and you won’t allow any human being to make you mentally ill/insane.

Anyways you won’t find your answer here, clearly you guys are having communication issues as your husband is refusing to confess or be transparent. I honestly think you guys need marriage counselling as there could be underlying issues that we do not know about that’s causing issues in your marriage. Try not to get too much family involved as it will make matters worse, they can be very biased and toxic. Don’t make decisions out of anger and take good care of yourself mentally and physically. Prioritise your children and give yourself peace of mind. Understand that when someone cheats on you, most times you are not the issue. So don’t beat yourself up or blame yourself just yet. You will be fine, and I believe you will get your answers through counselling. Love yourself first before anybody.

Best I have read here.

ednut1:
so divorce means depriving ur kids the father lol. He is broke and chasing after a woman. I am currently in my father's house for xmas opposite us is a man's grave and his wife . Both Died around 2003. From Aids. D man was a chronic cheat.

so if your wife cheats,the only thing you can do is divorce her?
A woman you really love and who has loving kids for you.
And also,say you cheat(mistakenly) and your wife finds out,would you expect divorce straight away?
Answer this truthfully please.

Gratefulaheart.
This is my advice for you;
You can be mad at him,don't talk to him and all.
He may come back to his senses and apologise and fix things.do not go the divorce way.
Life as a single parent is not easy(i am not talking about money).emotionally for you and the kids and also societal pressure.
There are so many things i will want to tell you but i just can't type all here.
If you feel like you want to talk to someone,feel free to pm me and i will give you a call.
There is nothing as sweet as family,i know what i am saying

nwanneni:
ok first,i will start with myself.
1)i have a multimillionaire mother,hence grew in affluence
2)i am educated,well travelled,own a very giant property(1) in a 800sqm piece of land.
2)own 2 mercedes benz vehicles and a yaris.(sold one of my benz off due to lack of proper technicians to fix it.
3)i have 4 sisters
I an anaesthociologist in Canada who is far richer,pretty and educated than you.guess what?i am to pick his fiance up at the airport today at 9pm.
She respects him so much for who he is
2 of my sisters are married,one to a billionaire and the other to a millionaire.living like what you can only dream of.
I also have one wayward,singlemom sister just like you.
I have 2 brothers running succesful businesses worth millions of naira.
I am an importer,a very young man too.
I really don't think you are worth the money i keep in high end wines in my cellar.
Do not spread your bitterness to unsuspecting victims ok?die alone with your ideas.
Poverty stricken bastard.
I looked you up and saw how you celebrated buying a toyota matrix really?lol.poor,minimum wage,gutter pig.
You run 3 businesses means what?i have just one whose profits might yield your capital in the 3 in no time.
Enjoy your slum while it lasts,gutter fowl

Oya make you dash me Christmas money na make I take see front... I am nobody, I run nobody business, I have nobody sister and brother, I have nobody's money in my account. I have no level like you and I didn't even flex in xmas day. Just stuck on nairaland enjoying topics like this. Please regard me now. Make I quickly drop my account for somebody because I repeat, I am nobody... Abeg boss, look my side , I am nobody. 4401099802. Eco bank. Terry James. Abeg boss. Press the transfer button to nobody like me and make me to be somebody for a few days. Thank you so much boss.

Gratefulaheart:
Thank you for the advice. I just can't stop wondering why I wasn't enough for him. Yes things got a bit stressful sometimes, we have busy lives and young children, there has been arguments but we still had nice times and a healthy, good sex life. I'm one minute sobbing, then so angry.

He's still denying! He woke me up during the night and said we should talk. I ignored him and then he started his sob story that the lady is lying against him. I am more upset about the fact that he's taking me for a fool.

This is a man that is in a messy financial situation for the past months and barely meeting his financial responsibility in the home. I have been covering up in the home front. He sold off his car in June and have been driving mine (i bought with my money) around while i hop on bikes. He obviously was using my car to take another woman to a hotel and he still doesn't feel an iota of guilt about it.

I am in a very tight corner and i can't think straight right now. All I can think about is our kids and how I don't want to deny them the right to grow up with their father. But i certainly can't continue in this marriage if he doesn't even respect me enough to admit what he did.

Now imma tell you a story but before I do, I want you to erase the thoughts of getting a divorce from your heads. Forget all this people giving you advises on NL, you can't take advises from someone or people who hasn't been affected by the outcome. He's your husband, that is your home, and those are your kids. No matter the circumstances, you have an important role to play in your husband's life and your kids. I have experienced this but i was shocked by the outcome. I am not going to tell you about the incident, that is going to be a story for another day. Here is what I think you should do. Get your self dressed, look beautiful, I know you are pretty. Go out alone without your wedding ring, to a very secluded place, like a garden, a beach or somewhere with privacy, order yourself the most expensive wine or champagne. Feel relax Call him ( husband) to meet you up there. Breath in fresh air and be happy, do not give him a reason to see you sad. Tell him you've forgiven him, but he should give you a valid reason for cheating. Do not argue, do not complain, do not push things further. Have a good time, go home. If you want to make love, its your choice but remember, feel free and free your mind. I swear to God, your husband will be scared of what you will do next. Because you did the opposite of what you've done, crying and sobbing. Get loosed and turn the table around. Switch sides and be happy. Madam, try what I just said and trust me, you will be happy. Your action become unpredictable, which will make him to second guess your every move. Please do not go through his phone again. Ask him next time and keep your findings to yourself. When someone knows or predict your every moves, you become a JOKE. Happy Boxing Day.

Oyindidi:
Na watin dey hungry me today.

so watin u come dey wait for abeg arrange make I come over

robosky02:
so watin u come dey wait for abeg arrange make I come over

The dust dey make me sick, I go prepare am tomorrow

Oyindidi:
The dust dey make me sick, I go prepare am tomorrow

are you serouse make I show

I dey town ohh

robosky02:
are you serouse make I show

I dey town ohh

Now? Na bed I dey so, I go soon sleep. Watin you come do for town?