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Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by tunize(m): 8:01pm On Apr 17
teresafaith:

I don't have to know his wife to know she never meant it.

Most of us say a lot of things we didn't mean out of frustration
Agree that is why is also good to control the things that comes out of oned mouth knowingly or unknowingly, angry or not and besides somethings that are said out of anger by someone can also be the true mind of that person u know jst that the avenue might not really be there saying those things.

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Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by Biglittlelois(f): 8:02pm On Apr 17
iTearHerToto:
Was she like that when your shattered legs were still intact? If NO then answer the following ;

1. Do you still bang her well the way you used to when you were whole

2. Do you still bang her well the way you used to when you were whole

3. Do you still bang her well the way you used to when you were whole

If your answer is NO then you're in for it cos she might do worse

These Hoes don't joke with good sex and the moment they can't get that from you they go on a search and if unfortunately for you they find a solution then you are a loserangry

Someone is already fvckiing your wife stupidly angry.

Forget all these you're not whole or strong enough crap, forget about money, cos they don't care. The only thing they care most about is to get banged well.. What's my own with bang sef It's Fvck, I say fvck them well and they will love you forever even if you are headless sad

It's either you do the needful and stand a chance to revive your deceased Love or run like a coward angry



Wayray cheesy cheesy

Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by Pharez007(m): 8:24pm On Apr 17
This is the “iceberg effect” Bro. It’s beyond what you see on the surface.. there is the “why” behind the “what”
In situations like this.. the carer actually suffers a lot and they just want to be appreciated.
Now that your prognosis is better and you would be recovery soon.. you may have started showing smal gra gra forgetting how she stood, supported and stayed with you when it was so bad..
Communicate Bro and have a sit down with her.. she might just be exasperated n feels unappreciated.. show her some love and have simple honest communication with your wife...

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Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by Crimpsy(m): 9:22pm On Apr 17
Preshy561:
Op. Worst thing you will do is to bring your family discussion to this section. As you can see, there are lots of childish comment here, even the first commenter called your wife a 'hoe '. This is what you get when you seek for advise from people who have never experienced marriage in their life.

My advise: take this to family section and get better reply. Thank you.
nice,supported

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Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by Amuocha: 9:28pm On Apr 17
But where is lalasticlala now sef undecided
Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by lefulefu(m): 9:48pm On Apr 17
someone is probably smashing ur wife and u asking weda to leave her or not.the choice remains wit u weda to stay or leave but know 4 sure wen ur woman is showing u attitude then another man is slamming her silly in za oza room.

;;;

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Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by kafulka(m): 9:50pm On Apr 17
She is still putting up with u because of the two kids !!!

Chai.. What an insult
.

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Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by iRepNaija1: 10:10pm On Apr 17
comradee1248:
We got married in 2013, by 2015 I had a very terrible accident that shattered one of my leg, so I've been down since then, even though the treatment will soon be over, I did up to 6 surgeries costing up to 5 million naira, which my people paid. I work with a very reputable Paramilitary organization, my salary has never been stopped.
I have never failed to provide the basic necessities in the house, even built my own 2 bedroom flat in the process.


My wife gets angry at the slightest oppotunity..
My wife Told me 2 times that the only reason she's still with me is our two kids, the 1st time I didn't take it serious but the 2nd time she said it I knew I have to think twice over it.

I know I will bounce back to life and use my legs again in few weeks from now.

My plan is to pack my kids and leave her alone...

What do you Suggest I do.

Thanks

Okay. So, according to you, you're financially providing for your family. But are you doing more than that? Some men seem to think that if they give the basics of what a husband is "supposed" to, they've done enough. But that's not necessarily the case. Consider the following:
Do you help with the errands around the house?
Do you help with your kids' homework, the schools runs, the chores for the children?
Do you take her out to dinner once in a while?
Do you guys have weekly date nights?
Have you bought her a small trinket just because? What about flowers?
When was the last time you told her she was beautiful/hot/sexy? Do you make her feel desired?
Do you remind her why you had to have her as your wife?
Have you taken her on a trip? Did you guys have a honeymoon?

Maybe you're doing the aforementioned. Maybe not. We only know your side of the story. But packing up and taking the children you have together should not be your first choice. Who are you to even take her kids away from her? That's a red flag right there. Go talk your wife and work it out.

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Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by SmellySperm(m): 10:17pm On Apr 17
iTearHerToto:
Was she like that when your shattered legs were still intact? If NO then answer the following ;

1. Do you still bang her well the way you used to when you were whole

2. Do you still bang her well the way you used to when you were whole

3. Do you still bang her well the way you used to when you were whole

If your answer is NO then you're in for it cos she might do worse

These Hoes don't joke with good sex and the moment they can't get that from you they go on a search and if unfortunately for you they find a solution then you are a loserangry

Someone is already fvckiing your wife stupidly angry.

Forget all these you're not whole or strong enough crap, forget about money, cos they don't care. The only thing they care most about is to get banged well.. What's my own with bang sef It's Fvck, I say fvck them well and they will love you forever even if you are headless sad

It's either you do the needful and stand a chance to revive your deceased Love or run like a coward angry

Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by lilianofentse(f): 10:40pm On Apr 17
kafulka:


Many men have gone that way,and I'm a witness to that
.
you are either typing from the grave or you experienced it second hand. So...
Which one?

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Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by grandstar(m): 12:29am On Apr 18
comradee1248:
We got married in 2013, by 2015 I had a very terrible accident that shattered one of my leg, so I've been down since then, even though the treatment will soon be over, I did up to 6 surgeries costing quite a fotune, which my people paid.

I work with a very reputable Paramilitary organization, my salary has never been stopped.
I have never failed to provide the basic necessities in the house, even bought my own 2 bedroom flat in the process.


My wife gets angry at the slightest oppotunity..
She told me 2 times that the only reason she's still with me is our two kids...

The 1st time I didn't take it serious but the 2nd time she said it I knew I have to think twice over it.

I know I will bounce back to life and use my legs again in few weeks from now.

My plan is to pack my kids and leave her alone...

What do you Suggest I do.

Thanks

Just ignore her. She's misbehaving allowing her impatience to get the better of her.

By the time you're okay, most of this period will be forgotten. Marriage is for the long haul so you too have to learn patience.

What's most important is that she's not cheating.
Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by LilMissFavvy(f): 1:02am On Apr 18
Many married couple's have gone through hard times, yet they sail through it, without divorcing. Such hard times include insults from both partners yet they try to make their marriage work. You had an accident for over four years, your wife was by your side, yet now that you know you gonna recover you want to dump her. Search your concience, if your wife was the one who had an accident, broke her leg, would you be faithful, would you be able to care of her? Wouldn't there be times when you are fed up. You want to divorce her over a kind of issue which oda married couple's face, yet they are still together. To me it's childish. Ok, go ahead and divorce her as many men have advised you. But what makes you think she will not fight you to get back her kids? Except she's an illiterate. If you married in 2013, the kids are still babies. Give her the children and go your way, you can always support them financially. You think the kids will not go to their mother when they grow up? Smh

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Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by comradee1248: 1:28am On Apr 18
LilMissFavvy:
Many married couple's have gone through hard times, yet they sail through it, without divorcing. Such hard times include insults from both partners yet they try to make their marriage work. You had an accident for over four years, your wife was by your side, yet now that you know you gonna recover you want to dump her. Search your concience, if your wife was the one who had an accident, broke her leg, would you be faithful, would you be able to care of her? Wouldn't there be times when you are fed up. You want to divorce her over a kind of issue which oda married couple's face, yet they are still together. To me it's childish. Ok, go ahead and divorce her as many men have advised you. But what makes you think she will not fight you to get back her kids? Except she's an illiterate. If you married in 2013, the kids are still babies. Give her the children and go your way, you can always support them financially. You think the kids will not go to their mother when they grow up? Smh
thanks for your advice, will think about it, the lady is desperately wicked, I don't want to go in to details

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Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by desoul2004(m): 4:34am On Apr 18
teresafaith:
She was just saying it out of frustration/anger, not like she meant it

I think you're right.
Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by femi4: 6:50am On Apr 18
comradee1248:
We got married in 2013, by 2015 I had a very terrible accident that shattered one of my leg, so I've been down since then, even though the treatment will soon be over, I did up to 6 surgeries costing quite a fotune, which my people paid.

I work with a very reputable Paramilitary organization, my salary has never been stopped.
I have never failed to provide the basic necessities in the house, even bought my own 2 bedroom flat in the process.


My wife gets angry at the slightest oppotunity..
She told me 2 times that the only reason she's still with me is our two kids...

The 1st time I didn't take it serious but the 2nd time she said it I knew I have to think twice over it.

I know I will bounce back to life and use my legs again in few weeks from now.

My plan is to pack my kids and leave her alone...

What do you Suggest I do.

Thanks
Probably due to lack of sex
Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by chubbyG(m): 8:08am On Apr 18
comradee1248:
We got married in 2013, by 2015 I had a very terrible accident that shattered one of my leg, so I've been down since then, even though the treatment will soon be over, I did up to 6 surgeries costing quite a fotune, which my people paid.

I work with a very reputable Paramilitary organization, my salary has never been stopped.
I have never failed to provide the basic necessities in the house, even bought my own 2 bedroom flat in the process.


My wife gets angry at the slightest oppotunity..
She told me 2 times that the only reason she's still with me is our two kids...

The 1st time I didn't take it serious but the 2nd time she said it I knew I have to think twice over it.

I know I will bounce back to life and use my legs again in few weeks from now.

My plan is to pack my kids and leave her alone...

What do you Suggest I do.


The truth is we cannot come into a conclusion from the story you out up.


Relax, understand her better
What have you been doing that you're doing wrong.
Is she in the marriage because of pity??
Or are you rubbing it in her face... (maybe your ego, money, etc)

Women also have feelings

Thanks

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Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by Obodo999(m): 8:16am On Apr 18
teresafaith:

I don't have to know his wife to know she never meant it.

Most of us say a lot of things we didn't mean out of frustration

You can only speak for yourself and not for others.
Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by Obodo999(m): 8:20am On Apr 18
LilMissFavvy:
Many married couple's have gone through hard times, yet they sail through it, without divorcing. Such hard times include insults from both partners yet they try to make their marriage work. You had an accident for over four years, your wife was by your side, yet now that you know you gonna recover you want to dump her. Search your concience, if your wife was the one who had an accident, broke her leg, would you be faithful, would you be able to care of her? Wouldn't there be times when you are fed up. You want to divorce her over a kind of issue which oda married couple's face, yet they are still together. To me it's childish. Ok, go ahead and divorce her as many men have advised you. But what makes you think she will not fight you to get back her kids? Except she's an illiterate. If you married in 2013, the kids are still babies. Give her the children and go your way, you can always support them financially. You think the kids will not go to their mother when they grow up? Smh

So you think that men exist only for financial reasons? You need to change your mindset.

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Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by TonyeBarcanista(m): 8:30am On Apr 18
comradee1248:
We got married in 2013, by 2015 I had a very terrible accident that shattered one of my leg, so I've been down since then, even though the treatment will soon be over, I did up to 6 surgeries costing quite a fotune, which my people paid.

I work with a very reputable Paramilitary organization, my salary has never been stopped.
I have never failed to provide the basic necessities in the house, even bought my own 2 bedroom flat in the process.


My wife gets angry at the slightest oppotunity..
She told me 2 times that the only reason she's still with me is our two kids...

The 1st time I didn't take it serious but the 2nd time she said it I knew I have to think twice over it.

I know I will bounce back to life and use my legs again in few weeks from now.

My plan is to pack my kids and leave her alone...

What do you Suggest I do.

Thanks
My brother, when a woman or an individual says something once and repeat same thing, please, DO NOT dismiss such talk nor take it with levity. It is clear that she has zero love and regard for you.

I'll not advice you to leave the home but will advice you to emotionally detach from her and start living with her as a roommate. If you can't do this, then start plotting exit plan or execute the one you have.

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Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by alphaNomega: 8:30am On Apr 18
comradee1248:
We got married in 2013, by 2015 I had a very terrible accident that shattered one of my leg, so I've been down since then, even though the treatment will soon be over, I did up to 6 surgeries costing quite a fotune, which my people paid.

I work with a very reputable Paramilitary organization, my salary has never been stopped.
I have never failed to provide the basic necessities in the house, even bought my own 2 bedroom flat in the process.


My wife gets angry at the slightest oppotunity..
She told me 2 times that the only reason she's still with me is our two kids...

The 1st time I didn't take it serious but the 2nd time she said it I knew I have to think twice over it.

I know I will bounce back to life and use my legs again in few weeks from now.

My plan is to pack my kids and leave her alone...

What do you Suggest I do.

Thanks

Your wife is talking out of frustration. You are adults and MUST work this out amicably. Do not leave her. Do not let her go. Do it for the sake of your children. Tell her your children are the only reason YOU are still with HER.

Those kids deserve their father and mother together, when your kids are all grown up and married, then you and your wife can decide to go separate ways.

For better for worse my brother.

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Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by danniyal(m): 8:31am On Apr 18
Preshy561:
Op. Worst thing you will do is to bring your family discussion to this section. As you can see, there are lots of childish comment here, even the first commenter called your wife a 'hoe '. This is what you get when you seek for advise from people who have never experienced marriage in their life.

My advise: take this to family section and get better reply. Thank you.
Sometimes the small small children for here dey give correct ✔ advice o. E beta make man dey shine eyes well well

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Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by danniyal(m): 8:33am On Apr 18
alphaNomega:


Your wife is talking out of frustration. You are adults and MUST work this out amicably. Do not leave her. Do not let her go. Do it for the sake of your children. Tell her your children are the only reason YOU are still with HER.

Those kids deserve their father and mother together, when your kids are all grown up and married, then you and your wife can decide to go separate ways.

For better for worse my brother.
Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by franklingud(m): 8:39am On Apr 18
A word is enough for the wise bro but she has told you twice.

Believe me when I say that she has done worse behind your back.

Don't even wait to get whole again before you take your kids and leave her.

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Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by successfulhadi22(f): 8:42am On Apr 18
comradee1248:
We got married in 2013, by 2015 I had a very terrible accident that shattered one of my leg, so I've been down since then, even though the treatment will soon be over, I did up to 6 surgeries costing quite a fotune, which my people paid.

I work with a very reputable Paramilitary organization, my salary has never been stopped.
I have never failed to provide the basic necessities in the house, even bought my own 2 bedroom flat in the process.


My wife gets angry at the slightest oppotunity..
She told me 2 times that the only reason she's still with me is our two kids...

The 1st time I didn't take it serious but the 2nd time she said it I knew I have to think twice over it.

I know I will bounce back to life and use my legs again in few weeks from now.

My plan is to pack my kids and leave her alone...

What do you Suggest I do.

Thanks
she said that out of frustration believe me

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Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by Uyi168(m): 8:44am On Apr 18
teresafaith:
She was just saying it out of frustration/anger, not like she meant it
..
U reside in her mind
Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by LilMissFavvy(f): 8:49am On Apr 18
Financial reasons how? Am not sure you understand what I wrote. So he should not support his own kids?
Obodo999:


So you think that men exist only for financial reasons? You need to change your mindset.

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Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by Athena4: 8:50am On Apr 18
iTearHerToto:
Was she like that when your shattered legs were still intact? If NO then answer the following ;

1. Do you still bang her well the way you used to when you were whole

2. Do you still bang her well the way you used to when you were whole

3. Do you still bang her well the way you used to when you were whole

If your answers are NO then you're in for it cos she might do worse

These Hoes don't joke with good sex and the moment they can't get that from you they go on a search and if unfortunately for you they find a solution then you are a loserangry

Someone is already fvckiing your wife stupidly angry.

Forget all these you're not whole or strong enough crap, forget about money, cos they don't care. The only thing they care most about is to get banged well.. What's my own with bang sef It's Fvck, I say fvck them well and they will love you forever even if you are headless sad

It's either you do the needful and stand a chance to revive your deceased Love or run like a coward angry
You don't have to be this stûpid you know.
You should have kept your thrash to your self .

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Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by Beulah77: 8:51am On Apr 18
iTearHerToto:
Was she like that when your shattered legs were still intact? If NO then answer the following ;

1. Do you still bang her well the way you used to when you were whole

2. Do you still bang her well the way you used to when you were whole

3. Do you still bang her well the way you used to when you were whole


You lack senses

If your answers are NO then you're in for it cos she might do worse

These Hoes don't joke with good sex and the moment they can't get that from you they go on a search and if unfortunately for you they find a solution then you are a loserangry

Someone is already fvckiing your wife stupidly angry.

Forget all these you're not whole or strong enough crap, forget about money, cos they don't care. The only thing they care most about is to get banged well.. What's my own with bang sef It's Fvck, I say fvck them well and they will love you forever even if you are headless sad

It's either you do the needful and stand a chance to revive your deceased Love or run like a coward angry
Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by lonelydora: 8:51am On Apr 18
comradee1248:
We got married in 2013, by 2015 I had a very terrible accident that shattered one of my leg, so I've been down since then, even though the treatment will soon be over, I did up to 6 surgeries costing quite a fotune, which my people paid.

I work with a very reputable Paramilitary organization, my salary has never been stopped.
I have never failed to provide the basic necessities in the house, even bought my own 2 bedroom flat in the process.


My wife gets angry at the slightest oppotunity..
She told me 2 times that the only reason she's still with me is our two kids...

The 1st time I didn't take it serious but the 2nd time she said it I knew I have to think twice over it.

I know I will bounce back to life and use my legs again in few weeks from now.

My plan is to pack my kids and leave her alone...

What do you Suggest I do.

Thanks

Did your legs affect your bedroom duties? If YES, that's the reason. But, don't pass judgement too quickly. Women say a lot of what they do not mean when angry. If she pleads for forgiveness after saying it, then there nothing to fear about.

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Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by Topmaike007(m): 8:51am On Apr 18
TarOrfeek:
Stop eating her food.

This type of woman will use Sniper and DDV4 to spice jollof rice for you and the kids.
lolz
Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by ProduceNiG: 8:52am On Apr 18
comradee1248:
We got married in 2013, by 2015 I had a very terrible accident that shattered one of my leg, so I've been down since then, even though the treatment will soon be over, I did up to 6 surgeries costing quite a fotune, which my people paid.

I work with a very reputable Paramilitary organization, my salary has never been stopped.
I have never failed to provide the basic necessities in the house, even bought my own 2 bedroom flat in the process.


My wife gets angry at the slightest oppotunity..
She told me 2 times that the only reason she's still with me is our two kids...

The 1st time I didn't take it serious but the 2nd time she said it I knew I have to think twice over it.

I know I will bounce back to life and use my legs again in few weeks from now.

My plan is to pack my kids and leave her alone...

What do you Suggest I do.

Thanks


Make sure you do as you have planned, involve your family, don't cope with this alone, let them know ahead of your actions and her words, infact, bring a member of your family to come live with you so no harm is done to you between now and when you execute that decision.


Didin't she swear an oath saying for better, for worse. What a toxic being she is.

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