faithfull18:

Lol, for a relationship to survive the test of time, there is a level of trust that must be attained/established. As long as nothing happened between them, I am fine. Some people will never sleep around even if you put a gun to their face. They are that disciplined and set boundaries to their relationships with the opposite sex.

you're not OK up there...we know your type.. insecurity dey full your blood well we'll, na u urtype go dey screw your partner's phones and every other gadgets u can lay your hands on

melody91:
you're not OK up there...we know your type.. insecurity dey full your blood well we'll, na u urtype go dey screw your partner's phones and every other gadgets u can lay your hands on

You are definitely unstable in the head since you quoted me to say nonsense. Everybody isn't like you, fool.

Divay22:
It's either he doesn't trust you or he's looking for an excuse to cheat or break up with you.
So brace up for anything that's gonna happen..

She doesn't deserve his trust. She behaved like a hoe

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Take it easy na. She only went for a meet up which is harmless, only the guy was so cheap to b asking for sex so cheaply.

There is nothing harmless about her meet up with a man that has been toasting her. After all, she's not a kid. The guy might be cheap which means they are both cheap.

Divay22:

That's the truth.
Cause i don't see how telling my boyfriend, a guy that took me out for lunch is asking for sex and he start yapping abuses on me.

Just maybe though their chatting the guy might have felt maybe she's up for the game, hence he told her.
He clearly misunderstood her, doesn't trust her and he's likely to cheat.

This farm tool forgot her brain in the trash can. So its the boyfriend's fault that his unfaithful girl went out with a another man...

kollinzgee:
To me the girl is not cheap becoz she didnt givein to the guys sexual advances.i only despise the fact that she took advantage of the fact that the guy likes her .but some guys self you want a girl to jump on your bed becoz you bought her food all girls are not sluts as you guys think only a minority weak niggas everywhere! i weep for my gender** spits***.

Oga,the girl is cheap,lacks discipline and is likely to cheat,if she isn't doing that already.

stuffs4me:


She doesn't deserve his trust. She behaved like a hoe

She is,actually.

@queenice7.

No one is perfect and I will advise you not to stop telling him things about you. To me, a relationship can't survive when they hidden secrets..

To be sincere with you, it's totally wrong for you to have met with someone you already knows his intentions towards you. Your boyfriend would have been jealous even if the guy didn't asked you for sex.


#Ladies, please be moderate in your outfits. Your outfit might have contributed to his request.

victorian:









Oh sorry o! I cannot be drag out here cos I don't do stupid things like you.

Seems I struck a nerve . Well the truth has to be told. Don't fucvk a guy because of food , its demeaning . I mean outrightly demeaning . maybe its your way, but pls I beg you change. Get a well paying job and feed yourself well!
How much is a plate of meal? Pls don't try it anymore .

And why I said she's cheap is this . Why accept an ardent toaster invitation to hang out when she realised she was hungry for food . She agreed to see him because of food!!!!!
Then the guy capitalize on the fact that she was hungry and wanted to use a stone to kill two birds. He was stupid for thinking towards that line of thought . while she has learnt her lesson tonight , that nothing goes for free . Not even a plate of meal.

Shut your dirty smelly whoring mouth.
Pigs like you eat crumbs, I'm sure the food she ate is 30times better than what you eat every month, that's why you are filled with air and you think It's healthy. Get bursted you pig.

kollinzgee:
To me the girl is not cheap becoz she didnt givein to the guys sexual advances.i only despise the fact that she took advantage of the fact that the guy likes her .but some guys self you want a girl to jump on your bed becoz you bought her food all girls are not sluts as you guys think only a minority weak niggas everywhere! i weep for my gender** spits***.

You are the only sensible guy here.

Zonto231:
That’s how most girls end up being drugged and raped,if you know you ain’t gonna give in to a guy’s advances towards you,just stay very far away from him cos you can never tell what’s running through a mans mind.you are very lucky the guy opened up to you he was feeling hot.some other guy might decide to play a fast one and before you know it you end up being a victim

I wonder o, we have destroyed many things with the word trust, na so her husband go trust her till another man go bang her. Even the bible says flee from the devil, and he wil flee from you. It is that simple

Divay22:

Hahahahahahahaha
I'll leave you in the hands of buhari to deal with and by the time he's done, that your shining face will be competing with darkness.
NEXT LEVEL ALREADY IN MOTION.


Learn to see things from others perspective.
peace bro

Learn to judge things objectively without gender sentiment

mrblessed:
Hmm. If your husband shares an hotel room with his female childhood friend, what would be your be reaction? See how you supported the woman, as if what she did was right.

I wonder, some women self, may God save us

queenice7:
my boo tells me everything that happens to him, so do I... he tells me abt girls tripping on him and doing crazy things to get his attention... I tell him each time I make a new male friend and our conversations, he seem cool with it. we live in different States (long distance relationship). recently I went for a training, after de training I was hungry, so I decided to see a guy that av been bulging me to see since last year, since I wasn't far from his office, this is the second time am seeing him and we haven't really conversed. he took me to a nice restaurant and we got food... we were eating and discussing abt politics and stuffs, only for him to start telling that he's Hot, that let's go to a lodge, I was so embarrassed but I didn't say a word to him, he got frustrated and left me in the place after paying for the food. I had to find my way home from that place since we came with a car so I didn't know de road. I told my boo this, and he got really angry @ me, and am surprised coz he called me names like cheap flirt and said he was gona show me... like he was literary threatening me, said our relationship is on de verge of break up coz of this. I didn't see this coming and I don't know y he is reacting this way, maybe coz he feels intimidated by this guy's profile, unlike de other guys I tell him about. I guess I should stop telling him anything, wah do u think?

How can you accept food from someone asking you out when you are dating someone else. You are a flirt!

You give guys your contacts anyhow and accept gifts from them. Your bf is sitting on a time bomb

hopeforcharles:

Why would you in the first place go to the guy you know wants to date u? What's ur motive? U claim u are in a relationship and you are still looking for other guys, to eat their money and run away? Or what exactly? You girls can be funny and thinking that because u are a woman people should give u free stuffs, now u know what that guy wants from you.
Well you caused it to yourself

Didn't you read that she was hungry?

I wonder why she can't just go grab food somewhere.

Anyways that's relationship for you.

queenice7:
my boo tells me everything that happens to him, so do I... he tells me abt girls tripping on him and doing crazy things to get his attention... I tell him each time I make a new male friend and our conversations, he seem cool with it. we live in different States (long distance relationship). recently I went for a training, after de training I was hungry, so I decided to see a guy that av been bulging me to see since last year, since I wasn't far from his office, this is the second time am seeing him and we haven't really conversed. he took me to a nice restaurant and we got food... we were eating and discussing abt politics and stuffs, only for him to start telling that he's Hot, that let's go to a lodge, I was so embarrassed but I didn't say a word to him, he got frustrated and left me in the place after paying for the food. I had to find my way home from that place since we came with a car so I didn't know de road. I told my boo this, and he got really angry @ me, and am surprised coz he called me names like cheap flirt and said he was gona show me... like he was literary threatening me, said our relationship is on de verge of break up coz of this. I didn't see this coming and I don't know y he is reacting this way, maybe coz he feels intimidated by this guy's profile, unlike de other guys I tell him about. I guess I should stop telling him anything, wah do u think?

there are limits to what you can tell him, you literally told him you hanged out with another man. What if the guy suceeded in making you sleep with him? And also what if your fiancee is also cheating and cherry picking what he tells you? I know you would have reacted the same way if he told you that he invited a girl over for a drink but when she demanded for sex he told her to leave. Your man is thinking that you are gradually seeking other options. If he was close to you, he wouldnt have bothered but the distance is not helping matters. Apologize to him and please be smart in what you tell him since you guys are not married yet.

JONNYSPUTE:
.. Fine.She got the blame but you made it sound as if it was the husband's fault they divorced. Not everybody can withstand a cheating spouse.

She got the blame for not applying wisdom, insecurity comes in various ways. You have no business being with someone who doesn't trust you enough to make the right decisions on your own. The husband sent her the divorce papers. She never cheated. He came begging years later but it was too late.

You shouldn't have gone on a second date with the guy after knowing his intentions towards you and next time you have to censor some matters from your guy,everybody gets jealous once in a while,hope the both of you makeup after this brouhaha.

Blazebond:
You shouldn't have gone on a second date with the guy after knowing his intentions towards you and next time you have to censor some matters from your guy,everybody gets jealous once in a while,hope the both of you makeup after this brouhaha.

A guy has been bugging her for what exactly?a prayer session?..let the OP be the judge.
Beside,we don't get jealous once in a while,it's all the time,except they are into an open relationship

queenice7:
my boo tells me everything that happens to him, so do I... he tells me abt girls tripping on him and doing crazy things to get his attention... I tell him each time I make a new male friend and our conversations, he seem cool with it. we live in different States (long distance relationship). recently I went for a training, after de training I was hungry, so I decided to see a guy that av been bulging me to see since last year,

since I wasn't far from his office, this is the second time am seeing him and we haven't really conversed. he took me to a nice restaurant and we got food... we were eating and discussing abt politics and stuffs, only for him to start telling that he's Hot, that let's go to a lodge, I was so embarrassed but I didn't say a word to him, he got frustrated and left me in the place after paying for the food. I had to find my way home from that place since we came with a car so I didn't know de road. I told my boo this, and he got really angry @ me, and am surprised coz he called me names like cheap flirt and said he was gona show me... like he was literary threatening me, said our relationship is on de verge of break up coz of this. I didn't see this coming and I don't know y he is reacting this way, maybe coz he feels intimidated by this guy's profile, unlike de other guys I tell him about. I guess I should stop telling him anything, wah do u think?

Your first reaction isn't even to stop going out with these guys, you just want to know if you should stop telling your bf about it

Anyway. If your bf wasn't bothered in the past when you told him about things like this which had happened, then I can understand your hurt and confusion. Seems your relationship is very undefined, Your bf just needs to define the relationship and stop overreacting. Threatening you and calling you a cheap flirt isn't the way to go.

Here to read comments and learn too..

kollinzgee:
To me the girl is not cheap becoz she didnt givein to the guys sexual advances.i only despise the fact that she took advantage of the fact that the guy likes her .but some guys self you want a girl to jump on your bed becoz you bought her food all girls are not sluts as you guys think only a minority weak niggas everywhere! i weep for my gender** spits***.

hey, kollinzgee, I have developed some respect for you including the likes of lefulefu & ubunja my guy but seriously given this your comment am already thinking if I didnt make the wrong decision.

Here is a lady who has a boyfriend calling a toaster ( note: not just an opposite sex friend which is also dangerous as is stands, but a toaster not a casual friend ) asking him if they could do lunch ( once again is not even the toaster calling to make that demand and let's assume the lady agrees to go as it is, is still dangerous cos the signal you are giving to the guy may seem positive to him .....na for clap dem they enter dance oo, from lunch they can enter bed is POSSIBLE, but in this case the demand call was actually put forward by the lady, guy as a guy, put yourself in the shoe of the said guy who accepted her lunch date who have been looking for a way to get into her pants, what will be the first thing that will come into your mind...I will leave that for you to answer.

The lady in question wanted the toasting attention from the guy that beautiful afternoon ( reason I said if a lady remained unwooed {untoast }for a period say 3months, she starts feeling inferior, or less confident about herself ), it,s natural they love the attention and that's why most of them get layed before they say jack, their major weakness.

I can confidently say the lady was already feeling something for that guy, among all the males and even females contact on her phone ( of course, what stops her from having lunch with a lady ) or lets assume she choose the opposite sex, it was this same toaster she remembered, haha i laugh, the aforementioned is the reason the guy hard the boldness, audacity, temerity to ask her for sex right there and there... cos he is sharp and has done all the emotional calculation I just did .

We all know ladies no longer give free sex, something must exchange for something for them irrespective of the item and that guy knows this. I have slept with several ladies with little things they themselves could easily buy with the snap of their fingers.


If I was her boyfriend, I will tell her to give me space for a week, why! In mind I will say its for me to think this through. Seriously, she was bored that day, and wanted company and if that guy had persisted throwing other players cards on the table he might with a higher percentage see the color of her pants.

Kollingzee nu dey fall my hand again oooo

faithfull18:

I really don't want she got d blame but you know a lot.

I am sure she was just excitd to see him after a long time.while relating with the opposit sex married or nt.

JONNYSPUTE:
.. Fine.She got d blame but you made it sound as if it was the husband's fault they divorced. Not everybody can withstand a cheating spouse.

@jonnyspute, i wudnt av talkd abt dis until u tagged d lady "cheating"

Ok, u av a chilhood girlfrnd u'v seen 4 a v.long time, u met her in a strange land n u discovered u av a lot 2 gist abt...Wots d big deal sharing a room so as 2 talk abt life n how its bn treatin u both?....u cud b so close to som childhood frnds more than any of ur relatives.

Wat if its not a hotel? Ar u tellin me if u av to travel 2 a strange place n u av a female frnd ther, u cant stay in her house?

Wot abt opposite genders dat share apartments? heyy, its nothing...D only tin i see here is trust issue n som level of insecurity

UniQue84:
hey, kollinzgee, I have developed some respect for you including the likes of lefulefu & ubunja my guy but seriously given this your comment am already thinking if I didnt make the wrong decision.

Here is a lady who has a boyfriend calling a toaster ( note: not just an opposite sex friend which is also dangerous as is stands, but a toaster not a casual friend ) asking him if they could do lunch ( once again is not even the toaster calling to make that demand and let's assume the lady agrees to go as it is, is still dangerous cos the signal you are giving to the guy may seem positive to him .....na for clap dem they enter dance oo, from lunch they can enter bed is POSSIBLE, but in this case the demand call was actually put forward by the lady, guy as a guy, put yourself in the shoe of the said guy who accepted her lunch date who have been looking for a way to get into her pants, what will be the first thing that will come into your mind...I will leave that for you to answer.

The lady in question wanted the toasting attention from the guy that beautiful afternoon ( reason I said if a lady remained unwooed {untoast }for a period say 3months, she starts feeling inferior, or less confident about herself ), it,s natural they love the attention and that's why most of them get layed before they say jack, their major weakness.

I can confidently say the lady was already feeling something for that guy, among all the males and even females contact on her phone ( of course, what stops her from having lunch with a lady ) or lets assume she choose the opposite sex, it was this same toaster she remembered, haha i laugh, the aforementioned is the reason the guy hard the boldness, audacity, temerity to ask her for sex right there and there... cos he is sharp and has done all the emotional calculation I just did .

We all know ladies no longer give free sex, something must exchange for something for them irrespective of the item and that guy knows this. I have slept with several ladies with little things they themselves could easily buy with the snap of their fingers.


If I was her boyfriend, I will tell her to give me space for a week, why! In mind I will say its for me to think this through. Seriously, she was bored that day, and wanted company and if that guy had persisted throwing other players cards on the table he might with a higher percentage see the color of her pants.

Kollingzee nu dey fall my hand again oooo

I get your point nigga but the word cheap is far from it.that the one i dont buy .a girl is only cheap if gives out her self so easily for sex but this lady refused one thing you should know is most women and even guys too always keep an option outside incase if things go wrong in their current relationship overlook this and be doomed .infact most women in this forum are no saints the guy is even lucky to have an open girlfriend most girls Bleep ,flirt outside their relationship .two girls i dated in the past are now married shortly after we brokeup but am happy for them becoz i hate wasting womens time.
i never said what she did was right all am saying is she is not cheap as you guys claim ,she just played smart on the mumu guy.i just hate the idea of food for sex irritates me.

Just few questions OP? How did the guy know you are are training in his state? You told him right?

How do you know your guy feels intimidated by the guys profile? You know that right?

If you answer yes to two of the four questions questions above, coupled with the fact you feel the guy is better than your boyfriend, then you have a tendency to cheat, yes! You do! You just don't realize it and by the time you do, you'd be warning your so called boo to stop calling you and gets life and that's what prostitutes and gold diggers do.

I don't mean to demean but from my analysis is crystal clear you would have fallen for the guy in the long run because you feel he is better, (don't even try to deny this) it's human psychology. We always go for what we feel is a better option.

Maybe the guy could have waited till the next visit or just invite you to his house. You could have been marveled so much by the exquisite furnishing you'd remove your pants yourself. So fuccck it and go apologize to your boo that's if you don't feel like going back to the guy.

sherylbakky:
@jonnyspute, i wudnt av talkd abt dis until u tagged d lady "cheating"

Ok, u av a chilhood girlfrnd u'v seen 4 a v.long time, u met her in a strange land n u discovered u av a lot 2 gist abt...Wots d big deal sharing a room so as 2 talk abt life n how its bn treatin u both?....u cud b so close to som childhood frnds more than any of ur relatives.

Wat if its not a hotel? Ar u tellin me if u av to travel 2 a strange place n u av a female frnd ther, u cant stay in her house?

Wot abt opposite genders dat share apartments? heyy, its nothing...D only tin i see here is trust issue n som level of insecurity

...Some of you ladies are not always sincere and honest whenever your fellow lady misbehaves,you lots will always find a way to twist it. Somebody that is married has the temerity to sleep in the same hotel room and on the same bed with a so called childhood friend and its OK by you ladies.I wonder why they couldn't stay in a separate rooms and later discuss whatever they have over in a public place.Ope you will clap for your husband if he does same?.

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candlewax:
Just few questions OP? How did the guy know you are are training in his state? You told him right?

How do you know your guy feels intimidated by the guys profile? You know that right?

If you answer yes to two of the four questions questions above, coupled with the fact you feel the guy is better than your boyfriend, then you have a tendency to cheat, yes! You do! You just don't realize it and by the time you do, you'd be warning your so called boo to stop calling you and gets life and that's what prostitutes and gold diggers do.

I don't mean to demean but from my analysis is crystal clear you would have fallen for the guy in the long run because you feel he is better, (don't even try to deny this) it's human psychology. We always go for what we feel is a better option.

Maybe the guy could have waited till the next visit or just invite you to his house. You could have been marveled so much by the exquisite furnishing you'd remove your pants yourself. So fuccck it and go apologize to your boo that's if you don't feel like going back to the guy.

candle wax you have brain, you are the only guy that is seeing from my perspective.

I said and I will still say it again if that guy had persisted and throwing more cards on the table , he would have got her laid. She is tripping for the guy, the reason her bf is angry, it was obvious to her bf when she mentioned the guy to him before the lunch date cos when a babe is liking a guy and you ask her who is this, if you are sharp you will know based on the words that will follow, her smiles,action, doings generally ...same applies to babes to guys, couple the with fact that she has already concluded in her mind that the guy is better than her guy financially. Women sha!!!

I said it in my last comment and am still saying it again if i was your guy I will give you space for one week so that you can sort yourself out emotionally and psychologically and me on the other hand need the time to think this through ...cos if you could go to see your toaster for lunch date which you had the audacity to SET UP yourself while am still around hmmmm i beg to say if i come travel for 6months you will do wonders

Don't give me that trying to be open with your boo crap am not a baby, better go and apologize to your guy before you loose him if he is thinking the way am thinking now cos the other guy just want to fvvck your pussy hard if he could not even wait to get to his bed, or at least his sitting but right there in the open during lunch date telling u wants to fuccck u.

And if you don't take time that guy will still fvvvck u mark my words cos you have fallen already mtcheeeeeew.

PS: it is not only when you sleep around with different men that you are termed cheap of course thats the height, you can also be cheap when your actions,words and behavior depicts one...cc kollingzee

UniQue84:
candle wax you have brain, you are the only guy that is seeing from my perspective.

I said and I will still say it again if that guy had persisted and throwing more cards on the table , he would have got her laid. She is tripping for the guy, the reason her bf is angry, it was obvious to her bf when she mentioned the guy to him before the lunch date cos when a babe is liking a guy and you ask her who is this, if you are sharp you will know based on the words that will follow, her smiles,action, doings generally ...same applies to babes to guys, couple the with fact that she has already concluded in her mind that the guy is better than her guy financially. Women sha!!!

I said it in my last comment and am still saying it again if i was your guy I will give you space for one week so that you can sort yourself out emotionally and psychologically and me on the other hand need the time to think this through ...cos if you could go to see your toaster for lunch date which you had the audacity to SET UP yourself while am still around hmmmm i beg to say if i come travel for 6months you will do wonders

Don't give me that trying to be open with your boo crap am not a baby, better go and apologize to your guy before you loose him if he is thinking the way am thinking now cos the other guy just want to fvvck your pussy hard if he could not even wait to get to his bed, or at least his sitting but right there in the open during lunch date telling u wants to fuccck u.

And if you don't take time that guy will still fvvvck u mark my words cos you have fallen already mtcheeeeeew.

PS: it is not only when you sleep around with different men that you are termed cheap of course thats the height, you can also be cheap when your actions,words and behavior depicts one...cc kollingzee

She didnt fuccck the guy because a hotel was involved. Clearly she wants the guy to define what he wants and she know the guy just wanna sleep with her. Had the guy taken her to his house and professed love to her the topic of this post would have been "my ex boyfriend keeps disturbing me"

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Divay22:

That's the truth.
Cause i don't see how telling my boyfriend, a guy that took me out for lunch is asking for sex and he start yapping abuses on me.

Just maybe though their chatting the guy might have felt maybe she's up for the game, hence he told her.
He clearly misunderstood her, doesn't trust her and he's likely to cheat.

so you are telling me that if your boyfriend takes a girl out for lunch, you will be ok?

CreamyBanana:


so you are telling me that if your boyfriend takes a girl out for lunch, you will be ok?

Yes, because i trust him. Whatever he does with that trust tells me the kind of person am dealing with.
For me, it's just a lunch date. if they go further then that then he played himself not me.

Abi trust is no longer one of the necessity in a relationship again?