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Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by tydi(m): 12:57am On Jun 09, 2019
[s]
spongeisback:
Oga I am a man like you and I KNOW YOU!!! Have you stopped brutalizing your wife Do you guys know that this idiot beat up a pregnant woman and his parents asked her to kneel and beg him?
[/s]

Facts! Or forever remain dunce

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Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by Amhappy(f): 12:57am On Jun 09, 2019
breakerofchains:
Stop submitting to men!

Many of them are dull. They can't even control their own lives.

And you are an adult who can make decisions for herself.

Stop feeding their over bloated egos.

No body should tell me about what your Bible or Qoran says because I don't care.
. The Bible didn't tell women to submit to men but A wife to submit to her husband. A man has no right over you or you over him except after you both have committed yourselves in the sacrament of matrimony. And the same verse of the Bible demand that men should love their wife not women. Evil Men now twist the Bible with lies. But they won't quote thou shalt not commit adultery or your body is the temple of the Holy spirit but they all know the verses about submission. It's bad the Bible is being misquoted.

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Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by spongeisback: 12:58am On Jun 09, 2019
tydi:


Facts! Or forever remain dunce

You want me to go dig up your rants in health section OK am coming.
Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by spongeisback: 1:01am On Jun 09, 2019


Tochukwu Orafunam tydi is
1: a wife beater
2: an emotional abuser
3: an incorrigible fool
4: proud igbo smoker
5: a tour. Agbero ojoo
6: an illiterate

He's not even remorseful, was even beating his poverty-stricken chest that if Benignasweety leaves that he'll take in another wife. That his son will grow up to be an igbo smoker like him that is in his gene.

Benny nwanne m nwaanyị biko RUN. Love should catch fire.

Wasted sperm, you're misfortune is knocking on your door but you're too deaf to listen.

Efulefu mmou


tydi:



lol.. Madam my son will grow and smoke weed....*reasons*... his grandfather smoked it a lot and still made it in life, his father smokes weed and he is striving to make which he will cus it kips him focused and for his mom. mmmm Smh she smoked it too shamelessly to the extent of taking a picture with it with in her mouth with pant and bra in a bed and a guy ontop of her putting on boxers with his weed too in his mouth, now tell me who do you want my son to be like who bears more shame how will my son feel if he grows up and I show him his mother picture of it... some women and just canker-worm..

you think say to go school der give sense abi.. den you are on a cow dough
Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by tydi(m): 1:02am On Jun 09, 2019
spongeisback:


You want me to go dig up your rants in health section OK am coming.

You need to keep your mentality at check, you're loosing it

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Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by spongeisback: 1:04am On Jun 09, 2019
Says this poverty stricken bastard. Holup I want people to know what a useless human being you're.
tydi:


You need to keep your mentality at check, you're loosing it

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Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by tydi(m): 1:05am On Jun 09, 2019
spongeisback:





You need to keep your mentality at check, you're loosing it

Now its crystal clear this your madness has gone berserk

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Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by frozen70(f): 1:06am On Jun 09, 2019
AmazonTopaz:
Liberalchick, bukatyne, cococandy,choccolate,daeylar, pocohantas and many others I would love to read your thoughts on this smiley

I doff my hat for you

You have said it all

They see themselves as Lords and those that sees women as their helpers are enjoying their homes.

Women be wise, don't allow any man to intimidate you because of your success

Success comes from God,
If he can't cope let him reverse.

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Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by spongeisback: 1:06am On Jun 09, 2019
This is his wife's comment. Stupid cheap gigolo still eating mama thank you in a dirty public yard.


Lol... my dear dont waste your time on someone who depends on women for survival, let him be... My joy is everyone has a past, I was jex too stupid to share my past to someone who lacks sense.. He feels he is doing me, lol he is doing himself...

Am happy everyone is seeing how his character is and dat am not jex making tinz up to mar him... He has made it very obvious... obvious enough to even tell d world he smokes weed like their is trophy in it... Yes I did it, in my past when I thought dia was life in it, peer pressure but I grew up long before I became a wife and a mom to shun it and dat makes me strong!

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Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by tydi(m): 1:08am On Jun 09, 2019
spongeisback:
This is his wife's comment. Stupid cheap gigolo still eating mama thank you in a dirty public yard.



Who do you this thing

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Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by spongeisback: 1:12am On Jun 09, 2019
I made a comment before only POOR boys come online to bash women. This rat couldn't even send his wife to health center to give birth but he's coming online to bash ladies that wouldn't stoop low to his standard.


What about your parents? Are they still threatening her with the death of your son if she leaves you?
tydi:


Who do you this thing

Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by tydi(m): 1:14am On Jun 09, 2019
spongeisback:
I made a comment before only POOR boys come online to bash women. This rat couldn't even send his wife to health center to give birth but he's coming online to bash ladies that wouldn't stoop low to his standard.


What about your parents? Are they still threatening her with the death of your son if she leaves you?

I don sleep, keep talking to yourself till I wake up tomorrow.
Don't go near sniper shaa!

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Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by Nobody: 1:36am On Jun 09, 2019
Beautiful topic.

I will say that women are actually more unsecured than men that's why they allow men to walk over them both at home and office.
Girls are constantly told that all their education and beauty ends in the kitchen.
Some wives answer their husbands sir.
Are they under master and servant relationship?
We know what that means during bedmatics if u two agreed to go kinky but to answer your husband sir in this age and time is mind boggling.

Also when sharing house works, everybody should do everything. Boys can cook and girls can wash cars. That is how it starts.
Ur son can loosen ur braid for you. U are teaching them that there is no gender discrimination in household chore.
If ur husband treats u like a queen, ur son is watching.
The thing is that Nigerian men hardly show affection to their wives publicly. U can't see them holding their wives hands outside their home when strolling out or giving her a peck in front of the kids.
That is how they learn.
Do they even kiss their children when they send them off to school?
So rigid and emotionless pursuing the so called money thinking that it's what builds a family.
We can see that on the daily lives of our politicians, religious leaders and top executives.

When they start thinking and acting the right way,believe u me there will be need to change their useless and rigid constitution and corruption will reduce.
But as long as we still have this mentality over life, we will continue to suffer the consequences.

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Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by trapQ: 2:45am On Jun 09, 2019
Where did that 95% come from? Your asshoole?
Blyzz:
but not all feminine are working? Tracing from a true source, 95% of women got employed through the other means. Ain't trying to counter your comment, but see it from other perspective.
Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by Nobody: 5:54am On Jun 09, 2019
AmazonTopaz:
Liberalchick, bukatyne, cococandy,choccolate,daeylar, pocohantas and many others I would love to read your thoughts on this smiley

Look at your life. U create a post bashing males so u can get in good with the feminists. Now u run calling the people u are attempting to please. U are a traitor, u are not a man.

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Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by franchasng: 6:16am On Jun 09, 2019
partnerbizz4:
All these baloney are for males like me, who are poor cool sad cool

Women keep saying one thing but doing the opposite.
Women are not seen or treated as commodities.

But it is what they have made themselves.

They have openly kept themselves as objects to be bought by the highest bidder -- applying the law of demand and supply. This hitherto, had been there albeit subtly.



Look at Ned and Regina. Why on earth did Regina leave the young, handsome boyfriend for Ned? Love?

The man bought her. Simple. Like you go to a car stand and buy a benz.
Look
Ubi franklin and his mamas
Iara and Oshiomhole
Davido, WizKids and mamas. Why would chioma stick with Davido for 5 years?

In these 5 years he had imprenated many girls, yet she stayed put. Why? Because of money, fame and affluence.


I admit that there are exceptions like the Jeff Bezoz's wife but it's just few.


So no need playing the victims. Women made themselves commodities. They aren't treated as such but they made themselves so.


At any rate, I won't support the slut shaming of women as seen in this forum. I also understand why men do it. It's survival instinct. Only a few would understand.

Shout out to my nigga franchasng. cool shocked
grin grin

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Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by AmazonTopaz(f): 6:27am On Jun 09, 2019
REAALBETPAWA:


[s]Look at your life. U create a post bashing males so u can get in good with the feminists. Now u run calling the people u are attempting to please. U are a traitor, u are not a man[/s] .
I mentioned them and clearly stated others should contribute. My is my opinion and not meant for anybody and by the way I am female.
Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by donbachi(m): 6:31am On Jun 09, 2019
eyinjuege:


Humans generally evolve, as does their culture. Change is the only constant thing, truly.
have u changed?

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Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by AmazonTopaz(f): 6:31am On Jun 09, 2019
frozen70:


I dough my hat for you

You have said it all

They see themselves as Lords and those that sees women as their helpers are enjoying their homes.

Women be wise, don't allow any man to intimidate you because of your success

Success comes from God,
If he can't cope let him reverse.
Thank you.
I doff my hat for you too smiley
Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by AmazonTopaz(f): 6:35am On Jun 09, 2019
praz001:




I've followed all you responses it made sense not until I saw the above....

if men have been your problem, you may still find a better one. The moment God becomes your problem, am afraid you will never find a solution....

No matter how important you feel on the responses you get from people... Fear God...

Don't create problems for yourself....
I pray the Lord have mercy on you....
ODAROOO OOOO
I don't need this. My topic does not relate to this.
Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by OlawaleBammie: 6:46am On Jun 09, 2019
AmazonTopaz:

Save the pity for yourself.

Toju akata ba le'dowo, shenu adiye lowa tosi?? na ur mama name wey u drag for mud a just pity, everybody naw knows dat its ur mama dat is controlling ur Papa, u dont need to divulge or reveal it all, from wat u slightly/mistakenly said, we can deduce dat ur mama is d husband and ur papa is d sit down der type, position has changed, am sure ur papa wont b able to protest any hill treatment from ur mother, smh. wat a pity!! sorry for d poor man, he's just trying pushing it so dat d marriage wil nt eventually break cus of u children but what has he gotten bak in reward?? he has gotten some unsubmissive children all over the building, ahh ayele, see shut dis nonsense u re sayin up, a no get problem with u, mine is enof.

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Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by AmazonTopaz(f): 6:48am On Jun 09, 2019
OlawaleBammie:


Toju akata ba le'dowo, shenu adiye lowa tosi?? na ur mama name wey u drag for mud a just pity, everybody naw knows dat its ur mama dat is controlling ur Papa, u dont need to divulge or reveal it all, from wat u slightly/mistakenly said, we can deduce dat ur mama is d husband and ur papa is d sit down der type, position has changed, am sure ur papa wont b able to protest any hill treatment from ur mother, smh. wat a pity!! sorry for d poor man, he's just trying pushing it so dat d marriage wil nt eventually break cus of u children but what has he gotten bak in reward?? he has gotten some unsubmissive children all over the building, ahh ayele, see shut dis nonsense u re sayin up, a no get problem with u, mine is enof.
She is controlling my papa how he take concern you. If na the other way around ypu for dey complain? Double standard lot.
Even some of them na their mama dey control their papa so swerve out of my mention.
The man nor dey complain. So bye bye.
Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by AmazonTopaz(f): 7:03am On Jun 09, 2019
sassysure:
Beautiful topic.

I will say that women are actually more unsecured than men that's why they allow men to walk over them both at home and office.
Girls are constantly told that all their education and beauty ends in the kitchen.
Some wives answer their husbands sir.
Are they under master and servant relationship?
We know what that means during bedmatics if u two agreed to go kinky but to answer your husband sir in this age and time is mind boggling.

Also when sharing house works, everybody should do everything. Boys can cook and girls can wash cars. That is how it starts.
Ur son can loosen ur braid for you. U are teaching them that there is no gender discrimination in household chore.
If ur husband treats u like a queen, ur son is watching.
The thing is that Nigerian men hardly show affection to their wives publicly. U can't see them holding their wives hands outside their home when strolling out or giving her a peck in front of the kids.
That is how they learn.
Do they even kiss their children when they send them off to school?
So rigid and emotionless pursuing the so called money thinking that it's what builds a family.
We can see that on the daily lives of our politicians, religious leaders and top executives.

When they start thinking and acting the right way,believe u me there will be need to change their useless and rigid constitution and corruption will reduce.
But as long as we still have this mentality over life, we will continue to suffer the consequences.
Hmm very insightful thank you.
Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by aytuns(m): 7:13am On Jun 09, 2019
AmazonTopaz:

@bold, I am not them and my mom is not a submissive type and my parents are still together. My dad is not a control freak.
I never claimed to be a christian neither did I bring religion in my post.
How many times have you told your fellow men to love their wives to the extent of dying for their wives you are only comfortable telling women.Maybe if men took apostle paul's instruction they would be better husbands.
The definition of submission cannot be literally applied in today's world because during the time apostle paul instructed women to be submissive slavery was permissible women had little or no rights so it was okay to easily submit but today women have rights are educated, have choices etc so it would definitely be hard to submit in the literal sense.

Then I guess you are misinform and clueless about even your parents situation... That à man isn't a control freak doesn't mean his wife won't/can't submit to him.. You mum submits to her husband, your dad,else I can guarantee that home won't be peaceful.. So go ask her (I mean your mum) well

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Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by OlawaleBammie: 7:16am On Jun 09, 2019
AmazonTopaz:
She is controlling my papa how he take concern you. If na the other way around ypu for dey complain? Double standard lot.
Even some of them na their mama dey control their papa so swerve out of my mention.
The man nor dey complain. So bye bye.

Yeeeeh! his destiny has bn twisted, i said it, see lemme tell u dis, i love it wen my gf (she has nt even becom a wife o) have a say, if i may tell u this, i once tell my gf one day dat "hey woman!! tru out dis week u didn't shout on me or take offence in everything i did, are u telling me all i did was good or u didn't just want to talk, she laughed and said, i should trust her na, that she would hav bashed me had i done wrong grin dat tels u wat i want, am a say ur own make i say my own, even as am typing i wond dare o mary a lady dat does " yes sir!! yes sir!! yes sir!!" all d tym as if am Lord, noooo shout on me wen am wrong and let me shout at u back wen u re wrong, dat is wat i want, but in all dis tins women need to b submissive to her husband in her dealings, d marriage needs it, God is nt a fool

How can u even follow d normal life protocol laid by God wen u dont even regard Him(God)??

See, goan deal with ur life, its urs and no one else owns it
But ur papa is an example of a person sleeping on a thorn, ahh, jeesus, d man must hav slacked, am sure he cant hav a say over his children again dat is y dey become dis, decayed..ahhhh God understand sha.

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Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by AmazonTopaz(f): 7:18am On Jun 09, 2019
aytuns:


Then I guess you are misinform and clueless about even your parents situation... That à man isn't a control freak doesn't mean his wife won't/can't submit to him.. You mum submits to her husband, your dad,else I can guarantee that home won't be peaceful.. So go ask her (I mean your mum) well
The home is very peaceful. My mum is not the submissive type and they are still happy. I know my home better than you do. Only slaves submit not freeborns.my mama is not a slave.
Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by OlawaleBammie: 7:24am On Jun 09, 2019
aytuns:


Then I guess you are misinform and clueless about even your parents situation... That à man isn't a control freak doesn't mean his wife won't/can't submit to him.. You mum submits to her husband, your dad,else I can guarantee that home won't be peaceful.. So go ask her (I mean your mum) well

peaceful ke? goan ask d man, d man has mismarried from tym immemorial, am sure dey warned him but cus of beauty or money he didn't take heed. d man is i. thorn, d woman control all d family including d man, i mean d first born who is calling himself husband.

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Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by aytuns(m): 7:27am On Jun 09, 2019
AmazonTopaz:
The home is very peaceful. My mum is not the submissive type and they are still happy. I know my home better than you do. Only slaves submit not freeborns.my mama is not a slave.

Yeah... I've read your posts... And you've clearly stated that your dad is the submissive one and is clearly being put down by your mum on a constant basis, while your mum is the head..

I'd really like to see how your own marriage will turn out.. That is if at all you do get married..

A submissive WIFE is not a slave.

Marriage isn't for everyone nor is it by force.. Just leave us men alone abeg.

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Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by AmazonTopaz(f): 7:34am On Jun 09, 2019
aytuns:


Yeah... I've read your posts... And you've clearly stated that your dad is the submissive one and is clearly being put down by your mum on a constant basis, while your mum is the head..

I'd really like to see how your own marriage will turn out.. That is if at all you do get married..

A submissive WIFE is not a slave.

Marriage isn't for everyone nor is it by force.. Just leave us men alone abeg.
Their marriage is an egalitarian one.
And that is my view. I am respobsible for what I type how you interpret it is your business bye bye.

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Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by AmazonTopaz(f): 7:40am On Jun 09, 2019
Olawalebammie is the definition of an idiot personified.
A complete dunderhead useless nincompoop.
Useless cocoa seller.
Now I know the kind of business you do your likes can not even work for me or come in contact with me.
Better go and hustle and stop wasting your time trying to get the attention of someone you can never work for or be in her standard.
Do not think I would reply another silly mention of yours. You are beneath me.
Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by alizma: 7:49am On Jun 09, 2019
AmazonTopaz:

I agree are you ready for me to come and pay your groom price?
Hope your friends would not call you a weakling?
Leave that for me to worry over

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Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by AmazonTopaz(f): 7:50am On Jun 09, 2019
alizma:

Leave that for me to worry over
No I insist let me pay yours. cheesy

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