Abegi

Awon oloriburuku of a somebody be dis ooo Of course we know where una type come from... Land of the rising sun..

And you dey wonder why men no go fit marry pple like you Instead of doing the basic things like...being homely, submissive and humble, you go dey go church dey pray for husband upandan.

Olofo! [/quote]

olo2gbenga:
The Bible says a man shall leave his father and his mother and cling to his wife and they twain shall become one flesh. Don't enslave the girl to wash for your mother o. Get your mother a maid / washing machine to do her washing. The first response has all the answers you need...Good luck!

thank you jare...you are indeed wise

And to add to what he has put down, all those shouting with holy rage, I have a question:
Do you still wash your mummy/daddy's clothes? Or do you pass the task to a younger one, washerman/woman, maid, dry cleaner?
Be truthful o
When was the last time your mom/dad, elderly one sent you an errand and did not grumble?
Hmmm...answer truthfully o

UyaiIncomparabl:
It's not right. Is she your maid? Is your mum so old and frail or doesn't have a daughter(s) to do them for her? If your mum needs help with the laundry(ies), please get her a washing machine.

That isn't a way to define a wife material, which in actuality, your fiancée is trying too hard to please and prove to you. Some girls and desperation are inseparable. I read your former thread, you were so incoherent, unwilling to adhere to people's advice and here you are again, fidgeting and pleading for us to give you another? For what? For you to perhaps chose a comment which best suits your interest and myopic/faulty thinking.

Simple, get your mother a maid or a washing machine, and of course I expect you also teach her how to use it. Don't stress someone else's daughter, and please, get a frigging life!

You're too egotistical. And errr, she's not your wife yet. Still a fiancée. She owes you or your immediate family no homely rights. You leave the important things undone and tend to the minute ones which are utmost inconsequential. Even if she eventually becomes your wife, she still owes no RIGHT. Grab that!

Fool

Yewandequeen:
It is a bad thing to not wash for your husband mother when applicable. She is also your second mother whether you kike it or not.

God bless u dear ur hubby and mum in law are lucky to get a girl like you

jakandeola:
in dat blog I said something u are a woman u will be mother in law soon if u visit ur son will u wished she cook for you or go buy food from outside for u. I have a reason why I stayed in same street

I'm a man Mr man!
It's not mandatory for her to do that.YES!she may volunteer to do it if she feels your mom is sick or she comes visiting and sees unwashed clothes.BUT for you/ mom to DEMAND that as her role is WRONG!!!

Khallyella:
This man again, the mature comment you crave for is right after your post, but I'll ask you, is it a bad thing to wash for your wife's dad?

Fool

nkwuocha:


It doesn't work that way Bros.
You may not wash your in laws clothes,but your wife can wash VOLUNTARILY.The problem I have with the OP is that he thinks it's mandatory.NO!

Yeah I agree, she might do it occasionally, once in a while, but neither I nor my mum can make it a mandatory deal for my wife...... No way.

LordCenturion:
OK, if you are confused and you don't know what to do,then I think it's very bad. Before, I was 53% scared to get married, but now it 97%, ladies of 21st century really amazed me..

The alleged 97% by you don't want to because many families don't try their daughter in-law well

barbietosin:
Abegi

Awon oloriburuku of a somebody be dis ooo Of course we know where una type come from... Land of the rising sun..

And you dey wonder why men no go fit marry pple like you Instead of doing the basic things like...being homely, submissive and humble, you go dey go church dey pray for husband upandan.

Olofo!

God bless u dear

rockyh:
God bless you. It's ur duty if she's around whether she's sick or not, you are to wash for her cos a wise mother-in-law will join u in washing her clothes once u say u want to do that cos she's another mom to u

Even if she doesn't hand wash them personally, she can arrange for it to be taken care of either by a washer man or woman. I understand that some people actually dread handwashing but will only wash via a washing machine while some love it a lot.

There's no problem without a solution.

nkwuocha:


The op said he is rich.I read his first thread concerning this issue.If he can afford a washing machine,why then is he having this problem?Again I think he said something like he wants to stay on same street with the mother and wife, na!That's not being fair to the wife.

.. Except his wife and mother are having issues,if not,there's nothing wrong in staying in the same street with the mother. The wife should bring herself down and sort out her differences with his mum. Its like most ladies are forgetting they will be mother in-laws to other people someday ?My wife's family stays in my street, did that make me a lesser man?.

nkwuocha:


I'm a man Mr man!
It's not mandatory for her to do that.YES!she may volunteer to do it if she feels your mom is sick or she comes visiting and sees unwashed clothes.BUT for you/ mom to DEMAND that as her role is WRONG!!!

I pray u dont get a wife dat disrespect u or ur mum I wish ur mum can see what you are put here if she wont put hand on her chest and weep. because you are wrong here

sacramento1212:


Very good of you. May God bless you with a good man.

I am married to a wonderful man and my mother in law lives with me. Sometimes I wonder at the way some people talk so badly of their M-I-L

UyaiIncomparabl:
It's not right. Is she your maid? Is your mum so old and frail or doesn't have a daughter(s) to do them for her? If your mum needs help with the laundry(ies), please get her a washing machine.

That isn't a way to define a wife material, which in actuality, your fiancée is trying too hard to please and prove to you. Some girls and desperation are inseparable. I read your former thread, you were so incoherent, unwilling to adhere to people's advice and here you are again, fidgeting and pleading for us to give you another? For what? For you to perhaps chose a comment which best suits your interest and myopic/faulty thinking.

Simple, get your mother a maid or a washing machine, and of course I expect you also teach her how to use it. Don't stress someone else's daughter, and please, get a frigging life!

You're too egotistical. And errr, she's not your wife yet. Still a fiancée. She owes you or your immediate family no homely rights. You leave the important things undone and tend to the minute ones which are utmost inconsequential. Even if she eventually becomes your wife, she still owes no RIGHT. Grab that!

olo2gbenga:
The Bible says a man shall leave his father and his mother and cling to his wife and they twain shall become one flesh. Don't enslave the girl to wash for your mother o. Get your mother a maid / washing machine to do her washing. The first response has all the answers you need...Good luck!

You lack wisdom, knowledge and understanding

nkwuocha:


I'm a man Mr man!
It's not mandatory for her to do that.YES!she may volunteer to do it if she feels your mom is sick or she comes visiting and sees unwashed clothes.BUT for you/ mom to DEMAND that as her role is WRONG!!!

I pray u dont get a wife dat disrespect u or ur mum I wish ur mum can see what you are put here if she wont put hand on her chest and weep. because you are wrong here

UyaiIncomparabl:
It's not right. Is she your maid? Is your mum so old and frail or doesn't have a daughter(s) to do them for her? If your mum needs help with the laundry(ies), please get her a washing machine.

That isn't a way to define a wife material, which in actuality, your fiancée is trying too hard to please and prove to you. Some girls and desperation are inseparable. I read your former thread, you were so incoherent, unwilling to adhere to people's advice and here you are again, fidgeting and pleading for us to give you another? For what? For you to perhaps chose a comment which best suits your interest and myopic/faulty thinking.

Simple, get your mother a maid or a washing machine, and of course I expect you also teach her how to use it. Don't stress someone else's daughter, and please, get a frigging life!

You're too egotistical. And errr, she's not your wife yet. Still a fiancée. She owes you or your immediate family no homely rights. You leave the important things undone and tend to the minute ones which are utmost inconsequential. Even if she eventually becomes your wife, she still owes no RIGHT. Grab that!

but u will be very happy if she goes to the market buys food items n make a meal for the whole family even when u are around just for u to take off some time to rest. If u ask me I see no wrong in washing for ur mom in law once there's a bonding between u n the mom in law

Treasuredlove:
thank you jare...you are indeed wise

And to add to what he has put down, all those shouting with holy rage, I have a question:
Do you still wash your mummy/daddy's clothes? Or do you pass the task to a younger one, washerman/woman, maid, dry cleaner?
Be truthful o
When was the last time your mom/dad, elderly one sent you an errand and did not grumble?
Hmmm...answer truthfully o

This is wrong.Even my elder brother still wash my parents clothes TILL DATE!Despite there's a washing machine.I do same too if I come around.Sometimes they demand that it should be washed,and you can't just say NO to your mom because father's usually use laundry services.

Mac12:


I am married and my mother in law lives with me

Then with the kind of mentality and understanding that you have, you won't have a problem in your matrimonial home. May God continue to sustain your home.

jakandeola:

I pray u dont get a wife dat disrespect u or ur mum I wish ur mum can see what you are put here if she wont put hand on her chest and weep. because you are wrong here

Lol.Adeola,you're marrying a wife and not a slave.Come on,I'm not against it,my only argument here is it shouldn't be mandatory.Already you want to live on same street with your wife and mother.Haba!If washing of clothes can create this confusion,that means you are planning to die before your time.

Glowreey:


Pls go through the OP's thread about his girlfriend's mother frustrating him, I'm sure you will understand the reason for her response..


https://www.nairaland.com/4898963/girl-mother-frustrating-me

I humbly retraced my comment , donno op issa sisy

Sorry to the person i quoted , he deserve more than you gave him .

jakandeola:
when u marry dont cook or wash for mum in law and see if dey wont chase u away

you can chase yours away if she refuses and see who will regret......rubbish, did u marry her for yourself or your Family
mtchewwwww

olo2gbenga:
The Bible says a man shall leave his father and his mother and cling to his wife and they twain shall become one flesh. Don't enslave the girl to wash for your mother o. Get your mother a maid / washing machine to do her washing. The first response has all the answers you need...Good luck!

so ur sis cant do work for her mum? I sware u are not making sence. I want my wife to see my mum as her mother and my mum to see her too. dere is nothing wrong Sir did u know it will make relationship and love to be closer than mother in law and daughter in law fighting all the time. why dont u tell ur wife not to cook for mum, that she buy food for her. or your mum wash plate because u don't want to enslave ur wife. you be man act like one

JONNYSPUTE:
.. Except his wife and mother are having issues,if not,there's nothing wrong in staying in the same street with the mother. The wife should bring herself down and sort out her differences with his mum. Its like most ladies are forgetting they will be mother in-laws to other people someday ?My wife's family stays in my street, did that make me a lesser man?.

There's already an issue.Now, staying on same street won't fly.The funny thing is,both mother in law's already are at cold war (last thread he opened).How in the world will living on same street not cause chaos?
It's just for them to embarrass themselves with quarells.

Mac12:


I am married to a wonderful man and my mother in law lives with me. Sometimes I wonder at the way some people talk so badly of their M-I-L

Even though some M-I-L can be bad sometimes but it's never in all cases. Sometimes it's those feminist that usually find it difficult to cope with her due to their character. Once a woman has a bad character, they will find it very difficult to cope with their mother inlaw

Mac12:


I am married to a wonderful man and my mother in law lives with me. Sometimes I wonder at the way some people talk so badly of their M-I-L

God bless ur marriage dear is hard to get a matured woman who understand wat marriage truely mean

nkwuocha:


This is wrong.Even my elder brother still wash my parents clothes TILL DATE!Despite there's a washing machine.I do same too if I come around.Sometimes they demand that it should be washed,and you can't just say NO to your mom because father's usually use laundry services.

lol...hearing this sounds strange but I guess it depends on your age grade and your family responsibilities though. I can't imagine you working 24/7, no time to even relax, eat and even do your work clothes laundry and them demanding you do theirs too...I think your mom sef is the one that will look for ways to help you...with a hot plate of food waiting every night when you come from work. Please let's be realistic

Itannooluwa:

you can chase yours away if she refuses and see who will regret......rubbish, did u marry her for yourself or your Family
mtchewwwww

u be smally still in 100l u Neva know about relationship not to talk of marriage wen u natured u will understand

jakandeola:

so ur sis cant do work for her mum? I sware u are not making sence. I want my wife to see my mum as her mother and my mum to see her too. dere is nothing wrong Sir did u know it will make relationship and love to be closer than mother in law and daughter in law fighting all the time. why dont u tell ur wife not to cook for mum, that she buy food for her. or your mum wash plate because u don't want to enslave ur wife. you be man act like one

Adeola you never talked about cooking and plate washing o.The argument here is clothes.If you say something like your wife came around and refused to cook for your mom,I go help you pursue her sef.

But from your other thread you said you want your wife to come every Saturday to wash your mother's clothes.No it's not good that way.

nkwuocha:
There's nothing wrong in washing ones mother inlaw clothes.Although not everyone likes washing clothes.Some are used to giving out their clothes for washing.A working class lady may find this chores very demanding but wouldn't mind cooking and serving your mother in law or any other chores.

If you can afford it,get her a washing machine.If not,your wife should try and help ones in a while.But it's not supposed to be by force by fire.
Come to think of it;
She 4cks you
Get Belle for you
Born for you
Cook for you
Of course wash your clothes
Wash your pikins clothe
Still add your mama own
She go still go shop and market

Kuku kill your wife

Bros you self get hand,wash your mama clothes na.

Making sense. .

I wonder what happened to his hand that he cannot wash the clothes for his mum himself.

Will i wash MIL clothes,of course i will,As a lady some things can't just be left undone,what is wrong in washing MIL clothes but seriously it's high time we start having good mentality about mother-in-laws too.The first time I met my mother in law to be cos am not yet married,She told me she didn't have a female child and her prayer is every lady that comes into the family will come as a daughter and not as a wife,so if she has taken me as a daughter why can't i see her as my mother,of course i wash my mother's cloth and i didn't tell her to go get washing machine,And eversince i met MIL she hasn't call me to wash cloth for once anytime we go visit them even when i go ask if there is any cloth she wants to wash she just smiled and said thank you and words of prayers......I will wash her clothes,wash FIL own self,Feminist theory is not in my blood