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ibkayee:
Lol the context matters, since you’re only saying it to prove a point it doesn’t count

sod09:

This lady, I give up

Earthquake2:
Have you ever toasted a guy?

MissRaine69:
It’s a question that needed an answer not an analysis of of my self worth and while we are on that subject I do have a high opinion of myself. There is no false aspect to it .Was I supposed to wait on the likes of you to bolster my repertoire?

fieryy:
Why is almost every guy here butthurt about the replies girls are giving on this thread.

Truth is a friendship is also a relationship. Yes, it is not a romantic one, but that doesn't change the fact that just like every other relationship, it is more than just chatting with each other.

A friendship goes beyond that and is marked by feelings of care, love, respect and admiration. Friendships don't just happen. It actually takes a lot of time and they are always built on trust, comfort and support. Such takes TIME.

So you starting a conversation with "I want to be your friend" is absolutely ridiculous. That's you skipping the getting to know each other phase, and the time needed to build trust.

Besides, I don't even know you and maybe I don't even want to get to know you.

I'm someone who chooses her friends wisely. Yes, I do have a small clique, but it's an amazing one and I trust them all so much and that's because I get to them before calling them friends.
In fact when the time comes, you wouldn't have to ask the question "Can I be your friend" or say the "I want to be your friend", you just know!

And let's keep it real here, we all know that most Nigerian guys who say such want to be more than just friends. It's the "typical Nigerian man flirt cringy af" line

eni4real

eni4real:
At least, you need to know the person you want to date if it worth it. I think that comes from friendship..
May be you don't like that line but it is not that cringy
Men are just playing safe.. some ladies pick offenses easily when you go straight to the point..

fieryy:
I never said you should go straight to the point. I'm just saying get to know that person first. Asking for friendship is not the line for "getting to know someone". Especially if that person didn't know you even existed 5 seconds ago.

dfrost:
If you how most of them are hurting inside, you will surely run away from them. One of my colleagues was like this: her head was in the clouds. Always walking majestically.

One day, outside office business brought us together and we traveled out of town with another colleague. On our way back the other colleague stopped halfway and the two of us were in the vehicle alone.

I started probing and she poured her heart like that day the world was coming to an end. We became friends.

Her first DL, I assisted her in getting it because I have a friend that works in FRSC. As we speak she is dating my classmate in school. Whatever it leads to, God knows best.

My point, not all men have time for sex, a woman's body and all that shit and stuff. A friend is a friend. Simple. If it goes beyond that, then both parties can define what they want.

A woman's life (and a man's life too) can never be complete without each other. The world is big enough for all of us. We need each other.

Make I go sleep abeg. MissRaine69 is not my final year project abeg.

MissRaine69:
What I experience is nothing like you described. Do I have very good male friends? Yes most definitely. And it most certainly did not start with “ I want to be your friend”.

ibkayee:
Just asked my friend who is not even Nigerian herself

truthsayer009:
Hey Miss, i want to be your friend.

Your response: ....

ibkayee:
Haha

truthsayer009:
Well, Haha means Yes in Japanese.

You speak Japanese?

ibkayee:
I can count to 8 in Japanese, does that count?

truthsayer009:
Hmm maybe. I could be your Jeor Mormont.

ibkayee:
I don't watch GOT so the reference is lost on me

truthsayer009:
Haha Jeor Mormont character is a loyal friend. Since this thread is about friends.

truthsayer009:
Hello Miss/Mrs Raine80. I want to be your friend.

Apeshy101:
Currently, I have 3girlfriends and 2 ex's I've never used that line before



Not all guys

MissRaine69:
Sure

ibkayee:
Ooooh okie dokie

truthsayer009:
Youuuuuuuuuuu

ibkayee:
Meeeeeee?

truthsayer009:


Just Kotinu

omale88:
I want to be your friend is a vote of security, meaning I don't want to loss an either interesting person before I even get to know them,its request phrase to indicate interest, I don't use that phrase but I think I understand why my brothers do,it makes you acceptance or decline option go easy on them,your reply would either be yes or no and that reduce tension since they where expecting that,I understand your question is targeted on those men who are only interested in having sexual relationship with a woman perhaps you think its better they state their business instead of deviating from the main course (just friends),but however I suggest you get used to that phrase there are a million nice guys who would use the same phrase and stick to it.

obyrich:
You are correct.

Jollof123:
I don't friend and I don't do relationship because I have one I cherised and am never ready to trade her for anybody else.

So when I meet girls both offline and online I normally use the word...can we hook up, intimate friend or friends with benefit.

Yes/no will follow suit