ecstasy357:


I did sit her down and discussed about her future and plans. I told her what I expected and she did the same.

Now it's time to act and she chose not to. opportunities don't always come, opportunities like this rarely comes... If she can't see it now, when will she?

no body should make you feel guilty, I repeat nobody, life is only for those that can see the future where they want to be and take actions, any serious person would have gone for that Interview you helped reschedule even if it would cost her the other job for the one she is not yet sure of, is not always about love, look at your future and decide your fate bro, what you did is right.

ecstasy357:


Her dream is not to be an educator. I love educators. According to her, she's just managing it for the main until a better offer comes.

She doesn't know what she wants to do for the long term. For now she wants to learn how to bake.

We are still talking though... I need her to just show me a little drive

You really have a good heart. As I said earlier keep watching her. She ll adjust but it depends on time. And how much time do you have to spare if you have got any ?

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I PROMISE NEVER TO FIGHT WITH YOU ON ANY OTHER THREAD.

Yes, I was harsh. That's why I came here.

I also want to build a future.

Her reply after I ended things was just off... Which means it didn't mean that much to her.


I don't understand what you mean by her reply after you pronounced "is over". We're you expecting her to beg you ?OK, she would have knelt down and beg you not to end the relationship because, she will die without you? I honestly didn't want to comment, I was honestly forced to do so by the bolded... Rather than having a discussion with your woman, you chose to end the relationship and expected her to beg you... You honestly need to work on yourself. I know a guy who behaves exactly like you and guess what? He keeps moving from one relationship to the other, when asked, the usual answer is"she is not submissive". If you can end a relationship for this singular act, I wonder what will happen when you finally get married. Again, you are asking people for their opinions yet, you have answers to all the comments.

jackals:



You're not serious.

Be change my mind na... Make I consider ur offer.. It might be lucrative... Who knows?

Evercurious:


You really have a good heart. As I said earlier keep watching her. She ll adjust but it depends on time. And how much time do you have to spare if you have got any ?

Thank u... I've got time. But I'm not sure I've got the time to have a relationship that wouldn't lead to something wonderful.

Biglittlelois:



I am appalled at most of the comments on first page

Op although harsh, you've made the decision already, she is too relaxed where she is which is bad for a lady, who wouldn't want to have a boyfriend that cares about your growth and also has connections to make that happen? See her reply after you called it quits and the comments above neglected that part ooo!! She wasn't really into the relationship abeg even if its just one month, continue to be focused in what you want in a partner jare, it has nothing to do with pride.

First Time Your Comment Would Make Me Think You Can Be Good Lady...

Some of you bashing him won't understand what it feels like to be full of life and ambitions but have a partner who has no plans for the future. Personally I have dated someone like that too and its the same reason I left. Imagine someone finishing NYSC without a CV. It was the worse I could take coupled with other such actions

OkpaNsukkaisBae:
U didn't enquire to know y she refused 2 go for the offer... But you're complaining dat she didn't ask for d reason you're breaking up with her... U see ur life?

Because u think she don't want to grow without knowing her reason for not going for the offer..
For u to bluntly tell her she doesn't have a plan for tomorrow is an insult to her personality,, self-esteem and confidence.
U suppose dey build her sef esteem not break it ,, remove the class difference between u and her.

Na you find d teaching job for her?
Under one month you're already telling her she don't have a plan for tomorrow! Person go even think say she cheated on you or did some bizarre stuff.

Las Las na pride dey do u.. Come down from dat high horse called pride...

Cheers!!

I know his type. he is a massive narcissist. the girlfriend dodged a bomb!

ecstasy357:
This happened just over a week ago.

On a Friday afternoon, I called my gf but she was sounding off. I asked her whats wrong... She told me she missed a job invite scheduled for that day. She didn't check her mail on time. She further explained that a lady from her church took her CV and submitted to the HR internally. She called the lady to explain to her and was not pleased with her actions. I told her not to worry that i have the HR's contact convering that region cause I used to work at that bank in that same region.

I called the HR on Monday morning and explained everything to him. He asked me to tell her to come in on Tuesday morning. I called my gf but her number was switched off. I dropped offline messages for her on WhatsApp. She tried calling me but I missed all her calls, I was busy at work. I called her and told her I'll call her when I'm home.

When I got home I called her but her voice wasn't bright. What's up? She said she can't take excuse for a day from her boss.

OK...she is a teacher at a private primary school, where her salary is very very very very small.

Her boss, the proprietress, lost somebody and has been very sad all day, so she couldn't tell.

I don't want to appear like an insensitive guy though I know very well no boss would care much if the case was reversed. But I was angry that she made me appear like someone that isn't serious to the HR, and also wasting the opportunity of a better job.

For two days we didn't talk... We chatted again on Thursday. I later called her, then she started complaining about money.... No money for airtime, no money to go to church and for offering after I asked her about church. She was asking for money just two days after refusing to go for a better offer.

The following morning I called it quits....I told her she doesn't have a plan for tomorrow. That I needed someone to grow with and she doesn't seem like someone who wants to grow in life. All she could say was, "I can't force you to date me. If I am not what you want then it's OK." That's how we ended it.

She couldn't even see the reason I gave and inquire to know why I said that.

Life is all about taking risks, to go higher you have to raise a leg and stand on a foot. She's too comfortable where she is and I want to grow.

Lemme also point out that the relationship was only a month old.

Somehow I feel I'm a little bit too harsh with that decision.

Wow that's kinda too harsh but at the same time I understand your plight, I dont think about my employer too, because when it comes to sacking people they wont think of me. But I think you guys should at least discuss seems she might not be the type of push for things which is a character flaw.

ecstasy357:


You don't get. Instead of wasting her, I chose to let her be.

According to u, we have different time and I shouldn't impose mine.

Why are you angry at me?

Oh it's one month, if it's one month then it's easier I guess. I get what you mean, no one wants to live a broke life maybe shes comfortable anyway better now since you k ow what you want.