AmazonTopaz:

@bold, I am not them and my mom is not a submissive type and my parents are still together. My dad is not a control freak.
I never claimed to be a christian neither did I bring religion in my post.
How many times have you told your fellow men to love their wives to the extent of dying for their wives you are only comfortable telling women.Maybe if men took apostle paul's instruction they would be better husbands.
The definition of submission cannot be literally applied in today's world because during the time apostle paul instructed women to be submissive slavery was permissible women had little or no rights so it was okay to easily submit but today women have rights are educated, have choices etc so it would definitely be hard to submit in the literal sense.

then go and marry a man and pay his dowry make him house husband dont disturb us with your feminist gospel,yon want to control a man in a country like nigeria where trailer drivers can stay on the road for two weeks just to feed his family too much zee world is not good for you, be happy you were born in nigeria not afganistan by now you will be inside your room with your niqab of hijab,if your husband decides to marry more 3 wives i hope you too will get your self more 3 husbands in your husband house ,you can even ask your husband to lit cigar for you so you can smoke

Chaiiii

AmazonTopaz:

The awareness is out there and will continually be and I do mine too.
I don't need you to take me serious neither is my personal life your bisiness.
I do not associate with chauvinist, misogynist and any dysfunctional male.

Can you carry a baby in your womb for 9 months?

Gosh, you have zero sense.

Korllami007:


Okay. Let start from here. Can you change a tire of a car?

Can you dig a well or a suck away?

Mk93:

the president of this country believe his wife should belong to the kitchen and the other room but that did not stop him from being successful.
the nonsense you pasted up there will not make you successful and rich. having women walk on your head will not give food to your empty stomach

yeah, i', sure bubu was showing theresa may the way to the other room, not so
the same bubu whose wife has a mind of her own and continues to speak out?
does that look like a woman seen and not heard?

AmazonTopaz,

Interesting thread, thanks for creating.
However, my take away is from what bukatyne said about women somehow still train their sons to be like the husband they complain about and never instilling the qualities they want their husbands to have. Isnt that weird but its mostly true perhaps they know those qualities will actually make their sons weak!

Women will remain women, if you turn the tables they will still complain. For instance, let women toast us, make the expenses, marry us, feed and protect the family. Let's have the war rule- Don't kill men and children but kill all women, let women do all the hard and life threatening jobs...... I bet no man will complain of being maltreated or even seek equality.

Here they are complaining even when they have everything in their favour.

AmazonTopaz:



Tell that to your father

Women, Children and Dogs are loved unconditionally

A Man is only loved under the condition that he provides something.

Or tell us the reason who you love your boyfriend/or your husband?

God himself is a Man and not a female, he created all men like me in his own image and you have be meekly obediently to all men.

Or you want make God provoke and be regretting on why he created female?

partnerbizz4:
All these baloney are for males like me, who are poor

Women keep saying one thing but doing the opposite.
Women are not seen or treated as commodities.

But it is what they have made themselves.

They have openly kept themselves as objects to be bought by the highest bidder -- applying the law of demand and supply. This hitherto, had been there albeit subtly.



Look at Ned and Regina. Why on earth did Regina leave the young, handsome boyfriend for Ned? Love?

The man bought her. Simple. Like you go to a car stand and buy a benz.
Look
Ubi franklin and his mamas
Iara and Oshiomhole
Davido, WizKids and mamas. Why would chioma stick with Davido for 5 years?

In these 5 years he had imprenated many girls, yet she stayed put. Why? Because of money, fame and affluence.


I admit that there are exceptions like the Jeff Bezoz's wife but it's just few.


So no need playing the victims. Women made themselves commodities. They aren't treated as such but they made themselves so.


At any rate, I won't support the slut shaming of women as seen in this forum. I also understand why men do it. It's survival instinct. Only a few would understand.

Shout out to my nigga franchasng.

You have said it all!

Initially on this forum, I used to be an advocate of gender equality and women empowerment, but along the line I discovered that most Nigerian ladies seem to be comfortable in being a commodity and property to their men. They seem not to want to be empowered but to remain as subordinates to men.
They loath being independent and pulling their own weights just like their male counterparts. Yet the same people would turn around to complain when men demand submission and total authority over them!

The wise men said that he who pays the piper dictates its tune. I can not acquire you like a commodity only for you to want equality with me.

Only ladies who truly pull their own weights deserve respect and equality with men. Not those acquired like commodities

ornicus:





yeah, i', sure bubu was showing theresa may the way to the other room, not so
the same bubu whose wife has a mind of her own and continues to speak out?
does that look like a woman seen and not heard?

did buhari believe a man is superior or not? Did his opinion stopped him from being successful?
Speaking out to protect the interest of her group and her brothers?
Did I say a man headship means a woman should remain silent? Or did I say a woman's mind should be removed?
It seems I am wasting my time with a kid or someone inexperience.
Don't worry time will teach you everything along the way

Skmoda360:

love your counter attack on this issue....

They still have never learn from the mistake they did in eaten the Apple of good n bad, they always still searching for another good n bad Apple to tea. This time, after eating it please guys don't collect it if they give it to you o.

donbachi:
What is the low esteem there?you just sounded like a total feminist and like a woman that will never be submissive to any man,knowing your grandmother and mother did same to their husbands..as christians,we all know that the bible also talked about women been submissive to husbands.i don't know the point you are trying to prove..stop discouraging other women out there.most men are what you women made of them...it's you that really need to be reoroentations on how to respect and be submissive to men.

That verse of the Bible started with "submit your selves one to another.." before the popular portion people normally quote.
Men need to know women are not actually in competition with them.
Every one deserves respect too. Men or women, young or old.

PhenomenalMorgan:

Many dont know what feminism is, if you ask them they will say its equality of both sexes...
Equality is a broad term, Equality of what, how
This are the questions many cant answer.

Even if equality in both sexes just a simple meaning, African culture still doesn't accept it. A man would always be the head BUT If a woman wants equality may be she should share the burdens of home 50/50 with a man and if such woman is single then she shouldnt live on any man's money. Most of the so called feminists still live on men who are not there husbands but in engagement of rub my back I rub yours(friends with benefits). May be I will start takinf feminism in Africa serious when women are totally dependent on themselves.

cococandy:
If it’s not lock and key, it’s hardware and software. Y’all use meaningless analogies to avoid the discussion about being decent human beings. Nonsense

what as decency got to do fundamentals, a look the developed countries if you're sincere with yourself you'll reallize that word "equality " is not just a scam but its baseless/rootless .... they say equals but gave more power to the women in all personal cases.
Cococandy if you ask me out on a date ,naa me you go expect say make i pay the bill , when we stand @ the bus stop after the date late @ night ,we both feeling cold but you expect me to off my jacket to cover you, worst still thugs showed up ..coco you go stil expect me as a man to protect & shield you ...see aunti !! where is the equality or is it only applicable when riches & positions are concerned. i can go on & on using bible or even other God"s creation to buttress my point buh asides emotion what do you have

Las las u all will marry ursefs...
Antibrutus better fell belle like ur mentor Ikeji Linda


Menopause is fast approaching!

partnerbizz4:
All these baloney are for males who are poor.

Women keep saying one thing but doing the opposite.
Women are not seen or treated as commodities.

But it is what they have made themselves.

They have openly kept themselves as objects to be bought by the highest bidder applying the law of demand and supply. This hitherto, had been there albeit subtly.



Look at Ned and Regina. Why on earth did Regina leave the young, handsome boyfriend for Ned? Love?

The man bought her. Simple. Like you go to a car stand and buy a benz.
Look
Ubi franklin and his mamas
Iara and Oshiomhole
Davido, WizKids and mamas. Why would chioma stick with Davido for 5 years?

In these 5 years he had imprenated many girls, yet she stayed put. Why? Because of money, fame and affluence.


I admit that there are exceptions like the Jeff Bezoz's wife but it's just few.


So no need playing the victims. Women made themselves commodities. They aren't treated as such but they made themselves so.


At any rate, I won't support the slut shaming of women as seen in this forum. I also understand why men do it. It's survival instinct. Only a few would understand.

Shout out to my nigga franchasng.

All been said....Nothing to add at All.

breakerofchains:




Hahahahaha....LIES!

What's the difference?

Oh, I see...because they can beat their wives into submission or what?

Abegii...I even thought you had an argument sef

Oops! Forget the feminism thing and not biased, leadership skills is always dominant in the male counterparts(not saying females can't lead tho) and it's what had always been. .

Y'all can't just make some silly assumptions and start assuming men are weak.

donbachi:
it's the equality of the sexes and you are worst than that...you're a matrimonial anarchist.

There is no way a reasonable n responsible lady will be dominated in a negative way ,they are only dominated when they feel they are on top of d world n go out of their normal role n responsibility in life. Take a look at etinosa actress who stripped just for fame n money, would one keeps quiet just because one doesn't want to b perceived as an insecure man? My guy d op is on another high weed

Olatara:
No! They should close up, then u kidnap and rape girls still blame them for dressing inappropriately. Only few guys are mature, the ones on Nairaland are different breed entirely, loud, immature and abusive.

You know the truth is always bitter and it hits hard on falsehood.

offensive and abusive words are not needed for us to learn.....

No matter the anger we must learn SELF CONTROL...

Everyone should learn to tolerate others opinion without abusive response...

Most times, what women need is just a little help hand and all their MUMMBLE- RUMBLE is gone...

My neighbour whose wife just gave birth does not know where her little baby clothes are been kept after a marriage of 4 years....

We all need to drop this superorirty of a thing and learn to shift ground no one is a slave but a help mate...

if u think it's easy to be a woman then swap their duties for 6 months and vice versa...

***** Sussessful people do not have (superior / slave) mentality... Rather companion or partner.....
let's enjoy life as it comes.....

After you lots are done with your futile and useless arguments, I'm waiting to welcome you all back to reality. The "chauvinist" here who washes his mate's pants, and the "feminist" that cook, wash and sweep for her boyfriend, well-done oh.


Just take your time and make the empty noises, all of you. Data is cheap

donbachi:
What is the low esteem there?you just sounded like a total feminist and like a woman that will never be submissive to any man,knowing your grandmother and mother did same to their husbands..as christians,we all know that the bible also talked about women been submissive to husbands.i don't know the point you are trying to prove..stop discouraging other women out there.most men are what you women made of them...it's you that really need to be reoroentations on how to respect and be submissive to men.

You proved her point exactly

It has Always been a man's world and still a man's world, even though some hopeless wrinkled old Females may not agree .

ufotty2001:

People like u after @ age 40.. Best place u will know best is prayer house and going to different church for husband. Nonsens.e

In your dreams

Westtimeline:
So who ask you to bring your weakling dad's situation here in the first place.


Do not use you weakling family to advise anyone her, no one gives a flying folk about that.

Like I said, if you want a weakling husband you can't be submissive to. Start searching for him, maybe you will see in the next ten years.

All these for me.
So I have touched so many lives on NL like this.
I am pleased.

I sort enjoy this intelligent dialogue, I Lover her boldness and defensiveness

Smile4daddy:

Women, Children and Dogs are loved unconditionally

A Man is only loved under the condition that he provides something.

Or tell us the reason who you love your boyfriend/or your husband?

God himself is a Man and not a female, he created all men like me in his own image and you have be meekly obediently to all men.

Or you want make God provoke and be regretting on why he created female?

How do you know God is a male.
No religious backing I need logical answers that have no religious correlation.

nnokwa042:
then go and marry a man and pay his dowry make him house husband dont disturb us with your feminist gospel,yon want to control a man in a country like nigeria where trailer drivers can stay on the road for two weeks just to feed his family too much zee world is not good for you, be happy you were born in nigeria not afganistan by now you will be inside your room with your niqab of hijab,if your husband decides to marry more 3 wives i hope you too will get your self more 3 husbands in your husband house ,you can even ask your husband to lit cigar for you so you can smoke

*yawns*

ericsmith:



Do you know there is no equality anywhere in the world , its either the system gives the women more power synonymous to overseas or men are allow to exercise there fundamental power.
There can never be two captain on a ship, even pilot onboard aint equals ... these has nothing to do with culture, mentality or been archaic its what life as bestowed upon us. you said:

"the African society focuses on training females more than males. They teach girls how to be good wives and mothers and they forget to train our boys" ALOL lemme correct that with my analogy
men are hardware while women are software lol!! do you know programmers & investors spend more time & money on creating softwares antivirus than the hardware itself ... you av a gadget than only get an update once a year but installed apps/softwares get updated almost every month
women are trained to be good wives just as those apps on your gadget are perfected with update regularly so as to be immune to the bugs & virus ..hence good softwares.
womens are draft becos man was lonely to be our companion preferably our partners .. shikena

You ended up explaining nothing.
Come back when you have something better.

Modern day feminists are just confused , especially the Nigerian ones . Please stop setting young ignorant girls on a wrong path,My mum and majority of her likes had wonderful homes respecting and being submissive to their man , that does not make them lesser or irrelevant in the union but earned them more respect . Naturally and by accident , we are not equal and never we will but complementing and accepting each other’s weaknesses, helps in maintaining a healthy relationships. Where’s aunty Linda today ?

ufotty2001:

People like u after @ age 40.. Best place u will know best is prayer house and going to different church for husband. Nonsens.e

I don't see the reason for this post..
You don't want to be submissive, fine! You don't need to recruit people to join in singing your song..
Y'all keep preaching about submission and equality but never have you guys taken actions.
You lead by example...
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Abeg make una nor corrupt the good girls wey still dey.. Everyone with their choice of life.
Your post topic is different from the message.
I clicked it because I thought I would learn a thing or two from it, but it's just same old feminist bullshits..
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Live and Let's live.. do your feminism and allow those that don't want to do feminism..
Be unsubmissive and allow those that wants to be submissive to be...
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Seems y'all submissive preachers are insecure or something. We hardly see submissive ladies trying to convince other ladies to be submissive. but everyday we see y'all unsubmissive ranters trying hard to win more souls to your crusade..
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Live and Let's Live

You are on point, especially on the lack of guidance or training of the average Nigerian male. Parents generally, inadvertently concentrate on training the girl children, leaving the boys to grow to adulthood not being able to tell their left from their right.
This is the main reason, I believe, why the men are not able to run the country properly.