When he gets the Filipina to America and or he is lucky to get one that is already here who he won’t have to file visa for, he will know what’s up.

Just two purchases of Louis Vuitton and Chanel per month will make sure that any dream he has of having a bit of money is squashed.

They don’t joke with their material stuff.

The grass is always greener on the other side.

A typical Filipina will spend $3-5k per month on only luxury goods. He should make sure he can afford that.
And they are not like Nigerian women who hustle into medical fields to make money for their husbands and families back home.

I just laugh at the ignorance on this forum.

bitingcool:


He seems to be the problem with his sharp mouth.
You're looking for someone to slave while you help when you feel like. Even an angel will wear out. Go and look for a woman from Philippines or Myanmar to do your bidding

TaminaliaCatapa:
This has been worrisome abeg, I don’t like the idea of bringing any gf from Naija come marry, they mess up real bad.

The Naija girls wey dem born abroad sef, they ain’t any way different from foreigners wey go dey tell you to start sharing house chores 50:50 with dem. There is nothing bad if I do those chores in my own volition, but making it a duty for me is a no-no.

Reason why I cant marry white is obvious, the very immediate point I just made up there, some won’t even let you take your kids back to naija coz it’s shîthole

Please, if you are a
1. Naija married man in a foreign land
2. Didn’t marry here in naija but abroad

How did you get married and what type of woman is she.


Please we wanna learn

Whilst many of us are praying for a white woman this mumu is asking for a a Shithole girl

LUCAS99:


I don’t really know who to believe anymore...

Opinions on Nairaland tend to be really biased...

Ladies on Nairaland believe Guys are the problem Meanwhile on the Other hand Guys on Nairaland believe Ladies are the problem...

Op my best advice to you would be to go back & reconnect with one of the Girls you went to High School with...

You remember Amaka, Adaobi & Chineye...

Those ones that gave you a chance in High School...

They dated you because they love you because you didn’t have to spend anything on them...

Those are the ones you need to go back to...

Now if you didn’t have any Girlfriend in High School tend start attending Nigerian Churches & Nigerian Ceremonies called Owambe Parties...

Usually I will recommend Redemmed Christian Church of God, Winners Chapel & Deeper Life Bible Church if you’re based in the United States...

There are eligible Bachelorettes with Good Paying Jobs available...

You can start attending Youth events & develop familiarity from there...

But don’t go to Church & start womanizing, that doesn’t end so well because Bad News spread very fast especially in Nigerian Churches...

If the two options fails, then look around really hard & you should be able to find a White Girl that should be Marriage Material...

You can sign for Yoga Classes, Cooking Classes & even the gym...

You should be able to find someone as long as you’re outgoing...

As always just play your part & God will play his part...

There is no Magic Formula to finding the right woman...

All these are easy talks. It's not as easy as many think.

The phobia ladies have for naija guys is so alarming that it is only by God's grace that you will find one to really want you.

And also the issue of papers is another big one. As long as you are not fully settled as a man, many settled ladies usually conclude you want them for papers n this is why arranged marriages are thriving.

And in most cases those who will want you are those who are way off from what you want...u no get luxury to dey picky.

It is not as easy as many think

cococandy:
When he gets the Filipina to America and or he is lucky to get one that is already here who he won’t have to file visa for, he will know what’s up.

Just two purchases of Louis Vuitton and Chanel per month will make sure that any dream he has of having a bit of money is squashed.

They don’t joke with their material stuff.

The grass is always greener on the other side.

A typical Filipina will spend $3-5k per month on only luxury goods. He should make sure he can afford that.
And they are not like Nigerian women who hustle into medical fields to make money for their husbands and families back home.

I just laugh at the ignorance on this forum.

Lol, so true

cococandy:
I’m sure many Nigerian married women can benefit from intimacy gadgets. Marital status has nothing to do with it

At least it is by choice for the married ones.

TaminaliaCatapa:
This has been worrisome abeg, I don’t like the idea of bringing any gf from Naija come marry, they mess up real bad.

The Naija girls wey dem born abroad sef, they ain’t any way different from foreigners wey go dey tell you to start sharing house chores 50:50 with dem. There is nothing bad if I do those chores in my own volition, but making it a duty for me is a no-no.

Reason why I cant marry white is obvious, the very immediate point I just made up there, some won’t even let you take your kids back to naija coz it’s shîthole

Please, if you are a
1. Naija married man in a foreign land
2. Didn’t marry here in naija but abroad

How did you get married and what type of woman is she.


Please we wanna learn

Dude marry where you reside

Angela777:
The thing is as a Nigerian man abroad, you wish the best wife for yourself. Then first, look at yourself and ask yourself are you the best or the good one? You want the woman submissive and doing all housework and, will she be the housewife and will you support her in everything?
Because if she is working full time and having kids for you, she will come home tired and is she still responsible for all work at home and with kids? Will you practice the so called Nigerian "culture" having other women and being naturally polygamist? Will you expect your wife to shut up and accept you going and having sex with other women? Will you be very bossy to her and her should be very submissive as similar to a Muslim woman? I don't think it will work this way in America even with a Nigerian village submissive girl, not for long, America teaches freedom to kids and women. If your wife goes to the doctor for any reason and the doctor notices she is sad, they will ask her if you are to bossy or do you abuse her, your own kids will tell at school how you treat your wife and even if she is submissive, your own kids will call 911 if their mom cries. The marriage in America is different, it is not Nigeria. If you are willing to be faithful and you find a woman who is educated and is your best friend, doesn't matter the race, it may work better than any childish plans to pick a submissive one or to mold her your way

He who has an ear, let him hear. A good wife is not determined by tribe, country or religion. A good man makes a good wife and vice versa... except in otherwise situations.

Maybe not by choice

You can’t tell

Toks2008:


At least it is by choice for the married ones.

PrinceCharmings:
he should marry from where he is based, no need to come back home and marry.

BaaleOko listen to this advice.

don't you even think of coming home

Toks2008:


All these are easy talks. It's not as easy as many think.

The phobia ladies have for naija guys is so alarming that it is only by God's grace that you will find one to really want you.

And also the issue of papers is another big one. As long as you are not fully settled as a man, many settled ladies usually conclude you want them for papers n this is why arranged marriages are thriving.

And in most cases those who will want you are those who are way off from what you want...u no get luxury to dey picky.

It is not as easy as many think

So true. Women in America learnt the Nigerian man is possibly scam and wants us for papers, now so much information online about it. Also not all American women go into interracial marriage, many educated women are picking from their level guys and if they don't find any at similar level, they prefer being single.

RTSC:
See as dem spoil market for Nigerian based ladies.

The ones that scaled through earlier to Yankee or Europe would be thanking their stars they left before the market got spoilt.

chisco82:

I have met a lots of them, stay with them date them and have many of my friends who got married to them both the black and the white, I saw how their relationships are going.

So if the marriage/relationship isnt going well it has to be the non-,Nigerians fault right because the Nigerian is never a fault.

cococandy:
Maybe not by choice

You can’t tell

Well you are right cos many factors can contribute to it.

With all due respect for me to get married to this generation of naija babes I will remain single .

Ishilove:

I was genuinely baffled. See how the men here are saying rubbish about Nigerian women. If you look closely and investigate, you will discover that many of these diasporan men have their own issues too.

Fact is there are many well brought Nigerian women, both home based and abroad. Someone who will marry a diasporan man and goes over there to change already has the propensity to, not because she has been exposed to Western feminist ideologies. You need prayer and divine guidance to weed out the wolves in sheep clothing, both male and female.

All these unnecessary casting shows a high level of ignorance and bias against Nigerian women

BaaleOko:
The dilemma I'm facing now, I dey based in Yankee and I have pretty much achieved everything a young man can have for an ideal American dream... e remain to find wife but good women dey scarce these days( maybe the good ones are hiding, or I'm not just looking hard enough). Mumsy dey tell me make I go Naija find wife, been communicating with lots of beautiful and amazing (at least online) Naija girls back home, each time I bring up the idea of marriage and I tell them I'm in Yankee...they always seem too excited than necessary, as coded guy wey I be, I already know reasons why. I'm just too scared to take any chances cause marriage ain't no joke... I guess I'm better off just finding a Nigerian girl based here in yankee.

yep! i think you should do that...

Elliot2:
u ended up crediting his point about black Americans.

How did I do that, by stating what those women were doing is filthy? No I didn't credit any point except that the Africoons will defend anything the whites do, even something as despicable as those filthy whores letting men poo in their mouths.

cococandy:
When he gets the Filipina to America and or he is lucky to get one that is already here who he won’t have to file visa for, he will know what’s up.

Just two purchases of Louis Vuitton and Chanel per month will make sure that any dream he has of having a bit of money is squashed.

They don’t joke with their material stuff.

The grass is always greener on the other side.

A typical Filipina will spend $3-5k per month on only luxury goods. He should make sure he can afford that.
And they are not like Nigerian women who hustle into medical fields to make money for their husbands and families back home.

I just laugh at the ignorance on this forum.

No offense but you sound pained

Yea I’m so pained that none of these whiners on this thread want to marry me

JjBankys:
No offense but you sound pained.

BaaleOko:
The dilemma I'm facing now, I dey based in Yankee and I have pretty much achieved everything a young man can have for an ideal American dream... e remain to find wife but good women dey scarce these days( maybe the good ones are hiding, or I'm not just looking hard enough). Mumsy dey tell me make I go Naija find wife, been communicating with lots of beautiful and amazing (at least online) Naija girls back home, each time I bring up the idea of marriage and I tell them I'm in Yankee...they always seem too excited than necessary, as coded guy wey I be, I already know reasons why. I'm just too scared to take any chances cause marriage ain't no joke... I guess I'm better off just finding a Nigerian girl based here in yankee.

You mentioned your achievements but didn't mention anything about your character.
Are you a good man, do you have real fear of God? do you know how to keep your peni.s inside your trouser? Do you boast about your achievements instead of your character? Do you have an understanding heart and willing to work with your future wife as a team? Like begets like. If you're meeting ladies that jump at the prospect of American citizenship, it shows you're fishing in shallow waters.
If you want a wife, they yapa for Lagos and wherever you dey.. Women that hold and know their worth. I fit even introduce you to a few ONLY if you can answer to the above questions truthfully.
Good wife material will never manage poor husband Material.

cococandy:
Thank you. I am taken.

By a very lucky Nigerian American man who doesn’t want a servant wife.

Gbam

If it’s a Nigerian male, then he can’t be at fault. It’s not possible. That’s how ‘God’ made it.

But if it’s a Nigerian female, bring on the blame. We don’t really know how to do anything right. We are what’s wrong with the world.

the men however, are so perfect that even the angels are taking notes in order to keep up.

Well according to NL

khiaa:


So if the marriage/relationship isnt going well it has to be the non-,Nigerians fault right because the Nigerian is never a fault.

I didn’t think you were still on this side.



Hello

jaybee3:

Gbam

cococandy:
Yea I’m so pained that none of these whiners on this thread want to marry me

i don't care if you're married or not.

Tell me what’s paining me

JjBankys:
i don't care if you're married or not.

cococandy:
I didn’t think you were still on this side.



Hello

I still read your battles as part of my daily nuggets

Angela777:

So true. Women in America learnt the Nigerian man is possibly scam and wants us for papers, now so much information online about it. Also not all American women go into interracial marriage, many educated women are picking from their level guys and if they don't find any at similar level, they prefer being single.

And this is one big mistake many ladies make and I will take time out to explain.

I always tell these ladies abroad..." if you love him, take the risk" whether he has papers or not.

Shits happen and marriage crash for many reasons but if the marriage between two western citizens break up they tag it irreconcilable difference but if it is between a western citizen and a foreigner who is not a citizen they call it scam marriage or green card marriage...how weird.

If a lady is good and very wifeable I believe almost every man will love such in the shortest possible period cos I know it takes at least 2years to get papers through marriage in U.S and 5 to 11 years in U.K so if a guy lives with you for a year and he still has no interest to be with you then something is wrong somewhere.

Secondly, most guys with papers don't want ladies with papers cos they know they are better of single considering the hot girls looking for guys with papers...so this simply means most ladies with papers who font want guys without papers may remain single for a very long time.

As i wrote earlier...if you truly want a guy..paper or no paper...GO FOR HIM AND TAKE THE RISK.

cococandy:
Maybe not by choice

You can’t tell

From the little display you’ve shown here, it is obvious the guy who decided to put you in his home has carried a cocoon of bee.

You have a big mouth and a small ear. Intellectuals carry big ears and small mouth but your big mouth is your undoing.

You have turned a ‘thread of learning’ into a disaster, since you started commenting, na him my eyes dey turnoninown

cococandy:
Sign prenup on what?

On his house that the bank still owns?

Ignoramus

You Nairalanders are hilarious

hahahahahaha..this woman, take it easy lol. Fair point though

Everyone is talking prenup like they're dollar millionaires/billionaires

TaminaliaCatapa:


Nigerians scam you, yes I agree, and that requires lots of intelligence, trust me, a dumb person can’t pull the stunts those guys pull. Even you don’t have the IQ required.

However, every other thing you called us ain’t true....we are hardworking. Of a fact, black American girls prefer us to their brothers because they know Africans got money and work their asses out. Even a dog on the street know an averag black American guy is lazy AF...and their ladies

Talk of loud, you deserve an award. Black Americans’ single disease is mouth diarrhea, and they have home theatres installed in their vocal cords

Black American women aren't checking for your controlling, insecure behinds, when we see you we run towards the other direction, that is why you beg those big fat, old white whales to marry you. LMAO, "you have money", most of you work security and janitorial jobs. There are some nice Nigerian men but it is rare. Your greed is a turn-off.

Thread of learning

You mean I stood up for Nigerian women on a thread that was created to disparage and belittle us?

You’re a misogynist who gets upset when your narrative that was meant to demean womenfolk gets turned on you.

This cocoon of bee also produces honey

Go and sleep.

TaminaliaCatapa:


From the little display you’ve shown here, it is obvious the guy who decided to put you in his home has carried a cocoon of bee.

You have a big mouth and a small ear. Intellectuals carry big ears and small mouth but your big mouth is your undoing.

You have turned a ‘thread of learning’ into a disaster, since you started commenting, na him my eyes dey turnoninown

khiaa:


Black American women aren't checking for your controlling, insecure behinds, when we see you we run the other direction that is why you beg those big fat, old white whales to marry you. LMAO, you have money, most of you work security and janitorial jobs. There are some nice Nigerian men but it is rare. Your greed is a turn off.

Look at what Alezy has done to this lady