chigoizie7:
as Africans or let me say as Nigerians. we were taught, I mean the male folks to be the provider for the family and in a case where we cant do that, we fell embarrassed, depressed and worth less. anger sets in and then antagonism.

u were in a position to make him feel like a man . u were both married. but u couldn't. u said he cant work because he doesn't have papers. and if u were in a position to help but refused to help because of ur own reasons. the only thing he will have for you is hatred. such men cant even live under same roof with u. I think that was why he went for divorce.


ask other nigerian men. I mean, real men what it feels like for a woman to provide for u. what it feels like to not be able to earn a cent you call ur own sweat.

mind you, these men left nigeria for a reason. and thats to better their lives and that of the people left at home. They are not in Europe to count bridges. and they cant achieve that if they ain't working.


a jobless man is an angry man.

as a woman, what is so fantastic about keeping a man and not allowing him the privileges to work?
it makes no sense to me, like u are keeping him for ur own selfish reasons and thats not how marriages works. like u are enslaving him.

Ishilove:

You want to troll me? Lol. People worse than you have been humbled so don't even go there because na you go taya

chigoizie7:
as Africans or let me say as Nigerians. we were taught, I mean the male folks to be the provider for the family and in a case where we cant do that, we fell embarrassed, depressed and worth less. anger sets in and then antagonism.

u were in a position to make him feel like a man . u were both married. but u couldn't. u said he cant work because he doesn't have papers. and if u were in a position to help but refused to help because of ur own reasons. the only thing he will have for you is hatred. such men cant even live under same roof with u. I think that was why he went for divorce.


ask other nigerian men. I mean, real men what it feels like for a woman to provide for u. what it feels like to not be able to earn a cent you call ur own sweat.

mind you, these men left nigeria for a reason. and thats to better their lives and that of the people left at home. They are not in Europe to count bridges. and they cant achieve that if they ain't working.


a jobless man is an angry man.

as a woman, what is so fantastic about keeping a man and not allowing him the privileges to work?
it makes no sense to me, like u are keeping him for ur own selfish reasons and thats not how marriages works. like u are enslaving him.

Kobicove:

They're usually fat and out of shape

46O1CE:

Where did she say she’s a white woman?
Are all Europeans white?

Strongsoul:
Helo all.I have been with my ex husband for 3 yeara.He is Nigerian i am european.I never thought that he realy loves me.He was always very selfish and thinking about himself and his problems.But if i have problem he doesnt wana hear about it.He was also never proud to cal me.his wife or to show me to people.or social media.I provide for everything rent food bils he doesnt work because he doesnt have papers...Before we divorced he gave me.condition that if u dont fix his papers that he wil leave me.and tjat how it was he divorced me.Because i couldnt fix his papersand now he totaly changed to me like I never meant anything to him (( Why is he like this why??

chigoizie7:
as Africans or let me say as Nigerians. we were taught, I mean the male folks to be the provider for the family and in a case where we cant do that, we fell embarrassed, depressed and worth less. anger sets in and then antagonism.

u were in a position to make him feel like a man . u were both married. but u couldn't. u said he cant work because he doesn't have papers. and if u were in a position to help but refused to help because of ur own reasons. the only thing he will have for you is hatred. such men cant even live under same roof with u. I think that was why he went for divorce.


ask other nigerian men. I mean, real men what it feels like for a woman to provide for u. what it feels like to not be able to earn a cent you call ur own sweat.

mind you, these men left nigeria for a reason. and thats to better their lives and that of the people left at home. They are not in Europe to count bridges. and they cant achieve that if they ain't working.


a jobless man is an angry man.

as a woman, what is so fantastic about keeping a man and not allowing him the privileges to work?
it makes no sense to me, like u are keeping him for ur own selfish reasons and thats not how marriages works. like u are enslaving him.

Benyork4:
The Audacity of Illegitimate Sex: Random Hits of
Side Attraction...
1. First, human beings are preordained and wired
to respond to love, care and consistent attention...
No human unless psychologically sick, unempathetic,
emotionless or mentally challenged, can resist the
charismatic influence of love from another human
that thoroughly cares. Worse still, women respond
to acts of love, care and gifts. Who doesn't? If you
keep on beating the steel of a woman (married or
not) especially if she lacks love or attention, it will
bend.
It is only a wicked and selfish soul that will repay a
supposed kind gesture from the opposite sex with
evil. This is why some people inevitably fall for the
ones whom they never imagined themselves with.
Yorubas contended that women often fall for the
man who would not let them rest and showers them
with attention.
Love is dramatic and epic- it is the thread humans
are inevitably woven to survive and thrive on. We
are all love beings. It's easier and more natural to
love than to hate. Human beings respond to love
and care of another before the nudging of moral
justification (right or wrong) prevails if need be...
The times are hard too- when real Owu blow you-
you would accept the largesse of a married man or
woman. This is not the ideal, but the real. The
reality. Affection is neither moral nor immoral-
people just want to feel loved, have great sex,
solve their problems and fill their emotional voids.
How they realise this is none of their moral
business. The end does not always justify the
means.
2. Sex sells, we all buy. From time immemorial,
humans seek a release. We all do the unprintable
for D and for the P. Don't rationalize the act. The
Hot one is without thought. An erect manhood
has no conscience. More so, a little marriage does
not prevent any human from pursuing sex. It is
immaterial whether the legitimate partner offers
the coochie or not- there must be some getting
laid. Don't ever in your wildest imagination think
your thoroughly sex-starved, passion-deprived,
attention-needy and dissatisfied spouse will not
cheat on you. It's always a matter of time.
3. Never say Never. There are many people who
would swear on their graves that they would never
be caught dead cheating, but as you all know- it's
all a matter of time. Give the time some time. It
takes extreme discipline, the fear of God and
commitment to fidelity not to ever step out on
your partner when the opportunity presents itself.
By the way, infidelity has no gender.
4. Humans require diligence and sound caution to
assuredly break the yoke of vested interests. It
takes utmost precaution to overcome the barrier of
unhated Exes that simply fizzled away. If you don't
want to re-enact Okafor's unbroken law of re-
nack, don't fraternize with your Exes or you will
shag the shag again provided you once shagged the
shag well.
5. Human beings are perfectly flawed, there's a
high chance and unmistaken tendency that they
would jump into bed with another person they
desire, if the incentives are right and there is
zero chance of being caught. Not until commitment
outweighs feeling, faithfulness remains a mirage.
6. Fighting every side chic without fighting your
husband is like the foolish King who wants to lay
carpet in his entire kingdom in order to always
have a clean feet, until someone advised him to
simply carpet his feet by wearing shoes. How many
side chics will you fight? Why not just tame your
community Dick of a husband? You cannot force a
willing cheat out of his ways by fighting his willing
accomplices. As one casts, he simply moves on. To
another.
7. There is no need apportioning blame to one
culprit of infidelity and exonerating the other. The
cheating husband or wife is as guilty as their side
chic and side cock. Weighing the gravity of their
moral depravity in accordance to the status of the
defaulting partner is as bestial as it is illogical. The
one who makes the offer of filth is as guilty as
the one who accepts the offer. The one trained to
tow the path of evil, has prior, latent malicious
intent to execute. The wicked knows he is wicked,
he only requires someone else to remind. Even
those who are neck-deep in the act, do so, with
the realization that it's wrong, aware of its
consequences, but they do it regardless...
8. Forget the social media posturing where
everyone is a saint and no one is a sinner. In fact
on Facebook, no one is a side chic and no married
man has ever stepped out on his spouse. Oya wait-
who are all these ladies married men moonlight
with and who are all these married men who
torchlight other women? We will be alright in the
end... Fidelity is a very rare virtue. Only the
courageous pursue it.
9. Let no one despise you because you are a side
chic or you are a cheating spouse. We humans are
hyper-sensitive, self-entitled, judgmental and
obstructive meddlesome interlopers into affairs of
people who only sin differently from them. Chronic
fornicators be judging prostitutes and side chics.
They own their mouths and thumbs- let them rant
and chant. Don't ever forget that every saint has
a past and every sinner has a future. Don't judge
anyone because of an incidental happenstance. You
are not the events that occurred in your journey.
You might have made a mistake, you are not the
mistake.
10. Illicit sex is an enjoyable evil. Actually, sin is
very sweet if you are still in the flesh. Sometimes,
you begin to wonder how something can feel so
good, yet, deemed so wrong. Why can't everybody
just be doing everybody else? Who invented
monogamy sef when it's obvious everygamy is more
in vogue, convenient, pleasurable and more
realistic? In any case, sin is that wrong doing that
you know quite well is wrong, but you did it anyway.
Desist, maybe not.

Triniti:
You are spot on brother! She wanted a slave, the young man was smart enough to move on with his life. Tie him down and feed him crumbs all year round, say Na Wetin he come Europe come do

Angela777:

Slave? Tell me how she was keeping him as a slave in Europe? Did she lock him up and tied him, chained him?
3 YEARS!!! 3 YEARS he couldn't find a job Who was a slave to him working for his needs and feeding him

Triniti:
The man doesn’t have papers,there’s no way to get a job without papers. She was in a better position to help him get his papers but renege on that , which lead to their marriage breakdown. She was never ready to help the brother grow

Angela777:

Ha, so many fat women in Africa too.

And old common who want to marry old woman? not me

Triniti:
The man doesn’t have papers,there’s no way to get a job without papers. She was in a better position to help him get his papers but renege on that , which lead to their marriage breakdown. She was never ready to help the brother grow

SilentListener:
And old common who want to marry old woman? not me

Angela777:

Some marry, some not, even in Nigeria and not for green card. People is different

let me get this straight Nigerian men do not marry white old women for love don't be deceive

flyca:

What if he still dumped her after getting his papers? Because this happens all ths time. Come on, the lady wanted to secure herself first! The man did not show her any love those 3 years. He never loved her!

Angela777:

Then explain to me how in Europe and America survive so many illegal men and women and oh God, they somehow find a job and don't have a European wife to support them.
We don't know why 3 YEARS he was not working? Was he all 3 years waiting for his papers? Usually the work permit comes in 3-4 months and if she didn't apply for his papers, he has legal ways, help or just ask other people how they survive and get a job. The man who wants to work, works, the one who looks for excuses, does not work for 3 years and blames the woman. Can you imaging sitting in Europe during 3 YEARS!!! and waiting?

SilentListener:
let me get this straight Nigerian men do not marry white old women for love don't be deceive

Triniti:
You have a point, maybe the man is in the country illegally

busky007:
most foreign ladies, naija men marry for papers are always one kind(if u know, u know) . SO

I have nothing else to say oooo

Strongsoul:
Helo all.I have been with my ex husband for 3 yeara.He is Nigerian i am european.I never thought that he realy loves me.He was always very selfish and thinking about himself and his problems.But if i have problem he doesnt wana hear about it.He was also never proud to cal me.his wife or to show me to people.or social media.I provide for everything rent food bils he doesnt work because he doesnt have papers...Before we divorced he gave me.condition that if u dont fix his papers that he wil leave me.and tjat how it was he divorced me.Because i couldnt fix his papersand now he totaly changed to me like I never meant anything to him (( Why is he like this why??

Strongsoul:
Helo all.I have been with my ex husband for 3 yeara.He is Nigerian i am european.I never thought that he realy loves me.He was always very selfish and thinking about himself and his problems.But if i have problem he doesnt wana hear about it.He was also never proud to cal me.his wife or to show me to people.or social media.I provide for everything rent food bils he doesnt work because he doesnt have papers...Before we divorced he gave me.condition that if u dont fix his papers that he wil leave me.and tjat how it was he divorced me.Because i couldnt fix his papersand now he totaly changed to me like I never meant anything to him (( Why is he like this why??

Angela777:

and maybe he is also lazy, nice to sit at home paid for your wife, eat her food and complain doing nothing

Strongsoul:
Helo all.I have been with my ex husband for 3 yeara.He is Nigerian i am european.I never thought that he realy loves me.He was always very selfish and thinking about himself and his problems.But if i have problem he doesnt wana hear about it.He was also never proud to cal me.his wife or to show me to people.or social media.I provide for everything rent food bils he doesnt work because he doesnt have papers...Before we divorced he gave me.condition that if u dont fix his papers that he wil leave me.and tjat how it was he divorced me.Because i couldnt fix his papersand now he totaly changed to me like I never meant anything to him (( Why is he like this why??

Kobicove:


They're usually fat and out of shape