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clive2u:
strong as a bull

u sure say u been love her so.. no one who was been dumped by someone they actually love come out "strong as a bull"

clive2u:
strong as a bull

u sure say u been love her so.. no one who was been dumped by someone they actually love come out "strong as a bull"

LightQueen:
You wan to fight her ni?

I'm a lover, not a fighter.

AmConfused:
u sure say u been love her so.. no one who was been dumped by someone they actually love come out "strong as a bull"

u sure say u been love her so.. no one who was been dumped by someone they actually love come out "strong as a bull"

It's all a façade. When people say things like that, know they are really trying hard to mask the hurt.

my moniker says it all

MissRaine69:
No my sister part of you hopes he convinces and because you know how he feels that part is assured.
So let me ask you this, what do you want?

AmConfused:
u sure say u been love her so.. no one who was been dumped by someone they actually love come out "strong as a bull"

u sure say u been love her so.. no one who was been dumped by someone they actually love come out "strong as a bull"

i did so much, i still do btt wetin man go do

zicoraads:
I'm a lover, not a fighter.

Been a while

MissRaine69:
No my sister part of you hopes he convinces and because you know how he feels that part is assured.
So let me ask you this, what do you want?

okay actually more than anything else, I want the kind of spiritual life I had before I met him.

Secondly, sometimes I get so carried away with the thoughts of him. and how good he makes me feel that I can't concentrate on nothing else.
In times like this, he consumes my every thought.

Thirdly I've been a firm believer of not been in a relationship till one's ready for marriage, which both of us obviously aren't. so what's the point of everything?

I think I should let go, somehow I know I must, but it's effing hard.. especially as the days go by

OdogwuMike:
@Amconfused. Your situation suit well with human nature. People, especially women, generally tend to misbehave once they notice that they are loved most.

In a relationship, the one that's loved the most, holds the key. I bet if u loved him more, u won't be here typing this. I'm telling u because I know and understand the feeling u are having. The girls I have dated I have felt the same for them too, cause I always make sure I love less.

Listen good to my advice, I have seen a lot in my lifetime. U better hold that guy, experience has personally thought me that good people are actually hard to come by.

The solution to this is, if I knew the guy, i will counsel him to break up with u, inorder to confirm ur love, and give u some serious space. If u come back, then u guys would have a better MUTUAL bond and love, that way, no one could have a monopoly of breakup, then u both will mutually appreciate yourselves.

For me, he's inability to do this yet, is what is giving u this mixed feeling and i fear it might turn out badly for him.

I understand what u mean and in some cases but mine, you're right.
I'm not acting this way because I feel he loves me more or something like that. if u followed the thread carefully, you will see and understand my reasons why I want out.

you just picked a line from all I typed and wrote an epistle on it. my reasons were never about how much he loves me.

UyaiIncomparabl:
That's the problem right there. The normal thing 'be a fool for him'. I really don't know how to be a fool and have tried being a fool, but sorry, I can't displease myself to please another.

I'm not power drunk, or is it lust? Lol. He's the bossy one. And I so hate bossy people, authoritarians who demands subservience like food.

To say I'm confused is an understatement.

Bossy men are the most easily controlled if being handled with wisdom,my dad is very busy but my mom surely knows how to have her ways with him in all matters,i have never seen my mom argue publicly with my dad,though I don't know if they argue in the bedroom.

UyaiIncomparabl:
That's one problem right there. Reading is such a task for him. I literally help him study for his tests most times, then summarize the whole notes for him. And voila, he's gone. Lol.

Buying books will be a waste of time, funds and energy. I even have unread books on my phone, ranging from temperaments evaluation, learning and identifying your love languages, unlocking one's potentials and whatever you may think of. I have a handful of them but he's not the type to read.

The issue is not even reading books, it's more about applying its content to your personal life. This guy literally knows too much o! And that's a deal breaker for me.

I don't want an unteachable man.

aww you are love struck already,i think you should go deep in wisdom to tackle him, don't stop loving him just for this silly reasons

UyaiIncomparabl:
I think I want out but don't know how to. To do that, I have to leave to a far away place where he wouldn't get to reach me and vice versa. We are too attached to each other.

dont do that,thats a sign of weakness on your part,you may never meet his type again

pocohantas:
Have you tried keeping quiet when he talks. Allow him talk o, then you smile and say "okay".

correct babe,thats exactly the best way to handle bossy men

LightQueen:


Been a while

The fact is relationship nah nonsense i blame myself going into it!!!

Delaw00:
The fact is relationship nah nonsense i blame myself going into it!!!

Nawa o.. u sound pained.. bros hwfa na? how's she doing you?

AmConfused:
exactly. you're very right. You just described perfectly the situation I'm in.
so now I'm supposed to let go of someone that's been completely good to me for two years for no just cause other than the way I feel. Easier said than done ☹️☹️
I actually do love and care for the guy.. just that he loves me more while sometimes I'm just indifferent.

I've tried to be honest to him, giving him reasons why we can't work. for where? every reason I give he gives another to debunk mine. he desperately wants me to stay and the way he treats me right dissolves my defences.

why exactly do you want to break up with this nice guy?
is he boring or to timid ?

or is it his Intellect or ' za oza room' ?

AmConfused:
lol.. lukman.. no be only wanted list.. Awon police officer

lol.. lukman.. no be only wanted list.. Awon police officer

you are just confused

Yeah m really pained,but wetin man go do.....all i need is a soft way to call it a quit

AmConfused:
Nawa o.. u sound pained.. bros hwfa na? how's she doing you?

Yeah m really pained,but wetin man go do....all i need is a soft way to call it a quit

AmConfused:
Nawa o.. u sound pained.. bros hwfa na? how's she doing you?

UyaiIncomparabl:
Ego what? The way you just jumped into conclusion ehn!

The truth is, he always wants to win every argument(s). That's not a good trait. I'm not argumentative like that, sometimes I just feel drained and walk out.

And I'm not looking for a man to control neither do I want a bossy man too. We are partners, I don't seek a lord.

What Is This One Saying? You First Said You Dont Want Two Perfectionists because You Are One, Melancholics are Perfectionists... Now You Say You Dont Want Bossy, and Thats Choleric Trait.. Then What Do You Want Aunty Victoria! The Careless Sanguine or Mute Phlegmatic



You Want A Man You Can Teach, teach What Actually?

mrphysics:
Buy a book on relationship for him to read. He will unlearn some of those things.

Most people grew up bossy, truth is, life configures us and we are supposed to be flexible than rigid.

Everybody should be teachable and learnable even if he is a Prof

unlearn To Be Bossy? You no Know wetin You De Talk

pocohantas:
Have you tried keeping quiet when he talks. Allow him talk o, then you smile and say "okay".

didnt You Notice Her Story Is Becomin Twisted

UyaiIncomparabl:
That's true, poco. Lol.

I don't have restraint too. I always want to be heard. Now, to always avoid this, I always like to walk away which he perceives as disrespect, but the frigging truth is, you can't keep cursing and raising your voice at me and expect me not be heard. I'm very defensive too, which makes it too bad.

That's why I feel having a not-too-defensive person will make me calm, because defensiveness often times stems from insecurity and back lash, even low-self esteem. I don't want to be like that no more. We are not helping each other.

SMH! Victoria Chat Me Up Privately, i Have Questions For You.

zicoraads:
This is rich coming from you.

I'll soon have your time; very soon.

Go bleep yourself ok!

IamPlato:
SMH! Victoria Chat Me Up Privately, i Have Questions For You.

Mtcheew. What stops you from doing so first?

IamPlato:
didnt You Notice Her Story Is Becomin Twisted

How?

pocohantas:
Hope no be strategy to knack sha.

Very true, but he seems to be more unrepentant than the OP. She has more chances of changing.

This one no wan repent oo

CreamyBanana:
i go soon marry am. i love her like die. i never dey ok financially but i don save wella and i go marry am this year.

Take it easy bro. Loving a girl too much is not good. It might make the girl take advantage of you. That's what we call mumu love. It also make you look weak to her cuz she can command you around and talk to you any how she wants.

Even if you love a girl and you really want to keep her, then reduce the love. You need to be unpredictable. But right now you are predictable. And don't be surprised when you tell her you love her and she smiles sheepishly at you or says nothing in return.

I don't like it when a guy always use that word I love her like die. You wounldn't want to know what's going on in her mind when you use that expression on a girl.

Just take it easy.

generationz:
why exactly do you want to break up with this nice guy? is he boring or to timid ?
or is it his Intellect or ' za oza room' ?

my dear none of the above o. I earlier stated my reasons

UyaiIncomparabl:
That's one problem right there. Reading is such a task for him. I literally help him study for his tests most times, then summarize the whole notes for him. And voila, he's gone. Lol.

Buying books will be a waste of time, funds and energy. I even have unread books on my phone, ranging from temperaments evaluation, learning and identifying your love languages, unlocking one's potentials and whatever you may think of. I have a handful of them but he's not the type to read.

The issue is not even reading books, it's more about applying its content to your personal life. This guy literally knows too much o! And that's a deal breaker for me.

I don't want an unteachable man.

Can u send me those e-books pls?

Every 1hour 33minutes so i can be free to go fishing but then i rwmember 1 or 2 things she did or she will show another flash or brilliance and humble my rabid head.
This girl dont want to give me any plausible reason to break up and am too conscionable to break up with a girl without a good reason. I know the reasons i come up with are just plain stupid. If i quarel with her with some lame sh*t she wont quarel back. Just feeling stuck.

Mcslize:
Take it easy bro. Loving a girl too much is not good. It might make the girl take advantage of you. That's what we call mumu love. It also make you look weak to her cuz she can command you around and talk to you any how she wants.

Even if you love a girl and you really want to keep her, then reduce the love. You need to be unpredictable. But right now you are predictable. And don't be surprised when you tell her you love her and she smiles sheepishly at you or says nothing in return.

I don't like it when a guy always use that word I love her like die. You wounldn't want to know what's going on in her mind when you use that expression on a girl.

Just take it easy.

Wakanda advice is dis sef? Ayam not understanding.
person dey date girl for nine years and you're still telling him to take it easy? take what exactly easy?

he should be unpredictable? like seriously?? so he should just keep his lover for 9years guessing his next move? 9years no be 9days o. When did he ever mention the girl was commanding him?

you can love someone absolutely and still be the "man" in the relationship. It has nothing to do with loving her too much. After loving someone for nine years without marriage and you're here telling him to reduce the love. What an advise. I weep