Evercurious:


In that broke and needy state of that man, one can still see signs of ungratefulness if vigilant. I have been in situations like this and trust I don't hesitate to back out

You are right just that most people especially women tend to allow emotions be cloud their senses of reasoning when it comes to relationships

trapQ:
Stop supporting nonsense. So that person wasn't disgraceful when you were spending their money and only became disgraceful when you became rich?

No mind that one. Materialism and class is that ones problem

ImaIma1:


Try to understand the point and don't be ready to pounce. Both parties need to keep developing themselves.

Compatibility is important in marriage, it bridges gaps. And as i said in another post, it doesn't mean that the couple won't be married forever, it would just help enhance the marriage better.

Plz stop hiding under the guise of compatibility Your issue is CLASS AND MATERIALISM

Modarun:
Most times these so called long term girlfriends are not as loyal as they pretend to be. But konji being a bastard, poor boy has no choice, cos i mf he chase her away, no more feeding and pocket money and free pvssy from his girl, so bros will act loyal. the very moment he hits money, he then runs off.

Aye ooo

JONNYSPUTE:
You are right just that most people especially women tend to allow emotions be cloud their senses of reasoning when it comes to relationships

My dear as for me I open my eyes, ear, head, brain, heart and every other one needed for the relationship to work. But most important of them all is my HEAD.

Guy wey never see money start to give you some attitude and you look away.. Hmmm..very dangerous..Maybe the babe too never handle better money for her life to know that some attitude are signs of ungratefulness waiting to explode.

Evercurious:


My dear as for me I open my eyes, ear, head, brain, heart and every other one needed for the relationship to work. But most important of them all is my HEAD.

Guy wey never see money start to give you some attitude and you look away.. Hmmm..very dangerous..Maybe the babe too never handle better money for her life to know that some attitude are signs of ungratefulness waiting to explode.

lol

lefulefu:
do u know Denzel washington? The black american hollywood star that featured in a number of hollywood blackbusters. The guy won an oscar in the mid 2000s for his act in dat movie Training Day. He won it alongside Halle Berry dat year.He's an elite actor of the highest echelon bracket. Have u seen his wife? If u see his wife u will be shocked.she looks like average looking housewife than a slayqueen. Denzel met his wife b4 he became a hollywood star and till today they still together. This is d same hollywood dat stars divorce on a routine basis oo. Because of his love for his wife it is said dat denzel refuses to have sex scene in a movie set. So u see money cannot change a man's mindset about u when im don hammer. For jezreel case it might he wasnt really dat into his wife even though d woman might hv loved him. There are some men who marry a girl just for marrying sake or cos their parents forced dem into marrying her or like i said b4 d girl was probably givin dem issues when they were broke.

Money can change anyone.

And don't act surprised that men can be jerks, assh*les or more appropriately douch*bags. When it comes to loyalty, a lot of it is personal rather than gender-specific.

A lot of females stick with a guy because there's no better alternative in the offing in the same way many guys stick to a female because they don't have enough yet. When you are upgrading to newer cars, newer clothes, better living space, meeting fancier ladies, some just go the whole mile to upgrade their SO as well. It's a sh*t thing to do, but humans are inherently selfish.

The only reason this doesn't happen often enough among the wider society to be pandemic is that social mobility is low. And when finances improve, it's often moderate. Like formerly eating 3 square meals was a problem, now you can rent a flat, buy a tokunbo sedan, and you're comfortable by Nigerian standards (enough to have funds to start thinking about buying land, building your own small bungalow, or opening a provision store).

The vertical shift is not drastic. And it's not like the distribution of women now available to you is now somehow night and day compared to your former situation. So sticking together isn't something you have to actively think about. You just do it, like moving from one level to another in school. Ditto for the elite.

For guys who go from struggling to having more money and influence than they know what to do with it, it can be a rude change. Like from high school to college. Especially if it happens quickly. All of a sudden all the ladies from hotel lobby attendant to flight attendant to bank reps look at you approvingly; the women you see at the ball, the etiquette, the experiences they've had, their taste. It's just radically different. Within this crowd, people like Jonathan and Denzel are not a large majority. Women who stay often have to deal with sh*t they wouldn't take if he was because of the financial security.

This entire topic is nuanced, but people don't typically do right by other people whom provided value at some point. If they did, we wouldn't have the saying "failure is an orphan" and "success has many friends." It's f*cked up. But so is life.

-Lord

Stillthebest:
Before you condemn this write up. Try and be poor before and then become rich. Then you can determine. Money changes tastes. Most rich men today don't have their first wives and their retained wives. Though, the ball is played differently by different people. A lot of things make you want to retain or let go. Some less iq women stay in a marriage just because they think there is no place to go. Life could diverse

You see the issue 'try and be poor before and then become rich'.. This is why 'I CAN NEVER THROW AWAY THE EFFECTS OF BACKGROUND IN THE LIFE OF ANYONE.

so sorry to say this but my dear may God HELP AND DELIVER your MENTALITY

. Sincerely this is the reason why I say all things being equal the worse set of guys to date is the 'broke' ones. If not for the sake of true love, I wouldn't advise any lady to go close to them

D ladies ain't saying anything

sorry dear

Elder0001:



You’re obviously sick . This hungry bastard male hiding under a female moniker to gain attention

Any account not bearing elder0000 or hanseel or fadedvoices isn’t me.

anyways that one no concern me sha
who is he tho

AntiBrutus:


Babe, Elder might be everything, but he can never be that element. Look deeper and you will know who LOl is.

ANGELMARVE:
Absolute Nonsense.

A lady stuck by you when you were broke, now that you are Rich, you left the lady because in your words, "She has now become a liability"
So tell me why Goodluck Jonathan is still with patience Jonathan?

Are you more richer and educated than Goodluck Jonathan?

Yes!!! i know a woman must develop her own self, mentally, educationally or resourcefully but that do not mean that if she fails to meet the requirement guaranteed for your financial level, that you should dump her.

A real man will use his wealth to uplift his woman financially, educationally and transform her to your standard.

Particularly if she's flexible and teachable. Nice submission.

Evercurious:


Plz stop hiding under the guise of compatibility Your issue is CLASS AND MATERIALISM

All i see in your comment is a preconceived notion, ignorance and lack of understanding or an unwillingness to understand.

Whatever the case, learn to disagree and comment objectively and with maturity instead of childish outbursts.

Modarun:
Most times these so called long term girlfriends are not as loyal as they pretend to be. But konji being a bastard, poor boy has no choice, cos i mf he chase her away, no more feeding and pocket money and free pvssy from his girl, so bros will act loyal. the very moment he hits money, he then runs off.

Lolzzzx... Isn't this a comedy?

ImaIma1:


All i see in your comment is a preconceived notion, ignorance and lack of understanding or an unwillingness to understand.

Whatever the case, learn to disagree and comment objectively and with maturity instead of childish outbursts.

Learn to always come out straight..

It's painful leaving ur woman especially when u re rich. If u say IQ is d reason most guys leave their woman then I ask Wat IQ do u have wen u re poor? Wat re u looking for when u find her, was her IQ then not attractive?. Build ur woman as u both grow in relationship whether rich or IQ otherwise there's nothing sweeter as dis. To see woman as loyal when u are poor is had to find.

If u really love ur girl there no reason to leave her

spades:


@LordKO:I have been a member here since 2006.Mostly a silent onlooker,the quality of submissions has declined over the years,abysmally.The truth inherent in your post though(woke AF) approaches the divine,speaking volumes of your moral depth.Permit me to applaud your intellectual sagacity and flawless insight regarding what is simply a question of character.What maketh a man?The kind of degenerate reprobate that would repay back a woman's faith,love and belief with such contempt because of a few coins is a man to be kept at arms length,thats some next level 12 pieces of silver sh**.,Kendrick Lamar said it best "See, you's a, you's a,you's a—Bitch, your hormones prolly switch inside your DNA,Problem is,all that sucker shit inside your DNA Daddy prolly snitched, heritage inside your DNA". Such betrayal as the type described here is,as you rightly said,evil personafied.Thanks for pointing this out.Celestial realms and "real men" from Gidi to the North Pole agree with you,heck even Charlie Sheen agrees and dude is higher than space cadets half the time .Seriously though.Thank you for speaking for "us".(Ghost mode reactivated)

Esprit de corps.

LordKO:


A mentally parochial entity like you isn't in the best position to quantify others... I neither invalidate nor validate the IQ of the lady you quoted though, but she'll be doing herself a great disservice if she takes you serious.

This supposed hatred all came from the fact that I support feminism and I’ve rebuked you in the past for your semi- traditionalist and archaic views on male and female relationships.

The hate was becoming too much that’s why I stopped commenting on romance section since last year but it’s obvious you’re still in deep pains which resulted from the call outs .


An egoistic bastard who think he knows it all , foisting his archaic ,primitive and misogynistic thoughts not only on romance section but on the family section .

Elder0001:



This supposed hatred all came for the fact that I support feminism and I’ve rebuked you in the past for your semi- traditionalist and archai views on male and female relationships.

The hate was becoming too much that’s why I stopped commenting in romance section since last year but it’s obvious you’re still in deep pains for the call outs .


An egoistic bastard who think he knows it all , foisting his archai ,primitive and misogynistic thoughts not only on romance section but on the family section .

Lol. You always amuse me. Don't worry, I don't hate you.

MissRaine69:
This is something a lot of my fellow women fail to grasp. Instead they become very bitter and fail to see why he ended leaving instead there is this mindset of “ he owes me”.
Excellent write up, bravo!

You’re one of the wisest females that ever graced nairaland ! Though , we don’t always agree but you’re right today .

LordKO:


Lol. You always amuse me. Don't worry, I don't hate you.

Go fvck yourself .

I have no dealings with traditional misogynists.

Elder0001:



Go fvck yourself .

I have no dealings with traditional misogynists.

Look at this hypocritically disingenuous entity - wannabe libertarian and egalitarian. Now vamoose and look for your ilk elsewhere. Bumpkin.

Evercurious:


Learn to always come out straight..

Are you still aching from the post from gaspardd?

Because you obviously carry things in mind. Take it easy sha.

My comment on this post is straight forward. I am only responsible for my comment and not for how to choose to interpret it.

trapQ:
If you think men cheat due to the "smelly
personality" of their women then you are on a very long thing.

Men cheat simply because they want to and it has nothing to do with their partners.

A man can cheat on his wife and still love her

A man who can never cheat on his wife can never cope with a woman who has a smelly personality.

Now do the math!

Saffi:
So what if a man who was once rich becomes broke, and the lady decides to leave him, because she’s not on his level anymore, ‘change is constant’. Do we support this 100%? Can we say this woman has a valid reason to leave because he’s not following her pace, or will you men not abuse her and call her all sorts of names?

You only agree with ‘change is constant’ once it benefits the man. If a man is changing for the worst, the woman is expected to ride or die for him like a useless slave, even if she outgrows him financially. But once a man is changing for the better and outgrowing his woman financially, he is entitled to trample and kick his woman’s ass to the curb as if she is disposable rubbish. Do you see how selfish and stupid most of you men are? It’s shameful

How you girls twist everything men type in this forum into victim stories amazes me all the time.
It’s the reason why I hardly respond to (f) monikers because they never involve logic when composing responses.
I’ll leave your reply to one of these attention seeking guys to continue from.
I already know no answer I’ll give will change the victim mentality you’ve already conjured.

ANGELMARVE:
Absolute Nonsense.

A lady stuck by you when you were broke, now that you are Rich, you left the lady because in your words, "She has now become a liability"
So tell me why Goodluck Jonathan is still with patience Jonathan?

Are you more richer and educated than Goodluck Jonathan?

Yes!!! i know a woman must develop her own self, mentally, educationally or resourcefully but that do not mean that if she fails to meet the requirement guaranteed for your financial level, that you should dump her.

A real man will use his wealth to uplift his woman financially, educationally and transform her to your standard.

Nice one. I was super shocked when many were been supportive of leaving a woman who has sacrificed a lot. The truth is, we have a lot of greedy and selfish men these days who will always give excuse (s) for every of their failing actions. To all women out there, pls be careful on how you support people totally, you never can tell who is using you to get to his goal

meobizy:

How you girls twist everything men type in this forum into victim stories amazes me all the time.
It’s the reason why I hardly respond to (f) monikers because they never involve logic when composing responses.
I’ll leave your reply to one of these attention seeking guys to continue from.
I already know no answer I’ll give will change the victim mentality you’ve already conjured.

That's because most of you men don't apply logic to every of your actions. We have a lot of selfish men out there who think only about themselves...

Evercurious:

Not at all cos what's wrong is wrong.

I love your spirit, honestly! your name?

sweetilicious:
Thanks.I just don't like the way some Nigerian ladies lazy about.We were supposed to help a man in building.From my research,76% of African men die so young because of stress.The expectations on African men is too much.When they die,life becomes so hard for their widows because they weren't prepared both financially,emotionally,and physically to take up the challenges.They weren't used to that.Now as a result,the children will be affected so much by the challenges.This is not good if we want to breed society devoid of avoidable crimes.If Nigeria wants to get it right,it will have to start from the family.What do you teach your children.Do you just tell your daughters that the most important thing is for her to rally around and look for a rich man to marry that it would be the best security for her? Do you just teach your sons that as a man,he should bear all the burden? He is not supposed to ask for help no cry? So many LADIES that are graduates don't even know what or why they had to study the course they did.All they want to learn is how to make up and sell clothes,weavon,bags and sandals.They won't learn how to make all this. I want a change.Let everyone help each other to build.The stress in this life is so much to be borne by one party. An Igbo adage says"Anyuko Mamiri onu,ogbaa ufufu".

wow I can't believe this is coming from a Nigeria girl wow so surprise u are very right most Nigerians girls all there dearms re to get married and have kids and looking for a man to put them in his house and feed them nothing to add to the man life that why most men die young am still very much surprise this is coming from a Nigeria girl I really wch to know you as a friend because is girls like you I want in my life not all this one I see there own to to marry that all can we be friends

Guy na trash u dey yarn like dis.
Absolutely trash.

U guys are trying to change the true meaning of love.... To a business oriented concept.... U guys don dey turn am to a business venture where u seek for profit(ur profit only...maximize profit... Do away with things dat gonna make u spend ur income...

Love is not selfish... Love is all about sacrifice,,, complementing each other. You cannot define love using economic principle. It doesn't work like that.

If you're financially buoyant d best thing to do is to support and empower the lady wey don suffer with you...d Lady dat has been loyal and faithful to you.

Na una type go see better woman dump am... Later come online dey look 4 divorce advice.
E no concern me....

LordKO:


Look at this hypocritically disingenuous entity - wannabe libertarian and egalitarian. Now vamoose and look for your ilk elsewhere. Bumpkin.

Jesus!!

Lord KO
you are lord of KnockOuts


Technical knockouts

Change your mindset.My sister is verrryyyy successful.She is the neck and the husband is the head.They live so in peace.They build castles and invest appropriately.What you beleive will come to you.

boban007:
ONCE A WOMAN ATTAIN SUCCESS THEY FIND IT DIFFICULT TO LIVE UNDER A MAN OR RESPECT HIM.WOMEN ARE POOR MANAGERS OF SUCCESS.