Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by OlawaleBammie: 7:55am On Jun 09, 2019 |
AmazonTopaz: Olawalebammie is the definition of an idiot personified. A complete dunderhead useless nincompoop. Useless cocoa seller. Now I know the kind of business you do your likes can not even work for me or come in contact with me. Better go and hustle and stop wasting your time trying to get the attention of someone you can never work for or be in her standard. Do not think I would reply another silly mention of yours. You are beneath me. Meee?? OLAWALE SAMUEL work for you?? Ahh, God forbid bad thing, a dey craze ni?? how much wil u pay me dat wil pay my bill?? wait!! me work for u??.?? Ahh God forbid, wat are u sayin?? am lafin uncontrollably, how can i work for u?? do u tink i want to work for someone before?? why did i leave a construction company to go into business den wen i knew i wanted to work under someone?? pls ma, my type CAN NEVER WORK FOR U OO cus ur 150k or less u want to pay me wont pay my bills and stil av litu savings But anyways, i love ur types as friends but as a business partner or boss, dat wil nt b an option cus it wont materialize. 1 Like |
Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by alizma: 7:57am On Jun 09, 2019 |
AmazonTopaz: No I insist let me pay yours. I never said you shouldn't, i just said leave what my friends will say to me 1 Like |
Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by OlawaleBammie: 7:59am On Jun 09, 2019 |
AmazonTopaz: Olawalebammie is the definition of an idiot personified. A complete dunderhead useless nincompoop. Useless cocoa seller. Now I know the kind of business you do your likes can not even work for me or come in contact with me. Better go and hustle and stop wasting your time trying to get the attention of someone you can never work for or be in her standard. Do not think I would reply another silly mention of yours. You are beneath me. AmazonTopaz u re always beneath me, always i said. am above u, let dat sink into d operating system part of ur brain. 1 Like |
Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by AmazonTopaz(f): 8:10am On Jun 09, 2019 |
alizma:
I never said you shouldn't, i just said leave what my friends will say to me okay when should I come and see your people |
Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by orble: 10:15am On Jun 09, 2019 |
Daeylar: You finished work.
They also misogynistic and have control issues.
They were raised by people with the same messed up mindset and some of them weren't raised the same way but bowed to such behaviour due to pressure. Like you said. Low self esteem. Wanting to fit in with trash.
Ask them why they want control in the form of submission from a woman WHO DOESNT WANT Submission (after all there are women looking for men to be their head but they leave thise women and start attacking others who don't want such a lifestyle) they start repeating like trained parrots that the Bible says a woman must submit to her husband. Or their boring spiel about how a Captain cannot have 2 ships or is it a ship that cannot have 2 captains. Nothing sensible. No personal reason. Acting like they are being controlled and unable to think things through logically and give a Reason why they want submission so bad, but these are the same men that want a woman to submit to them. These are the same men that want to lead others.
For those who keep insulting women, I don't wonder if they have sisters or mothers, I wonder if they have brains. They don't need to have female relations to know not to disrespect women, they know that, but they go about typing trash anyway. The trash they type about women with full confidence. Any human being with simple common sense would be ashamed to type even half of it. They are extremely foolish and comfortable in that foolishness, yet they raise their shoulders and think they've done something reasonable. It's honestly embarrassing.
Once again. You have finished work.. The funny part is that some of these men know better but refuse to do better. You'd be shocked to see those who are branded as young boys because they insult women are fully grown men who have just chosen to be stupid. Besides. Youth is not equal to stupidity. Youth is not an excuse. There are submission men in Nigeria look for them and let have peace 1 Like |
Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by orble: 10:27am On Jun 09, 2019 |
OlawaleBammie:
AmazonTopaz u re always beneath me, always i said. am above u, let dat sink into d operating system part of ur brain. I know you have problems with submission... I understand your dad is not a leader in his home let alone the society. I know you don't have a brother.... lo Her son could have stop the nonsense character your mother transferred to you! Who told you there were no non submissive wives throughout history.... do you know why you don't hear of them (if you don't ask me). look for men like your dad marry and feed him, let's have peace. 1 Like |
Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by orble: 10:30am On Jun 09, 2019 |
OlawaleBammie:
AmazonTopaz u re always beneath me, always i said. am above u, let dat sink into d operating system part of ur brain. I know she has problems with submission... I understand her dad is not a leader in his home let alone the society. I know she don't have a brother.... lo Her mothers son could have stop the nonsense character the mother transferred to her! Who told her there were no non-submissive wives throughout history.... do you know why you don't hear of them (if you don't ask me). Tell her to look for men like her dad marry and feed him, let's have peace. 2 Likes |
Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by Nobody: 10:47am On Jun 09, 2019 |
Mindfulness:
So what if she is single and 40?
we have lost count of men she introduced to get married to. But doesn’t end up well. She knows she’s got a very bad character and can’t help it. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by Nobody: 11:27am On Jun 09, 2019 |
stupidity: we have lost count of men she introduced to get married to. But doesn’t end up well. She knows she’s got a very bad character and can’t help it. *yawns* |
Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by OlawaleBammie: 12:07pm On Jun 09, 2019 |
orble:
I know you have problems with submission... I understand your dad is not a leader in his home let alone the society. I know you don't have a brother.... lo
Her son could have stop the nonsense character your mother transferred to you!
Who told you there were no non submissive wives throughout history.... do you know why you don't hear of them (if you don't ask me).
look for men like your dad marry and feed him, let's have peace.
Dont mind dat spoilt brat, pouring out nonsense like mucous, see wat we are sayin, wen u refuse to marry a befitting wife but go for a beauty and money this is d result, i just pity her fada, am sure he must hav learnt his lessons a hard way, pls orble, how can someone say her mother is nt a submissive type?? bible says out of d abundance of heart the mouth speaketh, for her to say this am sure her father has been totally reduced to rag, even if ur mum is nt submissive to ur dad dont come here and glorify it, saying I here shows how decayed she is, this is a nuisance to her generation/society, she has taken after her mother and her most ther hav destroyed her life but she's tinkin otherwise. 1 Like |
Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by Nobody: 12:41pm On Jun 09, 2019 |
Mindfulness:
*yawns* drink water and sleep don’t be like someone I know. happy Sunday. 2 Likes |
Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by Nobody: 12:44pm On Jun 09, 2019 |
stupidity: drink water and sleep don’t be like someone I know. happy Sunday. I will rather have stupidity's disapproval than approval so I will very much be like someone you know 'cause your disapproval is a compliment. 2 Likes |
Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by Nobody: 12:56pm On Jun 09, 2019 |
Delivar:
I don't know what you understand by the word submission. Submission doesn't mean a woman should be treated like a slave and not have a voice at all. When you have a group of people united for a common cause it is always necessary to have a leader that will spearhead their collective goal and provide a unified direction. Without a leader there is going to be chaos and disunity. Now imagine in a family where the wife wants something done her way and the husband wants it done his way. This situation will cause disunity in the family and they will never get things done together. Due to this issue there has to be leadership in the family. It's either the woman becomes the leader or the man becomes the leader, but not both at the same time. By default the position of leadership falls on the man and I believe many women wouldn't like it if they are controlling their men. I believe women like men who can be in charge.
Whenever couples argue about something they must have to settle it for the sake of family unity, and this can be achieved when one person decides to do it the way of the other person. Since family leadership falls on the man by default it means the woman will have to do it the man's way most times to uphold that unity. This is what submission is all about. If you get married with the mindset that you will never submit to a man as the leader of the family then your marriage will be in serious trouble because their will be no unity. It's going to be a power contest always. If submission likes, let it mean leadership...I still don't care. At the end of the day everyone will do as they wish. |
Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by Nobody: 2:06pm On Jun 09, 2019 |
trapQ: Where did that 95% come from? Your asshoole? Maybe our asshole 1 Like |
Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by ableguy(m): 2:22pm On Jun 09, 2019 |
donbachi: have u changed? They will soon change to men. So we can have peace |
Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by Delivar(m): 2:43pm On Jun 09, 2019 |
breakerofchains:
If submission likes, let it mean leadership...I still don't care.
At the end of the day everyone will do as they wish. Then it's better you stay single and forget about marriage or you rather marry a man you can control and give orders to do everything you wish. 2 Likes |
Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by Pataricatering(f): 7:06pm On Jun 09, 2019 |
I bet you wish you would find somebody like your grandmother ! Your own personal mumu who will let you ride them like a fool - I’m sorry , women like that are rare - you will not find a woman like your mother - get used to that fact - I know it’s painful but it’s just the reality of modern life ! donbachi: What is the low esteem there?you just sounded like a total feminist and like a woman that will never be submissive to any man,knowing your grandmother and mother did same to their husbands..as christians,we all know that the bible also talked about women been submissive to husbands.i don't know the point you are trying to prove..stop discouraging other women out there.most men are what you women made of them...it's you that really need to be reoroentations on how to respect and be submissive to men. |
Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by donbachi(m): 7:21pm On Jun 09, 2019 |
Pataricatering: I bet you wish you would find somebody like your grandmother ! Your own personal mumu who will let you ride them like a fool - I’m sorry , women like that are rare - you will not find a woman like your mother - get used to that fact - I know it’s painful but it’s just the reality of modern life ! abeg go check wetin u put 4 fire b4 e go burn 1 Like |
Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by Great0000: 7:29pm On Jun 09, 2019 |
AmazonTopaz: I am writing this based on some of the comments I read on this forum by males as regards female issues.
The African society focuses on training females more than males. They teach girls how to be good wives and mothers and they forget to train our boys on how to be good husbands and fathers.
I believe the average Nigerian man (some) are insecure, have low self esteem and lack self confidence hence why they derive pleasure in insulting women. Sometimes I wonder who raised these boys that they believe their manhood is validated by a woman subjecting herself to him and allowing him be the alpha and omega of her life. That is why a lot of them are obsessed with the word "submission", "captain" and "head of the house title".
A man with confidence, high self esteem would not be obsessed in wanting to control a full grown woman in 2019 who basically has the same rights as he does. It is insecurity, lack of self esteem and self confidence that makes a man feel intimidated by a sucessful and independent woman.It is due to lack of self esteem that they want to feel on top or over a woman. They believe their gender or sex makes them lord over every woman. They are obsessed with authority, power and do not know how to be leaders.
They feel it is okay to slut shame sucessful women call ladies despicable names and you wonder if these men have sisters or mothers.
They feel it is okay to lord over a full grown adult and that such adult(women) cannot be a partner but a subordinate. I believe some of these men raised in Nigeria have personal issues that they need to deal with on their own before bringing an unfortunate woman to share in such misery and clean up their mess.
I blame society's double standard that fails to hold men accountable as much as women are held accountable maybe then this self entitlement mentality, the view of women as commodities and superiority complex would be a thing of the past. Our men need exposure and enlightenment. I hope we raise better boys to become good men in the future and not just women alone. I wish I could like this post a million times. 1 Like |
Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by AmazonTopaz(f): 7:41pm On Jun 09, 2019 |
Great0000:
I wish I could like this post a million times. |
Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by luminouz(m): 1:07am On Jun 10, 2019 |
stupidity: we have lost count of men she introduced to get married to. But doesn’t end up well. She knows she’s got a very bad character and can’t help it. Did I not ask u to introduce her to me?? I go cure her naaaaq |
Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by Nobody: 8:29am On Jun 10, 2019 |
luminouz:
Did I not ask u to introduce her to me?? I go cure her naaaaq lol. Good morning bros. Nor vex jare. She’s gone to exile o. The pressure was too much for her. She carey bag enter another place to start a new life. Lol. 1 Like |
Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by luminouz(m): 10:55am On Jun 10, 2019 |
stupidity: lol. Good morning bros. Nor vex jare.
She’s gone to exile o. The pressure was too much for her. She carey bag enter another place to start a new life. Lol.
Wow,that's kinda sad o.... Hope she is alright sha.... 1 Like |
Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by Bossjakande: 12:32pm On Jun 10, 2019 |
liberalchick: No.
I wanted to put a something yesterday here but I I slept early is a christain blog about women and pride will mention u when I do DAT.greet ur family |
Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by Bossjakande: 12:35pm On Jun 10, 2019 |
Daeylar: You finished work.
They also misogynistic and have control issues.
They were raised by people with the same messed up mindset and some of them weren't raised the same way but bowed to such behaviour due to pressure. Like you said. Low self esteem. Wanting to fit in with trash.
Ask them why they want control in the form of submission from a woman WHO DOESNT WANT Submission (after all there are women looking for men to be their head but they leave thise women and start attacking others who don't want such a lifestyle) they start repeating like trained parrots that the Bible says a woman must submit to her husband. Or their boring spiel about how a Captain cannot have 2 ships or is it a ship that cannot have 2 captains. Nothing sensible. No personal reason. Acting like they are being controlled and unable to think things through logically and give a Reason why they want submission so bad, but these are the same men that want a woman to submit to them. These are the same men that want to lead others.
For those who keep insulting women, I don't wonder if they have sisters or mothers, I wonder if they have brains. They don't need to have female relations to know not to disrespect women, they know that, but they go about typing trash anyway. The trash they type about women with full confidence. Any human being with simple common sense would be ashamed to type even half of it. They are extremely foolish and comfortable in that foolishness, yet they raise their shoulders and think they've done something reasonable. It's honestly embarrassing.
Once again. You have finished work.. The funny part is that some of these men know better but refuse to do better. You'd be shocked to see those who are branded as young boys because they insult women are fully grown men who have just chosen to be stupid. Besides. Youth is not equal to stupidity. Youth is not an excuse. are u a Christain? 1 Like |
Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by Nobody: 8:51pm On Jun 19, 2019 |
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Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by AmazonTopaz(f): 10:22pm On Jun 19, 2019 |
Guest007:
Topaz, are we still talking submission in 2019? mission has been aborted
How are you lil sis; it's been a hot minute since i see you around. I trust you are well I am fine and good. Let the mission stay aborted Have we conversed before on NL? It seems it was with a different monicker |
Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by sladimeji(m): 11:47pm On Jul 04, 2019 |
AmazonTopaz: I am writing this based on some of the comments I read on this forum by males as regards female issues.
The African society focuses on training females more than males. They teach girls how to be good wives and mothers and they forget to train our boys on how to be good husbands and fathers.
I believe the average Nigerian man (some) are insecure, have low self esteem and lack self confidence hence why they derive pleasure in insulting women. Sometimes I wonder who raised these boys that they believe their manhood is validated by a woman subjecting herself to him and allowing him be the alpha and omega of her life. That is why a lot of them are obsessed with the word "submission", "captain" and "head of the house title".
A man with confidence, high self esteem would not be obsessed in wanting to control a full grown woman in 2019 who basically has the same rights as he does. It is insecurity, lack of self esteem and self confidence that makes a man feel intimidated by a sucessful and independent woman.It is due to lack of self esteem that they want to feel on top or over a woman. They believe their gender or sex makes them lord over every woman. They are obsessed with authority, power and do not know how to be leaders.
They feel it is okay to slut shame sucessful women call ladies despicable names and you wonder if these men have sisters or mothers.
They feel it is okay to lord over a full grown adult and that such adult(women) cannot be a partner but a subordinate. I believe some of these men raised in Nigeria have personal issues that they need to deal with on their own before bringing an unfortunate woman to share in such misery and clean up their mess.
I blame society's double standard that fails to hold men accountable as much as women are held accountable maybe then this self entitlement mentality, the view of women as commodities and superiority complex would be a thing of the past. Our men need exposure and enlightenment. I hope we raise better boys to become good men in the future and not just women alone. Firstly, It's not only about the male, most Nigerian females have inferiority complex, they don't believe they can equal or superior to there male peers and secondly about insecurities about female being more successful, it's like an inbuilt thing, we are all insecure to some certain level.. We all want to see ourselves doing better than others...so most people you see acting insecure that a female is doing better than them will act the same way if it were a male doing better than them.. Sometimes I feel somehow when I see people doing better than I do its just natural.... |
Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by Truthsbitter: 12:54am On Jul 05, 2019 |
PhenomenalMorgan: While i may not totally agree with all you say, the rate at which guys derive pleasure from insulting ladies on this forum is annoying and very childish!! my problem with men like you is not because you stand by women against men... the problem is that you deceive them even more into thinking that they are always right. we always have over 50% of men protecting women no matter what you think about this forum but these women will fall even harder when the truth about their own fault is kept away. even on this very thread there are men like you on the side of women, there are some like me who is actually unsentimental about everything, who only wants the truth to be told. check out the topic , check out the op, check the level of insults from women on the thread comments. tell me, have you seen a woman checking her side of the fault to gender differences like you're doing against your own gender? And to be truthful, if a man were to open this thread , I bet you, before 5 men will comment , 1 would be against the op....... "men were never and are never the problem to the woman world anywhere. People are the problem to themselves. If one should have a large number of ones own type languishing in a sorry state. The right thing to do is to work on improving your type than fighting directly against your opponent , that's the only way to balance such war/difference"....that's what you're actually doing and that's why it seems we are better. thumbs up bro. 1 Like |
Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by Truthsbitter: 12:55am On Jul 05, 2019 |
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Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by AmazonTopaz(f): 7:22am On Jul 05, 2019 |
sladimeji:
Firstly, It's not only about the male, most Nigerian females have inferiority complex, they don't believe they can equal or superior to there male peers and secondly about insecurities about female being more successful, it's like an inbuilt thing, we are all insecure to some certain level.. We all want to see ourselves doing better than others...so most people you see acting insecure that a female is doing better than them will act the same way if it were a male doing better than them.. Sometimes I feel somehow when I see people doing better than I do its just natural.... When you don't see others as your competitors you would not feel the need to do better than them. |
Re: Some Nigerian Men Have Low Self Esteem, Need Reorientation - Opinion by NkayStory(f): 12:57pm On Jul 05, 2019 |
lilbest4: that phrase " toxic masculinity" is the dumbest thing I've ever heard in my whole life. It is just one of the propaganda in the west which they are using to further weaken their men and turn them to sucklings. Why should the society care whether a man decides to cry in public or hold himself till he gets inside his house? If a woman does not cry or show emotion in difficult situation she is strong but if a man does not show emotion or cry it is toxic masculinity. The notion that men feel "threatened" by "independent" woman (lol, I'm yet to see an independent woman that is truly independent) is another bullshiit that you women come up with to make yourself feel good that it's the society or men that make you leech. Why should I be bothered that a woman I'm dating is able to buy her own pant and bra or even a car? I'm not telling her to buy me one. Men buy cars everyday and use it to carry their girlfriends and wives with those females feeling entitled to the car but why can't you females too buy cars if you could and drive your male partner without having to remind the broke man that he is broke? There is no need barking here cos 80% of Nigetran males are intimidated by a successful woman..They either want to run or to be useless leeches...Ironically they claim not to want -liabilites' yet malign successful single ladies. I remember how i was advised from getting a car as a single girl or even changing the car..All i heard was 'no man will marry you' or 'men will only want to chop your money' And yes there are independent women in Nigeria even married ones...footing the bills and paying the rents!! |