ebig21:


Sometimes life gives us upper cut that we say things we don't mean out of frustrations, cut that woman some slacks, she has been with you since 2015 in your predicament and she didn't leave, she still care for you, the stress, the lack of sex, the anxiety, it's taking a toll on her, you are bearing the financial and physical pain, she is bearing the emotional and psychological pain. So don't be selfish. Get well first.
Or are you a police man,
People dey pray bad prayer for una too much

D lack of sex mata na big problem! But Nairaland women dey systematically skip dah side... Dey don't wanna ask d man question about his bedroom ability after d accident....

PS ==Sips my coffee as I continue dey read comments!!

On a normal circumstances, I would ask you to take your children and leave once you are strong.

But in this case, it would be a very hasty decision. She has stuck around when you were at your lowest, she deserves the benefit of the doubt that she is just frustrated.

Sit with her and have a heart to heart talk with her.

Give her the opportunity to bear her mind. It would tell you if the marriage is salvageable.

wifeesnatcher:



Is not about her collecting outside is about her sincerity that she's done with you and I'm glad you're a wise man too. A man must learn to accept rejection though I know is not easy but staying with partner who don't love you is dangerous


As someone suggested above DNA things straight before you dey nurse another man pikin

Any small thing DNA....

Are married at all?

wildikeman:
d fuq... He should gbaga... And learn to manage on his own. Marriage after all is in sickness and in health... She don fuq up. And is banging another guy. Besides doing that is only going to warrant her pitying him and that may just buy more time... Pity isnt love. That candle has burnt out. And that pathetic. OP. Leave her. She who loves you will never leave you alone in your time of need.

Boss.
There’s a Yoruba saying that. Oju lando,obo were oyato. Meaning say Na face we dae Bleep... mad woman pussy no different.
Leaving one woman for another woman,don start since time immemorial.
What’s the assurance say the newest Na the messiah?
Marriage no dae work with money,AKA Alhaji Dangote is not married. Anthony Joshua still rocking.
Na God dey partner person or else Na everyday shouting and hating. Only suru Na him fit do am.

[quote author=iTearHerToto post=77621327]Was she like that when your shattered legs were still intact? If NO then answer the following ;

1. Do you still bang her well the way you used to when you were whole

2. Do you still bang her well the way you used to when you were whole

3. Do you still bang her well the way you used to when you were whole

If your answers are NO then you're in for it cos she might do worse

These Hoes don't joke with good sex and the moment they can't get that

haahahahahahahaahahahahahaa this guy ooooo...

Sally97:


Talk to her and find out what's going on with her. Maybe she's going through a lot and because of your state so many things have been neglected and things are not the way it used to be.

And you think the man is not going through things too?

munas:


Any small thing DNA....

Are married at all?

I guess you're a Lady? If yes, you Lady are unpredictable and complicated. The nightmare anyone don't want to dream is nursing another man kids

If I'm married or not, how is it your headache?

OkpaNsukkaisBae:


Is that all you have to say?

Nwanne okwu gwuru m n'onu. Wetin I wan comment again.

Viserion:
raise your hands if you think she is collecting d outside...

since 1709....e don tey

teresafaith:
She was just saying it out of frustration/anger, not like she meant it

one of her supporter spotted

sparko1:



wow! Now this just proved its something you can say! There is nothing that can be as bad as telling your wife/husband such demoralizing word.

Yea she just woke up one day and started using provocative languages

DanDeeBoss:
This is harsh ....You aren't different from the Op

@the bolded, you may be the wife after all

If i were married to that ingrate, i wouldn't be living with him by now.
Marriage is for better for good nowadays, you must not die there just to please a nagging husband.

iTearHerToto:
Was she like that when your shattered legs were still intact? If NO then answer the following ;

1. Do you still bang her well the way you used to when you were whole

2. Do you still bang her well the way you used to when you were whole

3. Do you still bang her well the way you used to when you were whole

If your answers are NO then you're in for it cos she might do worse

These Hoes don't joke with good sex and the moment they can't get that from you they go on a search and if unfortunately for you they find a solution then you are a loser

Someone is already fvckiing your wife stupidly .

Forget all these you're not whole or strong enough crap, forget about money, cos they don't care. The only thing they care most about is to get banged well.. What's my own with bang sef It's Fvck, I say fvck them well and they will love you forever even if you are headless

It's either you do the needful and stand a chance to revive your deceased Love or run like a coward

I was already in full agreement with this post until I saw your moniker, which makes me think you shouldnt be taken seriously. Comrade1248, take note!

15ssDRIVE:
Boss.
Abeg Abeg Abeg, cool down for Jesus. Since 2013 till now,she no leave!

Now wey e remain weeks for your to walk,you wan leave with the kids?

What if the doctor tell you again,that you need another 6 months ? Then you will need her again?

Money is different and caring is the main thing.

Think oh ...... think well-well. She might have her own Bleep ups,but you tell me .... U no get Bleep up ?

Call her home,talk to her like you daughter,ur sister,ur aunt,your Mom and finally like your loving darling wifey.
Ask here reason for those: words.
Ask where did you get it wrong?
What can be done for amendments.....

No mind people wey dey tell you say... kut her head,shootttt her. Their own case worst pass this matter wey dey ground .

The only sendible comment have read soo far , Thank you jare beta pikin

I don't believe for one second that the Ops hands are clean. I think he did or said something to provoke that statement from his wife. Its only a mentally unstable person that will just get up after years of supporting and helping you to turn around and stop showing support when you haven't done anything to offend them.

That's how these men come to Nairaland to paint their wives bad and make themselves look like angels.
That's how one of them came to spoil his wife's name after she built a house in her name and refused to sign the ownership of the house to him. If not that the wife logged into Nairaland to tell her own side of the story we would have never known what happened.

Sorry about your accident oo Op but I will not castigate your wife until I hear her side of the story.

wifeesnatcher:



I guess you're a Lady? If yes, you Lady are unpredictable and complicated. The nightmare anyone don't want to dream is nursing another man kids

If I'm married or not, how is it your headache?

I am a man...

Married for good 10yrs.

All you single people all over Nairaland will be shouting.... i cant take that rubish.....do DNA bla bla.

You have not live with a woman for 2yrs and you are giving marital advice.

Almost 90% of women has said that in their marriage.

But that does not in anyway mean they are cheating or they intend to cheat.

They are only reacting to emotional trauma that may have arise due to pressure in the marriage.

The man needs to fix the pressure pint and all will be fine.

Listen: If push comes to shoves,he will lose those children to the woman till they are 18yrs

Jman06:
Why shouldn't she take decision in the house

You people make it look like women are some kind of babies who must rely on a man for her whole existence! It's annoying!
Just for a short period the man has been incapacitated, she's already ranting!

If we haven't seen women who took charge of things and did great in running not just homes but businesses and governments, we'll think that women were created to depend on men! So, if the man had died in the accident, she'll not be able to take care of the kids but allow them to go wayward or become slaves to relatives and caretakers

Op simply married a lazy woman! simple! Unless there's another reason for her action!

God knows that I can't marry a woman who can't use her head and run things when I'm not around!

I'll also not raise the kind of daughters that must depend on a man for their existence!

Say No to weak asz women!!!!!!!!

when you get married,you will know better...

Na wetin frustration dey cause.

Amiblaize77:





The only sendible comment have read soo far , Thank you jare beta pikin

Thanks Dear I know say u self Na beta pikin.

Taking care of a sick person is not easy at all o, its all about the sick person..she's just frustrated

LilMissFavvy:
Financial reasons how? Am not sure you understand what I wrote. So he should not support his own kids?

Why can't a woman financially support her own kids too?

RTSC:
On a normal circumstances, I would ask you to take your children and leave once you are strong.

But in this case, it would be a very hasty decision. She has stuck around when you were at your lowest, she deserves the benefit of the doubt that she is just frustrated.

Sit with her and have a heart to heart talk with her.

Give her the opportunity to bear her mind. It would tell you if the marriage is salvageable.

Take them and leave for where?

You think if they divorce,then the man will be allowed to keep the children abi?

All these nairaland children self.

Any little thing go away,drive her,divorce her ,do DNA....bla bla bla rubbish.


Marriage is more than keeping a woman at home to Bleep as you wish.

munas:



when you get married,you will know better...

I pity people that listen to this.

What you don't know is that this man can actually lose his life.

him need to run for his dear life.

You don't have to experience something to gain experience any more, just dig around for the outcome of similar situations.

Na death of the man dey end am

CHoccolaTE:
I don't believe for one second that the Ops hands are clean. I think he did or said something to provoke that statement from his wife. Its only a mentally unstable person that will just get up after years of supporting and helping you to turn around and stop showing support when you haven't done anything to offend them.

That's how these men come to Nairaland to paint their wives bad and make themselves look like angels.
That's how one of them came to spoil his wife's name after she built a house in her name and refused to sign the ownership of the house to him. If not that the wife logged into Nairaland to tell her own side of the story we would have never known what happened.

Sorry about your accident oo Op but I will not castigate your wife until I hear her side of the story.

But you are already judging the man.

Preshy561:
Op. Worst thing you will do is to bring your family discussion to this section. As you can see, there are lots of childish comment here, even the first commenter called your wife a 'hoe '. This is what you get when you seek for advise from people who have never experienced marriage in their life.

My advise: take this to family section and get better reply. Thank you.

You are blessed......Some fathers are childish

15ssDRIVE:
Boss.
Abeg Abeg Abeg, cool down for Jesus. Since 2013 till now,she no leave!


No mind people wey dey tell you say... kut her head,shootttt her. Their own case worst pass this matter wey dey ground .

Chai, are you a man? I never knew NL men still had sense in abundance, just goes to show if the head is rotten some parts may still be as clean as ever...Op please heed this mans words

There are a million and one things i am sure you didnt tell us, if we listen to your wife's side of the story i am sure many commentators would change mouth, no one knows how you treat her in return, how your family treats her, what she goes through everyday, i am 100% sure it goes deeper than what you just said here, my neighbor abandoned his wife that stood by him for 11 years when he was down (court gave her custody), he went about balling with different chicks on a daily, suddenly the illness came back in quantum, family, friends and chicks abandoned him immediately, no one could deal with his mood swings, complains and neediness so they ran, he then remembered how one woman took up his cross for him all those years, could he get her back? NO, she had moved to UK and was working as an aged care nurse and studying to be a RN, unfortunately after awhile he ****, everyone said it was karma and blamed him, sameppl who hailed and asked him to leave his wife initially.

The world is two faced, NL is multi faced, ppl give opinions based on the likes they can get for savagery so take their advice carefully, if you are looking for real life advice go to Quora or Reddit support groups, Life is not easy but what we give is what we would receive.

Cheers

lefulefu:
someone is probably smashing ur wife and u asking weda to leave her or not.the choice remains wit u weda to stay or leave but know 4 sure wen ur woman is showing u attitude then another man is slamming her silly in za oza room.

;;;

You soak head for groundnut oil this morning abi? Husband and wife quarrel all the time and you think because words were exchanged then she is cheating? So he didnt say anything and the woman just said that because she is mad ni? Let him divorce her na, i Sorry for women when still they fear divorce for this century. He said he will leave with the children? I will drag you to court and fight for custordy. Have they not been quarreling since he had the accident? But na now when he is almost better that he wants to leave, why not leave since? Cause he needs the woman but now making excuses. Divorce her and let her go and live her life, obviously she is Tired of you also

Honestly, this must be one of the worst statement that could ever come's out of a woman's mouth to her husband.

Due to your post: she told you the same statement twice, and my question are,

1. Was it that she told you firstly b4 your accident and later renounced it after your accident.

If so, be wise man okay.

I hold up

It is not new op. I got married since 2011. Believe me when I tell you that most family women are like your wife and my wife isn't exceptional. Women respect and adore their husband alot when their husbands are too active on family responsibilities, forget " for better for worse" stuff. The op's wife is frustrated and she is running out of patience and it's a clear signal for the op to understand how women behaves.

Sally97:


Talk to her and find out what's going on with her. Maybe she's going through a lot and because of your state so many things have been neglected and things are not the way it used to be.

I would have also advised him to subscribe to your idea if not for my experience with women. They can't be reasoned with, believe me, they don't expect you to sit them down so as to trash things out... They'll rather expect you to take matters into your own hands and then take control.
If the man hasn't done anything outrightly wrong, then i think it's time for both of them to either seek professional help or go their separate ways. There's no need to stay in a toxic relationship.

Ungrateful man, a woman you ought to worship is who you are thinking of divorcing and leaving with her kids.
She endured all your pains, frustrations, bickering's, needless needs all these while, all your provocations inclusive and you are here yearning dust.

You should get your woman back, reassure her of your love for her, listen to her worries and stop making everything be about you for once. She needs to be pampered, it is only your leg that is broken, not your hands neither is it your heart.

How is your personal hygiene? Do you take care of your body? Do you still smell good, take care of your mouth and all? You can't depend on her for these ones too can you?

If it is about sex, you can please her with your tongue and fingers, you can make her ride you, you can even get a vibrator to spice things up, get down and make her feel great and come back and tell me if she will still open her mouth to say that statement.

Little things to keep marriage together, you guys cannot do it, every small thing, DIVORCE, haba.