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As I said you are male identified.

bukatyne:
I have met a number of Nigerian men and I did not give them my number.

No body except a psychotic stalker can force you to give him your number except deep down you want to for whatever reason. If a guy thinks he is entitled to a girl's number, chances are that the girl has given him the green light knowingly or unknowingly.

Afterall, same guys later become friendzoned for recharge cards and any other thing the girls can dream up.

Let me ask, of what use is deleting the guy's number when he has yours and can reach you whenever he wants to?

TheNaijanBlog:
As I said you are male identified.

Because I am not supporting spineless girls who can't no and stick by it?

If you like, say I am female identified male, that is your cup of tea.

All your thought process goes though a male filter.

Clues: if you are loved on NL. Another clue, you are the odd man on this thread. All the female on this thread commented on their experience on the persistence of Nigerian men, only YOU has a different experience which you are trying to pass off as a fact even though you are the outlier.

bukatyne:
Male identified woman?

Meaning?

TheNaijanBlog:
All your thought process goes though a male filter.

Clues: if you are loved on NL. Another clue, you are the odd man on this thread. All the female on this thread commented on their experience on the persistence of Nigerian men, only YOU has a different experience which you are trying to pass off as a fact even though you are the outlier.

So there is a male filter?

I am loved on NL? Odd man on this thread? So all women must experience same thing to be validated as women?

If a woman does not want to give her number, she will not give it out.

@crackhaus, come and laugh small.

The irony is you are actually the one without a backbone, since all your views/opinions has to pass the male test. All those “spineless girls” have designed a system that works for them and protects them from potential unwanted harassment. You are lucky you did not have to go through that, good for you! but to deny the experience of most girls in Nigeria and to also shame them is just tragic.

bukatyne:
Because I am not supporting spineless girls who can't no and stick by it?

If you like, say I am female identified male, that is your cup of tea.

TheNaijanBlog:
T[b]he irony is you are actually the one without a backbone, since all your views/opinions has to pass the male test.[/b] All those “spineless girls” have designed a system that works for them and protects them from potential unwanted harassment. You are lucky you did not have to go through that, good for you! but to deny the experience of most girls in Nigeria and to also shame them is just tragic.

You sound like someone who has read a bit of manosphere without understanding a bit of it.

male test
male filter
male identified woman

Keep bringing it on.

How does giving random men your number and deleting theirs afterwards make any sense to you?

I am sure those girls can not even tell their parents that is the foolish thing they have been doing.

I think ladies should sit more with their parents especially fathers to learn more about life and relationships.

Yea I went back to read some of your old posts and you always have some reason to blame women. I am referring to the thread, if ALL the women on this thread say they find it easier to give men their phones, even if you have never experienced it, shouldn’t you take a pause and wonder why the women on this thread feel that way? Instead of making blanket generalizations that “women deep down want to give out their phone numbers”

And you just proven me right by seeking more validation, what would @crackhaus do to me? why don’t you defend your views?

bukatyne:
So there is a male filter?

I am loved on NL? Odd man on this thread? So all women must experience same thing to be validated as women?

If a woman does not want to give her number, she will not give it out.

@crackhaus, come and laugh small.

TheNaijanBlog:
Yea I went back to read some of your old posts and you always have some reason to blame women. I am referring to the thread, if ALL the women on this thread say they find it easier to give men their phones, even if you have never experienced it, shouldn’t you take a pause and wonder why the women on this thread feel that way? Instead of making blanket generalizations that “women deep down want to give out their phone numbers”

And you just proven me right by seeking more validation, what would @crackhaus do to me? why don’t you defend your views?

After reading your comments I think you are making a mistake just because everyone is doing something doesn't make it right ...... different strokes for different folks.... some ladies will never decline giving out there number and they will chat ,pick guys calls but let D's guys no there mind.
Every one is different and do there things in different ways....it just boil down to maturity level when dealing with guys.
You just have to put yourself in the op shoes to understand better....... nobody likes rejection...

Hintona:
That is how they will be saying "we don't understand women" upandan, men and women don't think same way simple.

Then u give us the chance to understand and stop acting as if we read minds. Be bold and say wat u have in mind. It's beta than not saying anything at all.

WTH is manosphere? You sound ignorant. If it makes you feel good to deny the experience of most women because you want to be on some faux intellectual soapbox, have at it. At the end of the you are just a fraud who gets off from being the token woman. I have wasted more time on you than I should, thank God majority of women don’t think like you that’s why you are a minority. I don’t respect women that deny the experience of other women just because they want to maintain a twisted rhetoric.

I really don’t care what you do in your life, however I am not going to allow you pass of your twisted logic/opinion as facts on the internet. What you are not going to do is minimize or sanitize real experiences that most Nigeria women go through.

bukatyne:


You sound like someone who has read a bit of manosphere without understanding a bit of it.

male test
male filter
male identified woman

Keep bringing it on.

How does giving random men your number and deleting theirs afterwards make any sense to you?

I am sure those girls can not even tell their parents that is the foolish thing they have been doing.

I think ladies should sit more with their parents especially fathers to learn more about life and relationships.

TheNaijanBlog:
Yea I went back to read some of your old posts and you always have some reason to blame women. I am referring to the thread, if ALL the women on this thread say they find it easier to give men their phones, even if you have never experienced it, shouldn’t you take a pause and wonder why the women on this thread feel that way? Instead of making blanket generalizations that “women deep down want to give out their phone numbers”

And you just proven me right by seeking more validation, what would @crackhaus do to me? why don’t you defend your views?

You called me male and loved by all in NL and I said he should come and laugh

What views am I to defend biko? And how many women are on this thread compared to the amount of women on the street?

And if you really read a number of my posts, you would notice that while I create a lot of threads of women, my posts address the guilty party.

TheNaijanBlog:
WTH is manosphere? You sound ignorant. If it makes you feel good to deny the experience of most women because you want to be on some faux intellectual soapbox, have at it. At the end of the you are just a fraud who gets off from being the token woman. I have wasted more time on you than I should, thank God majority of women don’t think like you that’s why you are a minority. I don’t respect women that deny the experience of other women just because they want to maintain a twisted rhetoric.

I really don’t care what you do in your life, however I am not going to allow you pass of your twisted logic/opinion as facts on the internet. What you are not going to do is minimize or sanitize real experiences that most Nigeria women go through.

I need to add token woman to it.

Enjoy yourself.

I absolutely agree with you, it’s not an ideal situation and no one comes out the winner, man or woman.

However that doesn’t invalidate the reasons why some women genuinely feel it’s safer and less of a hassle for them to just give out the number and block. Some women have actually being physically harassed. Not all women are courageous or strong enough to stand by their NO. So what made me really upset at that woman is her insinuating that women that give out their numbers are lying/pretending that deep down they really want to give out their numbers. Just because you are lucky enough not to meet such men or you are strong enough to stand by your NO doesn’t mean that’s the reality for most Nigerian women.

The proof is on this thread, all women here said same thing only HER. What does that tell you?

Godoverevery:
After reading your comments I think you are making a mistake just because everyone is doing something doesn't make it right ...... different strokes for different folks.... some ladies will never decline giving out there number and they will chat ,pick guys calls but let D's guys no there mind.
Every one is different and do there things in different ways....it just boil down to maturity level when dealing with guys.
You just have to put yourself in the op shoes to understand better....... nobody likes rejection...

bukatyne:
So there is a male filter?

I am loved on NL? Odd man on this thread? So all women must experience same thing to be validated as women?

If a woman does not want to give her number, she will not give it out.

@crackhaus, come and laugh small.

Lol, just let him know you're married and maybe you both will come to an understanding.

crackhaus:
Lol, just let him know you're married and maybe you both will come to an understanding.

Is he is he?

I was under the impression she was a she

He/She has no sex indicated sha.

TheNaijanBlog:
I absolutely agree with you, it’s not an ideal situation and no one comes out the winner, man or woman.

However that doesn’t invalidate the reasons why some women genuinely feel it’s safer and less of a hassle for them to just give out the number and block. Some women have actually being physically harassed. Not all women are courageous or strong enough to stand by their NO. So what made me really upset at that woman is her insinuating that women that give out their numbers are lying/pretending that deep down they really want to give out their numbers. Just because you are lucky enough not to meet such men or you are strong enough to stand by your NO doesn’t mean that’s the reality for most Nigerian women.

The proof is on this thread, all women here said same thing only HER. What does that tell you?

Well you have a point.....but I think the blocking thing is very childish... .is a sign of weakness for me .. ...it can be handled more matured and better..... ignoring is much more better if you feel disturb.
funny part is Wen D's type of ladies that block guys are been given the same treatment they don't take it easy......they label the guys been proud,full of yourself etc

bukatyne:
Is he is he?

I was under the impression she was a she

He/She has no sex indicated sha.

I don't even know the sex, I just assumed. Maybe if I had gone through his/her posts thoroughly, I might have had a sense of the gender.

Anyway, whichever one.

Well I guess we would have to agree to disagree. I know lots of women in my circle that have traded a story or two on how hard it is for some men to just accept no. I have literally been in situations where I have had to explain for over an hour why I don’t want to give out my number. You might say it’s childish but sometimes you just don’t have time for stress and you can’t be too dismissive because then you will be accused of being rude. You have to say no with a nice disposition which will then be misconstrued as your “no” not really meaning No.

P.S. and oh yes! It’s so much better to ignore than block.

If you have never really experienced how stressful it can be then I don’t think you would truly understand.

Godoverevery:
Well you have a point.....but I think the blocking thing is very childish... .is a sign of weakness for me .. ...it can be handled more matured and better..... ignoring is much more better if you feel disturb.
funny part is Wen D's type of ladies that block guys are been given the same treatment they don't take it easy......they label the guys been proud,full of yourself etc

TheNaijanBlog:
Well I guess we would have to agree to disagree. I know lots of women in my circle that have traded a story or two on how hard it is for some men to just accept no. I have literally been in situations where I have had to explain for over an hour why I don’t want to give out my number. You might say it’s childish but sometimes you just don’t have time for stress and you can’t be too dismissive because then you will be accused of being rude. You have to say no with a nice disposition which will then be misconstrued as your “no” not really meaning No.

P.S. and oh yes! It’s so much better to ignore than block.

If you have never really experienced how stressful it can be then I don’t think you would truly understand.

see am not saying you giving ur number just to save yourself the stress is bad infact I no some guys can be very stupid......we all know that and we see it every day but I just think is not something to brag about like you have been saying it...... you making it seem has if you are doing a big deal giving ur number and later blocking.....I think there nothing to talk about in that....it aiin't the end of the world.

Zinny25:
I can relate to that... There's this guy that asked for my number, I told him no but he insisted so I did. I never picked his call, Las Las I still blocked his number

Hehehe everybody gat stories to tell o. My own be say I dey collect numbers from random babes, make them believe that I will call so, they should expect my call. They will even store my number that moment with my name, but once I get home, I end up deleting the number for no reason.

I don't chat with girls often on WhatsApp. One was telling me yesterday that I chat with her only when it pleases me that I have a gilirlfwiend that's why. I gat to make her understand that, that's not true that I was just kinda busy making money for us or doesn't she want me to make money so that I can take her round the world?

What I saw next was a big grin.

If a girl refuses to give me her number, my reply is always: all right have a nice day and walk away. I don't beg ladies for numbers. I don't ask: can I have ur number?

I usually go like this: which network do u use? She will reply mtn, glo, Airtel or 9mobile. Oh I see! Dial it here. She will dial it her self instead on my phone. If she seems like a good conversationist, then I might end up calling her but if not I end up deleting it without even putting a call across to her.

bukatyne:
I have met a number of Nigerian men and I did not give them my number.

No body except a psychotic stalker can force you to give him your number except deep down you want to for whatever reason. If a guy thinks he is entitled to a girl's number, chances are that the girl has given him the green light knowingly or unknowingly.

Afterall, same guys later become friendzoned for recharge cards and any other thing the girls can dream up.

Let me ask, of what use is deleting the guy's number when he has yours and can reach you whenever he wants to?

Pray tell please what are the signs a girl can give off that will make a guy think he is entitled to her number? Let me know so I can stop giving off those signs. You might be onto something here, please let me go and share this nugget of wisdom to all my beautiful ladies that were just minding their business and still got harassed for their numbers.

Simply means that she's not interested in the friendship

breakerofchains:
You just gave me an idea...

I think I should start demanding money before giving them my number, then blocking them after that.

You're talking like you don't know how some guys can be such pests- you give out the number to shoo them away,then block them.

That's one of my criteria for deleting a girl's number. Asking me for money when we've not even met. I won't waste time deleting such a girl's number. I can only grant such a request if the girl is into me like seriously into me, do check on me on her own or have known me for long, I might help out. And she.must tell.me a cogent reason what she want to use the money for. That's someone I have known for long. But not some random girls that will keep asking for money instantly. That's a red flag to me.

Some sissy guys do that though. Sending a girl money. A girl you are just meeting for the first time. I can only buy a girl food when we go out, not sending her mone. For what?

Mcslize:
That's one of my criteria for deleting a girl number. Asking me for money when we've not even met. I won't waste time deleting such a girl number.

Some sissy guys do that though. Sending a girl money. A girl you are just meeting for the first time. I can only buy a girl food when we go out, not sending her mone. For what?

Ok.

I read all him/her replies and they didn't come across as bragging they read more like frustrations at the other poster saying women are lying. As a woman, I also relate. Some men take No and leave you alone but some will pester you so much that it can be very stressful. I am not proud to admit that I have done the give and ignore but i had no choice lol. There is nothing wrong in having an honest open dialogue by both sexes, none are completely innocent. Some girls indeed do play games while some men don't know how to take no gracefully that's the conundrum we face in the dating scene.

Godoverevery:
see am not saying you giving ur number just to save yourself the stress is bad infact I no some guys can be very stupid......we all know that and we see it every day but I just think is not something to brag about like you have been saying it...... you making it seem has if you are doing a big deal giving ur number and later blocking.....I think there nothing to talk about in that....it aiin't the end of the world.

doitforyou:
Pray tell please what are the signs a girl can give off that will make a guy think he is entitled to her number? Let me know so I can stop giving off those signs. You might be onto something here, please let me go and share this nugget of wisdom to all my beautiful ladies that were just minding their business and still got harassed for their numbers.

Are you telling me that you can't stand your ground and politely refuse giving men you have no interest in your numbers?

Ok then, keep giving.

ha! I see you you have no answer for me because you absolutely have no clue what you are talking about. When you have the answer to my question then you can come back and quote me.

bukatyne:
Are you telling me that you can't stand your ground and politely refuse giving men you have no interest in your numbers?

Ok then, keep giving.

Godoverevery:
After reading your comments I think you are making a mistake just because everyone is doing something doesn't make it right ...... different strokes for different folks.... some ladies will never decline giving out there number and they will chat ,pick guys calls but let D's guys no there mind.
Every one is different and do there things in different ways....it just boil down to maturity level when dealing with guys.
You just have to put yourself in the op shoes to understand better....... nobody likes rejection...

I said it before I will say it again women are illogical if not the world could have being a better place leave the lady alone .I wish they can be in a man's shoes for one day you will know its not easy to be a man no wonder our lives span are shorter everything is a struggle to get money you struggle,to get a girlfriend you struggle and all that,
this women cannot even handle rejection I have once rejected a very pretty lady who made an advance at me 2016 I didn't like her because she was promiscuous it took her a while after pestering for long to get that I dislike they think because they have ass and boobs they can get any guy they want..phewww.

breakerofchains:
Ok.

Smile...i'm so convinced that your response to this is't the best you can give rather you choose to waka pass

bigpriik:
why is it that you will give your number to a guy after meeting for the first time but when he finally calls you barely pick his calls if he chats you up on WhatsApp you wunt reply or reply with one word guys can you relate to this and ladies why please give us a logical answer to this question...

Some girls give guys they just met their numbers so that he wont feel embarrased, the way she relates to you later should pass the message

bigpriik:
the first meeting was fun and she liked my conversation style I believe but after that I called she didn't pick and I chatted her up she didn't reply so I deleted her..

If she had ignored you on your first meeting, you would have called her rude and bossy, she probably acted Nice but wasnt into you, not every girl that play and laugh with you wants to be close to you

TheNaijanBlog:
Op reading your comments on this thread, that girl did a very smart thing. It is very obvious you don’t respect women and you are very childish and emotional, making a whole thread on a girl that isn’t even interested in you. You are the kind of guy that thinks because girls have “fish brain” or are “illogical” so you are entitled to them.

That girl did what most Nigerian women do, because based on your comments here you are the kind of guy that would have harassed her if she had said no. You can read all the books on how to get a girl (who even does that lol) but smart women can tell before you even open your mouth that you are just a fuk boy.

Now this is a normal human being typing, what girls face in Nigeria nor be small thing o. Some guys think like animals