Hi Nairalanders....Please Admin, help me push to Front Page, i'm in dire need of people's opinions.

Pls ignore my writing skills because the way the matter be, my head dey shake like this.

My story is brief.

I am married to my wife & we're blessed with 3 kids,
..My wife starves me of sex over minor issues, even when we've settled by my apologies & me assisting remarkably well in house chores.
There was a period 2 years back she starved me of sex for 4 months because of one little misunderstanding we had back then which was unbearable for me & made me to cheat on her,..And my relationship lasted for more than a year with that lady.

Right now she (my wife) has started again with same attitude, its going to a month now. I am confused because I don't want to cheat on her again. What do i do? Should i keep facing such punishment? For how long? Or, should i file for a divorce? Don't you think such attitude will have reoccurrences in time coming?. It is disturbing me badly because I find it difficult to be sleeping alone at nite without her by my side. I have begged & begged her to let whatever anger towards me that is deposited in her to just die off, yet to no avail. The funny thing is, we'll discuss and play very well before going to bed but, whenever I start making advances towards her, she shows up a different attitude.

I am confused!! It is really really disturbing me. How & where did I go wrong?.

Pls, matured advices only, you can insult me too, of course its Nairaland but, I need serious advice, I am very worried.
Thanks.

You sound too soft. Is she doing you a favor? You better look for what would weaken her and push that button. Look at how annoying your comments is. You're begging her cause your a Christian sheybi. Oga come back home 11 pm pour alcohol on your body. Start snapping pics of young girls on your phone. Behave irregular. Gibe her jab, you're in demand outside and watch her change as you stop this simping. Its annoying.


Dem no dey mine gold inside toto


Yan yan starve me of sex. If you were here I'll slap you to reset your brain.


Ubunja

Martinez39

Planet3xi:
You sound too soft. Is she doing you a favor? You better look for what would weaken her and push that button

I have been trying, but she does this always over minor issues.

Optimus212:


I have been trying, but she does this always over minor issues.

Guy you're the wife she's the husband. You're annoying. Please don't quote me again. Men start placing demands on ladies to also partner in building relationships

Slay Queens were designed for this reason.

Stop depending on one woman for your happiness. Humans are manipulative.

Tell her you'll get it elsewhere and if she still doesn't improve, just look for one sidechick to deposit your load. Body no be firewood. Your wife uses sex as a weapon and the only way to defeat her mindset is to let her know the weapon is ineffective. It's better you stop trying to initiate it, stop begging her for sex, let her confuse small.


But wait first, does she have a very low sex drive? Because how can she stay away for 4 months.

Planet3xi:
You sound too soft. Is she doing you a favor? You better look for what would weaken her and push that button. Look at how annoying your comments is. You're begging her cause your a Christian sheybi. Oga come back home 11 pm pour alcohol on your body. Start snapping pics of young girls on your phone. Behave irregular. Gibe her jab, you're in demand outside and watch her change as you stop this simping. Its annoying.


Dem no dey mine gold inside toto


Yan yan starve me of sex. If you were here I'll slap you to reset your brain.


Ubunja

Martinez39

I'd say I was a bit that way but decided to change my lifestyle since the last time I cheated on her that nearly cost me my marriage. My wife became scared & started apologizing cos she saw it that she was about loosing her man because of her carelessnes. I forgave her, since then. I jst decided to keep calm because of the kids, now she's resumed same attitude.

Optimus212:


I have been trying, but she does this always over minor issues.

You're a girl. I know even during sex you'll be acting like your destiny depends on it not knowing you're giving her the power to Lord it over you. You better work on yourself. My Canadian chick do am for me six months she and her entire family no see my smile, d mama dey come beg, for just small matter set wet I just want shoe off not to talk of this one. Why are you feeding her or housing her. Abi are you okay Oga?

Op you should discuss with your wife, tell her how you truly feel about the way she treats you, if she really loves you she'll stop acting that way. Don't let someone push you into being irresponsible, the only person who needs to change here is your wife. People who cheat think they are wise, they have no single respect for their bodies.. they are like dogs.

Meanwhile I hope you've asked for forgiveness for cheating on her.

kushercain:
Tell her you'll get it elsewhere and if she still doesn't improve, just look for one sidechick to deposit your load. Body no be firewood. Your wife uses sex as a weapon and the only way to defeat her mindset is to let her know the weapon is ineffective. It's better you stop trying to initiate it, stop begging her for sex, let her confuse small.


But wait first, does she have a very low sex drive? Because how can she stay away for 4 months.

Not really but can stay off sex for a very long time if she's hurt.

Optimus212:


I'd say I was a bit that way but decided to change my lifestyle since the last time I cheated on her that nearly cost me my marriage. My wife became scared & started apologizing cos she saw it that she was about loosing her man because of her carelessnes. I forgave her, since then. I jst decided to keep calm because of the kids, now she's resumed same attitude.

Forget sex for now, go and regain the power dynamics in this relationship. You've put her in the front seat hence she's riding you anyhow. Give irritating habits, strange habits come late. Don't ask for sex. Dress up walk out. In two weeks shell be back begging. Toss this toxic relationship aside nigger life is too short. Call her people tell them there can't be two men in the house and you have needs. If she can't meet your needs you wish to create space for some who will give it


Just man up already. If people hate peace then give them war. I'm a peaceful man but once a person rejects my peace offering straight I wear my war uniform. God punish devil

Optimus212:


Not really [s]but can stay off sex for a very long time if she's hurt.[/s]

Hmmmm....

Pinky, are you thinking what I'm thinking?

Planet3xi:



You're a girl. I know even during sex you'll be acting like your destiny depends on it not knowing you're giving her the power to Lord it over you. You better work on yourself. My Canadian chick do am for me six months she and her entire family no see my smile, d mama dey come beg, for just small matter set wet I just want shoe off not to talk of this one. Why are you feeding her or housing her. Abi are you okay Oga?

My brother, my own no good sef oo but like i said, I dropped all those habits inorder to be a bit focused in life. I just sent her Aunt that is in Texas a WhatsApp msg about the matter.
By tomorrow I'll know whats up.

I miss Bachelor life though.

Optimus212:


My brother, my own no good sef oo but like said, I dropped all those habits to be a bit focused in life. I just sent her Aunt that is in Texas a WhatsApp msg about the matter.
By tomorrow I'll know whats up.

I miss Bachelor life though.

I said fake it. I didn't say go do it. Act irrational to steal back the power remote. You've handed her the power control in the relationship. Wake up.

:/

Ur amu is not healthy.

No wife cn resist a good amu no mata d forkup

Planet3xi:



Forget sex for now, go and regain the power dynamics in this relationship. You've put her in the front seat hence she's riding you anyhow. Give irritating habits, strange habits come late. Don't ask for sex. Dress up walk out. In two weeks shell be back begging. Toss this toxic relationship aside nigger life is too short. Call her people tell them there can't be two men in the house and you have needs. If she can't meet your needs you wish to create space for some who will give it


Just man up already. If people hate peace then give them war. I'm a peaceful man but once a person rejects my peace offering straight I wear my war uniform. God punish devil

My thoughts exactly, by dawn am informing her relatives. It is jst annoying and irritating.

Optimus212:


My thoughts exactly, by dawn am informing her relatives. It is jst annoying and irritating.

You better use strong voice. And end it with this rubbish must not repeat itself in this house again. If not you'll continue worshipping the vagina

Optimus212:


My thoughts exactly, by dawn am informing her relatives. It is jst annoying and irritating.

You better use strong voice. And end it with this rubbish must not repeat itself in this house again. If not you'll continue worshipping the vagina.

kushercain:



Hmmmm....

Pinky, are you thinking what I'm thinking?

Nah, not at all. If she's happy, na me dey run oo.

OkpaAkuEriEri:
Ur amu is not healthy.

No wife cn resist a good amu no mata d forkup

U think so?? Woman don vex for you before?

Optimus212:


Nah, not at all. If she's happy, na me dey run oo.

There's two side to every issue. No human being can be purely evil. Like they say sex is the barometer in every relationship marital BTW,if she's refusing your advances you're not investing the right emotions before sex or you're not doing things right. Do the right thing. Na only you know wetin she dey complain of. But don't begm never do that. Companionship is for the benefit of two parties.

Planet3xi:



There's two side to every issue. No human being can be purely evil. Like they say sex is the barometer in every relationship marital BTW,if she's refusing your advances you're not investing the right emotions before sex or you're not doing things right. Do the right thing. Na only you know wetin she dey complain of. But don't begm never do that. Companionship is for the benefit of two parties.

God bless u bro

Optimus212:


Nah, not at all. If she's happy, na me dey run oo.

Mister man, take charge of the situation. You be man na. Try communicate with her. Whatever is between you two can be cleared out...this no sex tactics looks more like a game boyfriend and girlfriend should play, not married couples.
Goodluck..
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If not, contact Sagemk to provide the necessary paperwork so you become head of the Vaseline crew Married Men Branch.

kushercain:


Mister man, take charge of the situation. You be man na. Try communicate with her

If not contact Sagemk to provide the necessary paperwork so you become head of the Vaseline crew Married Men Branch.

Vaseline something no fit be like d one God position for us na

Planet3xi:



Forget sex for now, go and regain the power dynamics in this relationship. You've put her in the front seat hence she's riding you anyhow. Give irritating habits, strange habits come late. Don't ask for sex. Dress up walk out. In two weeks shell be back begging. Toss this toxic relationship aside nigger life is too short. Call her people tell them there can't be two men in the house and you have needs. If she can't meet your needs you wish to create space for some who will give it


Just man up already. If people hate peace then give them war. I'm a peaceful man but once a person rejects my peace offering straight I wear my war uniform. God punish devil

Chukwu okike abiama blessed u

Ur amu is made of iron

OkpaAkuEriEri:
Chukwu okike abiama blessed u

Ur amu is made of iron

Me na man o war

missimelda01:
Op you should discuss with your wife, tell her how you truly feel about the way she treats you, if she really loves you she'll stop acting that way. Don't let someone push you into being irresponsible, the only person who needs to change here is your wife. People who cheat think they are wise, they have no single respect for their bodies.. they are like dogs.

Meanwhile I hope you've asked for forgiveness for cheating on her.

Yes I did but funny enough she was the one apologizing seriously for her attitude that made me cheat on her. She was extremely scared because I became so attached to the lady that I nearly divorced my wife. I stopped demanding for sex from her, I stayed off her sexually for 13months (a Yr one month) I know the disasters cheating can cause in a marriage, I have been there. I know what am talking about thats y am so scared of cheating as a married man, I dnt want to hurt my kids again.

Optimus212:


Yes I did but funny enough she was the one apologizing seriously for her attitude that made me cheat on her. She was extremely scared because I became so attached to the lady that I nearly divorced my wife. I stopped demanding for sex from her, I stayed off her sexually for 13months (a Yr one month) I know the disasters cheating can cause in a marriage, I have been there. I know what am talking about thats y am so scared of cheating as a married man, I dnt want to hurt my kids again.

She's the one hurting the kids, not you.

If you won't cheat then marry a second wife.

theButterfly:
Could you elaborate on what these "minor issues" are that keep occuring and hurting her to the extent of her denying you intimacy?

She still believes am cheating on her ever since d last destructive experience she had but before God and man, I am not cheating on her. Whenever she accuses me, I sometimes accept just to get her mad, d accusations don tire me. And she does not like it when I shout madly at her but brotherly, I am d man of d house, I gast show her dat am in charge nau.

After 3kids na sex you dey worry about and want divorce are those kids in private schools or do you have a strong financial savings for each college education?
You know, man- you get misplaced priority and na fu....ck!

women and sex Sha..
get a side chick or start toasting someone that she feels will threaten her peace.
better still,
a. save one of your guys name as a lady.
b. tell Madam if she doesn't start giving u you will get it outside.
c. call ur guy and fix an appointment.
d. buy condoms and throw 2 out.
don't spend the night.
when you return home, if she disturbs you tell her na as she lay bed, na so she go lie on top.
also u can just do the do with her, legally it isn't rape.. let her complain