Amberon11:
Your religion in it's "pure form" also doesn't allow fornication and sampling different women in the name of relationships.

ianq:


Your friend's faith is commendable. However, i would ask 2 things. 1) is he sexually active in the meantime? 2) does he routinely go for medical checkups?

because, if he is practising abstinence from sex while waiting for the woman, i can quite convincingly tell u his bp might be on the rise.
U might wanna cross check him on that. ..it might be the advice u are looking to giving him.

Amberon11:
It's usually at the edge of breakthrough all manner of temptations come.

libertyfather:
Just forget marriage its a scam....i regret im in it right now getting out is my biggest problem, looks like the easiest way my enemy get me

dmgr:
Thou am not married but I will be some day.I sometimes have fears of what if the good and well manned wife I married changed from good to bad over night,can I be able to handle all the drama.because am a kind of reserved person I don't like too much drama

What if she cheats on me? what if she is no longer faithful after the wedding,am saying this because some married women do cheat on their husbands this days with anybody even their ex..And infidelity is a difficult thing for me to handle,I just can't imagine my wife sleeping around.

GodisGood4321:
Happy Sunday to Everyone.

I'm 32yrs but still unmarried, not because I don't like to or because of money but I just have constant concerns, worries, and fears.

I have been in relationships severally where we both love, respect and care for each other; but I call it off every time it was getting really serious, not because of any grievous issue in particular (because nobody is perfect) but just because of worries and fear of the unknown.

Some of the worries I have are things like:
- Would I still like her in the near future after locking it down with her in marriage?
- Am I sure I have considered all my chances?
- Am I sure I won't regret my choice or find a better choice tomorrow?
- Am I sure this is the right person for me?
- Am I sure I'm not walking into misfortune with my two eyes open?
- Am I sure I'm done a balanced analysis in making a choice or just looking at one side?

Some people think I don't like marriage or that I'm just flexing, but these fears and concerns make me develop cold feet whenever a relationship I'm in start getting serious. These fears and doubt are real.

So guys, what were your fears and concerns before getting married and how did it turn out after been married.

I had that fear bros before getting into marriage. I had not been into any serious relationship before marriage. so, I did not have sex before marriage but when I met this lady, I loved her. I thought she was a virgin initially, but she told me the plain truth that she wasnt. So my greatest fear then was if I could satisfy her in bed. But then I walked into marriage with faith. No regrets bros, I have a loving,charming and wonderful wife. Though the initial love making was war, I was not good then, but she encouraged me and now my fears are over.


so bros marriage is a leap of faith. Just find the lady you love, walk into marriage believing for the best. MARRIAGE IS FUN AND ENJOYABLE. May God give every strenght you need.

ujluv:
Thanks so much. Noted

nymphomaniac:
Op, na once man dey die. When you see a lady that fits into your physical and psychological compartments, kindly go ahead. What is the worst that could happen? I believe there will never be an eflluxion of your fear if you don't take the leap of faith with a woman.

Finally, there is a 95% chance that where you are good and faithful to your wife, you will have a happy marriage.

#MarriedFor1yearInThePastButNowSingle.

ImaIma1:
The truth is that you will never know the answer to this question. There is no instrument for measuring the eventuality of marriage.
You've answered well. I clap for you. In addition, all those things he is avoiding or afraid of will still be met in marriage. The guy shouldn't waste more time, he should only pray for God's guide and lunch out.
"They" say that when you meet the right person, you will know and there will be no fear or doubts in the heart.

Offpoint1:
I was afraid she'll give birth to triplets 3 times...
that's why I'm still single, fear double kids... but shít runs in my family like trophy.

Lastly, fear of feeding a grown azz till eternity.... [ don't quote me with the working class woman shít, you still gonna feed her even if she earn millions]

1xgg:
.. I'm 26 and I've not witnessed peace between my parents for straight two weeks( always from my mum) .. my mum cheats on my dad like mad, the woman can make up stories just to make sure she turn all my siblings against my dad,if you don't side her she will treat you like a stranger , she steals from my dad when he keeps money at home, my mum is the headquarter of all the stupid women in the world.the man sef done try.the thing have affected my siblings and I negatively. me sef dey advice am on divorce.
The lesson here is my dad took his time to look for a humble lady from a humble home, someone he taught jelled with him emotionally and characterwise, yet all those scrutiny and search for perfection turned out really bad..
Dude whatever your choice is just do court weeding.life is too short to condone rubbish!

franchasng:
May millions fall on you bra

Caring for your mother or a lady you love, providing her with money, material things and more importantly spending on your kids is the happiest things any man can witness in his lifetime, pray to have so u won't bother to spend on people u love.

Anytime I send money to my mom even when she doesn't ask, I feel so excited when she calls on phone to gist me lots of things happening around, her fellow women, Church issues, and other frivolities, makes me feel so achieved. I can't wait to do same for my kids and their good mom to be

franchasng:
Pls don't scare me, this aspect scares the hell out of me.

I can forgive my wife anything she does against me, but the two things I can never forgive her are:

1.) Attempt to take my life away
2.) Cheating (I will never forgive no matter what, that will be the end of the road )

I really don't pray to be in your dad's shoe because I will kill somebody alive, which I really don't pray for

God I am begging you please don't let me marry a cheating woman that will cheat on me, instead find ways to cancel the wedding before it takes place oh Lord I pray

Ugosample:


there are men out there going through hell out there in marriage


And I feel so sorry for them

franchasng:
na wa oh

Ugosample:


A town's man of mine is facing HELL

It's this issue of male child wahala.

he is fine wirt the girls he has (5 btw)

But the woman want boy by fire by force (hence the reason why they have 5 in the firsr place

From one palava to the other

She hates the last born so much and maltreats her

And the wahala goes on and on


Good man people are looking for, this one is rubbishing

is it at his age now that he will now start looking to start another family?.??

So sad

men shine una eyes

Big ass /Small ass, all na ass and e dey sweet well well, only of you can use the instrument

so no use because you dey find big ass /heavy duty, you land yourself n'ime nsogbu

I am talking specifically to the nwafors out there (we know ourselves)

franchasng:
lolz life is funny

Ugosample:

when you are in the situation


It's not funny

But as Igbos will say

ihe ojoo na-ato ochi

franchasng:
Pls don't scare me, this aspect scares the hell out of me.

I can forgive my wife anything she does against me, but the two things I can never forgive her are:

1.) Attempt to take my life away
2.) Cheating (I will never forgive no matter what, that will be the end of the road )

I really don't pray to be in your dad's shoe because I will kill somebody alive, which I really don't pray for

God I am begging you please don't let me marry a cheating woman that will cheat on me, instead find ways to cancel the wedding before it takes place oh Lord I pray

djon78:





The solution is not too much scrutiny. If you screen too much, you go carry suegbe enter house.
In fact, from deep understanding, most of the women we tag as bad girls end up making good wives. Why do you think that most men that had bad marriages always say that when they married there wives, they looked good not knowing that it was all a camouflage.

The wisdom here is don't scrutinize too much.
Be prayerful, and look for any sign God is using to warn you about the person because God always gives us a sign of danger ahead but we don't listen or pay attention.

And for you as a man, make sure you are good to your woman, although not being a Sissy. Be good, nice, make sure you take good care of the woman in your life. Once you are good to a woman, you will reap it back.

And forget stories you read, there are still a lot of good, well raised women out there, let God lead you rightly.

Elvisu:
I’m 42yrs and yet to marry. May God help me.

Biglittlelois:


Sorry to ask, was she a nymph cos I'm trying to understand why that moniker.....

Amberon11:
Your religion in it's "pure form" also doesn't allow fornication and sampling different women in the name of relationships.

ImaIma1:


She will only be a virgin for one night. And being a virgin doesn't mask character flaws in a person. But good luck with your search.

hayzed1090:


She will always be a virgin in d sight of her husband . Yes character is very important , in fact if not the most important attribute to look out for , however virginity also is a very very great gift a lady can give the hubby now ...

hayzed1090:


She will always be a virgin in d sight of her husband . Yes character is very important , in fact if not the most important attribute to look out for , however virginity also is a very very great gift a lady can give the hubby now ...

GodisGood4321:
Happy Sunday to Everyone.

I'm 32yrs but still unmarried, not because I don't like to or because of money but I just have constant concerns, worries, and fears.

I have been in relationships severally where we both love, respect and care for each other; but I call it off every time it was getting really serious, not because of any grievous issue in particular (because nobody is perfect) but just because of worries and fear of the unknown.

Some of the worries I have are things like:
- Would I still like her in the near future after locking it down with her in marriage?
- Am I sure I have considered all my chances?
- Am I sure I won't regret my choice or find a better choice tomorrow?
- Am I sure this is the right person for me?
- Am I sure I'm not walking into misfortune with my two eyes open?
- Am I sure I'm done a balanced analysis in making a choice or just looking at one side?

Some people think I don't like marriage or that I'm just flexing, but these fears and concerns make me develop cold feet whenever a relationship I'm in start getting serious. These fears and doubt are real.

So guys, what were your fears and concerns before getting married and how did it turn out after been married.

kazvid:
It AM I not AM MINE

sojayy:

"It's am i" not "it am i"
Monkey dey carry monkey climb tree....lol