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Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by emmabest2000(m): 3:12pm On Feb 28, 2019 |
Vincent88:Dude ! Dude !Dude !!! How many times did I called you ? If you don’t want to run mad or loses everything you have or even die young , then let bygone be bygone! Some secrets are better keep secrets forever ! Whatever you and your wife is going through right now is your cross and you have to carry that cross to your grave ! Opening up to your bros or your wife will never.... I repeat.... will never give u a peace of mind ! Believe me the only solution to your present situation is for u to carry that cross (secrets) to grave ! I rest my case ! 2 Likes 2 Shares
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Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by michealdeco: 3:52pm On Feb 28, 2019 |
Vincent88:wow But I still strongly believe it has to do with medical issues Try seeing a doctor |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Nobody: 5:42pm On Feb 28, 2019 |
luminouz:I've not in any way killed him, it will be better for him to do what I've advised him to do than to live with the guilt here on earth and in the life after where there's no mercy or forgiveness!! There's no secret kept anywhere, it's just a matter of time before the full wages get paid! Moreso have you ever wondered why life events replay themselves trying to make corrections where necessary! This maybe a little thick for you, right but ponder on it, thanks. |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by luminouz(m): 6:04pm On Feb 28, 2019 |
Tosinex:Ur the one who is having a judaistic view of this shiit,thinking he is being punished for his sin.. Which sin biko? A 17 year old teenager who was abused He is the one whobk suffered here!!!! So whats the karmaic view on his life...See Buhari just won a second time,why not tell him when he will confess so his conscience can let him die in peace?? Or u want him to confess so as to make the elder bro die cuz I tell u his confession now will scatter things and he may likely die... Is that what u want Infact,are u married If not,then ur the thick one |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Gandollaar(f): 6:07pm On Feb 28, 2019 |
Vincent88:Make peace with yourself and move on. Don't tell your brother as it will shatter him completely! He won't be shattered because of the child only, but because you slept with his wife. You aided her infidelity which led to their divorce. Forgive yourself and rest the matter. |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Gandollaar(f): 6:12pm On Feb 28, 2019 |
Vincent88:Now you are talking. You may loose trust and respect. Once trust is broken, sorry means nothing. |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Vincent88: 6:35pm On Feb 28, 2019 |
Gandollaar:thank you i will keep it to myself even it is not easy for me because of the guilt im feeling everyday and i cant take this off my head but i will try my best moving on. 1 Like |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by soohib(m): 6:38pm On Feb 28, 2019 |
Vincent88:. Quote me ASAP let's chat heart to heart concerning your wife miscarriage. |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Vincent88: 6:40pm On Feb 28, 2019 |
michealdeco:We have tried many good hospitals in here but they still cant found the exact causes maybe sending her out of the country will help either to nigeria or south african . I will have a talk with her |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Vincent88: 6:41pm On Feb 28, 2019 |
soohib:You mean private messages? |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Vincent88: 6:42pm On Feb 28, 2019 |
emmabest2000:Thank you |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by soohib(m): 6:44pm On Feb 28, 2019 |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Vincent88: 7:28pm On Feb 28, 2019 |
soohib:Ok i will message you |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by kalvoken(m): 8:52pm On Feb 28, 2019 |
Vincent88: unless you are planning to reclaim the child as you are yet to have your own. If not, I am advising you to let the sleeping dog lye! 1. You will loose your brother. He may forgive you, but never will he forget. Any little mistake from you he will remind you that you had done the worst already. 2. Your famil will never recover from the shame that will come with the scandal. Na your mumsy I pity pass, she no go fit talk among her mates 3. You child will suffer the stigma 4. Your brother may kill you before killing himself. 5. Telling your wife is never an option 6. You will never remain the same if another ear get to hear this, no matter who! So, with these few points of mine, you will agree with me that it is better you keep the secret to yourself as you committed it by yourself, than to spread the suffering to your family members by opening the cupboard. Thanks! |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by DECENCY3: 9:26pm On Feb 28, 2019 |
Mr man can you allow the past to remain in the past? Have you calculated the events that will play out after your actions/confessions? Do you know that your confession can bring hatred to those vulnerable innocent children ? Have you consider the stigma those children are already facing because of their mother's lifestyle and what more they will face after your confession? MY OPINION::: Confess your sins to God with a sincere mind and he will certainly forgive you. Allow that incidence to remain in your past to avoid unforeseen problems. Your wife's miscarriage has nothing to do with this incidence you narrated. Take your wife to a good hospital and give her proper treatment and care under the supervision of good medical doctor. I REST MY CASE. |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by stanliwise(m): 10:15pm On Feb 28, 2019 |
Vincent88:what if you were wrong. what if the child isn't yours?? what if after you confessed your wife problem still continues?? Despite the above ☝️would you still confess?? you need to answer this questions, it is the key to your problem I will tell you why. |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by stanliwise(m): 10:19pm On Feb 28, 2019 |
kalvoken:Despite all you wrote how come you can't spot the flaw in your reasoning. |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by kalvoken(m): 10:23pm On Feb 28, 2019 |
stanliwise: Thank you for the correction. Hope you did get the message though? |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Nobody: 11:06pm On Feb 28, 2019 |
luminouz:if Joseph had allowed himself to be abuse how will he become the prime minister of Egypt!! Mr married man luminous I expect you to put the op in light not in darkness!! There's nothing hidden, no secret that won't come to light either now, later, or here after!!! |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by stanliwise(m): 12:32am On Mar 01, 2019 |
kalvoken:Don't think I am trying to insult you. The man in question said he believes that his current predicaments are as a result of his past actions. Are you saying he should live with his predicament because of the deadly punishment you perceive is gonna occur if he open up the old chapter of his life. So try to see that the situation is between the devil and the deep blue sea for the man. Because either ways he has to live with an unfinished business by keeping it a secret or face the wrath of his past actions by letting the the cat out. I don't think any option is superior here, although many factor could change things |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by kalvoken(m): 8:44am On Mar 01, 2019 |
stanliwise: His action has no connection to his present predicament. He is only suffering from a guilty conscience. The same way he is linking every bad thing he is passing through now to what happened in the past, is how everybody around him will remind him the atrocity he had done in the past any time there's a misunderstanding. What if the child is not even his? What if his wife's problem is no connection with the case. Believe me, his mind is just playing him tikki takka. |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by stanliwise(m): 8:52am On Mar 01, 2019 |
kalvoken:I am actually glad that someone here is asking same question as I am. In my previous post I ask him what he will do if after confessing nothing changed. But remember the situation isn't this simple as it is not easy for everyone to convince themselves that their past was not responsible for their current predicaments. So the problem here is what if he was right, what if truely his past actions was responsible. how do you think he could find out? Do you think there is anyway he could convict himself that truely nothing of his past is responsible? |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Vincent88: 10:15am On Mar 01, 2019 |
stanliwise:Thanks you are right before i was not thinking how telling the whole truth will destroyed them but after getting some good advices on here i have decide to keep it to myself but i will atleast take her from DNA just to know if she is mine or not . Im hoping she will not be mine that will put my mind in peace . |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by stanliwise(m): 12:11pm On Mar 01, 2019 |
Vincent88:if you imply that you wouldn't confess if things later turn around for you, it means that your problem is that you don't know what caused your situation. so as you have said find out whether the child is your and also if your wife problem was anything related to your assumptions. But as of confessing to your bro, it is actually a different ball game, your confession should be born out wanting to being transparent to him. This means if he actually wants to or if he cares about transparency at all. If he don't I think your problem is with forgiving yourself and asking for forgiveness from God. |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Antina(f): 12:54pm On Mar 01, 2019 |
Vincent88: Anxiety might caused it also. |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by rosalieene(f): 4:33pm On Mar 01, 2019 |
Vincent88:An unfortunate man ended up marrying her again smh 2 Likes |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by kalvoken(m): 4:54pm On Mar 01, 2019 |
stanliwise: I just think he should keep exploring medical solutions to their predicament than letting out the cat from the bag 2 Likes |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by PrincewithGod(m): 5:25pm On Mar 01, 2019 |
emmabest2000:What a thoughtless advice. My brother, if you carry that secret to the grave, your soul will spend eternity in hell fire. Now these are the choices you have: a. Spill the beans, make your ways right with God, endure any consequence of your confession and be assured of an eternity of rest. b. Keep mum, have a 'peaceful' life here on earth, well, your ways will never be right with God with this secret kept, and spend eternity in the tortures of hell. Don't be fooled, whether you believe it or not, it doesn't matter, there is a heaven and a hell after life here on earth and our relationship with God and man will determine where we will be. |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Vincent88: 5:31pm On Mar 01, 2019 |
Antina:Thanks she is a emmotional person but i dont know if it is part of anxiety |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Vincent88: 5:33pm On Mar 01, 2019 |
rosalieene:Yes she is legally married again big white wedding she put pictures all over facebook and she added my wife on facebook so we can see how her life is glowing |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Vincent88: 5:36pm On Mar 01, 2019 |
PrincewithGod:Thank you for the advices |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by rosalieene(f): 8:30am On Mar 02, 2019 |
Vincent88:such is life when I say karma doesn't work for all, some persons argue with me. 1 Like |
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