Greenfit:
Since everyone is contributing from a direction. I would like to ask for what you did that you called little offense. Maybe it hurts her so bad or maybe she has been warning you incessantly to desist from the act/acts. Check that too. She might be starving you to enable you make adjustments. Also, she might be a kind of person that doesn't share sexual intimacy with you unless etc mind is clear with you. I for one, if u have issues with my gf, it hurts me so bad that I don't want to pick her calls, see her or what a view. I reconcile when my mind is calm.

depends on what and how u "calm ur mind" bros

UjuJoan2:


Hmmmmn . . . nawa ooh. So you are addicted to sex. . much like a high people get from drugs and alcohol.

Did your wife sign up for it? Did she know she will be doing the work of a sex machine in her marriage? Did she know she was marrying a nymph?

Sex is NOT food, or else celebates will be dead. You do not need regular sex to thrive or stay healthy. That's the addiction lying to you.

You wife does not have the same drive as you, she cannot kill herself to feed your obsession.

Since you read so much, why not seek help?

I hate how men put women under undue pressure in the name of marriage. If the woman dies trying to keep you healthy, you'll just move on to the next person.

so 1 month Isn't a long time for u? A wife denies her husband sex for A whole month and u are here typing trash.. i just pity the unfortunate man u are with/will end up with.. mtww

bukatyne:


I am happy you have realized that adultery kills a marriage so we know that is a no.

From all your posts on this thread, I would say that you have a healthy libido and you are still sexual interested in your wife (I would guess she is still sexy/good looking).

Your wife knows this and has decided to make it a weapon.

I do not know what the problem is however, of she can laugh with you and relate normally till it is time for sex, then it is a non-issue except if she is psychotic or she has issues with your sexual performance.

You know why playing with her, doing more chores etc. Would not work in your case? Because you are rewarding bad behavior. She misbehaves and you keep dancing round to please her. It has registered that if I sexual starve my husband, he will bend over to please me.

If the issues she had with you was not giving her attention or not helping with chores etc, the above would have helped.

Don't just reward bad behavior in your spouse.

What is the solution?
1. Engage her once again, apologize for breaching the trust in your marriage and assure her that you have never cheated again. Whatever the issues are, look into them genuinely and adjust where needed.

If she does not change, then:

Learn how to control yourself sexually. It will be hard however, don't let her feel you cannot do without her.

Stop playing with her or giving her attention. If she ignores your sexual needs, ignore her need for attention and learn to be self sufficient. If she wouldn't cook, feed yourself. Whatever leverage she has on you, learn to provide or beat it.

By now, she would start trying to get your attention by throwing more tantrums... Let her be. If she offers you sex because she is turned on, don't oblige her.

If you do not care about your appearance prior to now, please do. Change your haircut, mode of dressing, get good cologne etc.

When she finally comes around genuinely (not because she needs sex or something else), respectfully lay down the ground rules. If she has issues with you, discussion is the way to go.

Now, if after first engagement, she says your sex life is the problem, get self help books on sex and seduction and up your game in the bedroom.

In all of this, do not cheat or behave in any manner that you will have a blame.

Couples should not treat sex as a treat or reward. It is a duty (I am even taking live out of the equation) you pledged to do.

Goodluck.

The best advice so far... Every man would be lucky to have a wise woman like you.... Op follow her instructions to the Letters...

UjuJoan2:


Hmmmmn . . . nawa ooh. So you are addicted to sex. . much like a high people get from drugs and alcohol.

Did your wife sign up for it? Did she know she will be doing the work of a sex machine in her marriage? Did she know she was marrying a nymph?

Sex is NOT food, or else celebates will be dead. You do not need regular sex to thrive or stay healthy. That's the addiction lying to you.

You wife does not have the same drive as you, she cannot kill herself to feed your obsession.

Since you read so much, why not seek help?

I hate how men put women under undue pressure in the name of marriage. If the woman dies trying to keep you healthy, you'll just move on to the next person.

U are not a wife..

My brother,I understand completely what you are passing through,you wouldn't want to force her or beat her.One truth is that she has a very low libido and she is not the type that can even initiate sex or mount on you during sex,that is how they behave but when you initiate it put them on gear they wouldn't want to let you go.My wife did same thing to me and i started cheating on her,though its expensive financially. Another truth is that she does not get all the money she needs from you for the up keep of the family.
To settle the matters take her out buy ice cream and the rest for her,if you font have borrow and later tell her you borrowed to please her.
During those period,most times i think of divorce but when i look at my beautiful kids,i feel for them,and that has really kept us.
If you do all this and she continues,the solution is a side chick or olosho.

zeb04:
look at this one even faithful men still get cheated on, talk more of a philandering partner. Check the statistics first uncle.

A serial cheat spotted.. run for ur life

Your wife is psychologically manipulating you using sex as a nuclear weapon. I would have given you my bad boy advice that you cannot possibly win the game with a sex manipulator, you don’t play her game, you take your ball and go home, but I need you to try these first

1. Her passive aggressive behavior is a common phenomenon in marriages, give her benefit of the doubt and try to court her once more with gift, dinner dates, cinemas etc, but do this without asking for sex except hugs and cuddles.

2. Apply a 60 day rule for 1 above, and document her menstrual cycle just so to know her ovulation window.

3. After 1&2, you respectfully ask for a separation and not divorce. Now you are free to get your own bach pad to bash all da bad bitches in town, preferably close to a university campus, you must go full throttle.

All that loneliness and emptiness should re-set her brain, and if she doesn’t make any effort to get you back then know she is probably tired of the marriage.

:

zeb04:


Very married.

crying for ur husband.. he must be going tru hell

call her with a cool voice and ask her what the problem is some women don't like it when you are overplaying the am the man of the house roles...secondly maybe you have poor romance skills...maybe you dey use force on her or you no sabi do....or you are selfish on bed trying to please your self first and you don't bother if she is okay or not...try being more romantic and also women love gifts

Preshy561:

Just take a look at you.
That woman should leave your cheating ass asap.
Wonder whoever that's giving you this likes to continue disgracing yourself online.
Shameless isn't it?

saint preshy..

Planet3xi:
You sound too soft. Is she doing you a favor? You better look for what would weaken her and push that button. Look at how annoying your comments is. You're begging her cause your a Christian sheybi. Oga come back home 11 pm pour alcohol on your body. Start snapping pics of young girls on your phone. Behave irregular. Gibe her jab, you're in demand outside and watch her change as you stop this simping. Its annoying.

Dem no dey mine gold inside toto


Yan yan starve me of sex. If you were here I'll slap you to reset your brain.


Ubunja

Martinez39

GBA! You be master .
Get a friend to order some nice shirts,perfumes,send it to your home address when she will be home.

Short note.
Give me one more chance!

Address must end with
Chevron/ Shell/Delta airline.

Next Evening,go premium casual and be sure you are cleaned shave all round,like someone going out for love,Take your time to see that you look sweet.

Leave home promise to be back in 30 minutes and Come back next day,make sure your phones are switched off throughout.

Once you are back,get shower and try to sleep �,be prepared to face oputa panels. Roll out your sweet story and try to sleep again.

Come tell us wetin follow up!! Shebi you sabi karat?

15ssDRIVE:


GBA! You be master .
Get a friend to order some nice shirts,perfumes,send it to your home address when she will be home.

Short note.
Give me one more chance!

Address must end with
Chevron/ Shell/Delta airline.

Next Evening,go premium casual and be sure you are cleaned shave all round,like someone going out for love,Take your time to see that you look sweet.

Leave home promise to be back in 30 minutes and Come back next day,make sure your phones are switched off throughout.

Once you are back,get shower and try to sleep �,be prepared to face oputa panels. Roll out your sweet story and try to sleep again.

Straight up bro. It resets the brain immediately

kushercain:
Tell her you'll get it elsewhere and if she still doesn't improve, just look for one sidechick to deposit your load. Body no be firewood. Your wife uses sex as a weapon and the only way to defeat her mindset is to let her know the weapon is ineffective. It's better you stop trying to initiate it, stop begging her for sex, let her confuse small.


But wait first, does she have a very low sex drive? Because how can she stay away for 4 months.

Its either she get Love Machine or she get side niggha with huge cork

Planet3xi:
You sound too soft. Is she doing you a favor? You better look for what would weaken her and push that button. Look at how annoying your comments is. You're begging her cause your a Christian sheybi. Oga come back home 11 pm pour alcohol on your body. Start snapping pics of young girls on your phone. Behave irregular. Gibe her jab, you're in demand outside and watch her change as you stop this simping. Its annoying.


Dem no dey mine gold inside toto


Yan yan starve me of sex. If you were here I'll slap you to reset your brain.


Ubunja

Martinez39

In addition arrange with one or two female friends that will be calling you at odd hours talking things like appointment.

Optimus212:


I have been trying, but she does this always over minor issues.

what are the minor issues oga? it's obvious that the issues you call minor are not minor to her,and try to stop those issues by having to discuss them and settle them.

bukatyne:


I am happy you have realized that adultery kills a marriage so we know that is a no.

From all your posts on this thread, I would say that you have a healthy libido and you are still sexual interested in your wife (I would guess she is still sexy/good looking).

Your wife knows this and has decided to make it a weapon.

I do not know what the problem is however, of she can laugh with you and relate normally till it is time for sex, then it is a non-issue except if she is psychotic or she has issues with your sexual performance.

You know why playing with her, doing more chores etc. Would not work in your case? Because you are rewarding bad behavior. She misbehaves and you keep dancing round to please her. It has registered that if I sexual starve my husband, he will bend over to please me.

If the issues she had with you was not giving her attention or not helping with chores etc, the above would have helped.

Don't just reward bad behavior in your spouse.

What is the solution?
1. Engage her once again, apologize for breaching the trust in your marriage and assure her that you have never cheated again. Whatever the issues are, look into them genuinely and adjust where needed.

If she does not change, then:

Learn how to control yourself sexually. It will be hard however, don't let her feel you cannot do without her.

Stop playing with her or giving her attention. If she ignores your sexual needs, ignore her need for attention and learn to be self sufficient. If she wouldn't cook, feed yourself. Whatever leverage she has on you, learn to provide or beat it.

By now, she would start trying to get your attention by throwing more tantrums... Let her be. If she offers you sex because she is turned on, don't oblige her.

If you do not care about your appearance prior to now, please do. Change your haircut, mode of dressing, get good cologne etc.

When she finally comes around genuinely (not because she needs sex or something else), respectfully lay down the ground rules. If she has issues with you, discussion is the way to go.

Now, if after first engagement, she says your sex life is the problem, get self help books on sex and seduction and up your game in the bedroom.

In all of this, do not cheat or behave in any manner that you will have a blame.

Couples should not treat sex as a treat or reward. It is a duty (I am even taking live out of the equation) you pledged to do.

Goodluck.

so women like u still exist in this country.. I was almost loosing hope.. my sister ur brain de hot.. ur brain get better oil. blessed is d man that is/will end up with u..


Op, u will never get a better advice trust me.. Goodluck

The worst thing a woman Can do to a man in marriage is to starve him sex (his conjugal right). My dear, is a pity though but happiness is free. Ivan not to u to cheat or not. just do what's in ur mind that can make you happy...... Remember that woman hate rival,,,,,if u know what I mean u work on it

Mr Alpha male, people blown you will be fine lass lass

Planet3xi:



Forget sex for now, go and regain the power dynamics in this relationship. You've put her in the front seat hence she's riding you anyhow. Give irritating habits, strange habits come late. Don't ask for sex. Dress up walk out. In two weeks shell be back begging. Toss this toxic relationship aside nigger life is too short. Call her people tell them there can't be two men in the house and you have needs. If she can't meet your needs you wish to create space for some who will give it


Just man up already. If people hate peace then give them war. I'm a peaceful man but once a person rejects my peace offering straight I wear my war uniform. God punish devil

Mr . man. enough of this nonsense. We are going to charge you for wasting our time and for arguing with your advisers. Remember a begger has no choice.

Husbands need to be radical in their approach to their wives sometimes. Most of the women do take advantage of their husbands gentleness or their spiritual life as Christian's to maltreat them because they believe you can't do anything funny. Before u start chasing ladies outside, pls report your wife to your pastor n let them know that her attitude is pushing you to look for satisfaction outside if she did not stop this madness. Bro the essence is to have witness that you warned her but she refuse to listen.

Planet3xi:



Forget sex for now, go and regain the power dynamics in this relationship. You've put her in the front seat hence she's riding you anyhow. Give irritating habits, strange habits come late. Don't ask for sex. Dress up walk out. In two weeks shell be back begging. Toss this toxic relationship aside nigger life is too short. Call her people tell them there can't be two men in the house and you have needs. If
she can't meet your needs you wish to create space for some who will give it


Just man up already. If people hate peace then give them war. I'm a peaceful man but once a person rejects my peace offering straight I wear my war uniform. God punish devil

Guy. That part you said forget about sex for now especially if you happen to be the sexually active type and your wife is sexually appealing is one of the most difficult feat to accomplish and if you are also afraid of contracting STDs and been a religious type : I have been there bro and coupled with the fact that I am not the cheating type

If I were your elder brother, ehn! I would have given you a hot mopol dirty slap for being so dvmp and stupid.

Optimus212:

Hi Nairalanders....Please Admin, help me push to Front Page, i'm in dire need of people's opinions.

Pls ignore my writing skills because the way the matter be, my head dey shake like this.

My story is brief.

I am married to my wife & we're blessed with 3 kids,
..My wife starves me of sex over minor issues, even when we've settled by my apologies & me assisting remarkably well in house chores.
There was a period 2 years back she starved me of sex for 4 months because of one little misunderstanding we had back then which was unbearable for me & made me to cheat on her,..And my relationship lasted for more than a year with that lady.

Right now she (my wife) has started again with same attitude, its going to a month now. I am confused because I don't want to cheat on her again. What do i do? Should i keep facing such punishment? For how long? Or, should i file for a divorce? Don't you think such attitude will have reoccurrences in time coming?. It is disturbing me badly because I find it difficult to be sleeping alone at nite without her by my side. I have begged & begged her to let whatever anger towards me that is deposited in her to just die off, yet to no avail. The funny thing is, we'll discuss and play very well before going to bed but, whenever I start making advances towards her, she shows up a different attitude.

I am confused!! It is really really disturbing me. How & where did I go wrong?.

Pls, matured advices only, you can insult me too, of course its Nairaland but, I need serious advice, I am very worried.
Thanks.

We've seen woman cry and complain that their husband's doesn't touch them or eat their food.

Now this is what you will do
1)stop eating at home before but you can eat breakfast if you like but don't eat dinner .
Women are scared of this because they feel another woman is cooking for you and they can jazz you from there.
2) if you come home early start coming late and dont pic her calls after work.
3) store her name with a guys name
4) if you dont password your phone or she knows the password change it .
5) you can receive fake calls making her believe you talking to another woman.

6) dont near her when you doing all this things and if she tries to touch you decline too .
Even allow condom fall from your pocket self

But write all this down somwere with date on it o, snap and keep on your phone

ademola721gmai:

Guy. That part you said forget about sex for now especially if you happen to be the sexually active type and your wife is sexually appealing is one of the most difficult feat to accomplish and if you are also afraid of contracting STDs and been a religious type : I have been there bro and coupled with the fact that I am not the cheating type

With women men need to act like they don't want what they can't do without, doing this twists the logic of her being the alpha turning her to do her best to win back his attention than him seeking for it. You get Sir?

bukatyne:


I am happy you have realized that adultery kills a marriage so we know that is a no.

From all your posts on this thread, I would say that you have a healthy libido and you are still sexual interested in your wife (I would guess she is still sexy/good looking).

Your wife knows this and has decided to make it a weapon.

I do not know what the problem is however, of she can laugh with you and relate normally till it is time for sex, then it is a non-issue except if she is psychotic or she has issues with your sexual performance.

You know why playing with her, doing more chores etc. Would not work in your case? Because you are rewarding bad behavior. She misbehaves and you keep dancing round to please her. It has registered that if I sexual starve my husband, he will bend over to please me.

If the issues she had with you was not giving her attention or not helping with chores etc, the above would have helped.

Don't just reward bad behavior in your spouse.

What is the solution?
1. Engage her once again, apologize for breaching the trust in your marriage and assure her that you have never cheated again. Whatever the issues are, look into them genuinely and adjust where needed.

If she does not change, then:

Learn how to control yourself sexually. It will be hard however, don't let her feel you cannot do without her.

Stop playing with her or giving her attention. If she ignores your sexual needs, ignore her need for attention and learn to be self sufficient. If she wouldn't cook, feed yourself. Whatever leverage she has on you, learn to provide or beat it.

By now, she would start trying to get your attention by throwing more tantrums... Let her be. If she offers you sex because she is turned on, don't oblige her.

If you do not care about your appearance prior to now, please do. Change your haircut, mode of dressing, get good cologne etc.

When she finally comes around genuinely (not because she needs sex or something else), respectfully lay down the ground rules. If she has issues with you, discussion is the way to go.

Now, if after first engagement, she says your sex life is the problem, get self help books on sex and seduction and up your game in the bedroom.

In all of this, do not cheat or behave in any manner that you will have a blame.

Couples should not treat sex as a treat or reward. It is a duty (I am even taking live out of the equation) you pledged to do.

Goodluck.

This is spot on. God bless you.
Op follow her advise.

Bukatyne, what's your relationship status? I am interested in a lady like you.

I will DM you.

Sterope:
Mr Alpha male, people blown you will be fine lass lass

Yeah. Fvck off. Learn to walk away tits

focus7:


In addition arrange with one or two female friends that will be calling you at odd hours talking things like appointment.

You na man

ok nah,





the only advice I can give u now having realized you are less a man is to join the NVCA ( nairalanders Vaseline crew association ) for masturbation tutorials since to fuuuck outside de mak u feel guilty.....





secondly, dnt even take her to ur pastor bfo ur pastor will fyn new pussy to be banging.



thirdly, go meet ur grandmoda or any person Wei de village to comfirm if ur wife no de use juju on u




lastly, stop begging mods to push dx to front page

I see my babe with this character in future.. Discharge naim remain nw

armyofone:
After 3kids na sex you dey worry about and want divorce are those kids in private schools or do you have a strong financial savings for each college education?
You know, man- you get misplaced priority and na fu....ck!

You get sense laidis. Even at age 70, sex is importance. Infact sex na one of the major koko...Whether the kids are in govt school or not, it doesn't erode the place of sex (quality sex).

Optimus212:


I have been trying, but she does this always over minor issues.

. Guy u are the wife while she is husband. Someone is helping u on her out there alrdy. Sryooo

UjuJoan2:


Hmmmmn . . . nawa ooh. So you are addicted to sex. . much like a high people get from drugs and alcohol.

Did your wife sign up for it? Did she know she will be doing the work of a sex machine in her marriage? Did she know she was marrying a nymph?

Sex is NOT food, or else celebates will be dead. You do not need regular sex to thrive or stay healthy. That's the addiction lying to you.

You wife does not have the same drive as you, she cannot kill herself to feed your obsession.

Since you read so much, why not seek help?

I hate how men put women under undue pressure in the name of marriage. If the woman dies trying to keep you healthy, you'll just move on to the next person.

She didn't have sex urge for 4 months. Na wetin u dey talk...