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| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by Netfilix: 3:38am On Mar 12, 2019 |
GodisGood4321: The sincere truth is you are indecisive and you are not ready. You actually want a perfect relationship. Any sight of imperfection of your partner later on will disgust you, but as a man, can you bear? are you ready for the worst? If you don't have answers to these questions. You are probably going to marry for the sake of having kids and not a good family. Adultery will then be your daily bread. Basically, you have problem. 7 Likes |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by Nobody: 3:45am On Mar 12, 2019 |
kazvid: It’s not it 2 Likes |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by sojayy(m): 3:46am On Mar 12, 2019 |
kazvid:"It's am i" not "it am i" Monkey dey carry monkey climb tree....lol 3 Likes |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by baby124: 3:53am On Mar 12, 2019 |
Your girlfriend also has all these fears. If you will be able to provide, if you are responsible enough, how she will cope with your dirty habits or other bad habits. How your snoring will affect her life etc... it goes on. No partner is perfect. Just be reasonable and be fair to the person. No unnecessary tests because the devils will pass your test with flying colors. While the angels might get frustrated and you will lose a good thing. The truth is if you treat your woman well and you marry a good person, you don’t have a lot to worry about. 6 Likes |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by KingOfAmebo(m): 4:11am On Mar 12, 2019 |
GodisGood4321: Oga go marry and stop looking for excuses to continue nacking Ifeoma, Bola and Khadijat... You admitted "no one is perfect" yet you want a perfect wife...this is pure selfishness. What you should be looking for is someone that can tolerate and respect you and vise-visa...tolerance and mutual respect is key to every successful relationship. That dream woman can only exist in your dream but here in real life it is absolutely a different ball game...we are humans living in the FLESH and not in dreams. Go beyond that temporal pretty face or that big yansh or big bobby and scrutinize her character and tolerance level. I don talk finish...good morning. 5 Likes |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by Nobody: 4:21am On Mar 12, 2019 |
GodisGood4321: how do you know when you have never been married 1 Like |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by femi4: 4:30am On Mar 12, 2019 |
GodisGood4321:Brace up for new set of responsibilities and challenges like Financial, Emotional, Sextual responsibilities 2 Likes |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by AleAirHub(m): 4:38am On Mar 12, 2019 |
 Wetin be your next option. Baby man or ? libertyfather: 1 Like |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by lonelydora: 4:47am On Mar 12, 2019 |
GodisGood4321: Reading through your concerns, you are not yet ready for marriage. Marriage is a different ball game than friendship. See the woman's heart and not the physical body 5 Likes |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by Nobody: 4:54am On Mar 12, 2019 |
Dear OP. A man that is not committed can not achieve anything reasonable in life. Commitment is what drives achievements. I understand your carefulness and concerns but please put away such fears, and embrace true maturity. 1Cor.13.11 - When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things. You should sit down with yourself and write down what you really want in this life. If you go into marriage with the fear of failure, you will indeed fail. You need to work on yourself first,then find a marriage counselor to help you , then choose one of the girls you have parted ways with, apologize and continue where you left off. At least now you would have realised which one is best for you out of them. Finally the best way to fail in this life is to leave God out of your matter. Please pray about it and seek guidance... Your problem is nothing spiritual,so don't bother looking for a Pastor, unless you meet him on a normal level . May God help you. 6 Likes |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by shegzydave(m): 4:56am On Mar 12, 2019 |
Am having the same issue with this bro infact same age self, so let me keep reading comment, I wanna learn too |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by omotizi: 5:09am On Mar 12, 2019 |
faithugo64: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fxE1I8Oubhg&t=179s |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by mgdimagaladima(m): 5:29am On Mar 12, 2019 |
Listen!!!! U have to go down on your knees and pray about it..... That's the only way out 2 Likes |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by Goddyj(m): 5:35am On Mar 12, 2019 |
My concern is that the woman might come and finish the little quantity of Sperm I have remaining in my scrotum  1 Like |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by ImaIma1(f): 5:36am On Mar 12, 2019 |
DP84: You are right that it could be someone you never imagined but you should have peace in your heart concerning the person. The fact that is sounds Walt Disneyish doesn't mean that people don't experience it. Some people have wars, doubts and uncertainties in their hearts about a person but they still go ahead with the hope that it will work itself out. And who is talking about world stopping slow motion kind of thing? It comes from getting to know the person. 4 Likes |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by alamoht(m): 5:42am On Mar 12, 2019 |
[quote author=kazvid post=76536612]It AM I not AM MINE[/quote ]english teacher 1 Like |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by timocruzcmbb(m): 5:48am On Mar 12, 2019 |
Oga you be bastard,na toto you won de Bleep,if you scared of the unknown,stay off,when you have decide to settle for one,date one woman and marry her.at 32 years you no get sense of what you want.who you de deceive ? 3 Likes |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by Nobody: 5:53am On Mar 12, 2019 |
mgdimagaladima:Are u sure? When I'm serious with prayers is when different manners of temptations keep coming my way. Perhaps one gotta know how to listen to d spirit |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by Nobody: 5:59am On Mar 12, 2019 |
timocruzcmbb:Lol, perhaps he's suffering from Gamophobia. These uncertainties might b as a result of past experiences and all, he'll need to get over them and take a chance 1 Like |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by Motjeth(f): 6:12am On Mar 12, 2019 |
iamwhat:it is well with you 2 Likes |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by BoboKush(m): 6:15am On Mar 12, 2019 |
kazvid: Na igbo amaka na xo them dey talk Btw why nt answer him since we understood his msg already |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by tete7000(m): 6:19am On Mar 12, 2019 |
GodisGood4321: If it is a leap of faith, then there is a guarantee, except we don't know the meaning of faith - ' certainty of things hope for (Heb.11:1)' 4 Likes |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by shadeyinka(m): 6:20am On Mar 12, 2019 |
GodisGood4321:You want the whole TRUTH? 1. Your expectations for marriage are unrealistic: you need to cure yourself. 2. Your definition of "Love" is wrong. It is affecting your judgement. 3. There is no perfect woman in the world 4. Your marriage cannot be better than your investment in it. Marriage is more of sowing and tending than reaping. 5. Better make your choices based on your "un-negotiable traits" rather than "physical attributes" If you can only slow down to digest these, you won't miss it 8 Likes |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by dammiedot(m): 6:27am On Mar 12, 2019 |
GodisGood4321:When you are ready for marriage, you will know. Don't rush into it. 3 Likes |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by awoluyi(m): 6:35am On Mar 12, 2019 |
All my concerns before marriage were resolved when i purchased an instrument called MARRIAGNOSCOMETER. It constantly displays on it's screen my faithfulness, commitments and readiness to make a success of the marriage. On the top right corner of the screen a CODE in % is shown meaning your performance level with comment like GOOD, FAIR, POOR & HOPELESS. 1 Like |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by KangaIye: 6:36am On Mar 12, 2019 |
Some reasonable comments here. 1 Like |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by SweetyZinta(f): 6:39am On Mar 12, 2019 |
[quote author=GodisGood4321 post=76535913]Happy Sunday to Everyone. I'm 32yrs but still unmarried, not because I don't like to or because of money but I just have constant concerns, worries, and fears. I have been in relationships severally where we both love, respect and care for each other; but I call it off every time it was getting really serious, not because of any grievous issue in particular (because nobody is perfect) but just because of worries and fear of the unknown. Some of the worries I have are things like: - Would I still like her in the near future after locking it down with her in marriage? - Am I sure I have considered all my chances? - Am I sure I won't regret my choice or find a better choice tomorrow? - Am I sure this is the right person for me? - Am I sure I'm not walking into misfortune with my two eyes open? - Am I sure I'm done a balanced analysis in making a choice or just looking at one side? Some people think I don't like marriage or that I'm just flexing, but these fears and concerns make me develop cold feet whenever a relationship I'm in start getting serious. These fears and doubt are real. So guys, what were your fears and concerns before getting married and how did it turn out after been married. Worry not, by the time you clock 42 your worries and concern will reduce. All you will start considering is if she can cook you good meals and bare you children that can take care of you in old age. Keep sending them away.... 5 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by Nobody: 6:46am On Mar 12, 2019 |
GodisGood4321: Your instincts have been there since you breath your first. They will guide you. Just like you learnt to walk on you own as a baby, you will figure it out. 1 Like |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by timothydare(m): 6:48am On Mar 12, 2019 |
DMerciful:No room for divorce, is for better for worst. the bible doesn't agree with divorce. when u go 2 market to buy okirika.watever u c when u get home. u take it like that. the same thing with marriage. 3 Likes |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by Dirkcoyt: 6:55am On Mar 12, 2019 |
 just my fears too! I think I read a comment I will try to work on the model I saw cause I’m a realist.My fears are, I’ve never met a lady that truly loves me! Show them love , give attention. Spend but I don’t know it just doesn’t go beyond 2months! Never been in a relationship before don’t know how it feels like! I try my best, maybe some of us are not just to be loved back . I meet a woman and just weeks into her I ask myself do I think I want this lady does she fit it for me? I’ve concluded not to marry just have a baby cause I don’t think to be loved or marriage is for me Or maybe I’m to philosophical cause I sometimes feel love is a charade just an emotional rush that will sure goes down! Oh I’m writing my fears I wish I can also right my fears! I just want a smart lady ! I can’t cope with unintelligent person I get bored ! I don’t want to talk about weavons and makeup only all through my life ! I don’t want to be with a religious person that reduce my IQ! And I love my sanity and once you nag or can’t read my mood on when to ask questions I hate reason I need a smart person! I just need mutually respectable person! And sexually someone liberal enough to explore with me without thinking I’m possessed! I hate forgetful women! And don’t come screaming to my ear about money everytime cause the women have been meeting just money money! I give them and I disappear! I want an informed lady not someone I talked about Ethiopian airline crash with and just ask me darling what’s that?! Ive put in enough effort to self develop myself and it will be unfair to be with a lady that doesn’t do the same and don’t say I can’t find any of such ladies cause I believe not everyone of them are dumb Summary I’m scared I can’t find just this simple thing! 10 Likes |
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