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amaniro:
If he understands English then he has no excuse or whatsoever to type gibberish. Whites are English people.

hahaha. Whites are english people. Haha. Which school did you graduate from?

Angela777:
some do, as I said, any person is different. But yes, mostly Nigerian men don't marry for love because Nigerian men are selfish users, most of them. Same they don't marry Nigerian black young women for love, just because the family expects them so and to use her for to have children.

Generally speaking, my advice to any woman, white or black or yellow, do not marry a Nigerian man, he paints love as real but it's all pretending. If you wish to marry a Nigerian, make him spend lots of money on you for to see how badly he wants you, it's only rule they understand, money.

not all Nigerian men are like that

note that


If you or any other one was jilted by a Nigerian, it's due to their character, not because it's a collective thing

thebosstrevor:
hahaha. Whites are english people. Haha. Which school did you graduate from?

its still a debate. But I preferably call whites English.

amaniro:
its still a debate. But I preferably call whites English.

Lol.

It is like calling all blacks igbo.

Whites come in different shades. Only one country speaks english in europe and dat is england.

thebosstrevor:
Lol.

It is like calling all blacks igbo.

Whites come in different shades. Only one country speaks english in europe and dat is england.

Ireland? Poland and some tiny countries.

amaniro:
Ireland? Poland and some tiny countries.

ireland speaks irish poland speaks polish

madridguy:
So sorry madam.

What are you sorry for?Trying to get some?

thebosstrevor:
ireland speaks irish poland speaks polish

Alright but I doubt if Mr OP is an English person as she claims.

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flyca:
This is the second time in 24 hours someone is interpreting “most” to be “all”. Na wa for una o.

where you write almost?

BornagainThief:
where you write almost?

Many educated people abroad get married to beautiful young spouses because they have a career. Those ones that marry those big, fat, old types are those with no educational skills that enter Europe illegally looking for how to legalize their stay by all means aka Hustlers.

Why are you dull laidis nah

flyca:
Why are you dull laidis nah

i be no see am

flyca:
What if he still dumped her after getting his papers? Because this happens all ths time. Come on, the lady wanted to secure herself first! The man did not show her any love those 3 years. He never loved her!

How can a man not working show love plz....abi u fink say na romeo and Juliet century we still de

Be happy he didn't use u to get papers. He realised u were a waste of his time as d papers didn't come thru.. Anyways lucky u.. Cos he could have gotten d papers n then divorced u.. Its d norm
Stay away from Africans.. Marry ur own kind....
Africans will always be Africans; black brains...

amaniro:
Alright but I doubt if Mr OP is an English person as she claims.

she didnt say she was english rather she said european

ghettochild4u:
Be happy he didn't use u to get papers. He realised u were a waste of his time as d papers didn't come thru.. Anyways lucky u.. Cos he could have gotten d papers n then divorced u.. Its d norm
Stay away from Africans.. Marry ur own kind....
Africans will always be Africans; black brains...

It's OK to give him papers if she loved him and she wanted the best for him, real love is that. Would he divorce her anyway? Probably. Because as you said the mentality of an African is different.

You give the best advice, she had an experience with the African man, next time better marry your own kind.

BornagainThief:
They look lovely bro.

Thanks bro, they do look nice

Angela777:
It's OK to give him papers if she loved him and she wanted the best for him, real love is that. Would he divorce her anyway? Probably. Because as you said the mentality of an African is different.

You give the best advice, she had an experience with the African man, next time better marry your own kind.

Aunty Angela... Shey na lie I talk ni.. No b cos of paper our people dey marry oyibo ni??
Abi on a normal day man enter another country with work permit... Shey e go think to marry oyibo ni

ghettochild4u:
Aunty Angela... Shey na lie I talk ni.. No b cos of paper our people dey marry oyibo ni??
Abi on a normal day man enter another country with work permit... Shey e go think to marry oyibo ni

True. You have a very funny way to write in English. Is it Pidgin?

Angela777:
True. You have a very funny way to write in English. Is it Pidgin?

Aunty angie... Pidgin na pidgin o.. But mine na corporate pidgin sha

stay strong babe....do u have any kids for him

Strongsoul:
Helo all.I have been with my ex husband for 3 yeara.He is Nigerian i am european.I never thought that he realy loves me.He was always very selfish and thinking about himself and his problems.But if i have problem he doesnt wana hear about it.He was also never proud to cal me.his wife or to show me to people.or social media.I provide for everything rent food bils he doesnt work because he doesnt have papers...Before we divorced he gave me.condition that if u dont fix his papers that he wil leave me.and tjat how it was he divorced me.Because i couldnt fix his papersand now he totaly changed to me like I never meant anything to him (( Why is he like this why??

Angela777:
True. You have a very funny way to write in English. Is it Pidgin?

Na pidgin o

Mrbigman1:
Why then did you not fix his papers and save us this pain

I couldnt that is the point

chigoizie7:
as Africans or let me say as Nigerians. we were taught, I mean the male folks to be the provider for the family and in a case where we cant do that, we fell embarrassed, depressed and worth less. anger sets in and then antagonism.

u were in a position to make him feel like a man . u were both married. but u couldn't. u said he cant work because he doesn't have papers. and if u were in a position to help but refused to help because of ur own reasons. the only thing he will have for you is hatred. such men cant even live under same roof with u. I think that was why he went for divorce.


ask other nigerian men. I mean, real men what it feels like for a woman to provide for u. what it feels like to not be able to earn a cent you call ur own sweat.

mind you, these men left nigeria for a reason. and thats to better their lives and that of the people left at home. They are not in Europe to count bridges. and they cant achieve that if they ain't working.


a jobless man is an angry man.

as a woman, what is so fantastic about keeping a man and not allowing him the privileges to work?
it makes no sense to me, like u are keeping him for ur own selfish reasons and thats not how marriages works. like u are enslaving him.

I COULDNT FIX HIS PAPERS ok??If i could for sure i would do it coz i know that would make him hapy and make our mariage work i am not stupid

flyca:
I do not completely agree with you.
What if she does all these for the man and still get dumped? Of course, that happens all the time!

What a jobless man needs is a job not a wife.
Except of course if there is a prior agreement like “marry me and I will give you papers”. Which does not look like the situation here.

A few jobless men are however lucky to find a woman who supports them all the way. Most of these women are supportive not because of “love” but because they see great prospects in the guy. And mind you, this support should be for a limited tolerable time frame otherwise it becomes torture. Come on, OP's husband has been jobless for at least 3 fu'cking marriage years

And NO, a jobless man shouldn't be an angry man. He should divert his anger energy towards bettering himself (maybe through education or skill) and not towards his wife! That is very wrong! He should be able to still bring in all the sweetness at home. No be the woman make am jobless

In my own experience, my “hustling” boyfriend is his sweetest when he is broke He wants to make me extra happy so that I won't notice that he did not buy a val gift, or so that I will be more willing to give him “bail out” cash

However if he comes home everyday, harsh on me like say na me make the deal not to click, omo the relationship no go sweet o.

Madam OP. I think first of all, you need to put your self-esteem together. I read your previous threads. You shouldn't feel that you are worth any less than another human being. And also, move on already. When your own man comes along you will feel it deep in your soul. You will not be creating sob-threads everyday. You will be truly happy! Hugs and kisses to you

Cc: Paulista

thank you so much for this response.I couldnt fix his papers

Angela777:
Slave? Tell me how she was keeping him as a slave in Europe? Did she lock him up and tied him, chained him?
3 YEARS!!! 3 YEARS he couldn't find a job Who was a slave to him working for his needs and feeding him

God bless u for this exacly!!!

Triniti:
You have a point, maybe the man is in the country illegally

Yes he was here Ilegaly

chigoizie7:
true bro.


I always wonder why people always think of what u can do for them and not what they can do for u.


I mean, what is so wrong in the lady helping him secure his paper 1st before looking out for he will do for her.



see. a friend of mine who is in Austria got married to one. who he is never gonna dump if things are good.

she has been home with him 4 times in 2 years.

but do u know what made him marry her?

She was with him as friends and even helped him secure the papers, I dont even know how. it was yeara after the paper that he married her. according to my guy , it was never a condition to marry her.

he told me. guy to friend, paddy to paddy. that he aint leaving her. that she is goona be his only wife home and abroad. she has a good heart and has supported him in many ways while expecting nothing. and for that ,he will be her king till dy kingdom come.
a pretty young lady in her mid twenties and not fat too.



but these fatso's ? they want to trade the privileges of being an indigene to enslaving others.

I canot help him because he is im country Ilegaly!!!He was making me do impossible

Angela777:
If she loved him, she would fix papers for him because she wants better life for her man. If he is gone after that, he never loved her and he is free to go, nobody forces the man or the woman to stay in an unhappy marriage, not in Europe or America. She probably couldn't fix his papers, some people is illegal for long or committed a crime and their legal papers can't be fixed

He is Ilegaly

gloria34:
From d look of things, she loves him and would have helped if she could but him feeling like its his right and had to divorce her because of that proves alot of things.

What do u mean??

Strongsoul:
He is Ilegaly

It's what I thought and he was thinking the marriage makes him legal. Anyway, even being illegal, it's a shame to the man he is not working during 3 years. In America and Europe many illegal people with family and kids and they work for to make a living. He is just lazy.