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GodisGood4321:
Happy Sunday to Everyone.

I'm 32yrs but still unmarried, not because I don't like to or because of money but I just have constant concerns, worries, and fears.

I have been in relationships severally where we both love, respect and care for each other; but I call it off every time it was getting really serious, not because of any grievous issue in particular (because nobody is perfect) but just because of worries and fear of the unknown.

Some of the worries I have are things like:
- Would I still like her in the near future after locking it down with her in marriage?
- Am I sure I have considered all my chances?
- Am I sure I won't regret my choice or find a better choice tomorrow?
- Am I sure this is the right person for me?
- Am I sure I'm not walking into misfortune with my two eyes open?
- Am I sure I'm done a balanced analysis in making a choice or just looking at one side?

Some people think I don't like marriage or that I'm just flexing, but these fears and concerns make me develop cold feet whenever a relationship I'm in start getting serious. These fears and doubt are real.

So guys, what were your fears and concerns before getting married and how did it turn out after been married.

faithugo64:
The only thing I can think of now is the number of girls you have broken their hearts
Chai

ShinqRambq:
Your only concern before marriage should be if your wife is among those girls that claim that there are Virgins who do not bleed on their first intercourse so they can feel better about their lost virginity and For the women,you concern should be,is he the kind of man that will struggle for the good of the family,he must not be rich provided all he isn't a gigolo while the basic African attribute of submissiveness of a woman remains constant

ImaIma1:
The truth is that you will never know the answer to this question. There is no instrument for measuring the eventuality of marriage.

"They" say that when you meet the right person, you will know and there will be no fear or doubts in the heart.

faithugo64:
The only thing I can think of now is the number of girls you have broken their hearts
Chai

MariaLavina:
Please keep flexing, you never ripe for marriage. Age no be factor.

Gentleziggy:
D guy in question is a chronic womanizer now he is at a cross road in making d right choice of a life partner

DMerciful:
A man should not have fear to take any decision once you are 70% sure!

Everything thing in life is a risk, even staying at home has risk of fire, armed robber etc so marriage is also part of the risk. Even Angels failed so expect anything however a lot depends on you. It takes two to tango so if you ain't good yourself you will likely have these fears!

With love, tolerance, forgiveness, overlooking certain things, respect, frequent sex(very important as it binds you more to your eventual wife, 3 times a week normally so marry a woman you are sexually attracted to), fear of God, romance and children presence , everything will be fine!

Lastly you can divorce if it ain't working, it's not a death sentence!

Hardheolar:
Will be back when married.

ShinqRambq:
Your only concern before marriage should be if your wife is among those girls that claim that there are Virgins who do not bleed on their first intercourse so they can feel better about their lost virginity and For the women,you concern should be,is he the kind of man that will struggle for the good of the family,he must not be rich provided all he isn't a gigolo while the basic African attribute of submissiveness of a woman remains constant